People are getting a lot of different ideas about SeekingArrangement, and if you haven’t heard about the buzz, you might want to check out this report from “SoCalGlamourGirls” – but be warned, it may not be for the timid…
The idea of SA is simple – mutually beneficial relationships; drama free, guilt free, and, as one sugar daddy put it, “a place to be honest, flirty, and polite all at once”.
Care to share an example of an arrangement that you’ve had or always wanted to have with a sugar daddy or sugar baby?
Does anyone have any sugar in their weekend and/or near-future plans?
Ahhhhhhhhhh…. this poor girl needs some La Perla or Carine Gilson.
VC~~ Bella bella bella. You may be getting some soon enuf….But on that note…I was just informed from my bello SD that we are staying at the Four Seasons in Boston next week AND he did specifically mention a La Perla boutique right in the hotel…….so…guess what that means
Hope your afternoon was pleasant.
And as far as the question on this blog……Somehow every arrangement ive had tends to increase my collection of LP and Gilson.
HAHAHAHA… wait…. by “this poor girl” I did not mean to indicate ME… rather the girl in the video on youtube…
It’s difficult to imagine a better combination than Four Seasons and La Perla!
No “sugar” plans for me this weekend… I am recovering from my illness, and preparing for next week!
Although, that is a valid interpretation of my comment, which did not even occur to me while writing it, as I already have 10 sets of La Perla…. funny. :p
VC~~ Just emailed you…….We both misinterpreted…i thought your ahhhh poor girl was referring to the question of arrangement you always wanted to have???? Didn’t watch the video at first…but now…i get it!!!
And i will second that on you…she does need some LP or Gilson.
Ive learned…a woman can NEVER have too much LP or Gilson bella, specially when the SD is buying it for you
Buona notte to you and the others who join this fun blog topic. I am sure there will be some very very interesting posts.
NeOhio SB & VC ~ I don’t have any LP or Gilson
I need an SD!!!
BG~~ Im working on one for you too. Having problems with my Y mail…so haven’t been able to check your mail yet…..but any SDs i forward….go through the La Perla test filtration….so, that comes with the package.
Positive thoughts BG!!!!!!!
I’m feeling a bit deprived in the lingerie department
Good evening!
Been away…and have been catching up. Too much to comment on though. It was interesting to read the comments from the SDs about their marriages. Thank you for the insight gentlemen.
No sugar plans for me this weekend…
Hi photogirl!
Don’t feel deprived! If you want it badly enough, you’ll get it! Someday!
Photogirl~~ Positive thoughts to you.
Some SBs love the heels….Flat footed i stand 5′8, so as much as i love heels, sometimes it just puts me too high above my SD…..now the lingerie…with OR without heels………always works.
NeOhio SB ~ If you need to pass on any SDs in the Lower Alabama area,I will be happy to help you out
MB~~ Unf. in that demographic area, i have zero possibilities….i am sorry.
But patience is a virtue and you just never know what lurks on this site or IRL…….Hang in there….a great SD will come and sweep you off your feet.
Need some help here ladies— after a great sugar date. Dinner and drinks -fab= conversation good-attitute great.Delivered $$ with a bonus for my travel….only problem he cant kiss. I dont mean he is bad I mean he is horrid. Whats a girl to do. Other than that I really liked him. HELP!!
Yes this area kinda sux!
MB~ Unf. that is a NEXT to me…kissing is imperative to me. Shallow as it sounds, i just can’t be with someone who i don’t endulge and enjoy kissing.
Sometimes that total package just has something missing……..damn that its the kissing….
MB~~ On a serious note and not to make humor, that is totally up to you. I can’t say i have ever been in that predicament, but i am sure you will have many SBs and SDs adding their comment and 2 cents worth that can truly help you out.
I know thats why this sux!! I really liked him. He even text me ever day just to say hello. Just a quick chat during to let me know he was thinking about me.
Just watched that video….yikes. VC you are right…the poor girl needs some help with her lingerie! Now I don’t feel so deprived!
Ms Behavin… My area isn’t the best either.
About your date… I’m a sucker for a good kisser, so I know what you mean. From my experience, they don’t tend to change the way they kiss either so I am curious to hear what others have to say.
And the really bad part is kissing is ONE of my favorite things to do
Ms Behavin – I have to agree with NeOhio… kissing is prelude to so many other levels of sensual activity…. without which perhaps those can never be achieved…. perhaps you could TEACH him to kiss???? I’m not sure if being a “good kisser” is an innate talent that one either has, or does not have, or whether it is a skill which can be learnt/improved upon…
I did have a date for next week, but got an email from the jerk a little while ago. Went something like this
Him – You are coming next week right?
Me – Yes
Him – Looking forward to it. You know, I’m willing and able to give you what you are requesting.
Me – Hmmm, what are you suggesting?
Him – I’ll do for you what I did for my last SB. I’ll give you 350 per visit until we get into a rhythm.
What an A@%! At least I got a free train ticket out of the whole deal. I haven’t responded yet. Now I don’t have to figure out this guy was a jerk in person and I get to have lunch alone…yay. Oh well.
photo – YA – poor girl!
