Many here have sought a sugar daddy or sugar baby before joining the site; with varying degrees of success. While finding sugar outside of the online Sugarbowl is possible, many find it’s a challenge not worth taking…
“Finding SD’s IRL is tough & a 2 part process – first dating a rich guy, then ‘persuading him to provide financial assistance’.” - ‘Finding Sugar Daddies in the Real World‘ by Flo Rida
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share?
Tags: real world sugar babies, real world sugar daddies, real world sugar daddy dating
Yay! New blog
Stephan you are most definitely working hard this evening! 
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?
No. Still sugarless…
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share?
I have found that being forward and honest (obviously sugar coated!!) helps weed out time wasters. Nothing genius here lol! Wish I had some profound fix it all answer
Oh and I have not looked for a SD IRL…I wouldn’t have any idea where to begin to look (I am in a small town right now..)
Turk – I can’t keep calling you that. It reminds me of Salazzo in the Godfather. I’m going back to TT.
Hi Taz!
Darn it I missed Gail
Hi sugars – sorry I missed the fun today. I had to say goodbye to a friend and endure the reality check that is life. Tell your family you love them and hug your friends
On a lighter note – I’m so excited to see midwest plans coming to fruition!!!
Blog Questions:
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start? Almost did. He indicated he was an SD IRL, but upon the next meeting, I wasn’t that attracted to him and he came on as wanting more.
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work I wouldn’t call it a method, but being on SA and the blog has certainly increased my awareness. I have now identified a few IRL SDs that I’ve known for a bit, but never put it together.
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?
Yep, but online makes it easier to find in one place. I found my first out and about. I was 19 he was way older, we knew what it was.
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share?
I haven’t found it offline as easy as online. Then again I don’t think I’m the type for most of them men on this site so I may try RL again.
Stephan,
Thank you for the new blog! My comp. & I appreciate it!
Hi Everyone!
Crickey – I’m quoted on a blog topic – me, moir, mich – scary scary.
The fair lady of Baltimore aka Ms. Crushworthy aka Gemi- Sorry I still think your new names are f-hilarious. OK I’m going to rise to the challenge and find you a SD, you sound kinda picky though so i’m a tiny bit scared (but not too scared). I’ll talk to candidate #1 in the new year and I also think about candidate #2.
Just to let everyone else know the people i’m thinking of are fairly close to (but not in) Baltimore.
Lastly Ms. Crushworthy at least you’re getting traffic and are in a position of turning SD’s down.
PS I caught three “bonita” (spelling” fish today between 8 and 15lbs – and 1 Kingfisher – catch and release – respect ther fish.
Well Flo – since you are playing matchmaking service – I am really not near anywhere…BUT am more than willing and excited to travel
Hi TXSB and SDiva
Flo Rida – I have caught bonita before! I think it was about 8lbs but felt like I was bringing in a 20-pounder! Hmmm what’s in store for Miss Crushworthy????
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?
No, never looked for or had a SD before joining SA.
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share?
I’ve never searched for SDs IRL. In SA, I find that knowing what I want and getting straight to the point weeds out the fake SDs soon. I don’t waste weeks or months going back and forth. I find out if we’re looking for the same thing arrangement wise….and then focus on chemistry.
James – so I should change it back to Tantalizing Taz?? Lol…or TTSB?
Oh my … my carraige just turned into a pumpkin! POOF!
(Goodnight!)
Hi Flo Rida, Taz, and Midwest!
Flo Rida:
Where do I sign up to get on your “match making” list?
Hi TXSB – I was supposed to be lurking tonight but no one was here!! Maybe I will go back into lurk mode for a bit
evening all!
Hi Flo Rida, TXSB, Taz and Midwest! How are ya’ll doing tonight?
Taz- I’ve been in lurk mode quiet a bit as well
Hi 2Chic! hmm may have just missed Midwest…
Midwest – if you are still lurking at all, it sounds like you had a rough evening? perhaps i misinterrpreted… sending love your way just in case
Hello Napa, TxSb, Flo, Midw. and all the rest
Yes Midwest – I was wondering where you were today…**HUGS**
Hi 2Chic, Napa and anyone else just joining us!
LOL….you guys need to come out of lurk mode when it’s this slow…..otherwise I feel like a total loser…being on the blog by myself while everyone else is out having fun!
I’m having one of those weird nights….
Hello sugars!!!
So anyone that did re-read the last blog, could you look at my new photos and tell me which of them you like best
Thank you
TXSB – hence why I was here to help get the ball rolling
Now I may have to tap out again for a bit…if I have anything life altering to add – I will 
2Chic – nice to see you!! How is your masterpiece?
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?
Yes, chatting online, phone calls, then progressed.
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share?
Not really, when I am out in public and I see Candy Man material, they just gape, follow, gape some more, but seem afraid to approach me. It is much easier online, I think they see I am approachable since I have a profile.
TXSB~ Sugar girl, you are not alone!!! Here I am!!!
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?
Yes, we met at the airport and he is the one that introduced me to sugar dating…
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share?
No, I find it very hard to sugar-search… My location is so bad and I am older, too far, too blonde??? now very blonde lol…
Still searching!
Hey BG! I like them all hot mama
I do agree (with which SD I am not sure 
), that the other pic with you smiling was a better choice…I would trade it with the first one..or switch the bottom ones around since (I believe) that one was the first before…
Taz, it is truly a fierce piece of work, I am so excited about it. Trying to figure out when to show it….. may even put it on my profile. … lol
well ladies I am dogsitting for 2 ridiculous dogs who just exploded a toy all over my living room floor…sigh…must sign off and clean…haha talk to ya’ll tomorrow! sweet dreams
Taz~ thanks girl, right now, photo #3 is the running for 1st , pic#2 should be out, and add the sitting photo… I will do that in a bit
I hate travel. I’m tired. How is everyone doing tonight?
Beach, how are you miha!
Beach:
MUAH!! BTW, I’m not too fond of the 1st pic….its not flattering to your boobs. My fav. is the 2nd pic.
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NapaSB:
LOL….good night!
Beach, I can’t help but notice the strategically placed “Seeking Arrangement,” logo.
TXSB~ lol my boobs lol you are funny! see the SDs and my guy friends like the 3rd photo better… Boobs!!! lol
2Chic Hey girl….
Napa~ see you later!
ATX… how r u?
SDinATX~ Lmao I didn’t notice that lol… oups no boobs for u guys!!! lol
I never know wht photo,,,, I have a few but still….
2chic, I visited some accounts in San Antonio today, and I’m tired. It was a good day, but it was tiresome. I get to rest tomorrow, then it’s travel again on Friday.
BG… I still like #3,
ATX:
Hi!
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Beach:
The 3rd photo is ok IMO…but I found the 2nd one sexy.
LOL….sorry….I couldn’t help but notice the boobs.
2Chic~ thank you,,
TXSB~ the leather makes my boobs small??? too funny….
Hi Midnight Midwest Mistress. Just seeing this.
Wow Guy, I can only imagine how tire you are. It is not fun when traveling becomes exhausting. Its good that tomorrow you can just zzzzzzzzz away…smile
Hi SDiva~ welcome…. not sure I “met ” u before… HI
Hi SDva, welcome to the BLOG!….lol. How are you?
I need plans for New Yr Eve,
Beach, the problem with the first picture is the lens that took the photo. There is no real contrast in the photo, so the black outfit hides your figure too much.
We just need to get you in leather, boots, and a whip and get a nice photographer out to take the photos like photogirl.
Howdy, TXSB!
SDinATX~ ok when?
2Chic~ I hear you….
SDiva:
Hi and welcome!
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Beach:
LOL…I dunno if it’s the leather or the pic angle or the cut of the top….but yea…makes your boobs look flat IMO….I should look nice and perky…and ready to play.
*I* should be *they*
TXSB, you’re so not a total loser. Ok, I think that’s as far back as I can go between this blog and last blog. Too tired to scroll through it all. I’ll just assume there was more talks of massages, crushes, and hidden plans for the Chicago meet.
TXSB, I second the motion, you should look nice and perky
ATX:
Hahaha….glad to hear that I’m not a *total* loser…lol. BTW, yes…your summary is pretty accurate. I believe there were some talks of Bdays too.
Beach:
You hear that………we need the “girls” nice and perky.
SDinATX~ Nice and Perky got it
TXSB~ yes I know nice and perky, got it!!!!
ATX:
OMG….I’m slow tonight….I just *got* it! *hides in shame*
Taz darling – I can’t get to your profile (i’m not a member) can you add your # in your name or email it to me? No promises darling. Also Ms. Crushworthy and you may deem my pots to be not worthy
Midwest – I didn’t know you deep sea fished. Yes bonita are harder to catch than kingfishers but can you imagine catching a 650lb shark – the shark would pull my arms out of the sockets. I do have sore forearms though.
Hi everyone!
Hi Flo~ Glad you had a great day…. I am frozen today….
Beach – I like ALL of your pics including your boobs (do rotate them though – the pics not the boobs). Cheerio!
ok…
how does one rotate boobs?
Flo~AHAH I will rotate them…. just being lazy tonight….you are crazy baby girl
SDinATX~ we can always try!!!
oh i’m being bad… again
TXSB, it wasn’t supposed to make you hide in shame, but smile. Don’t want you feelin like even a partial loser!
Flo:
LOL @ rotating boobs!
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Beach:
When are you NOT bad??!
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ATX:
I was ashamed at not “getting” it sooner…once I got it, I did blush and smile…lol.
TXSB~ being bad is ALWAYS good!!! lol I am best that way lmao
TXSB~ you got Mail!!!
Beach, you just need to get your profile to portray that attitude, and you’d have them start lining up with the new pix.
SDinATX~ yeah maybe…. I did send a really nice pic to TXSB!!! lol
I get left out of all the reindeer games!
Beach, I am with you on being bad, is so good…lol.
Beach:
Niiiice……its like they’re asking me “Hi!! Wanna play?!”
ATX:
LOL…sowwie!
SDinATX~ no you dont….
mail call!
TXSB lmao…..
2Chic it is fun to be bad!
Sometimes I pay a price, but ugh! how fun it was doing the deed!…lol.
I know but isn’t it fun?
MMM: i’m sorry you had such a day milady
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Flo Rida: feel FREE to matchmake for me *g*
Yes, it is the spice in life. Of course as long as no one gets hurt. Most of the time I just push the boundaries. I like to “just do it”….. hey! make a memory is my motto…. lol.
2Chic~ I know, mine is “Life is too short!” you never know what will happen tomorrow so enjoy it! Always
Ok all I’m off, enjoy the rest of the evening and have fun being bad!
Well everyone I have to get to bed good night!
See you soon
I think if we show up at the same place Beach, it will get wild…lol, we will pledge TXsB in the sweet bad girl sorority…..lol.
2Chic I hear you girl… we are kinda bad a little….
night!!! have to work early tomorrow!
TxSb, you are our baby girl, so we will show you all the tricks to being so bad until it looks delicious…. lol.
Nite Girl, and thanks so much!
Night ATX and Beach!
2Chic:
Deal…lol…..I’m ready and willing (to learn the ways…)….
i’m also off… and also want to send a shout out to Stephan for the blogs coming more often!
it’s awesome, thank you sir!
I honestly think you will catch on very fast and have the time of your life!
Cleo:
Night!
2Chic:
I’m a fast learner and I have no doubt I will catch on with you and Beach_girls….lessons….
