73% of sugars polled claim that arrangements appeal to them because of their straight-forward simplicity.
How do you manage your sugar selection process? – Taylor
What is a simple way to agree on a location and/or activity for the 1st meet?
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated?
Any sugar news to report?
Tags: simple arrangement, simple sugar, simple sugar daddy dating
ive turned down pot sd’s when they make things soo complicated that your just burnt out on even wanting to meet them anymore. Or if they ask all these requests of you,but wont do anything in return.
Evening sugars!!!!
Yay! New blog topic! I’ve been reaching withdrawal mode without my daily fix!!!
How do you manage your sugar selection process?
While I’m not as organized as NYC SB (*hugs lady*), I start by email communication, if I get a good vibe within the first few emails, I’ll send my cell number and we arrange a time to meet for a drink or coffee (I’m not one to email endlessly…still gotta practice that thing called patience); I’m in my first official sugar selection process, so I’m now narrowing down from my pot SD pool of gentlemen I’ve gone on a first “meet” with to see who I want to carry things on to round 2.
What is a simple way to agree on a location and/or activity for the 1st meet?
I’ve just followed blog advice and kept it simple…drinks first…several “drink” meets have carried into dinner because things were going so well. Generally, I let the pot SD know what part of the city I live in and allow him to pick a location that is convenient for both of us.
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated?
I’ve turned down one arrangement offer simply because I didn’t feel the chemistry was right. Based on the initial tone he set by lying on his profile, I just knew that there were going to be too many issues that I didn’t have interest dealing with for someone who wasn’t right for me. No drama for this queen, please.
Any sugar news to report?
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Unfortunately, pot #5 cancelled tonight due to last minute work conflicts, but he apologized profusely and asked for a raincheck…so we’ll see. Also, still putting myself out there (despite my earlier funk for having nothing to do on a cold Wednesday evening in the city) and have received several nice communications from some pots. Just gonna not get down and follow Yaz’s advice about patience. (Still not a patient person
drats why am i always 3rd????? do u guys sleep? lol
Glad to see there’s a new blog. The pot who said he would call and never did replied to a message of mine yesterday saying he’s been busy at work (though apparently not too busy to log in and send messages?) and would call today. Again, no call. I don’t have time for games. If you aren’t going to call at least send me a quick message or text saying you’re so swamped and will call tomorrow. I shouldn’t have to message you first to find out. Why do so many people on here play games? I’m supposed to have a pot date tomorrow for coffee, we’ll see if that happens, it’ll be my first.
on that note i can only answer 2 questions
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated? complicated,stupid…same thing,turned down many arrangements because of the pay per meet thing,its silly and it seems like that all i get,do i look pay per meetish?lol and guys who live in another state,take a plane to get to you…a little bit of a hassle
Any sugar news to report?
well the sugar life is null, i tried not to be picky (did my best) but business is slow lol and now i am screwed so i dont know really
Cali~Good luck tomorrow! I know what you mean. I keep remembering the line in the book “He’s Just Not That into You,” which states “Busy is just another word for a$$hole.” Oh, btw I’m anxious to try out these infamous Lemon Tortes. I’ve got the fridge stocked with the chocolate mousse and dulce de leche (both uber yummy and only 60 calories!). My gf is trying to get me to go on a raw diet, but I need my sugar free pudding fix! (Almost as much as I need the blog…lol)
Lex~Eh…every now and then…
But look who’s talking…
Lex~oops! (that comment was for your first comment…NOT the “do i look pay-per-meetish”…hahahaha)
NYCBella — Ooooh you got the Jell-o mousse whips?! Those are what I have a coupon for. How are they?! I think I’m going to pick some up tomorrow. Gotta find those coupons!
lol suuure NYCbella
I had my first really good experience yesterday, a man who was everything he said he was , I messaged him within a hour i got a message back with his personal email and we exchanged some photos and some other messages, he then invited me up that night to beverly H, beautifullllll home, he had bought a dress for me also for making the drive and i wore it out when we went to dinner. He made me a believer that they are out there.
Cali~they’re good, but they remind me more of airy pudding than actual mousse (of course the only mousse I’ve always had has been completely decadent and prolly has a million cal…so they’re not bad considering the trade off)
Lex~wellllll…stop posting pics of you in thongs on your page w/stars over your nipples…I’m sure it’ll help cut down on the “pay-per-meetish” thing…J/K!!! lol (I prolly should get some sleep cause I’m cracking myself up too easily.)
No-call pot read my message today (saying it was no problem he was busy, yada yada) and yet didn’t call. Sooooo annoying!!! And he’s supposedly had an arrangement before. He should know better how to treat a woman than this.
SanDiego~that sounds nice…what did the dress look like? Ooh! Did you get shoes too?
Cali~you’d think so right? It’s behaviour like that that makes me wonder how they’ve managed to have anything happen at all.
gee san diego,delightful haha
lol NYCbella dont forget the red wig lol -sighs-
SanDiego sb — I hope it wasn’t the same BH SD we have on our “Hall of Fame” here. He didn’t ask you to go to Starbucks, did he? Congrats on the good pot date.
BTW, that was brave of you to go to his home on a first date. I don’t think I would have done that if I was in your shoes and I live in LA.
yeah CaliSB they should be serious about it i know the do SBs favors but its not a one way street
it was black with a belt underneath the boob area (belt not in the middle) very flattering, the brand was “sky” very cute little LA dress, ill actually get alot of use out of it. no shoessssss, we kinda discussed an arrangement but made it more clear that we would see each other again.
Nooooo he didnt ask me to go to starbucks. omg but i have had a guy from beverly hills ask me to meet him at startbucks. whats his name? or his like “headline” it might be the same guy
Wait! Which BH SD??? I had a msg from one just a little while ago! No starbucks requests yet, though (I’m assuming we’re talking bout LASB’s experience…what’s his tag line though so I’ll know if it’s him?)
Lex~See, now if you leave the thong, change the stars to a “ribbon thing like in playboy pics they show on Entertainment Tonight” and maybe create an up-do with the red wig, I think you’ll be onto something…
SanDiego~sounds cute! (the dress of course
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nyc bella-it was
Cali sb- yea i was surprised too,but i go with my intuition alot when meeting pots, and for some weird reason i had a really good feeling about him,he wasn’t pushing very respectful and showed me a really good time.
His tagline used to be “Namaste” (whatever that means) but since all of the disgusting messages he’s sent to SB’s on the blog he’s changed it. Now it’s “Sophisticated but Fun” (the first is definitely not true and I’m sure the latter isn’t either).
Yay! Ok, chicas…it’s nearly 2 my time and I’m officially a pumpkin…looking forward to reading everything when I wake up (like the addict that I am)
Sweet dreams.
Ooh…had to get in one last comment (Namaste is sanskrit; it’s always the parting words of a yoga teacher to their class it means “I bow to you”, “bow to god”, but also can be flipped to mean “bow to the divine within us all”)…nope def not the guy that msgd me (thank goodness!)
Hahaha. I’m actually surprised that Namaste reads the blog. He seemed so clueless, it just seems weird. Ok, did you ever hear from the OTK guy who wants to spank you? LOL!
LASB — lol I have not heard from that guy. It seems that you attract all of the SA crazies! I just did a search and found a very handsome man in his early 40’s that I favorited quite some time ago and never messaged. Sending him a message now. Better late than never.
NYCbella haha you are too much
LASB — I don’t even know how “Namaste” can afford a SB in LA. His annual income is $125k to $150k. Maybe he plans to pay her in $20 Starbucks giftcards per meet?
SanDiego sb — Just now saw your message! Glad to hear you felt a good vibe after only talking to him for a few hours! Glad that the date went well too and glad you got a cute dress! How was dinner? I hope you see him again!
dinner was really good, we ate at the beverly hills hotel and this drunk man at the bar wouldnt stop trying to buy us drinks and shots so we both had a good laugh about all of it. i knowww i hope i see him again also.
ok everyone im off for now, talk to you guys in the AM.
goodnight sugars =]
Cali – Oh funny, I thought Namaste’s net worth was a lot more. When I encountered him, his profile said something about owning one of the Four Seasons condos in Whistler or something. Yes, you are right, I attract all the freaks. I’m ok with the freaks, just not fakes. haha. The OTK guy was a fake too.
hey ladies
i don’t really have any experience to be able to answer the questions in depth although in regard to managing my selection process, i do have a little notebook in which i record the pot sd’s info and details from e-mails that may be handy to know at a later date (not very high-tech but to be honest, i’m not as computer savvy as i should be considering i was raised in the IT age
) no new sugar news… i’m still chatting with the dr. but it’s becoming kind of sporadic and i’m beginning to wonder if he’s legit.
in other news, i started a new job today.. (just part-time as i already have a pt job) telemarketing. omg… i don’t really know what to say. i do love to talk on the phone, i’m not very shy, and i’m calling on behalf of charitable organizations so i feel it’s a good cause. BUT i’m calling people in the states and it’s such a huge wake-up call for me… i’ll do my pitch, and ask if they’re willing to help with a $__ donation, and they say the saddest things…. “my husband just had surgery so i’m working two jobs just to make ends meet…” “i’m on disability, i can barely afford to eat” .. most of the reasons i heard had to do with surgeries/hospital costs etc –
i am so grateful to live in ontario (canada) and have free healthcare. i can’t even imagine going to the hospital for an emergency or to have a baby or whatever – and then getting a bill for it !! i really just wanted to express my sympathy or lend an ear to the ppl i called but basically i have to pitch until they explicitly say “no”. it’s definitely a new experience for me but also pretty timely b/c here i am, living a life of privilege (an apartment, an education, multiple jobs, free healthcare!) but not really appreciating it. i guess that kind of makes me seem like a brat, but i’m in this transition having just finished uni. and realizing that “real life” isn’t as exciting as i imagined it might be
sorry – i did it again… a late night tangent-post. hope all is well with the bloggers and lurkers, i’m sure by the time i wake up tomorrow i’ll have a lot of catching up to do! night
Ok, so I’m looking at this guy’s profile from Ariz, and it says that he’s 5-10 million, and then he says he’s looking for an SB who may also be a housekeeper with benefits!! Seriously? You have that much dough, but can’t pay $50/week to have someone clean your house? (shaking head)
SanDiego sb — I love the Beverly Hills Hotel. The bar there, Nineteen 12, is AWESOME! Their desserts are absolutely delicious and I love their popcicle shots! Yum!
LASB — His net worth is definitely under $1MM — it wouldn’t be out of character for him to lie about what he owns. He’s so rude and disgusting, looking at his photo creeps me out. I wish there was a way to vote people off of SA. lol
Kiki — Congrats on the new job! And I SO wish we had free healthcare in the states. I haven’t had health insurance in over 3 years now and it’s scary. One car accident, one freak illness and it can wipe a person out. You should definitely be grateful for the free healthcare, if nothing else.
LASB — Probably someone who has a housekeeper fantasy.. like cleaning naked or something. It wouldn’t surprise me if he’s made a move on his previous housekeepers and it didn’t turn out so well..
Good morning, Sugar World!
From the prior blog–
Well, the spur of the moment weekend with my potential SB has been canceled; some sort of sudden family obligation came up.
At least she knows what she’s missing out on — – I sent her a detailed listing of the itinerary once she got here:
I would send a Yellow Cab to meet her at the bus terminal, which would then whisk her away to the parking lot of Wal-Mart where I would be waiting in my van. On the way over, she was to have removed her panties per my instructions prior to our meeting.
Once she was in the van, I would hand her an envelope equivalent to between 2% and 10% of the monthly allowance that I felt she deserved, after which we would test drive in the back seat which had been screened off by tinfoil for our privacy. Later, we were proceeding into the Wal-Mart to dine al fresco at the McDonald’s franchise located just inside the entrance.
(I had hoped to impress her by knowing the name of the Greeter as we came in, indicating how frequently I am there.)
While dining at McDonald’s, I wanted to show my generosity by graciously pointing out that she could order any one item off of the dollar menu. To cap off the dining experience, I had invested in a 2 L bottle of Dr Pepper of recent vintage with which I was familiar — – it was a good week at the bottling plant. Keeping it classy, I would show her the proper method to snort the cap to best appreciate the bottler’s art and efforts.
After dinner, I intended to entertain her by taking her on a grand tour of the Wal-Mart facility, eventually ending up back at the van in the parking lot. We would then spend the remainder of the night entertaining one another while listening to my Slim Whitman collection of CDs in the van stereo.
She says that she’ll get back to me as soon as she’s able to make the trip. I can hardly wait for the e-mail!
TLG
TLG ~ You certainly know how to treat a SB!
Good Morning all
TLG — awesome date. I’m jealous. Too bad there’s no wal-mart here, or I could copy/paste that to pot SDs and have them try to recreate that type of first meet for me.
So I was to lunch with a pot SD today and one of my best friends and her guy came in and recognized me. I jumped up, left the table in that corner of the cafe, and talked to them at their table without bringing them over and introducing them to my date. I didn’t know what to do! Here’s a guy nearly old enough to be my father, married, having lunch wtih me. what were they *going* to think? Shudder.
Anyone want to comment on my link? the last 3 minutes are better than the first 4. Red Hot Chilli Peppers aren’t my thing.
San Diego SB– congrats on your first sugary sweet experience.
Who else is getting close to honing in on that one right SD or SB?
The married guy is totally in love. Asks why dont’ I seek a traditional, serious relationship. I explain. Then he says ‘I’m a man with a plan. I know I will leave her, but maybe in about a year. Then…. maybe you and I could give things a shot……?’ And I explain that his life is his life and that I have no crystal ball in my hands or could plan where things might lead, and I just want to live in the moment. He agrees, of course. (He’s obsessed with me, what else could he do?) and that’s that.
You guys were so right. Safety net, fallback plan, obsessed. He wants to pay all my bills for February (god he’s already spent a grand on miscellaneous stuff I needed within a week of knowing me as a friend), though, and he’s hot, smart, and charming, and I could SO go there. Hmmmmmmmm……… it’s hard to pass up and send him packing, when the choices aren’t so great.
I talked to a different local married pot yesterday, and like I said, met a local married pot today for lunch, and nothing is even close to negotiated in terms of them actually agreeing to anything that I would want, but I have been very explicit and putting it out there. I have another couple of guys I’m emailing with in my city that would be interested perhaps, but who knows. So I have half a dozen semi-prospects or prospects in town, none of them from SA of course.
Then from SA, I have pretty much nothing. A sweet guy down south in the US wants to meet up with me for a week in Miami, no sexpectations whatsoever, just to hang out and get to know each other. He’ll pay everything of course. He and I have talked on the phone for an hour, and the vibe I get via emails (for a few weeks) and the phone call was totally trustworthy/wholesome, good guy. I’m considering it. It’s minus 25 here and jetting off for 5-7 days to Miami sounds good. Or then there’s a guy in Barbados making the same offer. Talked to him as well, he’s an englishman. Charming, but…. eh. I don’t know if I want to spend an entire week in a direction that I just don’t imagine it being chemistry-filled, at least not physical chemistry. And they are so far, and so far from a major airport, that seeing regularly is out of the question. And I don’t want to waste my time with one-offs when I am seeking the real deal for a longer term sugar relationship. Just the thought of the sheer amount of time (a whole week?) away from my ‘hunting’ makes me cringe. Although laying on a beach sounds so tempting. I’ve been home from outside for half an hour and my toes are still thawing. sheesh it’s cold here, and the snow and wind swirling down is brutal. Non-waterproof eyemakeup is a not-funny joke.
any other SA prospects…. hmm….maybe someone I’m forgetting…… I clearly to NOT have a spreadsheet or spy-school type organizational skills. I figure, I’ll keep responding to every single communication in earnest, and fast, with plenty of eagerness to keep things rolling between the lines (and I can remember everyone or then I just scroll down through the most recent email to read the email history if I forget), and if a week later, the contact ceases, I may not notice, but then again does it matter? If they poof, they poof. I just keep pushing the ball rolling along with the ones I am somewhat interested in, keep offering my phone number and photos, stories, details, expectations, and if it fizzles it fizzles. I don’t know if I want to bother writing everyone’s stats down all the time because the poof rate is so high.