Anna Molly – Do you think maybe he was suggesting this amount prior to any intimacy? If not, then now you get to enjoy the day exploring all the great places that were suggested to you!
Just watched the video LMAO someboby please stop her!!
NeOhio SB~ the La Perla filtration test !!! hahhah
I’m 5′9″ in flats, so with heels I’m 6 feet…. not a lot of men like that!!!
VC~ Always positive thoughts!
Hey Photo, positive thoughts too!!!
Ms Behavin – Maybe he was just nervous…I think you should give him one more shot and if it isn’t any better….then, well, you know.
Evening Ladies!!!
Good lord, the girl in the video needs help! Ughh she is not projecting a good image for sugar babies. She looks like the drunk college girl. I mean I don’t own any of those fancy lingerie’s ya’ll talk about, but at least I match. Lawd ‘ave Mecry! You vets need to help her!
Ok enough ragging on the poor SoCal girl. I have a sugar-lined weekend! Dates on Sun, Mon and on Tues. I am going out to NY to meet a pot. My my how my luck has turned around since my first few months. Third months the charm ladies! JK, just goes to show you that patience IS a virtue.
In other sugar news, I’ve been talking to a gentleman who is 61! 61!!! But our chemistry is AMAZING and I am really looking forward to meeting him.
Ms Behavin–Yeesh…LoL I know the feeling. Maybe you can try teaching him by showing him. For instance, if he is one of those “rush my tongue down your throat” kinda guys, slow it down, take the lead and give him gentle but deep pecks, parting your lips only slightly, enough space for one of his lips. Do this until he realizes that’s the way you want to be kissed. If he is one of those timid kisser, use more than your lips–whoa!–I mean use your tongue or your teeth and get him to open up. Basically, take charge if the man doesn’t know how.
Nope kisses him several times. Not gonna get any better. May give him one more chance cause I really liked him and I really wanna go to our next meeting place. (shallow but true)
Photogirl – It is certainly possible and that is what I’m hoping. I don’t know what to do. Like I said I haven’t responded yet; what should I say to him? Should I just ask him flat out if was expecting more than lunch?
Nope its like kissing a fish dont know why thats the first thing that popped into my head yep a fish no hope for the man.
Sugah~ way to go !!!
Anna Molly~ I would ask him what he had in mind for the day.
Boston SB~~ Congratulations…sounds like things are really going well for you. As far as the age thing, my SD is about that age also, but he is a gem…and many times age becomes so material that you have to overlook it just being a number.
Good luck…funny…ill be in boston next week with my SD, who actually is from Providence………….Good luck…keep us all posted on the good sugar news.
One guy I date (only for fun and lust) is 54 and all my friends cant get over how hot he is. Age is truly just a #.He has a better body than most 30 or 40 year olds.
Yeah, I should ask. Something tells me he wants to skip lunch all together though. I’m emailing right now.
Anna Molly – First thought is don’t pass him off just yet. I am not sure what kind of conversations you two have had thus far. I would imagine that if he has brought up intimacy numerous times he may be expecting something more than lunch, in which case I would make it clear that is not going to happen as this is a first date. Hoping someone has a better answer for you!
Anna Molly–I had a guy suggest something similar. For thing that turned me wayyyyyyyy off about him was when he said “I want to leave my wife for you.” I’m not to keen on breaking up happy homes. Second he keeps asking me to cam. No problem except when he asks to see my legs and ass…ermm uncomfy much. That should have been the end of it but then he im’s me today saying he would like to meet and would give me 200 dollars…I say, “I think you’re missing a zero.” He types…500. Im thinking to myself, this guy doesn’t know his numbers, but play along with him. “A week?” I say, making it clear that I want an allowance of $2000 a month. “Yeah sure. I want to me on Sat.” he says. “That’s cool” I say “What are the details?” to which he replies “High heels, fishnets dress”…’Hooker’ I think to myself. “No silly, when, where do you want to meet?” “Foxwoods” he replies. “Foxwoods the casino? Are you paying for me to get there?” to which he so eloquently replies “Huh”…..”Are YOU paying for ME to get there” I emphasize. “No.” he says. X the conversation and delete from buddy list. No, courtesy for that jerk off.
Thanks for the love ladies!
NeO- What is going on in Boston next week, you’re the second sugar I “know” who is coming here..what a coin-ki-dink. I do really like him, though Im young enough to be his grand daughter. And his bod is RIDICULOUS!! I mean good lord, it’s impeccable… He’s the size of a lumberjack! haha, don’t know where that comparison came from.
MsB-Damn mama, a fish? Cold wet and slimy, don’t know if there’s much to help. Guess you can really call him a great CATCH huh…haha sorry. Corny jokes make me laugh.
Boston~~ No specific reason SD and I are heading to Boston…he has some business to do there and i love it there…was supposed to meet him in Palm Beach this week ( he has home in Prov and Palm Beach), but i got sick…so making it up in Boston…….But i love love love Boston..always great things to do.