How fun! There is no telling what we will come up with when Beach and I put our ways together. No one gets hurt, harmless fun, sometimes we are the only ones who is like Ugh!… but then gosh all you can say is…. ahhh it was worth every bit. Just had such an experience not long ago….. lol.
OK, I am out for now…. nite fam. Sweet Dreams!
Hi Beach_Girl. I usually lurk.
Hi 2Chic. I’m doing good thanks.
Had a very fun sugar free night. Then I went to the previous blog and was feeling relieved that I didn’t have 200 posts to read. I should’ve known it only meant there was a new blog.
Taz–Having a birthday before xmas is probably worse than after. So there may not be the “we just has xmas” fatigue, but there’s the “wow, I am already so stressed and broke from the holidays, the last thing I want to deal with is one more thing.” Relatives were always kind and sensitive about the situation. I have never once given a birthday present to someone in June (or any other month for that matter) and said “oh by the way, this is your xmas present.” I will add that a holiday birthday has a few advantages.
Blog questions–I’m pretty inexperienced, so unfortunately I don’t have much to add. I’ve dated a few wealthy men, but didn’t ask for any sugar. I’d love to hear what other people’s experiences have been. Flo, thanks for answering my previous question on RL SD hunting.
Good morning everyone! Extremely cold here but I have to get up and get ready for work Ugh…
Date last night was amazing
. He brought chocolates and flowers lol
I am sure when I come back there will be 100000000000 new posts lol
I hope everyone has a great day! Stay warm!!!
By the way, Lisa I hope you are enjoying yourself! Forget about the world and everything else for just a minute and focus on having fun!!!!! I am happy for you
. Lisa’s SD: You better take good care of our girl!
On this note, Aurevoir!!!
Good Morning to each and to all.
Yaz – swit swoo on the date last night!! Was it a first date??
And regarding the blog questions i have nothing to add as iv never dated a person that was wealthy. In hindsight i was the wealthy one!!
Good Morning Irish, and Yaz
Off to get my diva ready for school…
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?
I have never had a SD/SB relationship before.
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share? I have no method, I just wing it
Morning everybody
Morning Taz – i was meant to tell you this completly random fact before, a taz is a chocolate bar in ireland. There you go my useless bit of info for the day!!
Anna – winging it – i like it so true
Morning sugars! Feeling better…thanks for the sugar sweetness!
Yaz10 – Yeah – he sounds wonderful! Love to hear more later!
I’m off to work, but wanted to share a sincere “Thanks”
Morning sugars wow new blog!
Chilly here in GA had to break the Wisconsin winter coat out of storage hee hee and the emergency with my apartment is still not resolved ;(
how is everyone
Hey Midnight Midwest Mistress! Nice to see Midwesterners. I live in GA but was born and raised in Wisconsin right above you! Love your profile You have such bright beautiful smile
Hi Irish
Hi Red
Nice to see you both
Hey Anna
Hey Irish
Great to see you both too!
morning y’all… changed my photos again. debating leaving one as is or making one into three…
Morning Red and Cleo!!
Hey cleo :d
Good morning Sugars!
Thank you all for your input on my photos, so I changed it! I know the third photo is not really liked, so I need to find another! Now on to the text change. I will try and do as SDinATX suggested and add more of my funny, crazy personality! Any input anyone?
You all have a great day…
Flo – would most definitley be willing to give it a shot!
Lol you should be charging a finders fee 
On that note does anyone have Flo’s addy??? I did but can’t find it now…
Irish – the question is – is it a yummy chocolate bar? If so, perhaps you can convince some of hte SD’s to think of that instead of the tazmanian devil
Taz it is yummy!!! Sweet chocolate on the ouside gooey caramel on the inside! You can a sweet and devil side to you now!!
Ok changed it again – this time JUST for you james!!
Lol..
Wow I was so into greeting that I forgot to answer the daily blog…silly me
Have I had a sugar relationship prior to the blog…eh sorta a friend of mine who was always there when I needed him and helped me out all the time.
Any methods of sugar searching that work well….Honesty if that can be called a method…
Hey BeachGirl saw your profile.. Beautiful pics! Your lovely smile shows your fun side already but that’s just me
The blog is slow today….sigh
AM: yes, yes it is
We can’t figure out if it was the oysters or the port, but for some reason Lisa didn’t get much sleep last night.
yeah, the oysters… that much have been in.
glad to hear y’all are having fun
*sigh* s/must/much
okay i have one for y’all since the blog questions don’t apply to me…
okay i would comment that searching for real life SD’s? watch the incidentals, wallets, watches… not that i have any luck in this town so far
anyway here’s my question… do you find yourselves targeting your blog comments to specific people ever?
Cleo – on searching for SDs in real life: I can only comment for NYC… its all about being in the right place at the right time… knowing where such men would frequent… My first SD was IRL… he was much older so when he first approached me I thought to myself “UMMM WHAT IS HE THINKING” he was the one that brought up the financial assistance part within minutes of meeting me… thats bc I told him I wasnt interested in talking to him LOL
nyc sb: other than the car show in toronto i can’t think of many places an SD would be… all the ‘luxury’ restos that aren’t exclusive are full of wannabes and i don’t know the right people for the private places…
anyone who knows toronto i would love to hear about them if you know them!
Good morning everyone!
On finding an SD somewhere other than this site – I wouldn’t even know how to begin! Besides, there’s no blog friends off the site!
Goodmorning Sweet Sugars!
Wow, I never get to post this early:)
Gemini29: I had a similiar response with a SD. He thought because he had money and I met his ‘requirements’ I would jump at being his SB. I politely said no and he responded with a nast email and then added me to his favorites! This really creeped me out, so now I am starting from scratch.
NYC SB: Good luck
Good Morning Everyone!
Re: IRL SDs
Looking back I had an opportunity to have a SD IRL a few years ago….but I just had no clue that he was a SD (knew nothing about sugar dating).
In college, I had a man approach me about it…and looking back, I should have jumped at the opportunity, but I was in the same boat as TXSB – knew nothing about sugar dating!
I meant ‘nasty’ it’s the BBerry’s fault:)
Hiya Sugars! -blows kisses and other such nonesense-
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?
Yes. Met online, but not while looking. I had no idea!
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share?
No. I am not sure what works or doesn’t work. I have no tried and true methods that are absolute.
Cleo –
When i am directing my comments to certain people I try to always use their ‘name’. Sometimes when the blog is crazy long I forget who said what by the time i post.
But in general I just chatter aimlessly into the universe.
-eyes Taz because i have a thing for candy bars-
2Chic:
I’m sure it’ll be worth every bit….
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CA Dreamin:
I know! If I only knew about this back then…life would’ve been so much easier…. *sigh*
poptart i didn’t mean that… i wondered if people changed how they answered depending on who was asking or whatever…
not finding good words…
TXSB – Isn’t THAT the truth! Hindsight…
Lisa and Her NY SD – YAY! I am so happy for you both.
Cleo – my bad. I realized that after I posted. *eeep* Nope, I don’t. I know I don’t fit the mold for a lot of the board SD’s for one reason or other so I don’t feel the need to try and lure them in. Less pressure for me that way, in that on the blog I never feel like I am speaking to a pot or on an interview. I can just be my wacky self.
TX SB – on one of the last blogs you mentioned pots who speak of connections. I wanted to say, I agree so much with you. For me, a connection is very important. But it does not mean that is all I am looking for. I have met with guys who should be on seekinggirlfriend or seekingmistress and they try to play it off as, but we have a connection and I do want to see you and you have said you want to see me… and to that I say… Pish Posh!
poptart – so true… im open to a bf out of this… but i still would want the financial support…
CA Dreamin:
*sigh* Yep. *sigh*
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Poptart:
Yes I don’t see the point of spending time/effort in seeing if there’s chemistry if what we want in the actual “arrangement contract” isn’t the same. I always ask pot SDs specifics on the type of arrangement they want immediately, and get the “no sex until 1st allowance is received” part out of the way. I don’t want to spend days or weeks “getting to know” someone only to find out that their allowance budget is $2500, or that they expect “test drives”, or we don’t agree on the # of times we want to meet each other, or they want “pay per play” etc. IMO the “contract details” need to be discussed 1st to avoid wasting time.
I’m not looking for a BF or husband on this site. If that happens down the road then that’s great. But it’s no where in my radar right now when discussing the arrangement with a pot SD.
TXSB – I am still very conflicted about the whole lets talk budgets prior to meeting… on one hand it makes sure you are on the same page but on the other it may give him the idea that this is the only thing you are interested in… the approach that I have been taking lately is lets meet soon and see if there is anything there (this is after a few emails back and forth)… more often than not the chemistry is not there… but when there is i would like to believe that a pot is more generous towards me…
Good morning!
Lisa’s SD – hope Lisa gets to see at least a little of NYC
Hi Lisa!
Cleo- still not understanding your question but it is still early here and I haven’t had my espresso yet
Good Morning SugarLand!
Searching for SD’s IRL:
I agree with NYC SB… right place at the right time. I think no matter where you live, there are certain restaurants/lounges that are frequented by wealthy men. Place yourself there… casually
Generally when an older gentleman approaches me (online or IRL), he makes it known rather quickly that he enjoys ’spoiling’ his woman. Assuming that you find him alluring, you may begin your sweet journey of discovery.
I have an amazing BF/SD that I met on a regular dating site… so you never know! Of course he is 22 years my senior… so like a mentioned before… generally when an older gentleman approaches me…
If that doesn’t work… the mink department of a major department store is recommended in the movie, “How to Marry a Millionaire” hehe!
NYC – Ordered the Glitter CL’s last night! I have J Lo to thank for that… watched ‘So You Think You Can Dance’ finale last night!
poptart: i wouldn’t object to being a girlfriend of a well off man instead of a sugar baby. would i turn down an allowance? um do i look stupid?
i mean what i say in my profile, it’s the type of man i’m looking for more than anything (accomplishment/power/brains are HOT.) i would FULLY refuse to get involved with a married one without an allowance but i’m not entirely sure i could handle a married SD anyway. would consider it for the right guy but *shrug* dunno if i could.
that said, i’m open to the idea that i might have the sort of thing that happened to ocsugarbaby. i would then be in dating mode though and if i like a guy enough to turn down an allowance with him so i can get to know him?
chances are the ‘benefits’ will take a while to kick in. when my heart is involved my body is much slower to follow. [yes, there are exceptions to this... but it's a nice way to work]
for me i’ve just had it up to HERE with ungenerous men or men who are in debt for more than they make in a year with NOTHING to show for it. can’t deal. can’t. i’m not rich and i don’t have a lot but my car is paid for and my business pays my bills… what i can’t afford is another man who counts nickels when tipping (WISH i was kidding) and suggests steak if i’m paying and breakfast if he is.
i don’t mind really but i keep getting more broke with nothing to show for it. least a rich boyfriend will pay for the steak instead of the breakfast you know?
re my question – in some ways i think the very best move on the blog is to be as much of your actual self as you can. that way if they like you they like YOU.
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TXSB: i am going to get smarter in my emails after mr. “i’ve never dated anyone bigger than me” (oh PLEASE mister, you’ve never dated anyone with control of their pelvic floor before either but do you see me holding that against you??? lol)
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DC: i know people in real life who tailor their personality to every situation. the sugar bowl seems like a place people would do that
NYC SB:
For me it also depends on the specific pot SD. If the pot SD & I plan on meeting within a few days, then I won’t ask what their allowance budget it…but I still ask other details such as how often they want to see their SB, if they’re ok with a SB who doesn’t get intimate before receiving 1st allowance etc. If the pot answers all my questions in a manner that tells me that he’s serious and knows what he wants in a SB, then I won’t bring up his “budget”.