Taylor — If it were me, I’d keep it going with the married pot, especially since you can see the physical relationship there. He sounds great, other than the clinginess. If you can handle that, I say stick with it, girl. If you aren’t meeting these men on SA, where are you finding them?
How do you manage your sugar selection process? – Taylor
Hahaha…what sugar selection process??
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated?
I have a few times. Guys from other states who think I am “cute” and would “love an arrangement with me”, but when pressed admit they “never come to my state” and that they are “really really busy right now, and are not sure if they have the time”. And when I commented back that perhaps we are not a good match because of the distance and lack of time, they reply back that “but I’m really cute and they’d really like to have an arrangement with me!!” -_-
Actually, I’ve gotten a few comments from pot SDs that state they are really busy right now and don’t have the time to look or deal with an arrangement. Um, so…WHY ARE YOU ON HERE…LOOKING? I mean, come on, I can arrange MY schedule to match yours, but I sincerely doubt you as the big strong SD are going to make yours work for me.
I guess they are just trying to keep their options open, but jeeze.
Any sugar news to report?
No? I had a few nice emails from guys, but they have mostly poofed or not replied back. I think at the end of the month I’m either going to create a new profile and re-write it/new pics or I’m going to go on a massive sugar hiatus. I’ve been looking for months and haven’t found a SD yet…. not a good sign.
Hmm.. so Toyota is recalling more and more cars. It’s major news now even though this started a couple months back with Lexus (Toyota’s luxury brand). When I called back in November about the recall they said that it’s because the accelerator can stick due to floor mats put on top of the stock mats (like winter mats, I guess?) but that doesn’t make sense because why would they recall a car due to a third party addition? I’m starting to get concerned. I don’t want my car to be a death trap.
For clarification, my car was involved in the original recall in November, not this week’s recall. Good thing my 10,000 mile maintenance is coming up.. the dealer has a lot of explaining to do! 
To be honest, I’m not using a totally mainstream dating site, although maybe I should. I’m using a local-for-this-little-country version of craigstlist, a dating site with a sexy theme. It’s slightly shady, as plenty of professionals also use it. However, there is none of the danger associated with craigslist in this country. If you’re dealing with the normal population, meaning dealing with non-immigrants, the violence-against-women risk goes down to nearly nothing. It’s just a very safe country, even when factoring the creepy anonymity of the internet.
AND, I very very very clearly and articulately write four long paragraphs explaining over and over exactly what I’m looking for and how it is NOT prostitution and that I am NOT an escort and please on god’s green earth if they are seeking that, do NOT contact me and there are dozens of russians and estonian women on the site offering those services. I wrote a beautiful essay on the type of fun, long term, special MBA I would like to have with one man, who is perhaps married or otherwise not interested in trying to make time for a big full-blown relationship with marriage pressure, but enjoys regular company with a beautiful, charismatic, intelligent woman and can afford to make it worth her while to invest her energies in his direction minus any long-term-security(aka marriage)-expectations attached.
I made it clear that there was to be no sex expected upon beginning a dialogue with me, and it would take some time for me to decide if there was indeed mutual chemistry, and that time with me would include all types of activities that we find we both enjoy (theater, traveling, fine dining, conversation, shopping for antiques, whatever) but that I was open to working with his schedule and being available for the times he needs, if he is filling the role of mentor in my life (helping me get my career off the ground, networking, and at least short term sponsorship while I need financial assistance).
So far almost no confusion has resulted. Very few have contacted me, as the ad was a lot of text written in english that your average joe wouldn’t be able to follow, and no sexy photo attached, and the ones who did, wrote back in amazing english, which also demonstrates high level of intelligence and familiarity with doing business internationally, which helps me to immediately know quite a bit about a guy just on his email style/english-writing-skills.
The half a dozen whom I have heard from has resulted in the married guy who is 10000% on board with this program, the one I met today (let’s see what he says, although he’s going skiing in spain for a week starting tomorrow), and the one I talked to on the phone at length yesterday. A couple others are asking to meet for a coffee to talk more.
It’s a site geared towards pros & johns, yes, or at least even though they claim not to be condoning that, the vast majority of connections made through that site ARE pros and johns, but there are a sprinkling of married men looking for girlfriends/mistresses, and even a few sugar ads on there, men trying to locate a pretty young student to ‘advise and mentor.’ So I took a chance on placing an ad, and no irritating flood of requests for escorting. None, actually.
The ad being in sophisticated english definitely did the trick of scaring off those who aren’t actually business owners and executives who are very good with english given their functionality in an international business setting. Who just happened to be on their cruising to see if there wouldn’t be any females placing ads who ARE NOT professionals. Lots of guys are creeped out by the traveling prostitutes and are specifically looking for non-pros, even a longer term affair, and if they have money, they are happy to combine financial assistance with an escape from their normal life/marriage.
Cali SB, I hope your car is safe. *hugs*
Is no one watching my singing clip?
Click my name!
Taylor — Wow, it sounds like that site is doing wonders for you! That’s great! Too bad CL is so shady here. I keep forgetting you’re not in the U.S. I guess I’ll know next week when I take my car in if I should be worried or not!
Beach — Are you organizing the LA meet now? What happened to DesertBunny? She’s been MIA for a long time! I’ll shoot you an email in a minute.
Cali~ I guess so… Yes, she has been! Off to work for me…
Have a great morning everyone!
I almost choked to death on one of my Omega 3-6-9 supplements…..choke, choke….OMG! That was scary!!
Other than my near death experience, I’m doing great! Going shopping today for some fancy knickers…LOL.
Taylor ~ I loved your link and good luck with your pot
Hi BG ~ We need to connect soon! I haven’t talked to you in ages!
Hi Cali ~ I hope you get your car fixed soon!
AM — Are you okay? Be careful! I almost choked on, well, pretty much nothing, in the shower in college. I just started choking and couldn’t breathe, things started going black. It was super scary!!!
I meant to bold your names Cali and BG, but I’m not in the habit of doing that…sorry
Cali ~ I’m fine…LOL. I was scary though. I wish they would make those pills smaller, it’s like trying to swallow a horse pill!
good morning everyone! taylor, i watched it — you rocked at both! you have a really good range. was that karaoke or do you just know RHCP really well? maybe one day i’ll be brave enough to try karaoke… maybe
TLG – Anna is right, you really know how to treat a SB! Atleast she knows what she is missing out on… I am sure she will be back in touch soon…who could resist?
Taylor – Great link!
Anna – Yikes! I hate those big pills!
Good morning everyone!!
TLG: You are hysterical. WOW, the dream date come to life, complete with itinerary. Can it any more sugary than that? I honestly hope so… good luck sweety, I hope she can make it to see you soon!
Taylor: I’d stick with the married guy too. See if you can get him to see things your way? If he is that enamored with you, he might back off just to keep you, or he may realize that this is just infatuation, and that tends to cool as time goes on. Wait it out.
AM: Scary!! Glad you are OK, and Good morning Sugar!
BG, Cali, Gemini29, Good morning to you all too… I’m going in to work late today, will be stopping early. Spending the day looking for a new job. So tired of my appointments canceling on me!! I can’t make a sale if I can’t see people!! Just gotta keep trying!! So much compitition here for every position I apply for. Just bad times…
Well, on that note, I’ll be back later. HUGS!! to all my wonderful sugar friends, and lurkers, and newbies!!
Morning everyone!!
Let’s see.
TLG: I enjoyed your post. Especially the vintage Dr Pepper part. Too funny. Although you could have stepped up the sugar and surprised her with a 2 for $1 apple pie combo (1 for each of you) and inserted a .25$ plastic ring bought from the candy machines inside. That’d be an unexpected surprise!
Taylor: I’d stick with married guy as well. And I unfort can’t see your link because my computer security sys blocks practically anything that is mildly enjoyable (videos, gossip sites, not this blog *yet*).
ESB: good morning gorgeous! I hope your job search goes well *hugs* ps what about this gross snow storm we’re supposed to be having? Not cute..
San Diego: congrats on the SD. Sounds like a wonderful date! (any guy with taste in women’s clothing is a major ++)
Cali – your pot that keeps cancelling sounds like a dud. I had a guy who did the same awhile back too. He was mid 30’s, on the low-spectrum of an SD (125K I believe) and would always bring up lame excuses about having to work too much, cancelling our dates repeatedly etc. I tried to be understanding but, hey, if you get cold feet just say so. Plus, even if their a commitment phobe about settling for 1 SB (because there’s a huge fish bowl of other SBs) meeting for drinks or coffee is not a marriage lifetime commitment. Goodness. Makes no sense.
Hello Sugars!
Always love a new blog post. I will answer the questions then scroll up to catch up on what’s been going on with all you lovelies.
How do you manage your sugar selection process?
I explained my Sugar process of using Excel and my very own clandestine filing system towards the end of the previous blog. Lengthy to explain, but very organized and easy to manage. The only reason I stay so organized with it is because I do juggle a hectic schedule separate from my Sugar World.
What is a simple way to agree on a location and/or activity for the 1st meet?
In my personal experience, the pot SDs almost always ask me what I would be comfortable with for a first date. I have learned that when a pot SD makes this offer, he really does want his pot SB to take the lead and tell him where she would be comfortable meeting. This takes some of the pressure off him and also lends a little more security to the SB since she will likely pick a place she feels safe. If the first date is daytime, I will select a coffee shop (preferably not a chain). If the first date is evening, I will suggest meeting for a Happy Hour; usually in a high end hotel as opposed to a chain that offers 2 for 1 happy hour specials. Those are way too loud and have the ambiance of a school bus. A more intimate setting is better for those “getting to know you” first dates.
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated?
Yes and yes.
Any sugar news to report?,/b>
Lots of news but saving for my secret files.
Blog questions:
How do you manage your sugar selection process? – Taylor
I dont’ really “manage” per se – as I don’t find myself having a hard time keeping up. I read a person’s profile before ever responding to their message, and typically speaking 90% of the profiles I read, I end up not even bothering to open their message. Waste of time. Then based upon the 10% I like, I read their message – another 90% of those have copy & pasted messages, No thanks – and from there the .0001% that I like, I meet up with for drinks within the next day or two.
What is a simple way to agree on a location and/or activity for the 1st meet?
Drinks is always the first option. Never coffee, alcohol. Haha. The venues for drinks are always sexier, more lounge-esque. Coffee is too familiar, loud, and casual for me.
Never dinner because if things don’t click, you have to sit through an entire meal of awkwardness.
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated?
Have yet to encounter a too complicated arrangement
Any sugar news to report?
They’re both wonderful, great guys and keep me very sugarfied. I am considering a 3rd, but we’ll see.. probably not. But it would be nice to have an SD in NYC or Miami – for nice weekend getaways.
As most know, I already have 2 SDs. So I am happy
Oh, and my answer on selecting location only applies when the pot is local or in state. Most of mine are out of state so generally fly in or fly me out to their city. In those cases, the activities are always planned by the pot SD.
Gemi: A profile overhaul is always a good idea if you aren’t getting any bites. In the past year, I have changed mine probably three times. One of my profile overhauls didn’t get any responses at all, whereas another one overflowed my inbox! Don’t give up – just try a few different approaches. It’s like updating your resume!
Taylor: Since you say you have slim pickin’s in your area, Married guy might be your best option right now. I still say manage the “clingy-ness” and watch for signs of overly obsessive behavior. Set boundaries and if he crosses them, adios!
TLG: Wow! A dream date for sure. SBs all over the world are swooning and daydreaming now of what could be…
LASB: Cracking up on the “seeking housekeeper” profile you found. Never ceases to amaze me…
Beach_Girl: I am now about 80% sure I will be making the LA meet. Confirmed last night I have a place to stay now just need to make sure dates work and airfare is reasonable. I hope I can make it to meet all of you West Coast Sunshines!
Cali SB: Smiling right now seeing your *Lemon Torte* name! (Actually making me crave one as I type…)
Anna Molly: By knickers do you mean scivvies? Unmentionables? or do you mean actual knickers? (Pants that stop at your knees?)
Oh, and ladies, “Namaste” is a common greeting in South Asia. It also is said frequently at the end of a yoga session – as you bow.
Elegant ~ Knickers as in bras and panties
BOOBIES (.)(.)
By the way, he is married – & makes 100K a year in “sales”
ESB: Good luck with your job search!
SanDiego SB: Congrats on your first wonderful Sugar experience! The dress sounds adorable!
DC SB: I agree the venues for drinks are sexier. I’m okay with the coffee route though, as long as it is NOT a chain in the middle of a shopping mall.
I wish we could message SDs just to tell them what they should fix and change in their profile.
One guy in the DMV area has a picture of him and his dog practically making out.. like the dog is licking his mouth and he is doing the kissy look face.
Really…?
Elegant – I agree. Coffee is good for a casual daytime first meet. I haven’t been on a daytime meet yet, but I would definitely agree if it were in the day then it’d be a little lush of me to suggest a bar.. =)
Ha ha ha, DC SB, that is hilarious…and gross! I actually responded to someone once (who was quite inappropriate with his message) that he needed to learn the difference between your and you’re and there, their and they’re. ha ha!
Cute, AM! I love boobies. ( . )( . ) I am actively involved with raising breast cancer awareness and have a shirt I wear to the invent that says, “Touch Yourself”…
I meant EVENT…not INVENT.
Elegant, that made me laugh. I think some of the guys need to seriously get with the program. It doesn’t matter how much money you make, if you’re going to write crude things like “watchu lookin’ for” I’m going to run for the hills.
This guy is a weirdo. When I last had my profile up, he messaged me the SAME thing (I guess he gets confused when he sends out mass emails to anything walking). Who is going to promote “I’ll take you to a fine restaurant where you can brush shoulders with success” “in exchange I simply ask for arm candy” hahaha. Right. & he wants to drive me in his expensive car to a restaurant. Ughh. Makes no sense.
I think he wants to be some rapper baller with a hot girl in his passenger seat to “look” the part, but really is the TGI Friday’s type, and probably leases his car anyway.
NYC SBs – click on my link and shoot me an email… i have a cool event that just came to my attention that i would like to extend an invite to
Elegant – I am the same. My grandma had breast cancer at a young age and we regularly enjoy turning out for the Race for a Cure events & volunteer.
Everyone should touch themselves. Oh my!
NYC SB only nyc sbs?
sad faces.
“….rapper baller with a hot girl in his passenger seat.”
HA HA HA!!!! I laughed so loudly at that!!
Yeah, I call those types Thirty thousand a year millionaires!
Still laughing…
Elegant & Molly: Did you two call me? Have you on my mind for some reason
TLG~you are the epitome of what it means to be a SD
Cali~it’s not the accelerator getting stuck under a mat. It’s the accelerator getting stuck, period. After 8-10,000 miles, the accelerator starts wearing down and has been getting stuck inside the floor boards and people can’t decelerate. It’s resulted in over 100 deaths thus far. (I.e. People not being able to stop at intersections, decelerate on exit ramps, having to run stop signs, etc…) Please take your car in asap if it’s on the recall list. Because it’s not just a weird coincidence that’s happened to a few cars. A manufacturer like Toyota doesn’t recall and cease production on 8 lines simply for a part that can easily be remedied. It’s unheard of in the auto industry so you know it’s serious.
NYC SB~I’m intrigued…always up for a fun event in the city. I’ll click your link soon.
On a side note, I just woke up and it looks like a little winter wonderland on my little brownstone lined street. One of only 3 times I’ve actually not minded having to relocate to Jersey City.
( . ) ( . ) What are you talking about, SDN??? ( . ) ( . )
( . ) ( . )
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Hi SDN
NYC SB~I just checked on your blog but didn’t see an email link…can you point me in the right direction? Or
OC pass my email along to NYC SB… Thanks!!!
Ooh, SDN is here…
Elegant: Not sure what it is about you but you have my attention!
AM: Morning.
Ok, I’m off ladies & gents!
Lots to do before pot SD arrives into town this afternoon.
Yes, there is preparation involved if you want to process that SUGARCANE into granulated, pure DELICIOUS SUGAR!
Have a wonderful day, everyone!
NYC Bella – Click on the “View my complete profile” there is an email link
How about this: I will share the event with anyone interested… however it takes place in NYC on Feb 5th
Morning Bella! I see your partner Naughty Molly isn’t around today.