And i can vouch for the older ones having a great bod….wow…so does my SD….although he loves da vino, he works out constantly……..Great workout partner too
MsB-Damn mama, a fish? Cold wet and slimy, don’t know if there’s much to help. Guess you can really call him a great CATCH huh…haha sorry. Corny jokes make me laugh.
Sugah lmao
BG~~ Too funny…although i do love sushi, kissing a fish is an entirely diff. story. Don’t even get me started on that. I agree whole heartedly with VC…kissing is the prelude to sensuality and to me…”its ALL in the kiss”
NeOhio SB~ A work out partner would be awesome!!! I was in Boston and Salem this summer,,, love it!
I wouldn’t want someone that kisses like a fish blahhhh,,,,
Beach_Girl~ All that sugar$ hate to miss out but yep FISH yuck!!
But on the bright side I did have one of the best meals I have ever had!!
I love Sashimi , but yes I do agree “its ALL in the kiss”
Yes …”its ALL in the kiss”
Hi Photo!
BG – Looking for you on IM
Ms Behavin~ maybe, you should try and teach him how!!! could be fun!
Boston~~ Is your 61 yr. old gentleman from Boston also??
Sadly I dont think he is teachable He does not seem to know there is a problem.
Ms Behavin~ hummmm… that is always odd,,,,when the think they are all that!
AltNicole – I am soo envious! I only have the first three seasons…I could sooo use a grey’s marathon
Welcome to the blog Rachel
LMFAO @ VC!!! She should be ashamed!
I’m with you BG – I need an SD that likes LP!
NeO- Yayyy for loving Boston, it really is a great city, just really under-rated. I think it’s for the more sophisticated person’s.
The 61 yr old is not from Boston, but about an hour away. I hope we can be work out buddies because I definitely need a motivator to work out.
MsB- Def try to teach him, but if all else fails…. :-X
Well Sugars Im turning in early…Going to be out and about it my fav city (Boston a course) Good night to you all and don’t have too much fun with out me (which always seems to happen on this blog) =p
Taz~ I need LP lol,,,, I don’t have any I have tones of LS though lmao
Taz- LMFAO @ VC!!! She should be ashamed!
Waiiiiiiiiiiiit………… I should be ashamed???? Or the poor girl in the video…… ?????
NYGent~ that is so sweet!!!!
Anna Molly: if you end up stood up but still in NYC I’ll buy you a consolation lunch. No $350 though . . .
So had dinner with a pot tonite, at a nice place (Olives in the W Hotel). Have to say I’m somewhere between ambivalent and interested. Very attractive lady, sophisticated and wordly (Turkish), but something wasn’t quite firing on all cylinders. Hard to put my finger on it but there a few too many references to money woes (mortgage, grad school, expiring lease) that I wouldn’t ususally mind but they seemed a little forced. We tentatively agreed to a second date next week, a Broadway show, but I say odds are 50/50 she’ll back out (or I will). She seemed relieved that I looked like my picture (hers was a little dated, she had to admit), and at least said I was “cute.” So I dunno . . .
NYGent~ if she hadn’t talked about her financial problems, would you have like her better? If you fell like 50/50 right now, don’t you think maybe another date would clear up things? maybe she was nervous and just kept talking? Yes you are cute!
Damn! OBVIOUSLY the GIRL on the video. Trashy… *shakes head*
hee hee… i know… was just giving you a hard time….
Video girl, is a sleaze!
It’s not that she talked about her money problems per se — she was pretty subtle about it. It’s maybe that she reminded me of someone else who was also expertly subtle at first then POW right between the kisser in a way that blind-sided me (that one was too bizarre to recount here). Probably unfair of me to associate the two, but it’s just a vibe I got.
Yes I think another date will tip the scales one way or the other so if she’s willing I probably am too. I should add that we had discussed contours of an arrangement by email, subject to confirming chemistry in person — she may have been a little disappointed that I didn’t offer to sign on the dotted line tonite, which I just wasn’t ready to do, although I did give her a little good faith gift payment toward an arrangement if we do go forward, just to convey some level of interest/seriousness consistent with our email discussions. It’s always a fine line between whether a first date gift conveys weakness or seriousness of purpose, I think different SBs react different ways.
One very bad sign — at least I consider it such — is no email or text message soon afterwards thanking me for lovely evening. So there’s a distinct possibility this was a one-shot deal, but even if so I won’t be crushed.
NYGent~ she didn’t send you an email saying Thank you? that is just rude!
Hi all,
It seems that in my search, most potential SDs have liked the fact that I work relatively close to where they live/would like to meet, but I actually feel a bit of unease about the possibility of running into them. So I’m a bit curious as to what the SDs and SBs here have to say on that matter…is it better to be removed from where one usually works/lives altogether or is being a bit close okay? Also, what would you do if you ran into your SD/SB when you were with your friends/co-workers who don’t know about this arrangement?
I agree BG…So rude, not even a text? That’s probably the easiest way to communicate nowadays. Hmpf. Sorta like waiting an hour for someone to pick you up and they just call you saying they are leaving now. Ughh I swear this I why I refuse to date someone my own age!