But if the pot gives me half-as$ed answers or avoids answering any of my other q’s related to the arrangement…and if it seems like it’ll be 2 weeks or more before the 1st meet (if he’s out of town or for whatever reason), then I will directly ask if they do have a allowance budget that they’re restricted by. So lot of it really depends on the specific pot SD, and how the specific convo. is going.
At the end of the day, IMO a true SD is also a gentleman and has the ability to see things from a SB’s perspective. So if a SD jumps to conclusions and *assumes* that I’m only interested in $ just b/c I ask him for his “budget”, and refuses to even meet me for a 1st meet, then him & I wouldn’t get along for too long anyway (given my blunt/”to the point” personality).
WooHooo – TY Irish!! We have officially sold ONE person on the association of Taz and chocolate
So glad to hear it poptart!! 
poptart – you ABSOLUTELY fit the board!!!..if that is the case – most of us SB’s don’t fit either. We are ALL different and unique – that is what makes the blog so awesome! I am nearly positive we ALL love your wacky self
I love the blog b/c of the wonderful people it attracts and that it is like hanging out with old friends…I would never meet such amazing people in my neck of the woods…
Cleo – personally I think everyone’s personalities and true selves show through here on the blog. Not that everyone is transparent. Just real.
Hello TXSB
Cleo:
LOL….I still laugh thinking about the “I’ve never dated anyone bigger than me” guy….
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Bunny:
Hey!
TXSB – Come out to SoCal in Feb!
EVERYONE come out to SoCal in Feb!!!!
TT i do too… but sometimes i find myself considering my words in different lights. i try always to be my best self though so you know…
oh god, now i feel like i’m echo
Desert: i wish. i have free lodging in florida so i’ll likely go there…
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TXSB: oh if you could have heard his voice… i wanted to offer him balls for christmas.
DesertBunny:
When is the meet? If I have a SD by then….then yes, I defiantely will.
Cleo:
LOL!
OK, I’m off to run errands…..see ya’ll later.
TXSB – It’s looking like the 24th or 25th of Feb. Plenty of time
Cleo – If I may… I might have to steal that line from you! Ha! Is there a meet in FL too?
Desert: steal away – attribute as needed
there’s sort of a meet. IF i get business doing better (all signs point to YES!) then i’m going to go visit my parents in fort myers beach for a week or two.
that said, it would be AWESOME to hook up with other southerners while i’m there… i might go to orlando for a day or two as well to see a friend
(by which i mean – if you need to attribute do so, if you don’t it’s yours
Cleo – Sounds great! Two weeks in FL…. ahhhh, yes!
yeah last year i only went for one and it just wasn’t enough… two is better. and it’s nice to do. my parents and i really enjoy each other’s company now that they accept me as an adult and so we hang and read and eat in restaurants and go for walks… you know, bliss.
all i have to do is get there and pay the bills at home and otherwise it’s a ‘free trip’
Cleo – I wish for you two weeks of ‘bliss in FL
Desert: oh thank you.
i wish for that but i’m willing to trade up to two weeks with a hot man!
or maybe a week each
DB – yay on the new louboutins
try to make the meet on a friday or sat if possible…
TXSB – you are right… if the pot is respectful i offer him the same courtesy… i strongly believe that the type of SD i seek wouldnt ask for a test drive prior to allowance… nor would he bring up sex talk all the time… the scheduling issue is something i always bring up prior to meeting… this is something that i am not very flexible with so we need to be on the same page … as in if he wants to meet during the day … then no point of meeting as i work during that time… i think you have the right approach though
Cleo – Don’t sell yourself short, girl! You can have it all
NYC – nglvbunny @ google
desertbunny: ahh two weeks each… perfection
Cleo- where in Fl. are your parents? My mom is in Delray Beach.
Cleo wrote: i know people in real life who tailor their personality to every situation. the sugar bowl seems like a place people would do that
….can’t say I do that although maybe I should?? Most of the men I have met as pot SDs liked me because I am very down to earth …..what you see is what you get basically. I’m not a very good actress so I don’t think I could tailor my personality. I am also a very non material type person, not really into the bling aspect of being a SB. So if they want someone who appreciates all of that, I would not be a good match.
However I have had very little access to that lifestyle and if I got a taste I just might like it
DC – most of my pots were shocked by my bluntness and honesty… i often wonder if i should become a better actress lol … in the end i need to be who i am… and be ok with that
NYC- maybe they were shocked at first, but I bet they found it refreshing after they got over it.
Us New Yorkers are not exactly known for keeping things to ourselves
I am very honest as well and I often put my foot in my mouth and it sometimes it works to my detriment…but like you..it’s who I am.
I agree a lot of NYC people have a big mouth… but they are also not known for being very honest… I feel this translates to the SB population… some of them are willing to “compromise” their personality in order to portray whatever kind of SB their pot is seeking and in return land an arrangement…
(again SOME being operative word here… dont kill me people)
Hi Fam,
In lurking mode, …. continue on..lol
IMHO… arrangements made under false pretences (or personalities) will fall apart rather quickly. You can run, but you can’t hide from yourself
And that goes for SB’s and SD’s!
Hey Everyone!! Good afternoon!!
My cold lives on. I’d give the keys to my car for the rest of the week off so I can sleep!! Just sniffly and achy and TIRED!! UGH!!
I see no reason for anyone to fit their personallity to a situation. In my case, the real me would come shining through sooner or later, and then everyone would be confused as to who I really am. Easier to just be me! A little quirky and just to darn nice most of the time.
Cleo, My parents are in Bonita Springs. I love to visit them in the middle of winter so I can thaw my toes for a few days. But it does make coming back extremely difficult! It’s nice when it snows here and I’m down there, but coming back to the snow sux. Talked to them last night, Dad suggested I come down there to get rid of my cold. ahh.. would be so nice to ber warm right now….
I’m off again, my lunch break is almost over. Hugs to everyone, I’ll try to be home tonight to catch up on all the “crush” news and see who has a new SD/SB… but if I’m not here, I’m in bed sleeping!! (what a waist)
I think it’s always best to just be yourself. Trying to be someone else is too exhausting to keep up in the long run. Of course, I’m one of those ‘take me or leave me’ girls
DC: i don’t think you should really. that said, i do believe that it’s best to be careful what you reveal and to whom… but i’m growing into that realization after eating my foot too often
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nyc sb: thanks, that’s what i was getting at.
i do agree that real self shows fast and hard.
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ESB: if we’re there at the same time we should have dinner
my parents live here, they rent a house in FMB for a couple of months
Today is going to be a great day sugars – I just found out I got upgraded for my flight to Texas on Saturday! YEA!!!
Good points NYC and Cleo.
I try and just be myself and hope they like me. I tend to be a little shy by nature so the only time I ever act a little un-like myself is when I first meet an SD I muster up every ounce of self esteem I possibly can and seem really confident, even if I am feeling extremely insecure that day.
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?
Yes, quite a few. I seem to always date older, well-to-do gentleman so I suppose it was a natural progression.
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share?
I don’t have any calculated methods, I’m just myself.
Is anyone there?
Bah!
Can you believe the nerve of my boss?? I am expected to actually work today and have no time for the blog!! *dramatic sigh*
I will talk to yous guys later!
*walks off sulking and grumbling about work interfering with my internets time*
lol – i feel the same way miss poptart
Am I the only one here who doesn’t have a job yet?
Is there a way to have the soCal meeting on a weekend..I’d love to come!!
Or how about a NoCal meeting?
NoCal meeting at Tahoe – snowboarding lessons for everyone!
Hi CA-
I’m unemployed and searching as well.
Hi DC – glad to know I’m not the only one! I’m baking sugar cookies right now.
CA Dreamin SB — I’d definitely be into a NorCal meet. Tahoe, wine tasting, SF excursion, etc. Anyone else?
CA- I’m known for busting my ass in snow..but if someone’s willing to teach me to snowboard, i’m open to NoCal too
I’ve never tried snowboarding – but I’m a great skier. I’d just like to give the snowboarding a whirl this year
Wow I step away to run and errand and do some work and I miss alot
That’ll teach me won’t it? Hows everybody this afternoon
Hi RM – doing well – watching sugar cookies bake
Hi CA-
I’ve been looking for a year. Toughest job market I’ve ever experienced.
Sugar cookies…yum!!
DC – me too – for a year. Maybe I’ll get a great SD for xmas and can just work at being available for him.
I love baking – wish I had more people to bake for!
Sugar cookies ooooh! I want some!
Should we organize a sugar bowl cookie swap? I know Taz was doing some baking as well…maybe cleo too
My fingers are crossed for us both CA. Either a job or a new SD would be a great Xmas present … but in the SD department I won’t be meeting anyone new until after the new year. Everyone is either busy with their families or traveling over Xmas.
I love to bake as well for others since I have a wheat allergy and can’t eat them myself. My favorite ones to make are these raspberry linzer cookies but they are a lot of trouble. Only make those for really special people.
Hey Red….long time!
ladies – check out the featured members … ahhh memories
NYC – featured members?
I hope I get a SD for X-Mas…that would be SWEET!
coming out of lurk mode for a minute,…. NYC sb..I don’t get it either, does this have something to do with the NY Meet?
Hmmm…maybe I better re-think that crabby letter to Santa. I better write a REALLY nice one.
There is one in particular on there … a young man from NYC… and no unfortunately he was not at the NY meet… but he might attend the next one… fingers crossed
Hello from the Future, all!
(Gotta love that International Date Line.)
Well. it’s official. Monday I’ll be going to prison here in Australia.
Take it easy–I’m just taking the historic tour of the Fremantle area.
Should be FUN!
TLG
TLG – now if you could just tell me the winning numbers to the mega millions loto
glad you are enjoying your trip
Hey TLG – When I was in Australia – that International Date Line screwed me up but good! Glad you have a handle on it! LOL
Hey DC
You’re right it has been a long time!
Hello Everyone
Have not been to the blog for a while, lots to catch up.
Evening sugars! Just a few minutes to blog as I’m getting ready to see my SD! He mentioned a fashion show…hmmm wonder who the model is? How do you keep those lines straight on the back of those sexy thigh highs?
TLG: love your periodic updates…
MMM: tape *g*
Wow! Hi RedMaru! TLG, NYC SB, Cleo, Sweetie, AM … good night for the blog!
TLG – We’ll stand up for you. Maybe TexasSD can help!
CA Dreamin n- so WHO can clear a room faster than you
apparently no one midwest
So not true…the conversation was moving along and I popped on. It’s not you, it’s me. (sounds like we’re breaking up).
Hello Midwest
Midwest – I was left alone here for an HOUR today!!! Not even the lurkers wanted to talk with me!
they don’t know how sexy you are
How’s your search coming along? Are you happy with your profile?
Midwest – Well lets see, I got a guy today asking me to perform on webcam for him. And then I got another who really wanted an escort. So, ya, it’s going well
I’m actually really happy with my profile now. Linked it to my name – changed my photos.
Sweet – I don’t think we’ve met before…Hello!
CA – It may be because you are new. I’ve heard it happens more until you’ve been on about a month. Your pics look great!!!
Thank you Midwest
You have a great time tonight 
Midwest–Me neither and nice meeting you, too.