SDN: I am going to mail you a t-shirt that reads, “Prevent Breast Cancer. Ask me about a FREE Breast Exam.”
HELP SAVE THE ( . ) ( . )!!!!
Darn it, NYC SB, I will be Miami bound for the Superbowl!
Definitely interested in future NYC based events though.
Really leaving now…
Elegant: I may need you to train me on what to look for * wicked grin *
I’m here. I’m always lurking around so you better be a good boy SDN. If you’re naughty I will throw you in my cellar and keep you as my personal play thing
NM: Promise?
NM: Something wrong with my keyboard…I really meant to say I will behave myself ** more wicked grin **
That is a promise
SDN, we all know that it would be impossible for you to behave youself.
Did my sister scare everyone off again?
Elegant — That’s so funny, my cousin calls many of the guys here in L.A. “$30,000 millionaires”. He was the first person I ever heard say it.
NYCBella — My car wasn’t on this week’s recall list, it was on the list for the original recall back in November for the accelerators getting stuck under the floor mats. I’m pretty much expecting my car to come up on this week’s recall sooner or later, it seems weird that it would only be all the Toyota models (and many that were recalled with the same recall mine was back in November). So far, so good. But I’ll just have to wait and see! *crosses fingers*
SDN — It’s not even noon yet, behave yourself!
NYC SB yay! I’m going to send you an email. I might be able to swing coming up for a night after work.
NM: Elegant is helping me with some medical training…once I pass her course maybe you would like a free test dri…exam.
Cali: Yes ma’am.
OK now that Cali has yelled at me and NM is getting out her whip I am off to a lunch meeting. Talk to everyone later.
Elegant: Call me we will talk :0
Ha ha ha. Every time I say I’m leaving the blog….a weird magnetic pull brings me back! Strange.
SDN: Please take this medical training seriously! Breast cancer is stealing SECOND BASE!! We can’t let that happen.
SUPPORT SECOND BASE: Help save the Boobies ( . ) ( . )!!!
Cali SB – a popular website called thedirty.com also uses 30K millionaires often
I think it floats around but still hasn’t wildly caught on yet.
SUPPORT SECOND BASE: Help save the Boobies ( . ) ( . )!!! – Elegant.
Hahahaha.
But what about the ( o ) ( o ) boobies? Not everyone has ( . ) ( . ) boobies!
and ( O ) ( O ) boobies. Since we should be an equal opportunity boob promoter.
Oh yes, DC! Very true. And then there’s…
(. Y .)
(0)(0)
( 0 ) ( 0 )
oh i love this one: (. Y .)!
( . ) ( . ) (since 1 is usually bigger than the other)
Cali~Ok…phew…I saw the story on the news 2 nights ago and it freaked me out (esp, since when I move to LA in a few months I’m looking at getting a Prius). I know it wasn’t on the recall list, but all the same, it’s still a Toyota. Am in mother hen mode this morning.
SDN — “lunch meeting” = nap.. I know your tricks!
OK………it’s pretty bad I’m running behind because of this BLOG!! Geez.
What is the first step in the 12-step Sugar Blog Anonymous (SBA) program again?
Oh yeah, STEP AWAY from the computer.
Bye, Sugars. Thanks for the laughs this morning!!!!
elegant, between us we’ll have all the boobs covered.
my lopsided boob didn’t come out
NYC SB~you have mail
NYCBella — I LOVE the Prius. If I hadn’t gotten my car, I would have gotten that. But my old car died and I had to get something ASAP and the 2010 Prius’s (new body style) weren’t out and the 2009’s don’t have sunroofs (which I thought I had to have). FYI, the sunroof in the 2010 isn’t actually a sunroof, it’s just a glass surface, it doesn’t open. Just incase that’s important to you. Plus the 2009 payments would have been almost as much as what I pay on my car, if not more. Toyota doesn’t really deal very much as far as interest rates go, or at least they weren’t when I was looking. I’m not fond of North Hollywood Toyota or Keyes Toyota (Van Nuys). Hammer Toyota is good though!
I am an equal opportunity boob fan. I am heading to take my na..to my meeting
SDN — Since you’re the boob expert.. tell me, do you think mine look real or fake? (in the photo on my profile, not in person!)
Man that’s a creepy smiley face! haha
Good Morning Sugars,
Where were you guy”s I needed you yesterday. I may have a pot SD!!!!!!
He emailed me. He liked my profile and what I had to say. He’s semi-retired, travels around the country, wherever there is a casino; has homes here in NJ, spends time in NY; he’s looking for a smart, fun, sexy, women. Someone who understands that there is more than sex involved, (although sex is an important factor). And basically, my profile attracted him because of those reason’s. He wants to see two pictures from me, to make sure he’s getting someone “real”. At the end of his message, he wrote that if I weren’t interested, then he was sorry for wasting my time. I like to see if this leads to an arrangement. And he did mention, that he had been on here a while and was tired of it. So what do you think? Sounds like what I’m looking for.
Elegant – you should totally make a shirt that says that – it would be a great seller!
NJ did he actually say he travels to whereever there is a casino? Just curious..
NJLady: Methinks you answered your own question to us!
Sounds like you two are a fit, so go for it. Only time will tell. You will get your true answer through further communication via email, phone, text and then finally face to face!
Good luck and keep us posted!
CA Dreamin: Would love to claim as my idea, but think I saw it during a Breast Cancer Awareness walk.
Also NJ – his message sounds a little copy and pasted, but I mean.. I don’t totally discredit SDs because of that. I would start talking to him and seeing if there is a connection.
DC SB: I’m with you. Although I do prefer a more personalized letter, I’m OKAY with some form letters, depending on their content. Some of these men are very busy running multi-million dollar companies or trading, or performing surgery..or whatever their jobs involve. So I can see where they may not have the time to sit and write a letter to every woman who tickles their sugar fancy.
Yes, I’m baaaaaaaaaaack! Hopped out of the shower and letting my hair dry naturally. What better way to do that than to sit here with a Yoplait Delight and talk to you guys?
Hi ESB, DC SB, Gemini, Elegant, AM (NM), TLG, SDN, Cali SB, NYCBella, and everyone else on the blog that I may have missed! How is everyone today???
How do you manage your sugar selection process? Well, I can’t say that I really do….well, not until recently. Now, I’ve created an excel sheet so that if I talk with someone or reach out to them, I make a note.
What is a simple way to agree on a location and/or activity for the 1st meet? Definitely drinks at a local place that I’m either familiar with or familiar with the area. Need an escape route. I have several long-distance SDs who say they will come to me for our first meeting, so will at least do dinner with them, especially if they fly to me.
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated? No, never had one offered that was complicated……but you never know. Would I turn one down? If it was simply not going to work for me, then yes, I probably would.
Any sugar news to report? Still talking with several potentials….no meetings yet, but I hope to meet at least one or two next week and see if we click in person. Hopefully, I’ll have some good sugar news soon!
TLG – that was a funny post!
Ciao!
Good Morning Everyone!
How do you manage your sugar selection process? – Taylor
Usually I will read their profile and if something interests me, I’ll write them. IF they write me back, I usually start with wanting to know what type of arrangement they’re looking for, if they’ve done this before, their expectations of a SB etc. I don’t wait for SDs to write to me….when I’m on “search mode”, I go through tons of profiles and if anyone interests me, I write to them immediately. During my last search I was very inexperienced….but thanks to 1 previous arrangement and this blog, this time around I’m much more confidant in my search and know what I want and DON’T want.
What is a simple way to agree on a location and/or activity for the 1st meet?
If they’re local then it doesn’t matter to me where we meet. The area I live in is very central in my city and every local pot I’ve met during my last search and this search has had no issues meeting me near my area. For long distance, I have no problem flying to him if he’ll cover travel and is willing to e-mail flight/hotel confirmation. And if the long distance pot is flying to my city….then he can pick whereever he wants.
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated?
I didn’t have this problem during my previous search, but this time around I’ve gotten 2 offers where they wanted to put me on their company payroll. That’s not my thing so I said “no”. I’ve also received some offers that didn’t include any allowance (strict travel daddy, or “gift daddies”) and I turn those down too.
Any sugar news to report?
There’s some “activity” going on and I think I may have good news to report soon….but I want to keep things on the DL until its all “finalized”.
DC SB- He mention that he likes to gamble…I don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing. I will take it slow, like ElegantSugar say’s, text, talk on the phone, etc. Take it from there. Thank Sugar’s. I’ll keep you posted.
Hi VA! The Excel spreadsheet really does help. It sounds so methodical and impersonal, I know, but it truly is the best way to keep track. Especially if you manage many other things outside your Sugar World. I know it offers me a bit of sanity having something to reference when I’m trying to keep all the JOES, JIMS and JONNIES straight. Do you also see those as common names used by SDs?
DC SB:
I wasn’t aware of you having 2 SDs! Do they know about each other? I have actually played with that idea myself….
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ElegantSugar:
Good luck with the pot SD!
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SDN:
As your “pot SB”, I’m miffed at the attention being paid to everyone elses boobies but mine…..
The most common names I come across is Mike, John and James.
Yes, and Marc, Steve, Bill…….it gets confusing sometimes!
Hi TXSB!
I’m trying to follow in DC SB footsteps and get two SDs….yep, she’s my hero!
Thanks, TXSB! I am very, very excited about this visit. Decision time will be looming for me very soon. Lost one pot SD because he didn’t want to wait for me to make a decision, but that’s fine. The others have been beautifully patient and wonderfully understanding during this process. Like you, thanks to past experiences, I now know what I want and DON’T want.
Good luck with finalizing your pending activities! How exciting!
Dedicating these lyrics from an old school song to DC SB:
“It takes two to make a thing go riiii-iight. It takes two to make it outta sight!”
VA SB:
Yes, depending on the reason for having a SD, sometimes I think its better to have 2 for “security” reasons. Dunno…..I’ve always said that I would never want/have more than 1 SD, but I’m not so sure about that anymore.
Hi!
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ElegantSugar:
LOL at the lyrics!
Too bad the last one was so impatient. I wish you the best with this pot….hopefully we will both have good news to report soon.
Sugars, I need some prayers and happy vibes sent my way. Just found out my dad has a large mass on his pancreas and he’s been having abdominal pain for nearly 9 months but thought it was simply issues with the kidney stones he gets chronically (also he’s diabetic). Those two in combination, plus the size of the mass doesn’t sound good. He’s seeing a specialist tomorrow so the condition isn’t defined, but from everything I’ve been reading over the last hour since I found out doesn’t sound good. If it’s already metastisized, then it’ll be inoperable. Sorry to be a blog downer, but I don’t have many people I can talk to about this.
Hey everyone…. On my lunch!!!
LA meet~ not everything is finalized but I am getting there
Elegant ~ you got mail
Anna~ Hey girl!
NYCBella – I’m sending all the prayers and happy thoughts I can from CA. I know what you’re going through – my dad just underwent a biopsy for a spot they found on his lung yesterday. We wont know anything for 2 weeks! Hang in there and we’re all here for you!
aww bella sorry about that girl,prayers are up
Beach:
Hi!!!
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CA Dreamin and NYCBella:
I will keep both of you in my thoughts….
Sending positive vibes and healing thoughts your way, NYCBella!!
For you too, CA Dreamin!
TX~ Hey girl,,,, how you been?
Bella~ positive thoughts for you and your dad!
CA~ positive thoughts for you and your dad as well…
Beach:
Been good……I see you’re keeping busy organizing the meet….
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Off to lunch….later.
Ah! Sorry I missed some comments.
TXSB: I do indeed have 2, and they both know of the other
& they like it like that! I think mostly because they like that I’m independent, in charge, and don’t fawn over their every word. I tell them like it is and I also like the adventure that comes with having 2. Sometimes they compete with one another – and try to outdo the other on the sugar gifts. Haha. But it’s all good, light fun.
As for advice on that, I would say – tell them up front (if you pick up a 2nd or would like to). Both of mine came simultaneously almost, so I didn’t intentionally want 2, more like I liked both and didn’t want to choose to have my cake OR eat it, I wanted both
And the security is nice, I know that I’m getting double the sugar, but if one happens to end, then I still have another..
VA SB you’ll get 2 one day, soon!
Like I was telling VA SB ^ Ideally I’d like to keep my 2 local SDs and find 1 for long distance. That’d be my perfect sugar coated lifestyle dream.
Elegant, I think that song goes perfectly! I should rework the lyrics with some sugar & it can be the theme song of my sugar life
NJ – yes I’d talk with him, get to know him.. It’s a bit odd someone mentions they like to gamble and travel where the casinos are off the bat.. but at least he told you right away and you don’t find out later all of your trips are organized around a casino
Bella – didn’t mean insert myself into the well-wishes too! I’m one of these people that just keeps a positive outlook on things like this. I assume everything is good and fine until I have reason to think otherwise. Positive thoughts! I know things don’t always work out the way we want them to…but…that’s my mindset until I have reason to change it!
NYCBella – I will keep him in my thoughts. My father was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer over a year ago, and luckily had the fortune of having the form of pancreatic that is operable and recovered, albeit slowly, he is almost back to normal today.
There’s always hope <3
good morning sugars!
Thank goodness they refreshed the blog!
AM, I’m crushed to think that there are even more Jameses in your life than the two on the blog here!
Muse, thanks for the second on Leonidas. There’s a store in midtown I’m going to check out today.
Taylor, about the restaurant encounter, that’s a tough situation, you don’t know what to do. Once I was at the Met Opera with an SB, we were eating during intermission at a table next to the big glass windows overlooking the balcony. I notice a woman practically pressing her nose against the glass from the outside right above us, looking at the Chagall mural — and it’s my wife’s aunt from Boston! Then I see she’s with a younger, bearded, suave looking guy, who is not my wife’s uncle. He’s giving some lecture about the mural and she seems rapt, and he NEVER STOPS TALKING, and she’s literally standing next to me looking right over my head. I’m embarrassed to admit eventually I couldn’t take it and bolted from the table. She never said anything, I never said anything, so I’ll never know if I was “made.” Maybe it was like in Moonstruck, when Cher runs into her dad at the opera, a mutuality of discretion. However I’ve come to believe that people aren’t as observant or interested in other people as we think, when we’re doing something we don’t want to be observed.
SanDiego – Morning!
James – there are only two men by the name of James that I talk to and they post on the blog. I used to know quite a few men by the name of James, but don’t talk to them anymore…LOL.
NYCBella: My prayers are with your dad. Not something to mess with.
DC SB & VA SB: So not looking forward to the snow storm we are to get this weekend. Baby Girls B’day party is Sun. I’m gonna be really bummed if we have to cancel it.
Taylor: Do you sing for fun, or were you getting paid for that gig? Got a few tips for you if this is a career move for you. (Things we give up for our kids)
SDN: Did you enjoy your nap sweety?
Everyone else, I’m sory I didn’t mention you by name, but HI (waving like a mad woman) Good to see you all here!!
How do you manage your sugar selection process? – Taylor I just keep it all in my head. I keep what I send out on here, so see if I did respond to them before, and if the 90 days has passed and it is gone, I hope I can remember if I thought they were fakes or not and not respopnd to them again.. I guess I should have a system, but I’m on my room mates computer. Dont want anything he could find and question me about
What is a simple way to agree on a location and/or activity for the 1st meet? I have no problem with meeting in some small cafe for drinks… depending on the time. Lunch in some nice out of the way place, where it is quiet, discreet and enjoyable. I’ve learned to keep it on my turf for the first meet, so I can make an escape if need be.
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated? I have truned one down, there was something about the man that just didnt’ sit well with me. Can’t put my finger on it.. or maybe I just wasnt’ ready for him. Sweet guy, but my gut said to stay away…
Any sugar news to report? I just got my first email in weeks. Nothing to report right now, but you all know me.. I will!!
Yummm, hot chocolate
AM – Yum…hot chocolate sounds good…but I’m all out of whipped cream!
OH!! PopPop I forgot to tell you all… I called him on Sun to re-schedule, I was just so tired, couldn’t stay awake. When I got there Wed? he had no idea who I was!! I felt so bad!! I got him to give me his son’s number, called him and told him what had happened, who I was, how I met him. The son thanked me, said he’d handle it. I have no idea what will happen now, but I do see this often, just glad this sweet man has some family to fall back on. I hope the son does do something for him. He just shouldn’t be left alone. Someone with less integridy could take serious advantage of him!!