“Probably unfair of me to associate the two, but it’s just a vibe I got.”
That’s why we have “intuition”…… fair or not fair… we subconsciously recognise patterns of behaviours, words, actions, looks which remind us of something/someone else… listen to it…. sounds like you are!!
Boston~ how old are you? curious…
I know it is really rude not to say thank you…. Also VC is right , we all have our intuition to guide us,,, we do need to listen to it!
BG: No such email, and if I don’t get one by tomorrow I think I may jettison the whole thing. Anyone think I should, or is that too rigid a social expectation this early (or maybe she expects me to be the one to email). Somehow I think the “thank you” should be coming from her, as you suggest, but I’m sure some would disagree.
NYGent~ You took Her out! She needs to say thank you, and not tomorrow… tonight,,, or a few hours after the date!
If I had a date and didn’t like him, i would still mail him and say thank you for the drink or whatever but,,,, i did not find that we had chemistry or that we clicked that way,blah blah blah,,,, it’s easy , fast ! simple!
Hey Boston! Congrats on the new pot! It’s great to have workout partners… did you meet him on SA? or in real life…. ?
NYGent~Being raised in the South…My Momma would whoop me if I did not send a thank you for a gift. As any of our SBs from theis site would do!!I guess we just have more class.
NYGent- I def second that motion. I am big on politeness and the thank you should DEFINITELY come from her. I mean I am assuming you treated her(duh), you gave her a gift. She is just rude. If the thank you doesn’t come now, do you really think it will come later on? If not by tomorrow then kick her to the curb.
BG-I am 19
VC-Thanks chica, I met him through SA. Charming guys, all the right qualities SOO much in common that the age factor doesn’t even matter to me. That and his awesome bod. Ahhh…just thinking of him I want to speak to him now!..But alas I must wait til ‘morrow.
NYGent~ also if she can’t say thank you now, when it’s all new, what will it be like later???? does she think you owed her dinner? and the gift? I know people that never say thank you, and it never gets better..
BG: Maybe I have just gotten used to lower expectations. Here’s another one from a few weeks ago: told an SB let’s go to brunch downtown on Sunday and do a little shopping afterwards. Fine, met for brunch, took her shopping as promised, bought her a nice pair of shoes. After that she asks how much and I tell her ($750). She says “I just like to know how much something cost.” Then we go in a clothes store and she sees a top that costs $250 which she likes, but says “for $250 I’d rather have some new jewelray.” I guess she was mentally calculating $1K as a fair first date shopping spree. So we traipse all over Soho looking for the right bracelet which I buy ($150). “Can I have some matching earrings too?” Boom, another $100, so she met her $1K quota. We tentatively agree to meet the following Friday. (“I really like you,” she says). Afterward, no email, no thank you, no nothing, so I email her a few days later saying (in effect) have a nice life, enjoy the jewelry (aargh!).
Bunny NYC~ sorry didn’t see your comment… Welcome!
I think if you meet a co-worker or friend you can say he is a business associate …. or a friend… no one has to know!
If you ran into your SD when out with friends i wouldn’t say anything just a casual head nod and be on my way!!!! unless he comes to speak to you, then you can mention the above!
NYGent–Arghh….I feel your frustration. Excuse the french but WTF!?!? I guess that’s why some SD’s are hesitant when it comes to meeting and other things. Jeez……What tha hell
Boston/BG: the more I think about it (a) you’re right; and (b) I think she was secretly, though not outwardly, miffed that we didn’t sign up a contract over dinner, adn that she thinks I wasted her time. Her profile emphasized over and over that she wasn’t interested in time-wasters, and I guess a nice dinner and gift wasn’t enough.
Oh boy… ok everyone, I just need a little confirmation that I am not wrong here!
I had a dinner date this evening. I have been speaking with this pot for a couple of months off and on. I did met him on another site(which was a joke) and last week I suggested to him that he join SA. He did and thanked me as he has already seen a difference in the women here versus the other site.
So we finally agreed to meet, no expectations, just a friendly dinner. Keep in mind we had already discussed my desired allowance back when we first started talking. Dinner was nice, conversation good. I thank him for the dinner and we said we would catch up with each other online this evening.
He asks me if I like him online this evening, I said yes but reminded him what kind of relationship I was interested in and felt that he was not interested in the same. He has had one SB, lasted 6 months, no allowance given(he is married).
After him telling me that he was not able to do ‘huge’ allowance (my ideal is 2k, not much in my opinion) and offering me 500 a month I told him I wished him all the best on his search. I also said “With all do respect, it may be difficult to find a SB with an allowance of 500 a month and seeing her 3-4 times a month.”
His response: With all due respect. I had SB without any financial support that now moved to canada and another one in the works for 400 a month plus going out. Not everyone on that site is only looking for money. Every case is different. Everyone has different needs some has financial needs, some has sexual needs and some has both.