Hi CA dreamin–seem like the three of us have to put on a show to get those lurkers to come out and play
Hey Midwest
Have a great time
Sweet – I’m willing to try just about anything – but no webcam shows!
You;ll get them with a quick mention of whips, fmps and dungeions! Off to play.
NYGent – are you lurking somewhere?
AM- are you there?
Hey ya’ll!! How is it going?
HEY NAPA!!! I was begining to think everyone left me here alone again!
Love your pics CA Dreamin SB nice to meet you
I’m off sugars my relative is looking for me I haven’t made it home yet(wish it was an SD) See you guys later
Thank you RM – have a great night – Later!
i’m here, but later i’ll go watch survivor without you
That’s okay Cleo – I’m all finished baking. Waiting for everything to cool so I can box it all up
oh man CADreamin those pics are… *gulp* wow.
also, i put up a new one…
i have to finish baking on saturday and do the boxing then. i’m making your cookies and one other thing… whatever that may be
I have to get rid of mine tomorrow – otherwise, they won’t make it out of this house and I’ll be running a marathon to work them off!
haha hi CA!! couldnt help myself checked out your profile…cleo practically made me!
CA – I love your profile, also i love that you are a UT fan (i bleed burnt orange) suuuuuper dig your pics
Napa – Thank you! I’m so glad to find another UT fan so close by! I named my new orange and white kitten Bevo…I told the neighbors and they looked at me and said ‘that’s a strange name’ – CLEARLY not Longhorn fans
haha i have had a couple of moments like that since moving to Cali…clearly “we are not in Kansas anymore…”
CADreamin you clearly have better resistance to cookies than i do. i have to make more chocolate chip… *hangs head*
though i did give many of them away…
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napa: geeze make it my fault why don’tcha?
awwww cleo i’m sorry! i didnt mean it!
Cleo – the thought of miles on the road in the cold is my only savior. If I had a place to go to do a couple hours of aerobics every day, I’d be downing some of those pecan triangles! Though, if I had made ginger snaps, I’d be lacing up my running shoes right now
napa: it’s okay, i’m a bad influence, i don’t mind ;>
i made molasses spice, it’s deadly.
i did 100 minutes on the bike yesterday, i do cardio thrice a week, teach pilates, do advanced pilates and get my ass kicked once a week and still i’m up five damn pounds and there’s still a WEEK TO GO!!!
(better than last year, was up 10)
That’s awesome – I haven’t weighed myself in a year probably – just go by how I look in the mirror and how my clothes fit. I’m sure you’ll burn off the 5 in no time – and yes, those molasses spice cookies would do me in for sure!
Hi sugars! How is everyone doing? I met my pot for lunch and confirmed that he really wasn’t my type. Super good looking and quite intelligent, but a little too racist and angry for my tastes. Oh well.
Wow, all this talk of cookies and sweets is giving me cravings. CA-Dreaming, I’m with you. I rarely weigh myself. I just let my clothes tell me it’s time to cut back.
CADreamin: sure i think i’ve burned off the ones i did on sunday… no comment with regard to the ones i ate on monday or tuesday… wednesdays are probably gone though…
*g*
it’s a good thing i like vegetables and working out or i’d be obese
i have to weigh myself, i’m 5′11 and 165 is my perfect weight. i can go from that to 175 without noticing unless i have a scale. it’s easier to be aware.
that said, my pants would be telling me i was in trouble even if my scale wasn’t
CA – you still down for a sugar snowboarding get together?
…speaking of burning off holiday calories
hello? anyone there? ….was it something i said?
i’m here but only for a minute more… but i’ll be around tonight
Hey Napa – Yes – definitely – sorry – had to clean up my baking mess
hmm alright, well perhaps i will just lurk here then…see you later cleo!
Did everyone bail? I’m here, workin’ and lurkin’.
I’m still here!
Hi CA!
Staying warm?
I’m trying to! How about you? Days here are great but WOW the evenings get cold.
Today was warm. Almost ran the AC, but decided to soak up the heat while it lasts. Wouldn’t mind some rain though. It make this place so nice and clean.
Well LA, I’m going to be leaving in a few…sorry to leave you here with the lurkers
Evening all… long day again, but I am here!!
Cleo, I’d LOVE to have dinner with you if we are in FL at the same time. Trouble is, I’m usually there last minute. Every time I’ve been in the last few years it was because Dad was “on his death bed”. Yea, he’s great. Planning the big 50 wedding anniversary for July. I’ll be there then!! Probably at least once before too. Dad is a drama queen!! gotta love him!!
Just let me tell you ladies, my chocolate chip oatmeal cookies are to DIE for. MMmm.. I”m gaining 5 lbs just thinking about them….
My big news for the day… X bf called earlier. Wanted to know how I am, when is the “D” final… then asked if I’d marry him the day after…WTF!!?? Um.. NOOOO!!!!! Caught him cheating, and I’d want to marry him because… ?? yea.. no, not happening!!
wow, I cleared the room… sigh…
Yaz10….hey….I missed you…what is this roses and chocolates? Who is he?…lol….Were the chocolates as good as the ones that we had in Vegas? Remember how Sweet E…ate all of them the first night including the chocolate bowl that they were in….lol….Call me Yaz10!!!!!
Lisa…Lisa….where art thou Lisa? Just need to make sure you are okay and heading back on the plane tommorrow….or are you extending your stay? Lisa’s SD…..time to check in too…lol…..
Someone mentioned holiday birthdays….when I was a kid we always celebrated my half birthday in June. Nowadays, I get the combination birthday/christmas presents. Meh. I’ve decided to just stop aging and go back to being 29 forever. I figure my grandmother, this year, celebrated her 29th birthday for the 63rd time, and if she can do it, I can too!
CA Dreamin – I’m not quite unemployed…..but under-employed and looking for work. (My hours and pay got cut to where I’m currently making about 10% of what I was previously.) You’re not alone!!
DC – a YEAR????? Not giving me much hope here….
I met with a pot yesterday for lunch…..and there’s definitely chemistry there. His allowance isn’t wonderful, but his personality is great. And in the geographic region in which I live, I’m probably not going to find someone with a bigger allowance. (Especially considering that I’m not an 18 year old barbie doll.)
Hello sugar fam! Ridiculous day at work, soothed myself with a wee bit of shopping…new shampoo for me! Gotta cheer myself up somehow, now I’ll have new scented fun stuff for the shower!
Gee that sounded better in my head than it did typed out…
TLG – I really must know. Does the water swirl in the other direction when you flush a toilet down there?
Ok and on to answering the blog questions:
Have I found a SD in real life? Oh no, no no no. Not in a position to find out or would even realize WHAT a SD would look like in real life.
Flo – I give you permission to try and find a SD for me. I’m starting to think that aside from the exception of the blog SDs, I’m really not cut out for the vast majority of the SDs on SA…or they aren’t cut out for me.
so i just joined a group on facebook called “i have also slept with tiger woods” because that’s just funny…
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gemini: yeah it did
lol
Cal Dreamin: been away from blog all day, busy and still feeling a bit woozy, but your new pics are great — except you need a face shot if you can see your way clear to doing it, although I understand your need for discretion.
Someone mentioned a Nocal (or is it NorCal, i never know) party, perhaps I can host one some day. Right on the beach! I will be there between xmas and thru new years but unfortunately working (telecommuting) pretty hard with not much time for fun this trip.
good evening all!
RE:Holiday Birthdays – my best friend’s birthday is on Christmas…mine is the week after Valentines Day, as long as we have known each other we celebrate Christmas on the 25th and our birthdays in Feb. on my birthday…its not much but i think she appreciates actually having 2 different days …and i make sure to always put happy birthday before merry christmas on her christmas card….its the little things
Cleo 165 is where I am as well at 5′11.
Cleo: your pics are now super, you have really worked at it, congrats.
Good evening everyone!
Cleo–Haha, i saw that club. So funny!
Dulci–Glad to hear your date went well. Of course it’s nice when there’s a lot of sugar, but IMO personality goes a long way.
Beach: you too have done so much work on your pics, they now look great. ok so the #3 isn’t superb, it doesn’t really hurt you, cuz the first two are very good. In fact you might consider just going with the first 2 until you can replace the third. There is some guy’s hand shown in #3? Generally SDs don’t like to see signs of other male life in an SB’s photo . . . but you’ve definitely taken it u a notch overall
beach; that’s “up” a notch . . .
AmazonGoddess: oh i’m currently at my christmas weight which is closer to 180 *grin* i cycle a bit with winter, cold inspires carbs.
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NYGent: thank you, i have worked on them you’re right.
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LASB: i just had to do it. it’s my little homage to the sugar world in my real self.
Yaz: that’s great news, couldn’t happen to a nicer girl, continued good luck.
Midwest: have a great time with your SD tonite. You two are a great match . . . .
TLG: you’ve got a great sense of humor
SDinATX: saw your profile, you’re an interesting character!
Ok enough compliments of SDs, back to extolling the considerable virtues of the SB bloggers . . .
Sorry you aren’t feeling better NYGent…
Ms Crushworthy – Gemini’s are flirtatious and fun and like puzzles and challenges – the SD SB process has many awkward moments which by your nature you do not like – ergo this is not a smooth, natural, enjoyable process for you. Sorry this is really scary brainfarting. You are sui generis (one of a kind) darling and someone out there is a unique match for you BUT picture scorpions mating! Scary indeed but possible.
Midwest – did you disclose a crush on moir – if you didn’t no bigee – if you did that’s sweet and I totally am comfortable with that and crush on you as well (if that’s cool).
slept all day so now have energy to club all night – cheerio all
Thanks Flo – have fun tonight!!!
see you all tmw
LASB – Thank you! Honestly, the personality, the chemistry, the whatever you want to call it, is more important to me than the sugar. If I just wanted money, I would’ve gone to meet Mr. Walmart Parking Lot.
5′11″ and 165…..wow…..now I know what my problem is. I’m just too short!
Dulci – I remember you said you were studying clairvoyance.
dulcinea: i’m closer to 180 today than 165… does that help?
what does your height have to do with my weight?
Ok three more and that’s it and off to bed: Anna Molly, great new photo #2, the smiling/laughing one. Gemi: the blue and red numbers, #s 1 and 2, very nice. Yaz: very classy.
Mass upgrades going on with the blog SBs!
Hey, sugars, I have a quick question about the SD profiles. Do you ever write to the blue profiles? Can the blue profiles write us back, or do the guys have to upgrade to the orange? I can’t recall if any blue guy has ever written to me.
Hi Everyone!
Hi Sweet Sugar Fam!
EasternSureBaby: I feel your pain. I have been battling a horrible head cold for the past week; Benadryl is my friend now. I hope you feel better soon:)
,b>you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?</b) No
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share? No
LASB – I’ll probably shoot you an email tomorrow….I’m getting ready for bed right now.
Cleo – Nope, doesn’t help in the slightest….I’m at about 185 right now. But I’m only 5′2″. So I’m just too short!
G’night all!
TXSB: Hi!!
I did it again…I blame it on the meds!! My fingers are not functioning on the keyboard very well
LASB: I have received mail from blue profiles, but I have never sent mail to them.
Hey Rudy!
LASB:
I have never received any mail from “blue” profiles…and when I was actively searching, I never wrote to a “blue” profile either.
On a side note, went to the Galleria today…fell in love with 3 Fendi purses….