Mmmmm hot cocoa.. all I have is Nestle’s but it’ll do.. and I got Cool Whip!! So going to go make some now.. maybe put some Dark Chocolate chips in to make it creamier!!
** yawn ** just getting up.
TXSB: I thought we were keeping things on the DL until we finalized our arrangement?
ESB: Nap was very nice…had dreams of sugary boobies.
Cali SB: They look real and very nice but there is only one real way for me to know…
Dang…my ascii art of two hands didn’t come out when posted
ESB oh no pop!
it’s a good thing you were there to help him!
James ~ I’m dying to know who the hot chocolate is for…LOL. Sorry, I’m nosey
Hello all – been lurking for a while, first post!
How do you manage your sugar selection process? Pretty simple process – we email a couple of times, then I ask to meet for a coffee to see if we have a connection. If there is a good connection, we just move the conversation along. Next steps? generally dinner or something like that. But first, just a meet and greet to check the chemistry. No chemistry, no second meeting.
What is a simple way to agree on a location and/or activity for the 1st meet? I ask where they would like to meet! Not a hard question. Starbucks, coffee shop, restaurant is best. For the first meeting, I want to keep it to an hour – nothing worse than a long dinner or event if there is no chemistry!!
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated? You can generally tell if the arrangement is going to be complicated by what kind of person they are. Complicated person, complicated arrangement, it will always end up in a mess. I generally ask “what are you looking for?” and that generally gets a clear answer.
Any sugar news to report? Met a pot SB yesterday, possible potential there. Coffee with another pot SB tomorrow – quite excited about this one!
Just a side comment – not everyone I meet from this site is after a financial arrangement. One great woman I met here just wanted a NSA “recovery” relationship to help her get through a period of mourning. it worked really well for both of us.
Just popping in quickly for one comment/remark/emotional outburst:
HAVE YOU GUYS SEEN THE FEATURED (SD) PROFILES TODAY??? UMMMM. YEAH. O-TAY, BUCKWHEAT. WHO PICKS THESE????
Something is certainly afoot at the Circle-K…
SDN’s attempted hands that look like a profile of boobs is way more flattering. That’s all I GOTS to say.
Out.
Welcome, Michael!!! Love your direct and to-the-point responses to the questions.
Hi Michael! Welcome to the blog! Hope you continue to contribute
Hi everyone!
Michael: Welcome! Hope to see more posts from you. Just some free advice…keep your ascii art simple.
Elegant: Still waiting on my t-shirt.
Elegant your last post was seriously the most hilarious thing I’ve seen on the blogs yet.
I can’t stop laughing and my supervisor peeked their head out of their office to see what craziness I was getting myself into.
Hi all again – can I get some comments on my profile? # 360465
Thanks!! Michael
Michael: I would take out the negative comments such as: “don’t contact me if you took your pic with a phone in a bathroom mirror” or something to that effect.
I am very put off by guys who have negatives in their profiles – do’s and dont’s of contacting them. Just think that in your mind and not respond if a girl has a pic like that..
DC: Did you see the one I’m referring to that would get the biggest EGADS out of me???
Imagine if Cameron Diaz, Demi Moore, Sakagawea and the Geico Caveman were to have a love-child…
Yeah.
SDN – umm… you need some private lessons in ascii art?
Michael – Welcome! Nice to have another SD on here.
Elegant – Don’t you have a GREAT date to get ready for?
Michael – I agree with DC – I wouldn’t respond at all simply because that sounds a little snotty. But hey, that’s just me!
Elegant – that one didn’t bother me the most (although I thought his beard was colored in). What about the guy who had hair longer than you and I combined and probably make up on as well.. definitely more girly than me.
good afternoon everyone
ES: OMG you are funny!!
SDN: So, you are a boob man. Good to know!
Micheal: Welcome!! Nice responces!! I like the idea of a “recovery relationship”. I will keep that in mind.
AM: I think you are really NM today, making me break my diet!! But gotta admit, the hot cocoa is wonderful….but no cool whip. I have no idea how long it has been in the frige, but obviously, TOO LONG!! EWWW!!
Thanks DC SB and CA Dreamin SB – I will take those comments out. Thanks for the feedback!
Michael
Michael: Replace “choosy” with “fastidiously selective”. Ha ha! Just kidding. Agree with the others on removing the closing, which does have negative tones. Women are emotional creatures, we don’t do well with closings like that.
Photogirl: I’m sitting here with full makeup on and have my hair all “boufanted” out right now with giant velcro rollers. Need that boost at the roots for puuuurrrfect sex kitten hair.
Hi everyone,
I love the forum and am mostly a lurker, but I really need to vent… (I actually feel sort of bad doing this/bashing this person, but I’m so heated, I’ve never gone on such a bad date and have no one else to share this with).
When I saw him, he looked nothing like his picture, was overweight and generally unattractive. However, he was dressed well, and I have ( what I consider) a good quality of having faith in the good of people and not judging books by their cover. So, I proceeded with a brief “drinks” date. During our first date, we talked a little about his experiences in the sugar world and he said that although he met many attractive women on the site, nothing worked out because of his picky taste. It was then I noticed his voice which eventually became like nails on a chalkboard – he sounded like one of my very flamboyant gay friends and was very loud. He was also very quick to say that I seem perfect, that he’s generous, and how much he’d love to begin an arrangement with me.
On our second date, which was a dinner, things started to get a little too much. We were sitting in a very nice, vibrant, but still relatively quiet restaurant, when he started singing in his highest soprano making jerky movements with his head and looking at me with crazy eyes, trying to make out with me, grabbing me, and generally causing a scene. I guess you had to be there, but if I saw this person out in public, I would think he was mentally ill. People were staring and I was praying that no one I knew was eating there. He was extremely impatient and rude, giving our orders to passing waiters and bus boys, telling them to bring our waiter here right away, and telling me how pissed off he was (our waiter was gone for 2 minutes). When he signed the check he, again, shoved it to the first person who walked by (who didn’t even work there!), at which point, the manager ran up and took it from him, giving me an apologetic look and probably wondering what a girl like me is doing with a guy like him.
I was probably already really annoyed with him, because I hated the fact that he could not find his way home (he grew up in the city, never walked, and always relied on taxis or his GPS). We finally got to his apartment in Midtown, where his nanny was waiting. Um. Yeah. He had an old nanny… who cooked for him, bathed him, gave him manicures, and whatever else he desired. When the nanny left, we hooked up (which was a HUGE mistake on my part because I can’t seem to shake off the inner disgust I now have in me). I’ll spare the sexual details…it was neither good, nor pretty. He then started ordering me around, telling me to get him water, mouthwash, a towel, a snack…and then to give him a massage! I must have been in a state of shock because I cant find any other explanation for why I did all those things! He finished by saying he was feeling too lazy to walk me down, gave me some money, and said he’ll see me in a few days.
I dont know… maybe I’ve been too lucky with previous “real” boyfriends and “sugar daddies”, but I’ve never had an experience like this. I’ve never met a middle aged guy who was so spoiled, annoying, lazy, rude, impatient, and demeaning. He was not acting like a man, but more like a child having a tantrum and I feel sorry for any girls who’s ever gone out with him (on or off the site). Quite frankly, I can’t picture him getting anyone from “real life” to go out with him. And also, I now understand that it wasn’t his picky taste that was the reason for him not being able to have an “arrangement”.
I still can’t believe that I slept with him and partially feel like a prostitute. I honestly feel like I lowered myself to nothing, which is very unlike me. I’ve never been so enraged with a person, and after thinking it over, no amount of money can buy me another date with him. I hope I never see him again, regret that he has my number, and kind of want to punch him.
I felt so traumatized when I got home, I had a glass of warm milk and a twix bar to calm myself down (I work in the fashion industry and eat chocolate maybe once every few months) lol
Ok end of rant.
Hi JSO
DC: My “love child” comment was for ALL of them on that page. It would be their family album. The photos didn’t bother me so much, but reading some of the details on the inside made me say double EGADS.
James Glad my advice helped. Let me be even more selfless and tell you that if your recipient doesn’t want the hot chocolate, I will gladly take it off your hands. You know, just to help you out.
Michael Welcome to the blog.
SDN I love ascii art. Of course, maybe that’s only because it looked like boobies to me too.
elegent – break out the bump it
SDN: T-shirt being screen-printed now. You wear size Handsome, right? (Oh my gosh, I’m so full of them…)
NYC 22:We should talk!! I have a few, nice, things to say to you, but want to keep it off the blog. Most people on here know of a HORRIBLE esperience I had a few weeks ago. It was a learning experience, so that is something good that came out of it. Please, just email me, I will help you through this!! HUGS!!
JSO!! You know about the BUMPit???? Oh wow. I am dying! “bump it at the pool, bump it at the gym…you can bump it everywhere…”
Have to run, loves.
JSO – Good afternoon!
NYC-22 – OH MY GOOD LORD!!! Advice – not that you asked for it – next time you meet with a pot SD and something about him annoys you on the first date – move on…too many good guys out there to put up with a dud.
Elegant – I’m sitting here with velcro rollers in my hair too!
AM, don’t ask questions unless you’re prepared to hear the answer!
How’s your shopping going today?
Elegant: Please don’t wrap me to tight around that finger…
Muse: Interesting line of thought maybe we can talk more about your love of…ascii art.
NYC-22: Sorry to hear about your bad experience. Glad we were here for you to vent.
Michael – I agree with the others on the closing statement…but also would like to suggest a photo revealing your eyes. The first photo shows a fun side to you, but you have dark glasses on. The second is nice, but it appears your eyes are closed. Eyes for me are one the first features I notice on someone… just a thought!
Ok…really off to run errands now!
hey cali dreamin
hey photo
NYC-22, I almost started crying for you.
It’s not your fault. You were hoping until way past the point of hope having any point that things could work out well. That doesn’t make you a whore. You just want a relationship that works. Never, ever communicate with him again. It’s not your fault. Just cut your losses and move on. We’re here for you. You deserve better and you will GET better.
JSO: How is it going. I am just sitting here with velcro rollers in my hair.
James ~ You’re absolutely right
The shopping is going very well thank you.
SDN – going good. get rid of the velcro rollers and just bumpit like i do. Its much faster.
NYC-22, my heart goes out to you. It’s understandable you feel that way, because he treated you shabbily. He sounds like a first class weirdo, frankly. At the risk of making a gender-biased generalization, I think it’s not uncommon for women to go along to get along, to avoid confrontation, even (maybe particularly) in a situation where they feel uncomfortable. Don’t beat yourself up over it, the main thing is you got home safe and sound and you gained some valuable if painful experience. Rule of thumb, though: how a person treats wait staff is a pretty good clue to how they will eventually treat you.
SDN Oh yes…I love …art….a lot.
What’re velcro rollers? And why is everyone sitting around with them in their hair?
Oh SDN – I can just see you know with that sex kitten hair…very nice…
Elegant: hahaha then I know who sacagewea was! what about the certified diamond SD who says, once an SB told him she read his profile 3 times and then touched herself? Hahahaha. Lame.
Anyway you sound delish! I wish I was sitting here all dolled up with curlers (although my hair is naturally curly).
NYC 22: always go with your gut reaction first. He sounds super gross.
Michael: no prob doll.
Hi ESB – a “recovery relationship” is such a great phrase, isn’t it!
I am on this board as I am seeking a “recovery relationship” for myself – my beautiful wife died of cancer about 18 months ago. Very very hard to watch your love fade away over 7 months.
Hence the desire for a SB – no drama, no aggravation, just fun and relaxation are what are needed!
Michael
#360465
DC SB – please stop making fun of me. It really happened.
NYC-22 ~ I’m sorry to hear about your awful experience
I have a question. Are the only 2 sites blog SDs/SBs would recommend be SA and sugardaddie?
Muse – Velcro rollers are god’s gift to women with fine hair…They are literally rollers of different sizes (mine are 2″ and 3″) that you just roll your hair up in with some root lifter and the body you get from it is amazing.
Muse – I should have said rollers with velcro on the outside
JSO – I was only making fun because she had to read your profile 3 times. I thought surely you could get the ladies to touch themselves after just 1 profile read..
I kid I kid.
Muse: You are in the NY area, no? Next time I am there maybe we could hang out and view/enjoy some … art … together.
Michael ~ I can’t see your profile, it’s still under review.
Sorry to hear about your wife.
CA Dreamin Thanks for explaining. That’s why I don’t know what they are. My hair is so heavy I can’t get it to do anything but lay there (without any body. Sigh.)
SDN Ooooh! That sounds like a fun plan. I hear Elegant likes ..art.. too. We can have a velro rollers party!
Michael Sorry to hear about your wife. I hope you find exactly what you’re seeking here.
Muse – you may want to try them…wash and towel dry your hair, put some mousse in it and blow it 90% dry. Then, take the velcro rollers and roll small sections of your hair (near the top of your head) – before you roll, spray the root lifter at the roots (duh) to about 2″ from your scalp. Roll tighly and either sit under a dryer or leave in until dry…they may give you some lift…
Michael: I went to “check you out” and you must have already made some changes, you are “pending”. Darn!! I will see you at a later time. and yes, I LOVE that phrase!! Needed that a few months ago when my BFs new GF called me from HIS cell and wanted to know why I was sending him text messages and calling him all the time. Gee, cause YOUR BF is a JERK!! Yea, so not pretty…
DC: Huh? coudl you rephrase that Q? lost me there…
SDN:
you are just too funny. Best sence of humor award goes to you, hun!
Must be the end of the work day, all the usual suspects are showing up!!
HI EVERYONE!!
Ok, now that everyone else has velcro rollers in their hair, my straightening iron is beeping, so I’m off to get rid of my natural curls. Are we women ever happy with what we got?
Muse: Maybe Elegant will get both of us t-shirts and we can wear them and watch art together
ESB: So a bunch of hot women are sitting around laughing at me? Was that a back handed compliment ROFL!
NYC-22 – Sorry about your bad date. Sounds like a live and learn experience.
Michael – Welcome to the blog. Tried to see your profile, but since it’s under review, I couldn’t. Remind us again once it’s visible, and I’ll take a look.
SDN – I was wondering why your ascii rendition of the boobies was so odd. hahaha.
Bella and CADreaming – Sorry to hear about your dads. Sending my prayers out for both of you and your families.
BLOG QUESTION – When a guy states in his profile “Amount Negotiable” are you less likely to write him? What’s your thought process for these guys?
ESB: Haha, k – better phrasing: Would SA and sugardaddie be the only 2 sites blog SDs and SBs recommend?
I LOVE…..art….throw in a bump-it and velcro-rollers and I’m IN. Sounds like a Boob-a-palooza party to me!
CA Dreamin: Great description of the rollers. SO TRUE. A give from up above for sure.
I think that certified member didn’t realize she was doing a self-exam. I touch myself once a month.
SDN is giving out free breast exams. Thanks for the mammories!
ESB – I’m with you. I’m in the hair straightening crowd. I have the hair dresser cut out 3/4 of the volume of my hair, otherwise I will be looking like the guy in the featured profiles.
LASB – I definitely contact negotiables. Don’t contact less than 1Kers. Don’t necessarily believe the 20Kers.
I think most SDs do it on a case by case review.. I had one SD tell me he offered me significantly more than his previous SB, just based on the vibe/chemistry we had.
Thanks LASB!
LASB – if his profile says ‘amount negotiable’- I’ll go ahead and write him…but that’s mostly because I’m a GREAT negotiater!
SDN will have lots of traveling to do in order to exam all the blog SBs
I don’t get guys who list their income as 1M+ and only want to give less than 1K.
Dot dot dot.
NYC-22: Wow. Just read your horror story. So sorry you went through all of that. Use that horrible experience as a learning one – we grow from all of them; good and bad.
Elegant: Boob-a-palooza! ROFL
DC SB: The exams are part of the meets so I am hoping to get as many of you to them as possible.
ESB – Free exams by SDN? I’m sure the line will be forming around the block. Count me in.
To answer my own question, I contact them too, but with low expectations. The ones I’ve met in person don’t believe in the allowance, but don’t tell you that right away. I had a date with an under 1k guy. He wasn’t giving an allowance but was about the trips and gifts. In retrospect, he was hot enough that I wonder if I should have just dated him anyhow.