I suggested that he read the blog(again) as he is new to this and it would help him have a better understanding of what SD/SB relationships are and what SBs are interested in.
His response: I don’t need to read the blog most of them are fake and stories. There is no truth to it.
I apologize in advance if this is TMI as I know it won’t be hard for him to tell that I am writing about him…if he ever makes it here.
Some feedback please…
By the way…we have already determined we won’t be anything but friends.
NYGent~ Thats just wrong. Whats wrong with these women,They are just tossing a good one away…shame on them.You deserve much better
Ladies should we go up there and slap some sense into these girls???
Boston – very cool! I’m happy for you. I’ve heard massachusetts men are keepers!
hope it works out for the best!!!
NYGent~ wow I think that was really nice of you , but not a thank you??? It irks me when people cannot say thank you, i’m glad you told her to hit the road biatch… sorry , getting pissed, Not all SBs are like that!
wow, it’s sad that people aren’t polite anymore…not all people , but some!
Photogirl~ tell him to go back to the other site and search for his freebies there.lol
Photo~ Wow, he isn’t going to find someone, In my opinion, that wants to see someone 3-4 times a month for 500$ , no gifts , no nothing!!!
maybe he should stay at the other site and get , As Ms Behavin said “his freebies there.lol”
photogirl: i don’t think you’re wrong, just a caveat or two. You said you had previously discussed your desired allowance — did he say anything to indicate that was reasonable or in his ballpark? If so, then his $500 offer is more than ridiculous, it’s close to reneging on an implied promise. If he was non-committal about the amount before, then he may not be guility of breach of implied promise, but only of express cheapness. Of course, if he felt no chemistry then all prior discussions about $$ go out the window, since it should always be understood that all arrangements discussed before meeting are subject to in person chemistry. But if he felt no chemistry, then his 500 offer doesn’t make any sense either, so any way you look at it, his offer (for different reasons) is inappopriate.
Thanks Villa, and I do hope so!
Photo- No you are not wrong, he is an ignorant small-timer as I like to call them. And SB without no financial assistance? No allowance? That sounds like a fling/ regular relationship to me. You know she feels like she missed out. I swear these guys are better off hooking up with bar women or CL girls…. seriously.
Bunny NYC- I wouldn’t be rude. I would introduce him as a friend, because in truth that is what he is, among other things, but above all, a good friend.
MsB- HAHA FREEBIES…
On another note, I have been waiting for this guy, since 10: 48 when he said he was on his way…11:27 when he said he’ll be 20 mins….I swear, do young boys know how to tell time? He is getting an EARFUL when he pulls up to my house and a fuck you goodnight
Photo~ also you said he knew that you wanted 2k a month and he didn’t tell you that he couldn’t or wouldn’t pay that? I hate when guys play games, just stringing you along…. I really don’t like it!
I guess you didn’t get a gift at dinner either?
BostonSugahBabe ~ hahahhahh , a fuck you good night! that is priceless!!!
Sugah~does he not know to NEVER keep a lady waiting??
MsB- Apparently he doesn’t…
Ugh I am not even going to give him the courtesy of seeing me all dolled up…I am in my jammies and in bed. He got the cold shoulder text message “Don’t even BOTHER!”
BG – I can’t say that it’s a co-worker or business associate. I work in a very particular field and it becomes really apparent who is in it the moment you talk to them. My field also doesn’t beget people who tend to get very wealthy…nor are most of them very well-dressed for anything.
Boston – I do want to be polite, which is why I’m raising this as a hypothetical. However, I’m just a bit concerned about how to answer if someone asked how I know him…
Not that I have an solid arrangement in place (I have a few potentials), but I like to consider these things before hand.
Bunny NYC~ hmmm, well how old are you? how old are the pot SDs? you can say they are friends of a parent or relative? If you worked somewhere else before you can say, you know them from there… I don’t know… I am a hairstylist so I know a lot of people… And I use to travel a lot, i never had that problem!
Futhermore, that is the reason I am on this site. Chivalry dies a little more as the decades roll on. You would be shocked at how many guys my age bum rush to get on a bus, leaving ladies, young and old, to wait behind them. And having a guy hold a door open for you permitting you to go first? Forget about it! They want women who are grown, who are real, who are mature and don’t play games. What is the point of being a Lady if you are not treated as such?
BostonSugahBabe ~ I totally agree with you! chivalry is dead, or almost dead! even getting a smile at the cashier is hard to get! I usually say hi, and smile…. they have to respond right???? not always!
Bunny – ha, that’s easy. There are some many ways you meet people nowadays. Here’s a few to get you started, We met:
on the train, on the bus, at a bar, at a club, at the grocery store, at the park, thru a friend, thru a family member, bumped into each on the street, at starbuck/dunkie’s, at the pizza shop, in the mall, at a game, at the theater, at the driving range, he “hollered at me from his car window”…etc
Last one was a joke though..lol
NY Gent – His response to my allowance was neither here nor there. As I mentioned we talked off and on and when we chatted again, he wanted to meet but I told him I was seeing someone. He asked if I was getting my desired allowance and yes I was. Also, yes I did like him and I am assuming he liked me as he appeared to want to see me again. Also sent me a very nice text shortly after we left the resturant.