I don’t know why I torture mysefl….. *sigh*
TXSB: My weakness is COACH
Thanks Rudy and TXSB! The weekend is almost here. Any fun plans, sugars?
Rudy:
*sigh* I have some Coach purses…unfortunately not my taste has moved upto more $$$ purses…..
LASB:
Nope…..no plans for weekend other than errands. Maybe Sunday brunch….
dulcinea: to quote an old old friend i don’t listen to well enough: “put down the fork”
for me since i can’t stop eating i just learned to love the endorphins you get with exercise… that said, my mom had me in the pool when i was six, on skates at two, skis at three… so you know, one could argue it’s built in.
LASB: No problem! As for weekend plans..I would love for this cold to go away so I can do some Christmas shopping and I always make a trip to the library for some great books to read during the weekend. What about you?
TXSB i love one by xtian dior… but i wouldn’t buy it even if i could. i’d take it as a gift with glee but i want a laptop and an apartment all in one washer/dryer and some more equipment for my studio and better shelving and some painters and that’s what my money would go to (well i might need a new pair of boots and some books…)
Rudy – Going to watch some concerts, work a little bit. Debating on going on a date with a pot SD. Nothing too crazy. Lately I’ve been nesting a lot.
Cleo – I’m with you. I like my food. There are too many good restaurants where I live, so I’d rather just work out to keep things firm. Plus, I love the exercise high! (Maybe even more than the food high.)
LASB: i know, i get such a feeling of well being after pilates or a good cardio session/brisk walk
i need to add another weight lifting style thing since i quit climbing though
Cleo: Hi!!! I keep missing you on the blog; glad to ’see’ you
TXSB: Lol….well, I have also developed an appreciation for Louis Vuitton too. However, I lean more to COACH I think because of work.
I noticed there was talk of Florida earlier, does anyone go to Destin?
hey mcm how are you this evening?
Cleo: Very well despite this horrible cold and you?
NYGent~ The photo is 2 other girls with me, not a guy!!!! lol, thank you for your input,,, I will need to find something else… I just never know what to add here…I’ll have to send photos for approval lol
Hi everyone!!!
beach i know right? i often want to send like 5 photos to five blog sd’s for their opinions. what pics of me i like are rarely the same as men choose…
Beach Girl – You could easily crop out that hand. My favorite is that second one, because you are smiling so radiantly. Great photos!
yeah i know, it’s hard to decide!
LASB: Sounds like you have a fun weekend planned!
BeachGirl: Hi!!
Well, it’s almost midnight and one more day of work awaits me. I bid this wonderful group of SBs a goodnight
LASB~ that is when I had just gotten off a flight to LA, I was tired as hell…
I need more photos… for sure
Rudy:
Yea…these days I seem to appreciate everything that’s waaaaay out of my price range! *sigh* I also saw some HOT Dior booties on sale at Saks…even with 40% off…they were still waaay out of my budget.
Beach:
Hi!
good night Rudy! see you soon!
TXSB~ Hey babe! how are you?
oops, past my bedtime!
Yes, I worked until 11:30 pm, so i’m off to bed too!!!
Have a good night all
Thanks for the input on my profile! it’s always awesome to hear everyone’s point of view!
Beach:
I’m good…..missing the purses I saw a few hours ago… *pout* How’re you?
Rudy:
Night!
MCM – friends of mine own a condo in destin and another friend owns a home in seaside (spelling) where The Truman Show was filmed. I’ve never been as I go to Hilton Head and own a house in Flagler Beach & have friends in Miami. My friends like Destin though – are you thinking of a meet & greet there?
TX-SB – one of my friends loved Fendi so we made a song for her ‘Texas (name changed) is so trendy with her Chanel sunglasses & Fendi’ it annoyed the crap out of her – I know it doesn’t sound as funny here.
Dulcinea – I don’t mean to be rude but is that a healthy weight for you – I suppose it was rude but your life and health are more important than politeness (in my view – though you can tell me to bog off).
Ciao peeps.
TXSB~ hey sweetie, I worked from 8 am to 11:30 pm, I am burned out!
Another day like this tomorrow… blah ….
Flo~ hey baby girl!
Flo~ If you every know anyone , SD, that come to Montreal, girl send him my way lol….
Beach – I really like that you are as crazy as I am but i’ve only been to Montreal once in my life and i’ve been to Calgary twice and Vancouver once and Toronto three times and Windsor twice so I REALLY don’t know Canada too well. Business people don’t go to Montreal as much because of this French requirement which annoys the crap out of businesses as it adds costs (to have everything in French & English). sorry babe – BUT i’ll look out for you!
question 1: no
question 2: IRL i’m far more picky with the guys I choose to date so I havent given much guys attention. Online is easier though there’s more competition with pretty girls, who offer more, and irl they dont come with stats.
to the question about blue guys: I’ve had very few contact me, but I’m always hesitant when they live in my city because they see my pictures & i have no clue who they are
but now the SD thing is at a stand still, and regular dating is pretty good.
Helllllooooooooooooooo Sugars
Another early day for Yaz and stilll freezing here in Upstate NY
NYGent: Thank you very much my good sir. You are way too kind
No sugar news to report here ( Where o where is Yaz’s SD hiding? lol) I think SD got lost on his way to me and decided to take a nap. ( Lazy bum! lol)
Ha I am trying to get myself all warmed up here to go out in this freezing cold, God help me.
Gemi: Is that really you in that first pic?? Gosh, girl you look GOOD! lol
Gail: I miss you tooooooooooo
Lisa: We miss you tooo!!!!!!! We want details!!! Hehe
Ok everyone I have to go now……I hope you all have a wonderful day!!!!!!!
Why o why did I choose to wear a sweater dress today? * opening front door and bracing myself*
Morning Everyone
I have never been in the Sugarworld before, so not much to contribute to the blog questions.
I just realized that the extremely rare sapphire ring, which ordered /custom made and given to me recently has disappeared!!! It’s so sentimental to me and the giver. I’m absolutely, completely miserable.
Going back to cry some more after rant!!!!
Hi y’all
Thank you NYGent
Good morning Everyone!
Hi Anna, hope you have a great day!
It is sooo cold here, it’s Zero F ! I Am already frozen and the day just started !!! Off to work for me… Have a great morning!
Morning AM!
SweetLittle_K welcome.
Yaz: Sending you warm thoughts.
Hi SDN
Hi Yaz…..I feel your pain
Hi BG
SLK ~ Hope you find your ring!
Anna~ I didn’t get another mail from you
send it to me today if you can, talk to you all later, off to work I go….
Oh my, the cold is unreal this morning…
Thank you SDN
AM, thanks for the comforting words , unfortunately at this point I don’t think I can.Time to burn the house to find it but even if I did I don’t think it;s make sense as I think I may have left it somewhere( the air port?) else.
Good Morning All,
One week until Christmas yayyyy..
Ah SweetLittle_K hope you find it, pray to saint jude hes either for lost items or hopeless cases i forget!
Morning sugars whoevers here. Its wet, dreary, windy and cold here in GA
Hey IrishSB I think he’s the saint of both if I’m not mistaken. Although my grandma prays to him for just about everything LOL
Red – Me are him are on first name basis by now…
Don’t worry my grandma is too
morning morning folks
off to suffer through cardio to avoid the xmas 15. stupid cardio. stupid xmas 15 (which, fortunately, isn’t sustainable past jan 15 and tends to disappear on it’s own thank universe!)
and then? to bake!
Thanks Irish, I’ll try!!
Hey Red
Hey cleo you’re good cause I’m usually not a morning person for exercise I do mine in the evening. Have a good workout
Hey SweetLittleK 
How are you?
Red: oh i’m not good, i know i burn more calories if i torture myself before i eat… it’s the scale/no fitting pants that really drives it.
Irish!!! I have missed you.
Hey SDN! – Technicaly im still in Uni verus blogging mode but cudnt leave you hanging like that
Where is every1?
I keep missing you in the mornings!!
cleo – the scale’s my driver lol
Irish everyone stays up too late talking about whips and stuff so they’re all sleeping now
red: mine too, and man was it pissed this morning!
Irish: Don’t worry, just sitting here in uncomfortable silence while everyone stares at me. ** staring at the plastic plants nervously **
I’m here and awake Irish
I missed out on the whips talk…darn
I’m off to the city, but I’ll check in with the blog later….TTYL
Lisa – Saint Jude is lost cases. Saint Anthony is lost items. Pray to both, then pray to Mary. Sometimes it takes a woman to get stuff done.
The Saint Anthony prayer:
“St. Anthony, St. Anthony, please come around.
Something has been lost and can not be found.”
Disclaimer: I’m not Catholic. Just and ex Catholic school girl.
I think I’m seeing doubles looking at these two profiles :
57032 and 374028 or is it just me?
Have a great day Anna
Oh, sorry, I meant to address it to Sweet Little K. Wow, it’s too early here and my brain is still half asleep.
Yaz10….we keep missing each other : ) but that’s okay…I have your digits : ) Sweater dress? I am sure you have those knee-high boots on ready to kick off that cold weather there in NY : )
Lisa…Stay warm, bundle up, put on your coat and gloves(pssst they are on your hands..lol) I don’t want you to catch a cold and die : )
Lisa’s SD…do something… keep her warm…buy her a fur coat please : ) bundle her up with layers of new clothes…or hug her tight at least.
Happy days to all!!!!
Cleo – you know me so well
Red – it was tame last night!
SDN – Hows the uncomfortable sitting around doing for ya?!
Yaz- He’s not taking a nap. He’s just gotten so busy with work that he doesn’t have time to look for you. Guess you’ll just have to keep up the search for him! (Also, I bet you look amazing in that dress.)
SDN – *stare*
Hi all.
Hey Muse
SDN – (Waving) Hey!
RM – It CANNOT possibly be the same person… i mean the profiles have 2 different names
So my Cali pot that I was supposed to meet yesterday landed 2 hours later than he was supposed to… so we never met… which means I am double booked today… blah i hope one of them cancels so i dont have to rush!
Irish: Can’t lie. Little awkward, thanks for asking. taitneamh a bhaint as do céasadh?
Muse: Thanks for staring.
RedMaru: ** waving and smiling back **
Hey NYC, Muse, Gail and Lasb!
SDN – Hilarious.. beidh me
Wow, it’s quiet. Funny how it always does that when I show up. hm…
Hi Irish! Hi RedMaru!
Gealltanas?
Muse: I am still here if you would like to continue staring at me uncomfortably.
Muse – I doubt its you! Im thinking everyone is xmas shopping… its only 7 days away… blah
Good Morning Everyone!
SweetLittle:
Glad to *see* you back on the blog again!
Lisa….
I have a message for you:
Tweet, tweeee…..you left me in this cage…the popcorn is stale…as you dine on steak and oysters…have you forgotten you are my Sugarmomma?
Hey Irish SB : )
Hey Muse
SDN – Thank you! *stare*
NYC SB – I guess. I’m long done with my shopping but I guess that’s mostly due to the small number of gifts I needed to buy. I’m sure your dates today will go spectacularly.
Hi TXSB.
RM and NTCSB – did you notice that his parrot is embarrassed by his revealing his true nature, and left the picture?
NYCSB – bad typing. I really didn’t confuse you with an airline crash investigator. Plus, *chuckling* isn’t it bad form to complain about to pot SD dates when everyone else is complaining about the lack of them?
Muse:
You mentioned you’re done w/ shopping….so are you done buying for your SD too?
Hey!
Morning sugar world!!!