SDN then you have to come to our DC meet up soon, since there will be at least 4 of us girls there, and if we can get Gail and Gemi make that 6.. 12 boobies to feel on. Lucky you!
LASB what I’ve found with negotiables are that they tend to be in the 1 – 4K range. I guess luckily I haven’t met any that are non-allowance types. Some girls want a non-allowance, but I want to be able to afford the rest of my MA AND the thesis research I want to do for my dissertation (I want to head abroad and research w/o having to worry about rent, paying for transportation costs etc.). So saving the money for that has always been my main focus.
Speaking of breast exams, does anyone else have Kaiser? They have the most pervy doctors. (Not that I’m complaining.) I had a resident once, who went to give me a breast exam and actually went “oh, nice!” LOL!!! He was hot, so I was flattered. I have another better story, but maybe I’ll save it for after dinner conversation.
CA Dreamin I’ve tried all sorts of things and nothing works. At this point, even trying that involves investing in the rollers, a blow dryer, gel and mousse. Oh, and getting off my butt to do it. I think I’ll just stick with letting it air dry and putting a little bit of oil in to make it shiny. I’m a bit too low-maintenance sometimes….
SDN Oh, I’d love a tshirt. It’ll be such a fun party!
DC SB: Keep me posted on the date of that meet. And I do NOT feel on the boobies. I am a professional…I caress them.
SDN: not at you darling, WITH you!! Free exams? Hmmm.. I hope your hands are warm!!
DC: I have no idea, never went looking for any other sights.
OK, will be back in a few… gotta turn the straightener back on, it timed out on me!!
SDN Haha. That was cute. I forgot, you are an SD.. you lovingly massage them, open the car door for them, and always make sure they make it home safely at the end of the date.
VA & I will definitely keep you updated. I know we were thinking sometime in Feb mid/late Feb. If you came you’d be one lucky guy. I don’t know if you’d be able to equally pay attention to all of us AND our boobs..
blah. boobies. so overrated. I’m so bittera bout not having much.
I’ve had three …okay five glasses of wine tonight. I highlighted my hair, my friend’s hair, and my couch’s hair. Ok, not my sofa’s hair, but me and my girlfriend, yes. and we look hollywood glam.
What are ya’ll doing????????? Do I go out dancing tonight? Imagine TLG’s prospective sugar date: that’s as much trouble as the men in this citys’ nightclubs wanna give to me. Shall I go out in my ‘A game’ look and go dancing there???! Or sit on my couch and relax and get ready for my pot SD #3 (counting only local, face-to-face meeting guys)’s lunch tomorrow?
noon tomorrow. Guy I’ve talked to maybe ten times on the phone, totally normal and cool sounding, known for six weeks now… we are finally in the same country at the same time and having LUNCH tomorrow and I told him straight up on the phone today that I am interviewing HARD and he better place his bid to be considered and he said he’s in a damn hurry to do so, so hence him picking me up by taxi on my block (not exact address) tomorrow to take me wherever I want to go for lunch and trying hard to woo me. Yay. Fun times.
Elegant – I believe the “step away from the computer” is step 2 or 3 or 4 or something. Step one is admitting you have a problem. However, since I obviously don’t have blog addiction, I’ve never looked past that step.
Taylor – They don’t have to be very big. I just need to be able to get the clamps on.
Taylor: Oh I have small boobs too, but they have big personality. Especially the left one. It tends to be more of an exhibitionist than the right one. Leftie likes to peep out, fall out, throw itself out – especially when I’m in public. The right one is a little more shy and conservative.
ooooooooooooooh, LASB. You got me goin. Goin strong. Dang.
and in other news, pot SD I had lunch with today says:
“Hello. It was very nice to meet you. You seem to be a very nice person and it would not be boring to be with you.
Good looking also.a bit exotic, sexy in my opinion.
I am not ready to make a deal on monthly bases, based on a lunch.
But i would love to start with an evening/night with you, to get to know you better.
I dont like the idea of paying every time we meet, your suggestion is better.
But first time maybe? Or i bring you a present of your choice? After spending an evening together i think we both know if we want a steady deal.
What do you think?”
What do ya’ll think???
:lurking:
DC SB –mwahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaa my left one has a stronger personality too! In every way that a breast can display it’s personality, my left one has creamed the rightie.
Taylor – In previous blogs, it was suggested that you get at least a half month’s allowance up front before you are intimate. At least then you know he’s not just trying to get a test drive.
NYC 22 – I am sorry for your story… I too have met that man… weight watchers ring a bell?
I totally emphatize with you on this… on our date he decided to sing as well… so embarassing
Hahaha, Taylor, maybe our two left boobs should meet! They can have their own arrangement
As for the guy.. I would say yes do dinner, and go with the money not gift. Unless there is a gift you need like……. a new…. lamp. Or something necessary to your life, cell phone?
And don’t get intimate until he solidifies the arrangement.
Gossip Girl!!!!! I was waiting for you to chime in on that one! I knew it was a matter of time before you got on here and sympathized. You know everyone, everything!
First; NYCBella, I will keep your dad in Prayer.
Second; NYC-22, like others have said, don’t beat yourself up. I’ve been there. Not from someone here, just in general. You wish you can take it back, unfortuniately you can’t. It’s a learning experience. We women, think with our hearts, we get lonely and have needs. But the others SB’s have been in for a whille. They give great advice. I’m new here, so if you ever want to chat or maybe get together in the city let me know. I would love to hang out with fellow SB’s. Take care.
Taylor – It sounds like leftie needs a bit of training and discipline, so that she learns to behave like the good little submissive girl that she is.
NYC 22 – wow such memories!
Dont beat yourself up… however if you want to get even ask him to introduce you to his friend Matthew McConaghey
nope not kidding
Yeah, not gonna happen.
I didn’t find him attractive in any way upon first meet. He has a loooooooooooong way to go to get me to consider intimacy with him. Long way. Did I say I’m not about to drop my panties? I am so not.
Then again, he’s rich, intelligent, suave, and I’ve only spent 30 minutes with him. I’ll give him one more chance to woo me. That’s it.
I’m afraid he thinks since he travels all over the world twice a month and primarily wants a travel partner, that I’ll be drooling all over that and happy to take anything or nothing just for the priviledge of the trips. When in reality, that’s not where my goals are at.
Sigh.
I’m hopeful about tomorrow’s lunch pot SD.
NYC-22 – I agree with NJLady. Sometimes we get ourselves into odd situations where we find ourselves “in too deep” and then have a tough time removing ourselves from them. For me, a lot of it was social programming, where I was taught it was not ok to say no, and that a lady was supposed to behave in a certain way, one which ended up compromising my personal safety, integrity, power, and all of that. I have since shaken that sort of bullsh** from my system, but it was a process. Don’t beat yourself up, and just understand that it’s ok to say no even if it comes off as rude. Put your safety, well being, and emotional health before the promise of any arrangement.
LASB is not only my blog crush (or one of them) but entirely right. Sometimes you have to just act like a raging PMSing bitch to stand up for yourself and IT’S OK!!! The right thing to do, even.
And hey, I have a blog Domme!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
*happy dance**
Oh, and it wasn’t karaoke. I just convinced the band to let me sing with them last thanksgiving.
Who here has read Memoirs of a Geisha??
Seriously. NYC -22’s story of fat-ass weirdo sounds so much like what I remember from that novel. It’s just fiction, whatever, but….
so much about the point of being a geisha, and the ‘arrangements’ that geishas choose (CHOOSE) to go into with particular poweful (sometimes married!) men that they have developed chemistry/feelings with/towards is……….
SUGAR!!!!!!!!!
Just a different era, a different name. Geisha = sugarbaby. You ain’t going far on looks alone….poise, talent, intelligentce, charisma, inner sexa appeal is what matters. And if you give it away before the arrangement is sealed and paid for, then god help you.
It’s so familiar, it’s ancient.
Is LASD here??
*cricket’s chirping*
Is Gossip Girl here??
(NYC biatch, where are you? having fun in that city I wish I was in?)
SDNEOhio, where are you darling??
*crickets again*
Damn it, I cleared th blog. Damn it!
I didn’t mean to equate sugar dating with prostitution. That’s not what geisha means. Seriously!
Taylor: We wouldn’t leave you alone dear.
I’m here! Just.. busy getting into mischief.
I’m here. Busy cracking the whip on the “hired help” though. (Code for keeping my attorney motivated.)
Checking out the new SD’s before I leave for school
Taylor – im here… just working on updating my blog
GG – Hooray! Can’t wait to read it!
No distracting NYC SB right now. I’ve been waiting DAYS for this blog update. Type faster, lady!
YAY!
Gotta go get the kids. See y’all soon!!
Looking forward to the new updates NYC
Taylor’s Blog Domme: Welcome!! I think I know who you are!!
Later!!
NYC22- you poor thing! I agree, don’t beat yourself up about it. We’ve all been there.
Women in general have to put up with a lot of shit on this level. If you had just left at the first sign of insanity I am sure he would have been screaming and calling you a beyatch. If a woman voices her opinion or acts in her own best interests she is considered unstable or a bitch BY SOME. I have been in situations like that where I have been afraid to rock the boat. And in Sugartown it’s normal to feel like we have to put up with a lot if shit because the allowance is so attractive.
But we don’t. Just remember that. Also try not to beat yourself up about it. You are human. Just learn to trust your instincts next time.
Now as for getting the horrible image out of your mind, find someone really sexy and attractive to have sex with. That should work
Question Sugar’s. I asked a friend of mine to take a couple of pictures for me tomorrow. To put on here and send a couple to my pot SD. I was thinking sending him one that has me wearing a black dress and one with jeans and a sexy top. Any other suggestions? He is looking for a lovely women who is sexy and fun.
Thanks
Delyn – If she left at the first sight of insanity she would have been offered a shopping and spa day… and if she declined that then she would have received many texts saying how terrible women are…
DC SB, I found sd4me to be completely useless. I think NY Gent had a similar reaction when we discussed it some months ago. It’s possible it might work for some of you guys but only because you would stand out in that crowd, and then only if some real SD wandered in there out of ignorance or compulsion. I didn’t like it at all. For example, they send out emails saying “sugar babies available to meet this weekend in your area” — what impression does that give?
Hi GG-
Ah yes, the wounded animal syndrome. I think it might behoove any NYC SBs to run pot SDs by you first, sounds like you have dated a good majority of them. And it must help to know that even though you kissed your share of frogs you wound up with an SD who sounds awesome!
Gossip Girl – When are you going to move to LA, so you can market test all the pots over here? You would save us Left Coasters a lot of time and frustration.
James – SD4M hasnt worked out that well for me either… however there are always a few good men on there… also the accounts for SBs are free (you can reply to all access) so it doesnt hurt to join. The site infrastructure is a bit more sophisticated than the SA one but the quality of people is far inferior
NYC SB’s current SD is actually from SD4M
and you better believe he will never find out about SA… dont need the extra competition
LASB – I dont think I would do well in Barbie land… as I am not very Barbie like
xox gossip girl lol
Ok 2 blog posts up… they are kind of rough … maybe I will fix them tonight but enjoy!
over and out
GG- Is SD4me the one where us SBs can post for free but if we want to read their e-mails we can’t unless we pony up? I think I was a member there for a while and all the SDs who wrote me were non paying members or not gold members or whatever. Only one SD who was a gold member wrote me and I could read his message and wrote back and never heard from him again.
It amazes me how many SDs there are out there who won’t spring for the membership. How are we supposed to take them seriously. I started to wonder if all the guys who did write me were just bot/fake accounts to get me to join.
I still think SA’s site and business model is the best out there, but unless you live in NYC or LA the pickin’s are slim as they say
LASB I think I can help you out on your Left Coast Test market questions! lol My database is HUGE!!!
I just sent a potSD, whom I had a date with on Tuesday night an e mail thanking him. I posted in the last blog, toward the end, that he closely knows some of best referral sources. I also saw him as a client once a few years ago but he does not remember. I am now sick with worry that he will mention to one of these people where we met. I suppose I should bring it up if he calls or writes back, but I don’t know how. I just want to vomit really. This was my biggest fear about doing this period.
ahhh …..bored….spread the word m lookin for a SD
#425726 lol
Evening all. I just wanted to say thank you for all of your kind words. I really appreciate it.
NYC SB~I’m looking forward to reading the new posts!
Michael, NYC 22, Taylor’s Domme-Welcome (Hmmm…who could Taylor’s blog Domme be????
). You’ve all come to the right place. Anyone here will be more than willing to offer good, useful advice. It’s always a learning process, and eventually we work on getting up to that curve.
SDN~who knew you were so artistic?!
Elegant~I envy you…I’ve never been able to use velcro rollers w/o ending up with a huge rats nest in my hair. Something about it being thick, but fine and naturally curly…so just blow outs, flat irons and occasional curling irons for me.
I’ve tried out SD4Me also, but the quality of SD’s doesn’t begin to compare to SA. And my pics are definitely on the conservative side but I’ve had multiple propositions from guys on that site seeking a “weekend playmate” while they’re in town on business. So not a sugar arrangement! I usually email them back with an email address for a massage parlor in the city.
Taylor~Yes! Memoirs of a Geisha is very much the same concept of the sugar world. The Danna (sp?) of a Geisha (which means artist) becomes her benefactor, is the only one she is intimate with, and they generally maintain a MBA for an extended period of time. Love that story! It’s also the same concept as 19th Century mistresses which were popular in the European culture.
Hello everyone else! AM, Muse, Delyn, James, LASB, NJLady, ESB, and DC SB!
Hey GG-
Read you latest blog entry and wanted to comment but it seems stuck.
Just wanted to say that the second post inspired me to write to a few SDs. In the past I have eithet favorited them or kept my e-mails very short and usually not heard back. I just wrote 2 very thoughtful e-mails and if they don’t even write back to say thanks but no thanks then I will know they are not the right pot SD for me
So thanks for the motivation!
Hey Everyone – just popping in to say hello!
SDN – it would be quite wonderful if you came to our DC meet….hope you can make it. We’ll definitely let you know.
Hi Michael – welcome to the blog.
Good to “see” all my friends tonight…I really “was” going through withdrawal when the blog wasn’t up.
Okay, heading home…need to eat and veg in front of the tv for a bit.
Ciao!
One from the Database to steer clear of:
First Email he sent…
”You look very nice but tell me this..have you ever seen a grown man naked??”
OC – LOLOL… nice. and Ewy all a the same time.
I had one sort of like that recently… I think it said something like “you look hot but what about your booty” The amusing thing is….one of the pictures I have POSTED is a mirror shot that actually does show my booty…lol! If only he had looked a little bit to the left….oh well, not like I really missed out on a gem of the SD world.
Hey VA SB!
NYC SB~Just read your posts. Nice on the new pot! Work it girl! Wondering…have you found over time that you’ve become more bold in negotiations or was that just natural for you? (I love the idea of your “low balling” being something that I’d considered a high ball amt.)
So, I’m sitting here with my own 5th grade version of sugar (the bodega on the corner carries all sorts of nostalgia inducing treats)…a Ring Pop! And it’s definitely blinging…all 100 carats!!! Lol.
OC: I have a new west coast pot messaging me recently. Mind letting me know if you’ve got him in your ‘test’ files?
OC- too funny….. but it is a legitimate question. Even when someone takes very good care of themselves there are things that happen past the age of 50 that you have no control over…and some of it aint pretty
Uncommon, just shoot me the deets in an email and I will see what comes up.
Gemi and DC (sorry still can’t get use to the new blog-Iddy) I never get upset with those strange first time emails. YOU totally have to roll with the dirt so to speak. I never lead them on but I do have a quirpy come back. I only block them if they get really stupid. My $ugar book would be empty if I blocked all the goofy ones!
I concur… somethings are best left unseen
NYC Bella: Oh, how I look forward to being in NYC again. I haven’t been there as an adult, but lived there as a teen. Well, I’ve been there for very quick business trips, but not to just roam and check out all of the hot spotts and culture. I miss bodegas, Bon Ton chips, slices (of course), and those coconut icee cups in the summer.
OC: Done.
Typos, sorry.
Um just as a random aside.
I understand that LaPerla is supposed to be very nice lingerie.