I know everyone is here for different reasons…and I appreciate that. But $500 a month with 3-4 dates a month is insulting.
BG – No, no dinner gift… as a matter of fact, I’ve only received a (cash)gift from one pot SD.
NY Gent – I apologize… He never answered…. My apologies… a bit frustrated this evening.
BG-Hahaha! And then when you’re “rude” to them, you’re being a bitch.
Excuse me, but you just crushed my toes trying to get on the same train, and you want my number?
BostonSugahBabe ~ I like that one Hollered at me from his car window hahhaha
Photo~ we need more SDs like NYGent. and other great SDs from this blog… But 500$ to see you 3-4 times a month is really not much…
BostonSugahBabe ~ Yes i know what you mean….
Where is SugarDiplomatSD??? haven’t seen him on!
Hello ladies. Thank goodness, And I see while I have been away the blog has been busy.
Debating whether to stay in and enjoy my sunnyD and Gr Marnier or drive around and go hunting.
Looks like I was thinking ahead of my typing. Pardon..
Ment
No longer feeling so off, Thank Goodness. LOL sheesh, if I didn’t know any better i would say my drink is getting the better of me. but it is weak and not finished. so I can only blame myself.
BG – I’m 22. The men have varied from 32 to 51. At the lower end of the scale, it’s reasonable to say they’re a friend of mine, since I do tend to hang out with older people, but at the higher end, I’m not entirely sure how to explain it. The only people I know that much older are mentors of mine and like I said, if you’re not in my field, it’s hard to fake it (I work in the sciences).
Boston – Maybe it’s just because I’m really bad at lying that I can’t think of a good cover. Also, parents’ friends don’t exactly work because I’m a bit of an orphan, which most people I know are aware of. But thank you for the suggestions, I will try to think of something for if that need arises. I did laugh at the “holler from a car” one though…that actually has happened to a friend of mine!
Hey Lady~ didn’t have time to get those files yet, it slipped my mind actually…. will do it tomorrow though, after work… are you still gonna leave it on for me
I was thinking of the same thing lately BG
Was wondering where he disappeared too.
Lady_8 ~ I would be more than happy to go hunting with you,but I’m already in my PJ’s having wine,so I’m just gonna stay here and play!! LOL
How frequently do you see your SB/SD? Is once or twice a week the norm?
I’m a student and most pots seem more interested in long weekends than meeting for a date… though, honestly, I’d really prefer the latter!
Bunny NYC~ humm I guess you have to be comfortable in lying about it to your friends, like Boston said , plenty of ways to know someone… just which one are you comfortable with!
Bunny just say he is a friend and leave it at that.If someone ask how you met, just say you have know him so long you dont really remember how you met!!
No BG it isn’t. Supposing he wanted to be intimate those 4 times a month, you would be receiving 62.5 p/hr. You’d be better off being a high class escort..
Haha…I’ve been hollered at so many times, thats a perfect way to meet losers…lol
LOL would only work if you were in Vegas with me hun. But thanks. It would be fun to go out with the girls.
Haven’t had adult time in a while.
Maybe I’m just too honest so I’m having a problem with this. But I like the line Ms Behavin suggested, so I think I will use that, thanks
BostonSugahBabe~ lol wow 62.50 an hour!! hahhahah
Lady~ you need adult time, it is hard when you have a little one at home!
SugarDiplomatSD seems like an awesome SD!!!
Bunny NYC~ that is a great way to say it too, i agree!
BG
You are right on both counts.
I haven’t had real adult time since before my son was born, which would be about.. 2 years. oo Ouch. That is just sad. LOL
And I agree with you on SugarDiplomatSD.
No to find someone like that for a SD for ourselves.
That would be nice.
Lady~ it would be yes!!!!
This SB is gotta go nite nite. Sweet sugar dreams y’all.
LOL or we could just clone him. hehe..
Night Ms B
Thank you all for the help, but I think I need to go to sleep now. I’m trying not to get addicted to this blog, but it’s a bit hard not to…lol
Just give up the fight now hun. You will soon be sucked in like the rest of us.
And good night
Bunny NYC~ you will be like all of us , coming back to see….
see you soon girl!!!!
Nite all that are gone!!!
Lady ~ it’s just you and me, so what about this cloning business…. lol
well you do have a point, I don’t mind sharing.
LOL
O and I fixed the upload files. so it should be easier for you do download
I keep forgetting that not everyone has dsl
LOL , i do!! hahahha no but you can have the clone though!!!! lol
not everyone has DSL??? your kidding right?
Sorry Lady , i’m in a mood, i shouldn’t be on the blog when i’m like this!!!
it is all good, I was in a foul mood earlier, but better now. and your mood is helping me get back to my old cheerfulness.
So go ahead and bring it on.
I wonder if we are scaring the poor man. hehe. either that or giving him an ego complex.
Lady~ the file download is not working, is it the same url?
