Part of the reason many of us seek arrangements is because we value our independence. Some are looking to gain independence for the first time, and others are looking to maintain the independence they’ve worked so hard to achieve.
Indeed, at the very core of what drives a sugar is, Independence. Like our nation, SeekingArrangement was built upon the notion that we all have the right to choose our own destiny, and besides, independence is Sexy!!
“A lot of potential SDs have messaged that they are very much attracted to girls who are (for the most part) in control of their life and being responsible. It is a good tip if you want a better selection of SDs to point out in your profile that you are independent and a hard worker Too many sob stories on here from what the men tell me, and not that I don’t sympathise with the women but I do think that these women might want to shift their focus to the things that they are in control of: instead of “oh my car is broken, i lost my job and blah blah blah” to ” I have a great job but it would be nice to not have to hitch a ride with my friend…… ” power of positive thinking”- E
How can a Sugar Daddy can help a Sugar Baby become more independent?
Do Sugar Daddies prefer Sugar Babies that don’t want to depend on them?
How does a Sugar Baby help a Sugar Daddy stay or become independant?
Everyone has a different experience on SeekingArrangement, but for some, the experiencce is life changing.
“Since I joined SeekingArrangement a year ago, I’ve made more lady friends and gone on more dates than in all my past years combined. I never thought I’d have more fun at 63 years old than I did when I was 23.” – Anonymous Sugar Daddy
Yet with all the benefits of sugar, some have expressed “surprising” side effects…
Anonymous Sugar Daddy: There’s a woman on your site who I would have married – if SA hadn’t turned me into such a player.
SA: Do you regret joining?
Anonymous Sugar Daddy: Absolutely not…
Have you ever met a sugar that you could see yourself marying some day?
Have you ever nixed a sugar because they were so sweet you feared falling in love? Becoming attached?
Do you want a more traditional relationship in the future? What are you really looking for?
“With NSA there are never any guarantees, one always hopes it will continue.” – GinaZ
“No-Strings-Attached” (NSA) – some say it’s an absurd idea, while others believe that with a little discipline, it really is possilbe to have a healthy relationship with zero attachement.
Are your arrangements “NSA” by default?
Have you always preffered NSA relationships? Why or why not?
Do you feel like you get bored of intimate partners faster than most?
sugar is god SD blogger JohnQ gave much savored advice on “how an SB can convince a hesitant SD that she actually likes him for himself, rather than solely for his money” in the last post. Click here to read!
It’s normal to take a break from your sugarlife every once in a while…
“Not much sugar in my life right now and i’ve been concentrating on other things so SA hasn’t been much of a priority.. I’m back for a while now, though!!!”SweetEuropean*264271
But don’t be surprised to see a familiar sugars face when you start your search again. Once you go sweet, you will repeat.
How often should sugar babies update their photos?
How do you find the time to search for and connect with potential sugars?
How do you get good Sugar Karma? Responding to ALL messages? Giving advice to newbies?
Whether it’s on the blog or in the sugar fields of SA, some sugars lurk quietly before making their move.
Some enjoy keeping a profile on SA even when they’re not looking for an arrangement. These folks usually HIDE their profile and search without being seen. Others keep their profile visible but simply don’t respond to any incoming messages, unless, of course, someone piques their interest.
Some may go on lurk-mode because of their mood, financial stability, physical condition, etc.
Avoid becoming discouraged because of a few bad experiences – the best sugar comes to those who wait!
Are you, or have you been a lurker on SeekingArrangement? The blog? Why?
What’s the best way to avoid or handle poof daddies or poof babies?
Do you think there should be a test for sugar daddies/sugar babies? How does a sugar gain your trust?
Tired of being used in a relationship? Feeling like someone is simply using you for all your worth and not giving back anything in return? Maybe it’s time to walk away.
A user can be a boss, family member, friend or ‘loved one’ who claims to be fair and reasonable, but in reality seeks to exploit you as much as they can – especially if you’re an honest, good person (often an easy target).
Many jump in the sugarbowl because they’re tired of being used, and want to associate with others who say what they mean and mean what they say from day 1. No false promises. No shocking displays of ungratefullness. Here on SA we seek fair, honest relationships where everyone is appreciated for the contribution they make. So if you’re one of the users, read our book, and read about why it’s best to look beyond your selfish near-sited obsessions, and focus on the big picture = results. How do you determine results? Ask yourself if you’ve gained more than you had before you started your relationshiop, and if you’ve benefited from the other persons time and energy. If the answer is yes, ask yourself if you have done your part to make the relationship mutally beneficial. If that answer is no, you may just be a user.
How do you feel when you are used by someone you’ve trusted?
Are arrangements in writnig better at keeping people to their word?
Are sugar babies More or Less powerful than sugar daddies when it comes to negotiating arrangements?
While it may be ideal to find sugar online, there’s always a chance you might stumble upon a man or woman who you feel would make a great sugar daddy or sugar baby outside of SeekingArrangement. Whether it’s in the mall, at the country club or even the dentist office, sometimes sugar finds you.
Sugar Conversion
If you find yourself wanting sugar from someone you meet offline, you might want to find out if your expectations jive with theirs. If you’re not upfront about the type of relationship you want in the beginning, you might be setting yourself up to be let down.
Have you ever sought a sugar arrangement with someone you met offline? If so, how did it go?
Would you give a non-sugar a chance to have a relationship with you? Would you show them SA?
Do you ‘normal date’ and seek arrangements at the same time?
The clip above translates what people say on a first date with what they REALLY think.
On SeekingArrangement, SD’s and SB’s seek upfront honesty in relationships based on mutual respect and consideration. A combo many on the blog simply refer to as ’sugar’.
Chemistry and negotiation are usually important parts of a 1st sugar meet.
“You just have to jump in there and go on your first date. It will get easier over time. I always
tell the SD that my girlfriend knows where I am and who I am with. I have never had a date go wrong : ) Just relax and enjoy the sugar.” - Gail
What do you look for the most on a 1st date with a sugar? Personality? Generosity? Punctuality?
What would a PERFECT 1st sugar meet look like? What would a NIGHTMARE 1st sugar meet look like?