But $150 and $460 for NIPPLE TASSELS?
I mean come on, those are some expensive sequin-covered, tassled nipple stickers!! ..who…actually…buys…those…??
hows everyone doing today
so after all my complaints of sd’s wanting blondes and my amazing date with my pot sd the other night. the sea parted the cloud opened up and i dont know where all these men came from (on a different site) but the picture that did catch my eye, when i clicked on the profiles they all wanted the same thing ” only black sb’s please” i was like waiiiiiiiiiitttttttttttt…. am i being punked?????? then one amazing pot from LA that is basically any sb’s dream was interested in me also wanting to know my allowance and my “wish list” which is new to me, he hasnt asked about sex(yet). But i like that hes getting the kinda of “uncomfortable” convo out of the way now, so the rest is just fun, and hes 33.
anyone been asked for a “wish list” before?
and what do all of you sugars think? too good to be true? any shady loop holes im not seeing?
and my other question.
Gemini: Probably the same person who pays $1MM for the VC bra!! You know, the one with the HUGE Rock in the font at the cleavage!! Sweet, but looks soo uncomfortable!!
ESB – Well that one is technically “worth something” being that it is all precious gemstones. The nipple tassels are no more special or different than the $5 ones you can get on ebay from China. Ok the glue might be different, but then again, who really knows. (And I wasn’t so much digging the 1mil bra from VS this year. Too boring. Not enough color. Mmm rubies and emeralds.)
SanDiego: Sounds like a dream come true. Go with it for now, get a good feel for him. Don’t rush it, but don’[t drag your feet either. There might be someone else on his radar who’s going to snatch him at the first chance. Goodluck Girl, I hope it works for you!!
and, no, I have not been asked about my wish list… which is pretty short right now… a pair of UGGs size 8 for Baby Girls B-day!! Just not enough cash to go around right now to get them for her!!
SanDiego SB the only loop hole I can see is that he is using phrases like “wish list” …
Trust me he will give you his. Hold back on full disclosure of a wish list. Give him a short, mid and long term wish or range so to speak. I am not sure of your age, but 33 for me has had its bumps along the way with dealing with SD’s that age. But let’s BE hopeful!!!!
Gemini: I just can NOT imagine wearing that. Looks scratchy and awkward, and pokey… just not into being uncomfortable to look good. Jeez, can we all put on our jeans and t-shirts and be bumms for a few hours and relax? Yea, that’s what I’m talking about!! I can rock me some Levi’s!!
Good evening sugars!
Miss ya!
I have totally about had it with the men on this site. Last weekend I was invited to meet a POT in Palm Springs. He had a wonderful evening planned, and I was all down for it. Then he says to bring an overnight bag, … I was like “ok, as long as I am put up in a guest room”. He contacts me back and says he expected me to sleep with him. He felt that planning such a lovely day for us, warranted sex. Now mind you; this would have been our very first meeting.
So I kindly stood my ground and he firmly stood his. He said we were not in high school, and I emphasized that fact as to why I would not play myself.
Last night, I spoke with another POT,,, he was in Palm Desert. He wanted me to drive down to see him. I told him I couldn’t just drop what I was doing to drive down at that moment. I was pretty offended because it was dark out. Now I am in no way shape or form screaming “sex kitten!” in my profile, so I am just at a lost…ughhh!
That really does give me something to think about, thank you abunch OCSB and ESB.
i love that we can talk so candidly about it all here, because the couple close friends that are sb’s also are prob. just as much in the dark about things as I am, i love all of your feedback.
My last two posts vanished.
i had written verse for you guys. 
I gotta go get supper out of the oven. See ya all tomorrow.. doubt I can get back on tonight. Have fun everyone!! Sugar hugs!!
2Chic they both must have heat stroke from being in the sun too long. Next! You are doing great, keep the faith. It will happen
SanDiego sb you are most welcome
Off to Happy Hour, I am dying for a froo froo martini… Maybe a Pomegranate or Cucumber Basil. Ha-ha we are so heart healthy out in Cali! Nite
Uncommon, I think we have a winner…ding ding ding. He hit the database and I emailed you the deets
OC: You rock!
Thanks Uncommon, yea I am not just the blog police… I am a real live Sugar Baby… BABY
Ha-ha
Hi San Diego,
what site do you speak of?
I am beginning to feel just as you in regards to not being blonde Barbie.
Sugardaddy4me,
gotta be careful on that site though. ALOTTTTT of creeps, but i think thats on anysite.
San Diego,
Thanks and best of luck with your new guy.
thank you 2chic =]
First of all, thank you for the support everyone! I feel so much better, and can now laugh at the ridiculousness of that date. This will definitely be a lesson.
NJLady – I’m up for hanging out! Let me know how I can contact you.
NYC SB – Omg, yes, weight watchers, that’s him. I feel sorry you had to meet him, but relieved that he’s not just a pigment of my imagination. On our date, I was actually thinking to myself “This guy can’t be real” and felt like I was on some reality tv show. How gross is he! I’m so mad, because I keep thinking how he wouldn’t even get a second of my attention if this was in real life. It’s funny that the sugar world allows creepy guys like him and great girls like us to meet and spend time together. EW!
ESB – Thank you for sharing your story, that was ridiculous as well.
Gossip Girl – I forgot to include you in the post above, can’t believe you met him too!
Evening sugars! I’ll still have to catch up, but here go the blog questions:
How do you manage your sugar selection process? – Taylor I had a very small, select group I was communicating with, so memory worked just fine. I would have to say that NYC SB and Elegant have the more advanced systems down to an art!
What is a simple way to agree on a location and/or activity for the 1st meet? For me, the gentlemen have always come here for the first date. Truthfully, there were only two before SD came along…when it rains, it pours
Have you ever had (or turned down) an arrangement that was too complicated? No
Any sugar news to report?
All is well in the sugar world although SD is a bit under the weather. Lots of healing sugar dust your way SD :-X
Evening all…WOW it takes a long time to get to and from the city!
omg i JUST read the story NYC22 the sad part is ive been on a date like that before with someone NOT from the site or looking for an arrangement, just a man that was just a horrible person,trying to makeout with me when im obviously not into it ( i think is that worstttttttt) dont feel bad or like a prostitute, not your fault that he wasnt raised right.
Hi Everyone!
SDN:
You’re going around caressing other SB boobies….surely you don’t think I’d stick to just you… 
I’m keeping “us” on the DL until we “finalize” our arrangement….I was referring to my other pots….I’m following in DC SB’s footsteps….
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SanDiego SB:
Yes, I’ve had pot SDs ask me before for my “wishlist”. I usually say “winning lottery ticket worth at least 100 mil”. Questions like that annoy me actually. I’m looking for a SD, not Santa!
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Midwest:
Sorry to hear James isn’t feeling well…..
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General Question:
Am I the only one who honestly does NOT feel uncomfortable talking about arrangement details? ($, intimacy etc.)
txsb- ha ha ha at the santa comment
i did take everyones advice made the list a little short but in the direction of what i would want and expect.
If he is who he says he is he should have no problem with anything new on the list that pops up lol
TXSB – Hi and Thanks! Actually, I find discussing the arrangement allowance and details is easy and the MOST important part of the arrangement.
Wish lists- I like the idea of being able to help a guy pick gifts for me. Men struggle with picking the right gift…they are thrilled to get a little help!
SanDiego SB – He sounds great so far!!! Lots of luck..and a bit of skill
Hi! I desperately need some advice!
Tomorrow I’m meeting a pot SD; we’ve been talking for awhile so I’m really anticipating us moving into an arrangement tomorrow. How do I handle getting paid though? Are people comfortable handing over money/allowance without the whole month’s goods being delivered already? Obviously, I’m not fulfilling my end of the bargain until I’m paid…
Thanks!
Gemi – I can’t blog when the posts get excessive as it craps out my memory. HAD to RESPOND to La Perla nip tassles – I have a photo of a good male friend of mine with a Playboy Playmate fashion model and she is wearing nipple tassles and lace panties and suspenders – he has a big smile on his face. Another reason why runway and fash-glam don’t mix. I can share her pic with you if you really want but I suspect you don’t.
Diamonds – It’s a very common practice to pay the month in advance. Hopefully, he will be tactful and thoughtful about the exchange. The payment does not mean you have to have sex with him before you are ready. If you are ready…great. If not, make sure you let him know in advance that it may take a few dates to be sure of the chemistry. Compliment that statement with acknowledgement that you are attracted to him.
Diamonds – safer for you to get paid in advance. You decide if cash, paypal, wire transfer, direct deposit or other creative ways. Physical safety (carrying cash), tax, Governor of NY wire transfer scrutiny are relevant considerations. Good luck.
NY-22 – using a trading analogy (as opposed to spy school and army speak) decide a stop-loss limit (ie i’m not sleeping with you tonight) which you will not go beyond before you meet date, tell him (or not) it and this may help your decision making override your emotions when ‘inflagrante’. Don’t feel bad – we’ve all made mistakes and i’m sure you’ll learn and grow.
good evening everyone.
midewest, uncommon oc, txsb, sandiego, nyc-22(who dates fat guys and likes it). just kidding
and anyone I missed
midwest sorry to here about james. hope he gets better soon(either that are you are just to much for him. in that case kill him)
hey txsb
hey flo rida sorry did not see you before
JSO – I try
ROFLMAO!!! How are you tough guy? Has some lucky sb swept you off your feet yet?
Hi Flo Rida!
Heck no. But I am talking to one. She only emails about every two days or so.
Hey JSO – you forgot about me, but that’s okay – I forgive you
Anyone doing anything fun tonight?
sorry baby, big shoot out to CA Dreamin SB
JSO – Hey – waves vigorously and smiles – so what does SDF mean? PS why don’t you quit messing around and meet TX-SB (but please what happens on the blogmance stays off the blog)
Midwest – hi – glad things are well with you (sans illness).
CA-Dreaming-SB – hi!
Hey Flo!
Midwest – hope James feels better soon!
Diamonds:
As others already wrote, its safer if you get your allowance in advance. Just to compromise, instead of asking for the entire month’s….why not ask for half the allowance in advance before becoming intimate?
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Hi JSO, Flo Rida, CA Dreamin and anyone else who joined….
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I’m out for the evening…..see you all later.
FLO – It means I can not type are spell…lol
I do not think she is into me
MMD: Hi Sweety!! Tell james I hope he gets better, or I’ll just send him an email and tell him myself.. poor guy. I HATE being sick…
JSO: Been a long time since we were both on at the same time. To bad I’m going to post and run. Bed time.
Flo: Hi Hun!! Wish I could stay around and see what words of wisdom you will spin tonight.
Diamonds: I’m fading fast. That subject was hit at length a few blogs ago. Someone tell her how to do the search thingy!!
SanDiego and TXSB: Wanted to say HEY!! before Baby Girl came in with her pillow and tried to knock me out with it…
so Good Night everyone!! Sugar Dreams and sugar hugs!!
It’s a little late – but – goodnight ESB!
Take care ESB
ESB – I could tell you about Hertz car residuals, fleet management, maintenance schedules, special purpose entity leverage, concession fee recoveries, navigation systems BUT that would betray Hertz secrets.
INSTEAD anonymous SB asked about sugar dating IRL (topic again!). The initial points are ‘knowing whom to target’, ‘being at the right place at the right time’ AND ’saying the right things in the right way’ AND ‘closing by getting another meet’.
0 – Ask discretely who have a certain wealth, the rich leave fingerprints in terms of where they live, sports clubs, charity events, business ownerships, friends of rich people, jobs etc – there MUST be rich people in any city
1 – As Keanu says in Point Break – ‘that’s my in’ Lori surfer girl lost her parents in traffic accident. So you have to know who SD is (through research and being at events on which I’ve blogged before)
2 – The 49ers under Walsh pre-scripted their initial 10 offensive plays, Jack Nicklaus would mentally play the entire course in his head the night before. You should know what and how you’re going to say things to get your in.
3 – In Glengarry Glen Ross – always be closing – get a tennis match, sailing trip, golf charity event, tour of Met blah as the next step.
Then date and then introduce financial needs (as i’ve blogged before). KEY is stringing this altogether (which is difficult) BUT it always start with meeting a qualified SD.
Sorry anonymous SB that’s best I can do. BUT I have blogged on some of the above points before in greater details – researching the ‘in’ and rehearsing the ‘in’ takes a lot of time. Good luck
Thanks for the advice guys! Hopefully my first arrangement (!!) will get off the ground tomorrow!
I’ll let you know!
good luckkkk!
Everybody have a wonderful evening. I’m turning in early tonight; Lots of sugar to all!!
goodnight midwest. take care
FLO – I am going to turn you in at my local hertz for trying to give away secrets(that and selling reciepts)…lol
Hi everyone! **waving from a distance so no one gets my germs**
Thanks for all the get well wishes! The worst part of it is that I was supposed to meet SB for a date tonight, and I had to cancel. Bummer! It’s just a cold, but as nasty as I’ve had for a while. How can you be both stuffed up and runny at the same time?
JSO – I’m not that easy to kill. Old and tough, like a cheap steak.
SDN – great art class today. But, you forgot winter boobies:
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darn, my winter boobies didn’t work!
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Foiled again. And I was an art major!
James! You’re pretty bad off when your winter boobies don’t work!
As long as yours do, I’m ok.
james please tell me you have gone to the doctor.
OK, you can all come out and play again. The contagious patient is going to bed.
Night all.
JSO – seems like Gemi doesn’t want to see a Playboy model with nip tassles (the tape does detach btw) as my male friend found out later in the night. Gemi’s such a tease. c’est la vie. I see you are around for the next instalment of BAD – blogging after dark. i’m sick of car exhaust fumes at Hertz – maybe I need to apply to spy school as an analyst or pscy ops with the army or go to the highest costing union card at Harvard MBA school?
FLO – whatever makes you happy. I am sure you can do anything you put your mind to. Just remeber Hertz gave you your big break.lol
James – mine work just fine
Psh, I don’t mind nip tassels…but any over $7 are going to get serious eye-brow raises from me, lololol!
and I aaaam a tease…how did you know?!
TX-SB – sorry darling should have said hi to you before you left.
JSO – yes and I still have stimulating conversations with all those car renters who teach me so much as they hand their car keys to me and I check the mileage & gas tank. Btw if you compiled a list of top 10 unbelievable things in your life would people believe them – mine’s pretty scary (if I ever disclosed them). I can also disclose pretty jaw dropping things about SD but those are both side effects of the crazy meds!
I am sorry. But I am really against this whole nip tassel thing.
FLO – LOL
Gemi – Pish posh – but La Perla nip tassles have superior tape, superior attachment, superior balance and just look that little bit extra special which makes a difference for the man in your life! and what else are you going to do if you PAID modeling assignments. Btw I can read your mind and can tell when you are joking and when you are planting deceptive information
JSO – Oh I see. No nip shields for you, huh?
Gemini – No mam
Not even if they were on June Cleaver wearing a half-apron? (drinks for he man still included in this)
Oh come on JSO…you might look really sexy in them
Good evening Sugar’s,
NYC-22, here is my profile # 430026, drop me a line and we’re take it from there. Hope you’re doing fine.
Signing off to get some sleep. Having some pictures taken tomorrow to show to my pot SD. Must look good.
Night Sugar’s
I’m also off to bed sugars! Hope everyone has either a fantasticly fun or a fantasticly laid-back weekend planned!
I am way behind on the blog and don’t have time to catch up right now. Dealing with some pretty serious drama (that doesn’t even involve me and somehow I’m actually in danger from it.. wtf!) and have to run. This also caused me to have to cancel my pot date tonight so I’m pretty bummed about it. I sent him a message, so hopefully he will understand and still want to meet with me.
JSO/SDN — Your bump it/rollers comments made me laugh.
JSO I wish you were coming to the CA meet, I would love to see you interact with SDN in person!
NYC-22 — I didn’t get a chance to read your whole message, but from skimming it, it seemed pretty bad. Don’t feel bad about cutting your losses (you need to!). There are plenty of great SD’s on this site (most of them are on this blog
) and it just takes time to find one. It’s like a needle in a haystack. I’m still searching and so is Gemini and it’s been months for both of us. Stick in there!