Lady~ We shouldn’t be on the blog,,,, do you have MSN? i’ll send you my handle on email for there if you have it!!! i’m being a bad SB again!
mmm should be
mediafire.com/Lady-8
mediafire
(slash)lady-8
try that one
Oh it’s saying the server is too busy
i’ll wait til tomorrow!!!
o it let me post a url. kewl that is a first.
***NYGent:
Sorry to read about your experience with the “shopping SB”….and I do agree with the others that this Turkish SB should’ve sent you a “Thank You” note for taking her out regardless of whether or not she felt any chemistry. That’s just having basic good manners.
“Bunny NYC says:
It seems that in my search, most potential SDs have liked the fact that I work relatively close to where they live/would like to meet, but I actually feel a bit of unease about the possibility of running into them. So I’m a bit curious as to what the SDs and SBs here have to say on that matter…is it better to be removed from where one usually works/lives altogether or is being a bit close okay? Also, what would you do if you ran into your SD/SB when you were with your friends/co-workers who don’t know about this arrangement?”
***My SD and I live VERY close to each other. In fact, my home, SD’s home, and SD’s work are all within 10 minutes of driving distance from one another. SD and I both love that fact that we’re so near each other b/c this makes is easier for him to see me (he’s married so his schedule is restricted).
I do realize that there’s a good possibility I may very well run into SD when he’s with his wife or family in the area someday. It doesn’t make me “uneasy”. If I do see bump into him, I don’t plan on saying anything to him. I will wait for him to acknowledge me if he wants to…and just take it from there.
If SD sees me out anywhere w/ friends or family, he’s more than welcome to say “hi” to me. If my friends ask, I can just easily tell them that he’s just a friend of mine. The age difference b/t my SD and I are less than 10 years….so it doesn’t look “weird” for me to introduce him as a “friend”.
how is it working bg?
not letting me get the file, the site is too busy it says
tomorrow, i will try again
“Ms Behavin~389197 says:
Need some help here ladies— after a great sugar date. Dinner and drinks -fab= conversation good-attitute great.Delivered $$ with a bonus for my travel….only problem he cant kiss. I dont mean he is bad I mean he is horrid. Whats a girl to do. Other than that I really liked him. HELP!!”
*** If this is the ONLY thing that’s wrong with him, then he’s a keeper in my book. No one is perfect. Whether its sugar or traditional dating, there’s always at least one thing about the date that will bother you. And in this case, if this is the ONLY thing, then I say let it go. After all, I’m sure there is at least 1 thing about you that bothers him….but he’s letting it go. At the end of the day, for me it’s about the whole package.
that blows.
there are alot of files if it is going to be that much of a pain in the rear
I would suggest email except the audio lessons are 20m each abouts
I just watched the video…OMG. Really?!
“BostonSugahBabe says:
Good lord, the girl in the video needs help! Ughh she is not projecting a good image for sugar babies. She looks like the drunk college girl. I mean I don’t own any of those fancy lingerie’s ya’ll talk about, but at least I match. Lawd ‘ave Mecry! You vets need to help her!”
*** Yes! She needs to get her hair done, and get a matching set that doesn’t look like it came from Wal-Mart. A few trips to the gym wouldn’t hurt either….
NewTx-Not even that, she is speaking like those girls on the phone sex/chat hotlines. Ugh..I wish we could blacklist her. Totally wrong spokeswoman, honestly, and truely, I could have done a better job.
“BostonSugahBabe says:
NewTx-Not even that, she is speaking like those girls on the phone sex/chat hotlines. Ugh..I wish we could blacklist her. Totally wrong spokeswoman, honestly, and truely, I could have done a better job.”
I agree…her speaking skills are awful. But that’ll take more time to “fix”….if we can at least get her roots covered and get her some decent lingerie, that’s a beginning.
Haha! Indeed, and the person working the green screen needs some help. Ugh..just some of the things she says are horrid!
“Some of the sugarbabies interviewed say that the wives who stay in loveless marriages for the american express card are more like prostitutes than they are”
Like who the hell did they interview, who ever it was sounds dumb as hell.
I personally think they should remove that video from the blog as it is a horrible representation of SDs/SBs IMO.
I second that motion photo….I was thinking the same. “Be warned it may not be for the timid”…No it may not be for the intelligent.
“photogirl says:
He has had one SB, lasted 6 months, no allowance given(he is married).
After him telling me that he was not able to do ‘huge’ allowance (my ideal is 2k, not much in my opinion) and offering me 500 a month I told him I wished him all the best on his search. I also said “With all do respect, it may be difficult to find a SB with an allowance of 500 a month and seeing her 3-4 times a month.”
His response: With all due respect. I had SB without any financial support that now moved to canada and another one in the works for 400 a month plus going out. Not everyone on that site is only looking for money. Every case is different. Everyone has different needs some has financial needs, some has sexual needs and some has both.”
*** No, you’re not wrong in this situation at all. I’m just sorry you wasted all that time talking to this jerk. Here are my thoughts:
1) That girl he had w/o any financial support……the genius needs to realize that if he didn’t provide her with any type of arrangement, then she was his GF….not his SB.