To whomever asked, yes that IS me in the first picture. I was doing a bit of an experiment…post a slightly risque photo and see if more pot SDs would email me. And the results are…not as many as you’d think! Perhaps the majority are scared off by my profile…its not exactly simple like “I is a hottie gurl who is needing spoiling by generous and wonderful daddy. I is sexy and hot and can make ur dreams come tru!!!!”
This makes me want to make a new profile….LOLCATs -SB style. “Can I has Sugar Daddy?”
TXSB – Yes. I gave my SD his gift yesterday because we went to see the tree at Rockefeller Center and it just seemed like the perfect moment. I wish it could have been a more exciting gift but I think he appreciated the discretion of it.
Testing out new BB. Does it work?
Gemini29: Didn’t realize you were a hottie gurl. ** said like Joey from Friends ** How you doin?
Have you had a sugar daddy or sugar baby relationship prior to joining SA? If so, how did it start?
My first arrangement was through SA. So far, still sugarless.
Have you found any methods of sugar-searching (online or offline) that work rather well? Care to share?
I have found an pot SD IRL but I was too scared to follow up. Sometimes I feel like I’m doing something wrong. Is there a clear definition of how a sugar baby differs from a prostitute in a legal sense?
nycsb darlin’ i’ll take the cali one off your hands for you… you know, cause i’m nice like that…
Muse:
Cool…..glad to hear the SD liked the gift.
Gemini:
That 1st pic is sick!
Jayde: I am not a lawyer and you would be best served by consulting one in your state. My advice is that if you think what you are doing is wrong or you are uncomfortable with it you should follow your instincts.
I am not here to buy sex, I am here to meet someone that I care about and I am willing to help her if/when she needs it.
SA is not that different from other dating sites. People get on them with their obvious wants/needs but there are other wants/needs that aren’t expressed. Usually you find out about those after you have started dating. On SA we are more direct.
i’ve been considering mentioning my height in my profile… as in “please note that while i am tall i have never cared if my man is” or whatever…
SDN: nicely put.
man it gets depressing sending emails that never get answered… read, but not answered.
James – was not complaining about having two dates… but i am frustrated as now i will have to rush through both of them rather than be able to enjoy each
cleo: Thank you for the shout out.I feel for you on the emails. I always respond to nice emails…I put out there a well thought out sexy “How you doin” to Gemini and she up and disappears. The nerve.
cleo – how about something gentle like “I like man who is not intimidated by my height and I don’t mind if you are shorter.”
SDN: i have received ONE reply so far “i’m sorry, i’ve met someone, good luck” and i found that comforting, at least he ANSWERED!
SDN we’ve all been hitting on gemini, it isn’t working for us either.
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LASB: man i find hot pots in LA… but none here
you’re close to it for sure… but yeah i need to say that i think. guys? am i right?
I think I’m going to link my profile again.
Cleo – I agree about hot pots in the this neck of the woods…although there are a couple from Toronto I am speaking with – they are younger (30’s), but tres hot!!
You think it is bad up that way Cleo – you should come to SW Ontario lol 
Wooohooo! AM is coming out a hiding!!
Cleo – Hot is great and all, but I learned yesterday that I’d prefer nice. If you have a surplus of LASDs I can help you out.
I recently started being the initiator on contacting the pot SDs, and the results aren’t too bad. Of the 5 I wrote, 2 responded. Now lets see who still wants to meet once I send a face pic. Luckily my self esteem handles rejection well.
*of*
SDN – I think that’s nice that you reply to most of the emails. If you are not interested, what’s your method of letting them down easy?
Taz i’ve been here for a month or two and i’ve had a dinner date and a phone call… and not with the same person.
i think toronto will require special patience for an older sb. i suspect i would do a lot better in nyc or texas or florida than here… (florida/south texas particularly since i used to be a national level swimmer and can do most sports passably well – nyc because people do double takes there when i walk down the street)
Hey Taz
LASB: oh for me hot pot doesn’t mean good looking… although it can. it means cute, profile is well written and has attention to detail, tallish, not fat, offering something appealing, displays humour…
like you can’t tell that SDinATX is physically hot or not from his pics but that is a hot profile.
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Taz you should let me know your particulars and i’ll email you pots i see in your neighbourhood…
I wonder one thing–SA asks for an exact age in years and an exact height in inches/centimeters in a profile, yet it does not ask for an exact weight, instead sticking to very subjective adjectives such as “slim”, “athletic”, “average”, etc. Yet, again and again I meet “slim” and “athletic” SBs who are neither, unless by athletic they mean that they are competing in a Sumo wrestling competition. Why not ask for an exact weight on the profile? It’s not like we pick “short”, “average’, and “tall”, or “young”, “middle-aged”, and “old”, so why pick from such absurd weight/habitus categories when an exact number in pounds is all that matters.
Good morning
Good morning
TNSD – Well, unfortunately people lie about their ’size’ all the time. Even IRL. They could put in weight, but do you really think that many SBs would either fill it in, or fill it in accurately. Would you want to show up on a first date with your pot already knowing exactly how much you weigh? There aren’t many who would feel comfortable with that. As for myself, I state I’m athletic. I’m not ripped by any means, but I work out, play hockey at least once a week, and can hike up a mountain without too much trouble. I always find trouble with the term ‘average’…..unfortunately the ‘average’ in both Canada and the US is becoming ‘overweight’ in my eyes…..
I guess I really should have started with saying Good Morning! to everyone….
Heheh sorry guys, I was out and about on a few different websites putting together my christmas wish list. and yes I know, its very last minute!!
So not ignoring ya’ll
SDN – How you doin’?
TNSD with respect i disagree.
my profile is linked and my oldest photo (the one lying down and grinning at you) was taken at the beginning of october. the others were taken last weekend. i weigh (today) (oh god i’m admitting it)(couldn’t you have asked this AFTER christmas???) 188 pounds. in that photo i am 180. (maybe 178, maybe 182. i don’t remember)
if i tell you i weigh that much you’ll assume i’m fat. i am NOT. (do you think i look like i am a sumo wrestler? i describe myself as athletic)
i am a tall, covered in muscle, athletic woman with curves because i’m curvy… i’m curvy because my waist is ten inches smaller than my bust and twelve inches smaller than my hips. i’m curvy the way curvy USED to be a compliment instead of now how it’s a nice way to call someone fat.
i’ve been told i have legs like betty grable and a face like veronica lake. why the hell should i have to put my weight on my profile? i’m athletic. if i could put muscle covered athlete with a great rack i would… but i wouldn’t put my weight to the pound for ANYTHING.
and yes, i did just get phone dumped by a potential because he couldn’t handle that i was taller (half an inch) and heavier (ten pounds) than he was… but i can tell you for sure i’m in better shape.
Cleo – OOOOOhhh, you are going by their profiles. Yes, there are tons of great profiles! But they are not attached to real SDs. Eg. the starbucks guy. The guy yesterday had a great profile. He may have even been a real SD. Who could tell that he’d bring this huge bag of negativity to the date? But yeah, they sound so promising on their orange pages.
WCSD: word.
Well, we expect them to state their height in inches, so why not their weight? Maybe it can be in 10 pound increments, 90-100, 100-110, 110-120, and once at 200 in 25 lb increments.
I guess another related question from the SBs is–given this ambiguity with regards to weight on SA, is it inappropriate for me to ask an SB in an initial e-mail or two what their weight it? It is totally a waste of time for me to meet someone overweight as there is not any chance I would find them sexually attractive.
(er to clarify, phone dumper has never met me in person)
TNSD – I agree totally with that. I posted earlier that if it doesn’t say “slim” and there’s no photo, then they are probably fat. I don’t know what the women do, but that’s been my experience with the SDs. At some point, “Athletic” and “A few extra pounds” merged to become one.
TNSD – If weight is a big deal for you, then yes it is appropriate. To me there are no inappropriate questions. If it is a deal breaker for you than it is an appropriate question. Just realize that any question may make you lose a pot because of the question itself, rather than her answer.
TNSD – Yes, highly inappropriate. It is just NOT considered proper or gentlemanly. I would be peeved, and I imagine any other woman would also be peeved. If it is THAT big a deal for you, I imagine putting a request on your profile that you are looking for a certain height/weight is the best you can do.
LASB: fair point milady. i’m sorry your date sucked so much.
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lisa/lisa’s sd… thank you for checking in, i was starting to wonder a titch
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the problem with weight is how you carry it. i can show you pics of me ten pounds lighter and looking fatter.
furthermore with subjective words you end up with ex national athletes who have smoking bodies thinking they’re ‘a few extra pounds’ (yeah ten) and people who have never exercised and are 40lbs overweight describing themselves as ‘athletic’ and they might weigh the exact same amount and look totally different.
better would be sizes… “jeans size”
but please don’t ask for bra sizes *g*
LASB: My response is “Thank you for taking the time to read my profile and to write to me. Unfortunately, you and I are not a match but I wish you well in your search.”
Gemini29: You are making me all tingly.
TNSD – Asking a woman her weight is classless. SBs are looking for refined gentlemen. Sorry, but just being honest. Just ask for full length photo. I’m thin and if a guy asked my weight for the purposes of making absolute sure I was skinny, I’d tell him to hit the road. just my 2 cents.
Hmm..yes you could easily ask what dress size she is. Specify like a number size, like 2, 4, 6, etc…that will give a better idea of what size she is rather than small or large. I’ve had guys ask it that way, and its not as impertinant as “what do you weigh? I need skinny girls only.”
Cleo – I’m with you. I look skinnier when I weigh more. I think that’s true to the athletic body type. Super low fat, usually means dense muscle, which weighs a lot. Also jeans size doesn’t mean anything. I’m built like an adolescent, meaning no curves. My waist and hips are nearly the same size, which puts me at a size 27. Store people always guess I’m a 25 and say something like “there’s no way you are that fat!” lol.
SDN – tingly in all the right places I hope. Not that bad “shiver down my spine, she’s freaky” sort of way
TNSD – I agree to a point that a numeric example of weight would be nice…but then again…..most of the time you won’t know what a person really weighs or how in shape they are until you see them in person.
gemini: right, i have NO problem saying that i can squeeze into an 8 but wear 10-14 on the bottom and equally no problem saying i’m a 6-10 on top… it’s the truth and it’s an accurate representation of me whereas the number on the scale isn’t.
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LASB i answered the weight question on the phone but i thought we were talking as former jocks comparing muscle etc ratios and stuff… hard to explain but it didn’t feel like “what do you weigh?” which would have bugged me a lot.
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that’s the other thing, i don’t mind at all if someone asks for a photo of me standing up.. which is much less insulting than ‘what’s your weight’
TNSD:
Hi and welcome! Personally I have no problem sharing my weight….I’ve had SD’s tell me the same thing you wrote in your post. That someone whose profile said “slim” or “athletic”, ended up being overweight IRL. I state “slim” in my profile….I’m 5′ (and 3 quarters of an inch) and my weight is 97 lbs. I would not be offended if a SD asked me how much I weigh. But I believe I’m a rare exception…..most women are not comfortable sharing their weight.
As the others mentioned….if this is important to you, then yes, go ahead and ask b/c you don’t want to waste your time on SBs who don’t meet your criteria.
On a side note, SDs are guilty of the same thing. I remember meeting 2 SDs who were supposed to be “athletic”…with big beer bellies. *sigh*
cleo: As an SD any reasonable issue that you can alleviate in your profile is a plus. A 5′11″ SB willing to date shorter men should be in your profile.