DC SB — So funny you mention a SB touching herself after reading JSO’s profile. I read a SD’s profile on here a while back and he literally said in his profile that he had a girl contact him saying she read his profile 5 times and on the 5th time she touched herself. Talk about TMI!!!
I am going to bed to. Take care everyone
Night JSO
NYC 22 –
NYC SB = Gossip Girl … it is somewhat of an inside joke… sorry for the confusion
everything ok cali sb aka Lemon torte?
NYC 22 – “Gossip Girl” is the name I gave NYC SB at our recent meet. She knows everything and everyone, but only reveals a few secrets at a time and only when the timing is optimal, just like the blogger in the TV series. I’ve actually never gotten through an entire show, but that’s what I understand the premise to be. Also, everything takes place in NYC’s social scene.
CaliSB – You ok, hun?
Taylor – it’s so quiet without you, little girl. I keep forgetting you are on the other side of the world.
James M – Get well soon.
Hello to San Diego, CA Dreamin, Midwest, Flo, ESB, Gemi, JSO, NJ Lady, Uncommon, OC and all others.
I’m okay, just a little scared. It’s a really long and confusing story and there’s pretty much no way for me to shorten it and I don’t want to drag down the blog so I’m going to refrain from posting it here. Just my safety was/is in jeopardy.. I can’t say more than that. It’s nothing that I did, and actually nothing that the other person who is causing me to be indirectly involved did (because he’s actually not even involved, someone else is making lies and blaming him). I just hope it all goes away.
Hello Sugars!
I am hoping that maybe someone can help me, I’ve been getting messages from pot SD’s and I’ve noticed a lot of them in their profiles make a comment about their SB being disease free…seems like a harmless enough request, it makes good sense I’d rather not be involved with someone that isnt disease free, but one pot SD took it to an extreme and told me he would expect me to get tested monthly! I’m looking for confirmation that this is not ok
Caramel – Personally, I’d love if a pot SD requested for testing prior to any physical activity because it would mean I wouldn’t have to bring it up. While I think monthly is extreme (some things wouldn’t even show up within a month!), I do think that prior to physical contact is a great idea and maybe every 3 or 6 months if he’s super concerned about it.
Thanks Cali I thought once a month every month was asking a little bit much… thats a lot of dr visits you know? I just got the vibe that hes sleeping around a lot and not being safe about it. That is so not something I want to be involved in.
Caramel — On second thought, if your dr. visit counts as one of your monthly “meetings”, it may benefit you to go once a month. But yes, once a month is incredibly excessive, especially if you’re exclusive.
James, NYC SB & Delyn – thanks for the website info.. I’m not actually on mutual site are they one in the same? Or different sites?
So far what I’m noticing about this site is this -
I got double the number of responses on there, than on SA within a couple of hours. Guys tend to be more into LTR SD/SB dating (which I’m not necessarily 100% on board with, but for the right guy I’d be willing). More guys have pictures +++
But! The contribution piece is missing – the site doesn’t ask the SDs what sort of SD they want to be, or what sort of relationship they want; while that’s kind of annoying – I do like that of all the guys who have messaged me, not one has said something crude, rude or vulgar – which 90% of SA guys do. I always get guys who want “play 4 pay” on SA. So my opinion on the quality of guys on here is a bit on the negative side. Perhaps it’s my location (I look local) but I know it’s not my pictures as one is of me in a black dress (from the side) and the other is just of my lips/neck & my profile mentions all of my accomplishments (academic, career-wise etc). So I find it rather disheartening that the quality of guys I attract on SA is not the quality of man I think I should be attracting. ?
And I only paid for 1 month membership because it’s equivalent to 1 cocktail (haha).
Caramel – I also would say every month is a bit on the paranoid side.. I get tested every 6 months. Also, if he’s demanding you get tested every month (a he should pay for it and b) you should demand the same of him. Shouldn’t be a one way street. Also, are you all going to be using condoms? Because I’d definitely recommend NOT getting tested every month JUST becuase he expects to be sans condoms.
I’m flying to North Carolina today to meet a SD. It’ll be my first one so I’m really excited. My first time ever flying too. Hopefully all goes well
He was the only potSD that I liked.
this is probably a thousand comments ago but
nycbella i thought namaste meant ‘the light within me salutes the light within you’ or the like
Good luck Jason! Hope all goes well
Hi everybody!
Wish lists – when an SD is asking for one it shows that he is interested… but sometimes it means that he is more of a gift daddy rather than an allowance one…
NYC 22 – your comment really affected me… let me apologize first… I met Mr Weight watchers IRL and then told him about SA… so he joined bc of me…
Flo – yes IRL to arrangement is not an easy transition, especially if the guy has never been an SD before… to me unless this wealthy man drops hints such as “generous” and “I take care of my gfs” I don’t even bother bringing the arrangement talk
DC SB – SD4M is not the same as SDie … and SDie’s monthly subscription is the equivalent to TWO cocktails
Caramel – I think it’s excessive too – and – is HE planning on getting tested every month? I’m with you – sounds like he gets around A LOT
NYC SB – I’m sorry… I didn’t mean it like that. I was just upset and trying to reason with myself out loud. I’m sorry if I hurt anyone’s feelings, I shouldn’t have talked about him on here in such manner.
Hello, Sugars…
Good morning!
Cleo: you are right. Namaste means “I bow to your true self.” I take yoga classes and the instructor bows at the end of each session and says, “Namaste.” We then bow in response and d othe same. The exchange of Namaste at the end of class is a wonderful way to honor the true self in each of us, and recognize that all life is interrelated. It is also a common greeting in Southeast Asia.
SBJason: Have a wonderful first trip ever! First time flying and FIRST SD meeting. How exciting!!
DC SB: My photos on SA are not suggestive at all and are definitely more on the classy side…yet, I get those vulgar messages too. I think it may just be the mentality because of the mention of “budget”. Those on the site who don’t GET the understanding of a traditional SD/SB arrangement (wealthy man helps younger woman by offering financial support throughout their relationship) view the word budget as something that is very transactional in nature. (Escort-ish)
Caramel – though monthly testing IS a tiny bit paranoid it IS and important indicator that he’s thinking long term (which may be a good sign?) HOWEVER his paranoia may be such that he may invent reasons to break things off sooner hence short term (which may be a bad sign). At the end of the day if he is otherwise a great pot and this is the only thing standing in the way i’d put up with the hassle (as long as $ were right for testing and reciprocity applied). Also once trust has been established maybe change the testing interval over time? A good SD is hard to find.
NYC SB – wise words from a wise lady (you)
Cleo – I thought namaste stood for we’re done so get out of my dogo (joking)
Caramel: My view on the SD requesting monthly STD screening is totally different than what the others are. I don’t think it is necessarily a sign of him being overtly promiscuous and sleeping around. I think it is his lack of trust in being with a woman he meets from this site. I had a conversation with a pot SD once about this. He was married and very paranoid that he would get “found out” if he brought something (STD) home to his wife. He said he wouldn’t expect his SB to be monogamous since he was married, but he would expect her to always be safe. So, I think it is something that makes the married SD (or even one that is a committed relationship) feel more at ease about “seeing someone on the side.” – Especially if the Sugar dates are frequent. Make sense?
NYC 22 – what is great about this community is that you SHOULD be able to vent and rant freely about your experiences… i am sure you will find someone soon… if you have any questions on pots feel free to email me (you can find my email by clicking the blue under my name)
Hola Elegant – how did your date go?
Hola Flo – I got a job at Avis… maybe one day you can give a reference at Hertz for me
I’m alive. Engrossed in retail therapy. Lunch with pot sd was a nightmare. Sigh.
Flo: that IS probably what the yoga instructor is thinking! Ha!
NYC: Well, he is staying in town for date no. 2 tonight and discussions of me flying up to his city soon came up…so we shall see! (I don’t like to give out too much on here in case my pots read this blog!) Of course if they did, they would have to figure out ElegantSugar is ME as that is nowhere on my profile.
Taylor: I finally watched your video. Love the way you swayed and moved your hands while singing. Very cute. I am an admitted Karaoke fanatic! Then again, I’m Asian…comes with the territory.
Sorry you had a bad pot SD date.
Unfortunately, I think we could all write a book on those…
Elegant – Asians and karaoke… i love it… I used to have a manager that was korean and every happy hour took place at a karaoke bar… it was soooo entertaining
Elegant – maybe we all should write a book on that…Title: Your sugar date did WHAT?
Oh, and I want to hear about elegant’s big date too.
Yes, karaoke is quite entertaining! I don’t even need the liquid courage. Now, don’t read this in any way that it means I can sing at all! Oh no, I’m not going to get any record deals, that’s for sure. But I do dance and get quite animated on stage. So what I lack in vocal skills, I make up for with enthusiasm!
CA Dreamin: Ha ha! I LOVE that as the book title!! Or “THAT JUST HAPPENED – Horror tales from the Sugar World”
Taylor: I will just say the date was better than other first Sugar dates I have been on. I know that doesn’t give you a lot of detail and can be interpreted many ways, but I usually won’t divulge too much on the blog about my dates. I definitely don’t mind sharing past Sugar stories, but like to keep current ones on the DL somewhat. (You know, unless it is something I cannot hold in – good or bad – and MUST share with my Sugar family!)
Elegant – Combine the two: Your Sugar Date Did WHAT? Horror tales from the Sugar World – I think it would be a best seller!
Elegant – maybe that is what it was.. I tried to phrase the allowance piece as classy as possible by saying that my main goal is to be able to finance my MA and dissertation research rather than receiving gifts. Guys seem to perk up (or at least their little one below the belt does) at seeing “allowance” and automatically equating it to = 4 times per month we meet, I pay you some $$fee we go our sep ways.
There should be a disclaimer on the site not only for No Escorts but SDs seeking Escorts are NOT allowed to use the site
NYC SB – you’re right, it’s about 2 cocktails.. although when I was in Venice once I went to the home of the bellini in the main plaza and it was 22 euro. Well worth it, I’d bathe in bellinis if I could.
Taylor – I want to hear about your date too! & Elegant’s.
Ha ha, CA Dreamin! My story of the food-spewing pot SD would definitely have a dedicated page. Ew. I still shudder at the memory of the shrapnel of half-eaten crouton that flew from his mouth and landed in my wine glass with a ker-plunk! I was mortified and staring at my glass in utter disbelief as he kept talking and talking completely oblivious of what just happened. I felt like everything suddenly started moving in slow motion. I could see his lips moving, but all I heard was blah, blah, blah…
Nauseousness ensued.
Good Morn…err Afternoon!
Love the book title
Elegant – I don’t know why but I keep thinking of Mr. Butter when you mention the half eaten crouton flying into your wine glass…was it him?
Elegant – OH that is classic! I really think we should do this…of course, names / locations would be changed to protect the guilty!
NYGent – would that cover us from potential law suits?
DC SB – Belinis … I love Cipriani’s for that … YUM
its restaurant week in NYC… YAYYYYYYYYYYY
photogirl!!!: Oh my gosh. How RIGHT you are. It WAS Mr. Butter! So imagine my complete shock and horror when not only was I presented with a man who looked nothing like his photo and came with a smile that shouted, “MOVE OVER PARKAY!”… in addition to the added bonus of his built-in food sprinkler!! Ugh. I am feeling light-heaeded now thinking about the whole thing…
Elegant – i’ll take some heat for this BUT I plant disinformation – say I’m at Cigar Bar on blog but i’m actually at Brady Library, or I’m at Giants game but I actually went to Jets game or he’s 5ft 9in but really 6ft 1in or change lunch to dinner or last week to this week (hopefully sugar community doesn’t mind too too much) BECAUSE I don’t want someone in Cigar Bar looking for me and finding me.
Yes it is a lie BUT believe it or not but I found out a SB’s identity because I was at the same location as her at the same time, a simple excuse and $100 can get you far. Of course I would never divulge her or his identity and maybe I shouldn’t have done it but curiosity got the better of me.
All that time spent speaking to spies. Yes I am devious and you may actually be speaking to me and not know it’s me.
Btw I have never met anyone in person from the blog and I just have an overactive imagination and everything I write is a lie.
Peace
SBJason – good luck
CaliSB – hope things turn out well
Taylor – nightmares pass with time
NYCSB – any time you wish to cross over to the dark side of the force darling – also Koreans and church, Koreans and kimchi, koreans and drunken party night at LA nightclubs the list goes on and on (no offense meant to koreans)
Keyser Soze aka Flo: Ah, I see you made it all the way through to The Basic Principles of Spy Espionage. I dropped out before that course. I could learn a thing or two from you. I just learned how to hide files by embedding them into images and then of course, how to read upside down. Still trying to find a great time to use that skill.
Koreans rule. Daniel Henney is the ultimate Hottie McHotterson in my book. I just love CRAZIANS. (Crazy Asians)
(BTW – I’m not Korean.)
Elegant Sugar – are you Flo Rida in disguise? Of couse not as the blog gods are now monitoring posting under an alias. Did you pass the test on navigating through your safe house in the dark, counting steps so you can run down or up stairs in dark or smoke, weapons caches, make up to change identity, interrogation techniques, counter interrogation (not fun btw), turning an asset and using him. The USE of these is that they are great stories for most SDs and also great drunken night stories for most entourages.
Morning/afternoon sugars.
So, things are looking up w/my father. They think the “mass” is operable and will be treating with radiation therapy. Your prayers and thoughts really do reinforce my belief in a Divine presence in this crazy world. So, back to blogging and the exciting double life that is the sugar world…
Cleo: Everyone is actually right on that. Namaste combined with a bow is a common greeting in South Asian cultures. Literally translated it means “Bow to Him/God.” There are different words used depending on the language of the people and often the words are omitted while the intent of the gesture is still implied. Some people use a bow as strictly a salutation, where others use it to convey respect, and still others hold it to convey various religious/spiritual implications. However in western culture it is loosely adapted and applied to yoga practices and spiritual meditation. As such, people have adapted it to hold these non-literal translations:
“I honor the Spirit in you which is also in me.” — attributed to author Kabir Chopra
“I honor the place in you in which the entire Universe dwells, I honor the place in you which is of Love, of Integrity, of Wisdom and of Peace. When you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, we are One.”
“I salute the God within you.”
“Your spirit and my spirit are ONE.” — attributed to Lilias Folan’s shared teachings from her journeys to India.
“That which is of God in me greets that which is of God in you.”
“The Divinity within me perceives and adores the Divinity within you.”
“All that is best and highest in me greets/salutes all that is best and highest in you.”
“I greet the God within.”
That said, these are all arguably simply attempts at translating the same concept, which does not have a direct parallel in English, although Aloha would be a good attempt.
“I bow to you. The light within me honors the light within you.”
Thank you wikipedia…and to all you fabulous sugars…Namaste.
Now, can I get a drink?! I think happy hour is starting early this weekend, lovelies.
Woo-Hoo! 9:30 AM and happy hour has begun!
KS aka Flo: The physical challenges were my favorite in Spy school and the ones I aced. Pot SDs especially love the nin jitsu demonstrations I often break into right after a night of fancy dining. Something about a woman doing a double back flip spinning ariel combo dressed to the nines impresses them greatly. They tend to get a bit nervous though when I show them how easily I can take out someone’s jugular by using a bobby pin and rubber band. Escape and Evasion 101 definitely comes in handy during a bad pot SD date.
As far as whether or not I am Flo Rida in disguise? Well, I could tell you, but
then I would have to…
you know the rest.
NYCBella – i’m glad for your news.
As you’ve delved into spiritualism, whilst a friend of mine was at Harvard Business School the ethics course had a case study of the Parable of the Mountain Climber. The western mountain climber had spent 2 years training to solo climb a mountain. Halfway up the mountain he encounters a monk at altitude, hungry and without cold weather equipment who asks for help. The climber knows that to help would require giving up his mission in the short term at least and maybe forever so he says ‘it’s your fault you’re here so badly equipped there will be someone else to help you soon’ he climbs to the top of mountain and comes back down. He asks what became of the monk but no one has heard of him and the climber questions his obligations and his morality. It wasn’t my fault, someone else can help? The two years and cost was not a sacrifice worth making? How can I value reaching a mountain top over a human life? Was that monk a dream? Was that monk someone’s father, brother, husband?
Even if it’s a parable only with no basis in fact it’s a fascinating dilemma. Btw I never went to Harvard (or did I?)