Gemini29: So what size snuggie do you wear? ** tingling in the right places **
Hmmm….this is a very interesting reaction to a question about weight. People are attracted to different things, and if TNSD likes skinny women, and wants to be honest, upfront about it and wants information, then I believe he should ask. Just like if a SB wants a tall, dark and handsome man…..both are individual tastes, and both will ask to see/info to be able to acertain if they are attracted to the individual. You can ask if someone is a smoker if that is a deal breaker for you, but it is ‘classless’ to see if they fit into your idea of attraction? It is just an interesting reaction.
I agree with Cleo, that asking someone’s weight is not necessarily a good indicator of how fit, fat, etc. a person is, but the question isn’t to critic whether TNSD’s measurement method of what HE finds attractive is a good method or not.
My 2 cents anyway….
LASB: yeah that’s why i used dress sizes instead in my example…
anyone wondering if you’re fat is blind. it’s easy to wonder with the fuller figured ladies but you’re like gemi… clearly gorgeous in a dress.
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TXSB: that and if you care that you’re bigger than your sb is… if that matters to you (funny to me cause i love when my lover and i are similar sizes/weights… or if he’s just a little taller… 6′1-6′3) then look for ladies at least 4-8 inches shorter and leave the tall ones alone…
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SDN: what a lovely rejection letter. i can tell you for certain i’ve never emailed you
Well, it’s how the person asks about weight. Maybe it’s best to clearly state in one’s profile that it’s very important that the SB be slim. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting a thin woman. We all have our likes and dislikes. It’s just that there’s are ways of finding out without being tacky. I mean, I don’t go around asking guys to provide measurements of how well endowed they are. Maybe I’m curious and it’s important to me, but there are better ways of finding out.
LASB – Ha Ha…good point….the problem is for that ‘problem’ a large number of men would be more than happy to provide you those measurements and a picture….and I am not one of them!! I’m sure some of you SBs have received this information unsolicited…
p/s though I suppose I did ask James to check his digit. I guess that was tacky. oops.
cleo: Yes I have noticed ** sitting here in a huff **
WCSD – Hahahaha. i have totally received those pics. I’ll confess I actually like getting them, usually because they are fun to laugh at. (childish, I know.) Though every so often I see one and go, “huh, that’s sort of pretty.” But I know that I am in the very very very small minority of voyeur women.
SDN – I couldn’t handle a rejection from you, so like Cleo, I will not be emailing you.
TNSD~ I don’t agree that asking for weight is a good thing,,, I am 5′9″ so my weight is fair to my height, 135, but too some people a number is too high or too low… blah blah… I know a girl, her weight is 300 pounds and she is 6′2″ and she looks amazing and she is not fat at all… very athletic!
So Ask for recent photos maybe??? It depends on the person , the bone structure and so on!
And Yes weight is a huge issue for women, I know I want to loose weight…and i’m not fat…
Hi WC SD
Hi everyone!
SDN: thanks, i’ll edit it …
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WCSD: if a man has in his profile that he wants a slim girl? i don’t email him. if it’s that important to him he should mention it in email and get it out of the way… but there’s ways to say that.
like, if i got an email (not the first) and in it he said “i have been burned a few times by girls misrepresenting their body types. would you mind sending a recent full length photo so i can save us both some time if we aren’t attracted to each other?”
that said, if i haven’t seen your pic when you ask that i’ll assume you’re pic seeking. if i have? you’ll get the photo forthwith.
now, if instead you say “i keep meeting fat chicks who claim to be slim, what’s your weight?” you’ll never hear from me again.
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LASB: *dies laughing* tell me about it
LASB – I get them from women as well…..and I can tell you all that I’ve received unsolicted….I’ve never wanted….Ewww! As you can guess it is never the attractive classy women that send those pics….but the very big, very unattractive ones. I guess it is the same for both men and women, I always think when I receive one of those ’special’ emails ‘What were you thinking? Does this actually work for you in getting dates/interest?’
LASB – Woah, this brings up a whole new parallel line of thought….
SDN- LOLOL!! Never had anyone ask me that before. I guess I’d be a size small, but maybe the medium because I’m a tall girl (5′9″) (115-120lbs) (size 4, small, 34c) (um.) (7.5) (glove size 7) (ring size 7) Um. Okay I think that is all the sizes my brain can think of off the top of my head.
WC SD – I always wondered the same in regards to “does this work?!” It must be working on someone though, because otherwise people would stop doing it. Again though, I’ve gotten them from smoking hot men. But the fact that they sent it cancels them out of the running. I think it says something about their judgment. I am one who is constantly “reading between the lines.”
SDN: well i’ll tell you what, if you tell me your profile number i might just apply for a snuggie and a happy meal…
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LASB: we share a minority position on those pics yup. that said, i can’t imagine dating a man who sent one.
Cleo – hahahahaha! Welcome to the club! Now we are two.
I have been asked by many pots about my height weight and proportions… i am not offended by this… i mean most SDs on this site want someone who is great looking and pictures usually do not paint the whole picture… they are a one dimensional representation of what the person looks like…
cleo – your weight and what you look like are a rare representation… most women who weigh 180 lbs do not look like you as it is not all muscle…
also i have a pet peeve on the whole “athletic” representation… especially when used by men who have not been in the gym in the past 10 years…
last i have shared this story before and i will share it again. I met a pot a while back who said he was “athletic” when I met him he was far from it unless he was a sumo athlete… he was easily 300lbs… i decided to be polite and sit through dinner… during which he proceeded to tell me how i am too fat (for the record i am 5′6” and around 115 lbs) … i fit into a size 0-4 depending on the brand of clothing… at express i am a size 0 …
LASB – I agree it must be working on someone. I guess the good news is that the people who find those types of emails attractive probably are great fits for the people that send them. Maybe it is the ultimate screening process for them. Send out hundreds of emails of your privates, and anyone who responds is a keeper!
WC SD – That must be the method to their madness!
LASB:
LOL @ men’s “size”!
SDN:
PBI but yes, I have received those “pics” from men…*shudders at the memory*
Off to gym….can’t wait to get back and see where this convo. leads to!
It is going to be 75 today. My loft suffers from the greenhouse effect, so I already have the AC on and it’s not even noon. You sure you don’t want to move the Midwest meetup to the other side of the Rockies?
WC SD – Ah, now that makes sense. Like attracting like using a very specific method.
Cleo/TNSD – I have to say, I do consider myself curvy – but agreed the ‘old’ standard for it as well. I stick with athletic seeing is curvy is usually right before the more ‘ample’ options – and I am defnitely not ample. Perhaps having pics on a profile, or sent before meeting can save anyone from being disappointed…b/c it is true that WEIGHT does not account for everything as far as physique – could be equallly surprised either way based on a weight, or a one word description. Seeing is believing as they say
I am almost envious of them having the ability to use that screening process. Imagine if you/I could send out an email looking for exactly what we want to hundreds of women/men, and the ones that it fits would be intrigued and respond, and the others (that we don’t want anyway) would be insulted/disgusted. What a perfect method! Wish I had one like that!
nyc sb: that’s true. but at my height a woman under 150 starts to get a little rare. amazon is way hotter than me and she’s 165.
athletic makes me nuts, very few people actually are and here’s it’s clearly a way to say chubby or something.
i wish it was
fragile
slim
athletic
curvy
healthy/average
a few extra pounds
rubenesque
and i wish you could pick more than one. slim/athletic and slim/curvy are very different bodies…
omg that guy is hilarious… and i’ve met similar. one guy his pics were at least ten years old and he had spent the intervening years in a basement. his skin had turned gray and his body was a shadow.
his pic? athletic, fit guy with flags in his cheeks.
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WCSD: *dies laughing*
everyone floats to their own perfect level…
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Taz: yeah.
face pic only? no visible cheekbones? probably fat.
WCSD: hey! mail me a picture of your penis!
(no, please don’t… well not on a first email anyway)
*heads out to the printer giggling*
cleo & LASB: ** sitting here in a double huff **
Gemini29: TMI, but in a good way. I usually go for a glove size of 6 but in your case I will bend my rule.
SDN: huff all you want darlin’ you know where *my* profile is, it isn’t me doing the not emailing
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you know what cracks me up? the average american woman is a 14 and most stores stop at 12-13
cleo – you wrote was I was thinking. HAAAH!
WC SD – Stop playing with the female pic collectors’ heads.
dear blog: i did a : and a P not a ) why is that a
instead of a 
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right right, errands!
Cleo – Can’t send you a pic of the unit….I wouldn’t want to scare you away (now the question is after that statement are you thinking I’m scaring you away because it is big, or small)
“Athletic” is the OC guy on the featured profiles. Cleo, I bet he will send you a pic of the goods.
oh i see, it’s a tongue not a big smile… hmm. i like ;P better
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LASB: i know right?
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WCSB: i’m thinking it’s because you know i would then have to not date you … since i’m like classy and stuff and you don’t want to scare away such an awesome babe.
*giggles*
or because it’s scarred funny from it’s circumsision
Cleo – Hey, no making fun of the scar. I just got the bandage off last week! How do you think it feels to be a grow adult going to the rabbi asking for some help?
WC SD: wow, i knew it was tough to convert at an advanced age but i didn’t realise they made you go all the way!
[laughed to tears, did]
Cleo – You mean I didn’t have to?!? Now you tell me. I could have just got away with wearing the yamaka? Damn, all that pain, and embarassment for years to come because I was just uninformed.
WC SD: well i must confess that one of my very best friends would know much more than i. heck i thought it was spelled yarmakah or something so you know … don’t quote me.
but yeah, that’s what i hear…
Cleo, your best friend and probably even you know much better than me as well. I’m making this all up for a smile…..
Actually, I just looked it up…it is yarmulke. Hmmm, now we know, and ‘knowledge is power’
WC SD: glad it’s not just me in that boat.
incidentally i’m pretty sure you were the correct speller ;>
you know i thought there was an l but i couldn’t figure it out!
lol. awesome
right, errands!
exeunt! stage left!
Good morning everyone!
…….Heard from Lisa and she is having a great time!
……….On the weight issue……I noticed when I was dating at sites like Match.com etc a woman’s weight was a huge deal for most men. It always made me very sad. About 7 years ago I weighed 30 lbs more than I do now. No one was interested in me. I was a 2 on top and a size 10 on the bottom. Then I got really sick and lost 30 lbs and have kept it off. To say losing the weight made a big difference would be an understatement. I was the same person, just thinner. I now put my height and weight in my profile because I know it is important to most men, especially at a site like this where you can’t deny, how you look determines your popularity/allowance. I wish it were about inner beauty here but at least “initially” we all know it’s not.
……and yes, the same men that rejected me when I was heavier (still not fat….5′6 and 140 lbs)…..were fat and balding and hadn’t seen the inside of a gym in a long time.
…..it never ceases to amaze me how men can strut around naked in front of a woman when they are overweight and us gals are ashamed if someone sees us with a little cellulite or an extra 5-10 lbs.
DC – I don’t think you can think of it as a double standard. To find a match with anyone, it is a match, you both have to find each other attractive. If I only like women under 5′5″ and I’m over 6′4″, then I need to find someone short, who likes tall men (note: I do NOT have height limitations in the women I seek). Those overweight balding men were looking for someone slim who likes big guys. In the end, it must be working for them or they would change their appearance to be able to attract the women they find attractive. Maybe the fit, with lots of hair men have more choices on who find them attractive…and can be more selective, but really in the world of dating, it is all about personal choice. Your personal choice would be not to date the fat and balding men.