Still working hard at Hertz
Good morning!
DC- I read NYCsb’s column yesterday and it inspired me to write to some SDs at SA as an experiment.
I wrote to 9 men mostly in their late 40’s. I wrote very thoughtful e-mails that I hope conveyed some intelligence and sweetness and made references to their profiles and things we might have in common. I didn’t mention my needs at all, just theirs.
24 hours later……….3 actually read the e-mail and did not respond…not even to say “omiGod woman what are you thinking” or “no, thanks”. The other 6 have not opened the e-mail yet but I have a feeling they won’t. I do realize that it is a little too soon to make that assumption, just basing it on past experience.
Question for the SDs- do you really get that many e-mails on a daily basis that it would take up too much time to write back and say “no thanks”? Just curious. I have written back to every single man from SA that wrote me and in the very beginning I got quite a few e-mails. Now….crickets.
Referencing what IRLSD said a few weeks ago…he looks at the age, picture and scans to see if there are any blaring red flags. I think most probably do the same.
So I am trying to not get too down about this. We all have our “types” and at this site an SBs age can get them ruled out automatically, even if you look younger than your age.
So I will just go back to my life and at least I start a contract position next week for a few months to take my mind off this and my recent break-up
I still think the quality of the men at SA is far superior although I did meet 2 SDs at AM. But that was difficult in the beginning because they were not there to meet an SB. I had to warm them up to the idea. At least here the SDs usually know there is some kind of allowance involved although they may have different conceptions of what that means.
NYCBella and CA Dreamin – It should be Martini-O’clock right now everywhere!! Oh, but alas, I am sotally tober. I swear.
NYCBella – kindly have several drinks!
Elegant – it always makes me laugh when movies depict people dying within 30seconds of a knife assault. Every solider who has experienced close quarter combat will tell you that people takes 3-5minutes to die IF you slash a major artery (carotid, femur artery) and they never die quietly. My stories can be scary – good thing SD is a freak too. ok i’m off to work out and then to work and then to drink – ciao all!
Flo~hmmm…something to think on for sure.
Elegant and CA Dreamin~I’m keepin it real and ghetto in the hood today…had a friend bring a bottle of Alize Red (cranberry flavored) to a party I hosted last weekend. And while having bartended for nearly 7 years, I’ve never sampled Alize before, but I tried it a few nights ago and it was a strong version of a wine cooler. Perfect for a liquid lunch…lol.
Delyn: I honestly don’t think there is ONE particular reason as to why the SDs do/do not respond. I have heard many lines from pot SDs.
“I almost didn’t respond to you because I usually only look at 20-somethings.”
“So sorry for the delay in my response, I was at the tip of Annapurna; without oxygen.”
“I saw your letter in my box but I intentionally waited a couple of days before reading it. I thought if you saw the green checkmark too soon, you would think I was desperate.”
“I waited to write back because I like to leave my SBs in suspense.”
I also think there are quite a few “just seeing what’s out there” types of profiles too. One guy told me he read an article about SA while on a flight and he just joined “out of curiosity” and didn’t intend on writing anyone back at all. He just wanted to know what was out there and what he was missing out on, but said he would never consider being a real SD.
I asked him why then did he write back to me. He said, “Because you closed your letter with ‘no hard feelings if I don’t hear back, I’m not here to waste anyone’s time and I assume neither are you.’” Oddly enough, he felt that itself, deserved a response. ” Strange the things that make people react.
Delyn – i’m not SD but we’re friends so come comments
1 – Most SD (and SBs) set up secondary emails
2 – Most SDs (real and fake) are really busy
3 – Most SDs who respond saying no thanks then get a follow up email from SB saying x which then requires another response
4 – SDs don’t want to be rude and say not interested
5 – Darling 9 is a very low number – not that you have the time but I would think x hundred would be a better # (of course with less customization) OC has said she has clicked x thousand profiles.
Hope this helps and sorry i’m not a SD otherwise I would totally email you. love ya!
Flo is absolutely right. Law of average does come into play with these types of pursuits. But never, ever assume the law of average works while playing roulette. Total gambler’s fallacy.
I think an original email makes an SD go “wow that was thoughtful” then he looks at your profile and determines whether he wishes to pursue this further. I do not get many “thanks for the sweet email but no thanks” usually if there is no interest then i dont hear back. I think key is to target those profiles that fit what you “bring to the table.”
but then again what do i know? I have been lucky with this which by no means makes me an expert
Oops, sorry about the bold-ness of my last post. Meant to just bold DC’s name ….
Fol- hi sweetie! You are right of course. I’m just in a pity party sort of mood. I’ll get over it. I am in Seattle and I think I have written to almost every SD that has an orange profile over the last 8 months so x hundred is not an option unfortunately. Writing to men out of town is going a little too far I think for someone my age.
And thanks Elegant, you made me laugh! Too funny, although probably too true as well.
Flo – the dark side huh … do you guys have a dominatrix cave there? lol
oops again…mean’t Flo not Fol. Can’t type this morning for some reason
NYC SB: By virtue of your personal Sugar experience and your ability and willingness to express in writing your stories, I would say you have special knowledge beyond what is average. In other words, I consider you an EXPERT.
Elegant – a compliment from you is like Mr Buffet or Mr Paulson telling me I am a good trader
thanks
NYCBella – YAY about your Dad! have a drink for me… I need one right about now
Delyn – I absolutely agree with you. Honestly, I have yet to see a single SD write me a thoughtful (no matter how short) message that included references to my profile – but I give them the benefit of the doubt (they’re very busy etc) and respond anyway. However I have written a couple of pot SDs very cute, witty emails only to receive a *maybe* 10% response rate.
On the flip side though, I used to respond to every SD that wrote me saying thank you for the note, that I did not think we would be compatible for one another & received really rude, mean responses in return. So I stopped doing that.
Perhaps that’s it..? But those were only a few, extreme cases.
As for the age question- Delyn & Elegant I’ve definitely seen my share of SDs who only date 30+ and wouldn’t even consider a 20 something SB (might be a minority, but they definitely exist!)
Also, I’ve had a lot of SDs not consider me because I’m lower 20s while they want at least mid 20s + – I think age is really just a number and shouldn’t be considered a deciding factor off the bat, but I digress..
DC and Delyn: I intentionally blend something in my profile description that forces them to reference my profile. So those who write with that reference get extra attention from me. They actually tell me they thought it was cute and gave them a challenge. Perhaps try that! An example would be (and this isn’t mine, but just to give you an idea):
“I love four syllable words. They make me smile! Can you think of a unique one? If so, put that in the subject line when you write to me. Even if we don’t end up in an arrangement together, doesn’t it feel good to know you made a beautiful woman smile?”
That’s a cheesy example, but you get it.
NYC SB: Woah. Those are hella BIG shoes to follow! Ha ha!
My age hasn’t been an issue for me at all. I win them over with my mad numchuck skills and Karate Kid stance.
Elegant – aww that was cute
Has a guy ever messed up and sent a 3 syllable word? Haha. Awkward.
Speaking of awkward, a pot SD just told me he’d like to meet me for lunch at the bowling alley.
Don’t be jealous ladies, he’s all mine.
Elegant – In what part of the country are you? (If you don’t mind)
DC – WOW, that is such an upgrade from the Walmart Food court…that’s all I ever seem to get! You get food AND entertainment!
Happy Friday Sugars!
Deylan (see I CAN type your new Iddy), not sure what Flo was stating about me clicking x thousand profiles. Can’t make sence out of that comment.
Maybe she was talking about what I have mentioned before. How to gain visability and increase your emails or views:
1) Log in several times a day to SA
This keeps you in the currently logged in loop.
2) View the New SD profiles
Click on as many as you find interesting (Orange first)
The blue ones may have expired and will go Orange in the next
few days or weeks. They then can see “who’s viewed’ them.
Also view the Recently Logged in Search and view profiles.
3) Freshen up your pictures or just move the order of them.
Typically do this on a Monday or a Tuesday. You never want your
profile to be pending during peak days like Thurs – Sunday.
DC: Note: That isn’t what I have in my profile. That was a cheesy example! I love words and an intelligent man, but I’m not looking for an Entomologist!! Ha Ha!
Oh, and I am SO JEL right now. If you come back and tell me he let you order extra cheese on your chili dog, I am SO NOT speaking to you anymore! Hmph.
*Sidenote: I love to bowl!
CA – Way better than Wal mart- nachos and hot dogs, cheesy mismatched decour, smelly bowling shoes and Oldies playing in the background. So sensual.
How will I be able to contain my inner sexual tigress? rawr!
DC SB – about the bowling alley… that is funny. I recently photographed a wedding where their 1st date was at a bowling alley! Of course their engagement photos were also done at the bowling alley. Interesting couple.
Elegant – I thought so!!! Poor guy deserves a full page…maybe two in the book!
DC: be sure and practice the landing after release. Always land at 7:00 o’clock! ALWAYS. Not sometimes. But ALWAYS. Foreplay at its best!
DC – LOL Rawr!!!
Listen Elegant, not only do I plan on getting extra cheese on my chili dog but I ALSO expect to get some fries on the side.
Watch out now!
Maybe I’ll even be treated to a small soda. But I don’t want to come off too greedy on the first date..
CA Dreamin: I am on the east coast! But guess what? You guys just might be graced with my numchuck skills at your CA meet!
I am really going to try to make that meet…
In all seriousness, I wouldn’t be opposed to lunch and bowling as a first date. It’s playful and non-threatening. I am very competitive too so it’s fun to really challenge them. I mean, I would go bowling on a REAL date so why not a Sugar one. Now, if he wanted to do this ALL THE TIME, I would say, “Eh. Not so much.”
Trust me, I won’t deny I have very expensive champagne and caviar tastes for sure, but I never forget my roots and bowling and a cheese dog was a treat for me growing up.
photogirl Haha. That sounds very unique. But like I said earlier, bowling alleys are synonymous with aphrodisiac. I wouldn’t be surprised if they had a wedding suite that was bowling alley themed, and they role played “so what size shoe are you?” “12″ “oh my!” “you like big balls or small ones?” “BIG!”
CA
maybe if I do some claw-motioning and rawring he’ll ask me out for a second date. I’m thinking chuck-e-cheese. Oh, the possibilities..
Elegant I’m going to practice tonight. I need to study up, I cannot let this SD slip out of my paws! (in keeping with the tiger theme)
Elegant – Problem is, it’s not a bowling date. It’s an eat lunch at the bowling alley date.
Oh, fml.
Ps if you’re on the East Coast WHY are you not coming to our DC meet? No excuse.
DC: then please don’t forgot to spitz 2-3 squirts of Sex Panther on your wrists. 60% of the time, it works ALL the time. It’s a formidable scent.
AAAH, I get it. Lunch at the bowling alley and NO bowling??? I do protest! Is he just teasing you? Next, he will take you to the state fair and tell you it’s okay for you to speak to the Carnie’s, but don’t get on any rides!
When/Where is the DC meet??
ELEGANT OMG I LOVE THAT QUOTE.
60% of the time, I say it ALL the time.
I have no idea.. I haven’t even responded. I’m tempted to respond but I can’t decided If I’m going to keep up the joke, or seriously tell him that’s about the craziest thing I’ve heard-
I’ve considered giving him an excuse like “oh I work so I can’t do lunch in the daytime” and see if a) his nighttime choice is WAY better or b) see if he says, oh we can do lunch at the bowling alley on the weekend!
DC meet – we haven’t come up with the next date, we were trying to schedule it around Gemini and Gail’s schedules – I will have to get with VA. But last time VA, ESB and I met up (and this time 1 of my gfs who wants to join the Candyland adventure that is the Sugar world is going to come as well). I think if you promise SDN a free feel he’ll also come along.
Haha.
Next month though, definitely.
Photogirl: Could we please schedule a photo shoot at the bowling alley for my new SA profile pics? I’m thinking about the red, white & blue shoes (add in stains for maximum appeal) and then a bright orange shirt with a butterfly collar and yellow stitching, a few buttons undone and tied at the belly button. And then to keep in line with our run-in with the same pot SD, I want to get “I Can’t Believe it’s Not Gutter” stitched on the back. What’do’yousay?
DC: My new pot SD is up in your area. (ok, not IN your area, but close…felt I needed to add that before the claws come out at me for crossing into your jurisdiction! ha ha!) So, let me have the dates when you know for sure and perhaps I can schedule my trip to see him around the same time!
I’m now so curious about people’s aids. I’m thirty, what about ya’ll? I’m at a karaoke bar right now. Alone. Feel like I’m coming down with a cold. Pot was horrible becaus before even meeting, via text message, he demanded to know whether I had gotten laid last night. As if that’s his business!
Taylor: The same way I describe my skin color in the summertime as being a lighter shade of brown, I can tell you I am a lighter shade of mid thirties.
I just read an SD’s profile and it says “I’m happily married, just looking to have fun with someone else.” lol Um, hello! That’s an oxymoron of a sentence if I ever heard one!
BTW, Elegant, I love the bowling slogan!
Elegant! The world is your oyster. Also I dedicate a song to YOU now, which is “Area Codes” by Ludacris and we can change the lyrics from “hoes in different area codes” to “sds in different area codes”
K I will get w/ VA and ESB & we will start planning and you work your wonders with your SD to get him to agree to host you and voila!
Also, I hope he takes you to lunch at a bowling alley like my Prince Charming, swoon.
Taylor — I’m 26. I usually get that I look about 21 or 22. I’ve thought about putting my age younger in my profile maybe to attract more pot SD’s, but I’m still on the fence about it.. I don’t like fibbing.
Elegant – OMG I just about choked on my food! That is hilarious!!! I think you NEED to make a profile with the whole Ball & Gutter theme!
Speaking of which, Elegant we can even do a music video! Our “video girls” will be older men in Maybachs & Bentleys wearing golfing attire and we can slap their asses (I’m getting a little frisky now).
Oh and on an earlier note about messages to/from SD’s. I typically send short messages saying I liked their profile and to contact me back if they’re equally as interested. There are too many profiles, especially fakes, in CA for me to take the time to send personalized messages to each SD, especially when 90% won’t respond anyway. I save my longer/personalized messages for second or third replies, because I feel that if the SD is interested in me he will respond no matter what my message says. Besides, my profile is pretty lengthy so they can get a good feel for who I am and what I’m looking for. But, that’s just me.
Taylor – I’m a darker shade of the mid-thirties
Elegant
Meet in europe. I’M JUST SAYING.
Taylor I was just in Europe like 3 weeks ago. If only! I was in Austria, Spain and Germany. My mom lives out there – I’m trying to find an excuse to go back ASAP.
I’m just sayin!
Taylor – I used to get to Europe a couple of times a year – I swear I’m going this year. Probably Switzerland though…I’ll let you know if I do!
Oh my gosh! DC and photogirl, you two are cracking me up! I say we definitely use the song DC is re-writing, ‘Different Area Codes’, add in ball and gutter theme and dancing Daddies!!! I love it!
Meet in Europe is A-OKAY in my book! Have passport, will travel.
Now to find sponsors to send us over there….
Hmmm.
Why don’t you propose that to BD? (That would be Bowling Daddy)
Love the “darker shade of 30-something, CA Dreamin. Ha ha ha!
Hi Lemon Torte!!! I just ate the chocolate/berry delight. YUM!
I rock at george michael’s ‘freedom 90′. I just do. About to sing ‘the way you make me feel’ by michael jackson.
in case anyone wonders…..
DC SB – I will never look at bowling alley’s the same again!
I love that song. We want video, Taylor!!! Ok, and can you get a bunch of guys shouting, “Take it off! Take it off!” We are frisky in here today. Rawr. Purrrr.
It’d clearly be a youtube sensation.. and then maybe we could even get air time on MTV & thus spawn our own reality show and later talk show which would end up with us all adopting 10 babies from different countries and saving the world by pioneering various causes.
No brainer.
We definitely need European sponsors..
& a euro meet.
Elegant – I’ll write to BD now. Let’s see what he says…… the anticipation is too much.
DC – I had a pot that offered to fly me in New York but only after I sent him 3 pictures… problem being there are 3 pictures in my profile and i am in NYC already….
I was in a bitchy mood and i called him out on it :p
DC: I had a pot S