DC – You also have to realize that YOU are the ones ashamed to walk around with a little cellulite/extra weight. No one can make you ashamed, only you can be ashamed of how you look. So think of that the next time you see a fat guy walking around. He’s just comfortable with himself, and there is nothing sexier than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, no matter the size, colour, shape, or age.
This is clearly a convo I don’t want to get in on. That being said, there is good news on the snuggie front: snuggies claim to be 1 size fits all. How this works for LASB and Cleo (who I gather are rather different in height), I don’t kow.
SDN: I am pleased to reprot i have not gotten any of “those” pix from men. However, since I’ve been on the blog, over half of my profile views have been from men; far more than actually participate on the blog. It’s a little scary.
Hi WCSD!
That was my point. I realize that it’s mostly in OUR heads and it really is sad that more women are not happy with their bodies. Most men I think are happy to just see a woman naked. They are not noticing the cellulite, scars, etc. But woman are overly critical of their own bodies whereas men are comfortable for the most part it seems no matter how they look. I just wonder how we got to this point. Madison avenue? fashion magazines? we all notice those trash magazines while we are waiting on line at the supermarket…the ones where they take pictures of some actress at the beach who has a little cellulite. They are only just starting to pick on the men as well.
Oh and I don’t have a problem with men who are losing their hair or need to lose some weight. My point was that I have experienced it myself and heard from friends that these same men turn up their noses at women who are not perfect or women who need to lose the same amount of weight as they do. Does that make sense?
Speaking of weight, I am off to the gym.
James-
I hear ya. It’s like when a woman asks “do these pants make me look fat”. Best to not answer LOL
I can’t recall, did you ever post your profile number to the blog? That might explain the high proportion of men as there are tons of lurkers out there. When an SB at the blog gives up their profile number I always check them out. We are all just checking out the competition.
Whoa what did I miss? Still icky here in GA wish the rain would stop.
Wow NYCSB – I’m curvy (coke bottle shaped and trying to lose weight myself) so he probably would of thought that I’m obese. 300 pounds and has got the nerve to call you fat? Maybe on his planet he is athletic..
Hi all — I find this discussion very interesting. I don’t get too hung up on the body type classifications — everyone has different definitions, and you have to just see when you meet if you are attracted to each other. Nonetheless, if you intentionally misrepresent yourself, it is going to mean you end up wasting a lot of time, but unfortunately the other party gets “punished” for this too.
On a related note, I think some SDs think that because they are providing financial support that they can sugar date way out of their league. That may work for short term sugar arrangements (not relationships). Eventually, the thrill of the financial support will erode, and if there isn’t mutual attraction, the arrangement will end. I think most SBs want someone to whom they are attracted, but not all.
I’m hourglass shaped
I am shaped like a prune!
NC Gent – I completely agree with your statement. I only look for a SB that I find attractive (obviously) but she must also find me attractive. Money can really only keep a relationship going for a fairly short time before it becomes very obvious to both parties that it really isn’t working out.
Ihave to be with someone I’m attracted to or it just won’t work for me.
A prune. Lol
NC Gent – I’m all about “just meet him and see.” Even though yesterday’s date was unfruitful, I don’t regret going. I wanted to be sure. I also agree that it’s a package deal. There needs to be some level of attraction. For me, it tends to be intellectual, but I also like a man to take care of himself since a healthy mind requires a healthy body.
TNSD – I like that you opened this can of worms. I think that discussing topics like this is the intention of the blog.
NYC SB – But aren’t sumo wrestlers, NFL offensive and defensive linemen and MLB (overweight) pitchers and golfers built like Craig Stadler ‘athletic’?
On the topic of attractiveness, body shape is a nice bonus feature but values such as kindness and generosity (to the right people), communication skills, compatibility, admiration and respect are ‘priceless’. Rather hard to determine a scale for kindness though – but I do judge and look for it.
LASB – good for you! that’s the right attitude, assuming he doesn’t want to meet at Starbucks (I’m sure you attract the upscale pot). Ultimately, it’s not about what the pics look like, but whether you enjoy their company, and there’s no way to know that without sitting down and talking to them.
James- Very true, you can ask all the right questions, get all the pictures, email, talk on the phone and all that, but nothing is known for sure until you meet the person and talk to them for a while.
On an exciting note I have a date set with a pot SD! Very very excited! Gives me something wonderful to look forward to!
Well after NC gents comment I feel like my suger search is lost(starts to cry; was really hoping for the hot babe)
James – I don’t even mind the starbucks meet. it’s the sans panties meet that I won’t do. Well, maybe I’ll do it with WC if he sent a “pretty” picture of the goods.
I should say that my best meet so far was at the Coffee Bean. He was nice and the real deal. It’s just too bad he left the country for a month shortly after. Or maybe that’s just his way of letting me down easy and himself off the hook.
Hmm… that leads to my next question. How do you “seal the deal?” When do you “seal the deal?” With him, I wanted to seal the deal because he was such an awesome guy–fun, positive, classy yet candid, super intellectual–but I didn’t want to sound pushy, aggressive, or entitled.
The only man thats checked me out was a road construction worker
Cleo – part of the problem is some health problems that make exercise extremely challenging. I’m working with a physical therapist to come up with a plan for after the holidays, though.
Flo – No worries, bluntness has never bothered me. I need to drop about 30 pounds. Any more than that, and I look anorexic.
Someone up above said the average american woman is a size 14…..I’m not that far off average, then. I’m a 16.
I hate being asked my weight. Except at state fairs where they have those “Guess your weight or your age” things….I always win prizes, because I don’t look like I weigh anywhere near what I do. Most people peg me around 140-150. I just went and stepped on the scale….181. But it’s solidly packed and a lot of muscle, so….*shrugs*
If I see in a SD’s profile that he wants a slim woman, I just go on to the next. I figure in the sugarbowl, to some extent, it’s a buyer’s market. People are attracted to different things….for some, it’s all about appearance. For others, personality is the deciding factor. I just keep an eye out for those who want the personality
LASB – I did meet one pot SB at Starbucks, at her suggestion. She didn’t ask me to not to wear boxers, though. I didn’t follow up after the meeting, though, due not to her weight or shape, but her age.
I would “seal the deal” in stages. At the end of the date tell him that you had fun and you enjoyed him, and you’d like to meet again. (You’ll know how to do this without sounding pushy, but sounding inviting). then, before the next meeting, you can email him with questions, the most important of which is a detailed discussion of what you want out of the relationship (and this is a relationship, which perhaps speaks to Jayde5502’s question). You’re not negotiating the arrangement, you’re making sure that you agree on the key basic issues. That gives you (or him) the ability to walk away for good reason without hurting the other’s feelings, and it sets the table for the next meeting.
but, before you leave the first date, you need to let him know that he passed the test and you want to find out more about him.
By the weigh, according to US Government statistics, I’m not too heavy, I’m too short.
LASB – Hmmm, a pic of my ‘pruney’ unit with the scar for a date sans panties, that actually may be a pretty good deal for me. As for sealing the deal, that is always the hardest thing to determine. I think for us SD’s it is a little easier, but I find SB’s that show interest, but not desperation is really the key for me. But it is that fine line to dance around (interested, or stalker?)
WC SD – You’re not kidding about the fine line. I want them to know I’m interested but not obsessed. That I want things to progress, but without pressuring them, so only if they feel the same way. I want to tell them, thank you, you’re totally my type, but not in a way that makes anyone feel awkward. Typically, I wimp out and send a simple “thanks so much for meeting with me. You’re awesome.” email.
WC – this is beginning to sound like one of those contests where first prize is 1 week in Toledo, and second prize is 2 weeks in Toledo (sorry if I offend anyone in Toledo, but I needed a place name. You were part of Michigan once, but went over to the dark side)
James – I think you misspelled “discovered the error of your ways”…. Go Buckeyes!
James – What are you saying? My unit is damn sexy!!
LASB – I’d advise not wimping out in the future. Don’t email/text 500 times to get the second date, but telling him that you are interested in this continuing further is definitely advised. Guys are pretty dumb, and need to be hit over the head with it on occasion (at least I do anyway). I’m a horrible mind reader when it comes to relationships (Sugar or otherwise). Telling me that I’m awesome isn’t necessarily saying you want to meet me again (sans panties of course! But only for me right LASB?)
To all – Sorry I’m in a very odd, humorous mood today (well humorous to me anyway).
WC SD – Thanks for the advice. So it should read, “Thanks for meeting me. You’re awesome. Let’s meet again soon.” (?) hehe. Yeah, even non sugars get one phone call and/or one email and that’s it. If it’s not returned, I take the hint and go away quietly. I take rejection well, but it doesn’t mean I like it. And don’t go getting my panties in your bunch. You need to EARN it. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!
Ditto of WC. Apologies as I entertain myself on my day off. Sorry for clearing the room.
I’m still here….just trying to help coordinate a shut-down at work due to weather conditions. The district manager doesn’t want to close, but none of the delivery guys are coming in, the police department has said to limit non-essential travel, it’s just NASTY out there.
LASB and WC SD – y’all are entertaining me
LASB – I’d probably go one step further and say ‘Thanks for meeting me. You are awesome. Let’s meet again soon because I think we may be a match’. This really puts the ball in his court, shows you don’t just want another ‘free dinner’ but actually are interested in moving on in setting up the relationship. Heck, you could even say that ‘…Let’s meet again soon and we can discuss starting this arrangement’.
And there are no panties in my bunch…remember you offered sans panties….
And yes, it is much more fun when you earn it….
“Guys are pretty dumb, and need to be hit over the head with it on occasion (at least I do anyway). I’m a horrible mind reader when it comes to relationships (Sugar or otherwise). Telling me that I’m awesome isn’t necessarily saying you want to meet me again.”
All too true! We all need to be guided. And probably more so when dealing with an attractive woman. There’s a little bit of “why would someone that great be interested in me” in all good SDs. If they’re not thinking that, they’ll be a problem sooner, not later.
Thanks WC. That helps. In real life, I’m not shy. In the sugar bowl, I often feel like i need to walk on eggshells. I suppose it’s overcompensating, due to the many complaints I hear in regards to entitlement. LA men are relatively more jaded then men in the rest of the country, so I err on the side of caution.
james – funny you mention that…since linking my profile MOST of my views come from women…wanna trade?? Lol..seriously – can you get to my profile from clicking or is it still messed up and only allowing females?..If not, maybe it was b/c I advertised great massages
TT – your link works perfectly. And so does the profile. Good choice in picture #1. How do guys not understand about massages?
OK guys, that’s not funny…2 more hits. But, TT, one of the guys is just right for you and good looking, plus, he’s from Canada. How do you feel about Vancouver?
(Let’s see if that brings the lurker to the foreground)
Um, how does this link thing work? And no more drinks for me during the day on my only day off…I feel stupid and slow.
Hello all – did everyone miss me?
I just got an email from someone asking me if i want to meet for a wild night out next week… this is his first email… after which he proceeded to tell me that if we do not meet next week he will be out of town till february…
whats a girl to do??? j/k
Hey sugars! Took a short hiatus from the blog and SA in general, I see lots of new bloggers. Welcome! Im going to try to catch up on whats been going on…but Im not sure I will read all of the near 500 comments on here right now lol.
CA – absolutely!
Gemi – with your profile number in your name, why worry about the blue link?