2) I have no doubt there are girls out there who’ll be his SB for $500/month (3-4x/month). But he better be willing to compromise A LOT of looks and/or personality….b/c I can’t imagine any cute/pretty SB with a good head on her shoulders accepting that kinda “deal” from a married man.
3) Women being with him b/c of “sexual needs”….LOL! Unless a woman is fat, ugly, and smelly…..most women out there don’t have a problem finding plenty of men to satisfy her “sexual needs”! WTH would a good looking woman go to a married man for this? B/C there aren’t tons of single men available ready to f**k her? What city does he live in? *rolls eyes*
I agree with Photo and BostonSugahBabe , needs to get taken down!
NewTXSB~ girl you are funny…. And so right,,,,, thank you for making me laugh….
Good night sugars!
Good night Sweeties!!! I am turning in too…..I think I’ve blogged sufficiently enough for today.
Night Ladies and Gents!
Me three……….Good Night everyone!
Care to share an example of an arrangement that you’ve had or always wanted to have with a sugar daddy or sugar baby?
I want an arrangement that involves lots of laughter, affection, and flirtatiousness with a sprinkle of travel and other sugar goodies like an allowance and gifts. I’d also like a SD who appreciated my penchant for collecting corsets since it seems that I collect those without realizing it.
Does anyone have any sugar in their weekend and/or near-future plans?
Nope just birthday plans, ciao!
Hi everyone – well, I decided to come out of LurkMode and say hi… well, really, just to complain and commiserate if I may.
First of all –
photogirl: I am so sorry that he wasted your time like that. I am a total newbie, but even I know what the deal is around here… he sounds like a disappointing cheapskate.
NYGent: from what I have read about you on the numerous blogs, you seem to run across a lot of the spoiled brats, and that is totally lame. To not say a simple thank you? Sounds like she forgot her manners at home.
The video is so stupid it was hard to watch with both eyes open… I couldn’t help but make faces at the comp screen. I was actually embarrassed for her. It’s amazing what people will put up on these fair interwebs. Matching underwear, and for god’s sake find an editor.
And now I have a question – -
*why can’t people be more truthful in their physical descriptions? I don’t understand the concept of listing yourself as ‘athletic’ when really you are average, or even more to love. Especially if you included a picture… I can see you are not what you say you are – - it’s right there in the picture you, ya know, posted!!! It makes no sense.
I am a little frustrated. Carry on, ladies and gentlemen.
No sugar weekend for me
I have to work Bring on monday
Ok does that girl have a tatoo or is that purple pubic hair? yuck
Well I received an email back from the pot and it was just as I expected. This is what he said.
We can meet for coffee or a drink, and if there’s chemistry, find a place where we could frolic.
No, no thank you. First it was a nice lunch and now I don’t even get a meal and you still want me to “frolic” with you? Looking back at my previous emails he didn’t even send me a picture even after I asked him to. UGH! I’m still coming to the city though, no since in letting a good train ticket go to waste. With all of your suggestions I’ll have plenty to do. All I need are suggestions on places to eat.
NYGent – Sorry your date didn’t end up the way you planned or hoped. Had she been in this type of relationship before? Maybe she was nervouse. You are so sweet, I will take you up on that luch…and I’ll even thank you in advance……thank you
Potogirl – The nerve of that guy! NewTXSB is right, you can’t have a SB/SD relationship without financials coming into play. It was his GF.
Ms Behavin – I guess if there is no hope for him you should throw fish lips back.
Catching up on the previous blog and commenting on various topics:
NC Gent, I agree 100% with your comment but in my view this is only delaying the inevitable. What happens in 10-20 years when we are too old to be attractive to be attractive to pot SB? Would we not be better off to get divorced and find a long term partner who we would be happier with?
AtlNicole says: A question for the SBs: would you continue an arrangement with a SD who was no good between the sheets? Let’s say he is a great guy and very generous and you love to spend time with him, but he doesn’t do anything for you *down there* I have not run into this situation yet, but I am sure that it has come up in the past, and I am not sure how I would want to handle it.
Nicole, my guess is that many woman would continue a relationship where the sex is not good. I think the reasons would be:
- Financial benefits are more important than the intimacy
- Previous relationships have not been particularly good from a sexual perspective
Wrt to your comment, “he doesn’t do anything for you *down there* … the principal sex organ I concentrate on is the mind. I practice tantra where the key is experience the ultimate sexual journey through stimulating each of the five senses to create the maximum passion. By removing orgasm as the end goal, partners can experience hours of pleasure because every nerve is set on fire as the couple explores all the erogenous zones of each others body. The result is a mind-blowing experience!
Good morning all — just a quick check in on the blog.
NYGent — I am not surprised by the SB not thanking you. I would have to say that about 1/4 of the SBs I have an initial meet with never thank me for the money that I either spent on them or gave to them. Very good and early indicator.
PhotoGirl — you are not wrong and are justified in your feelings and reaction, especially since you told him your desired allowance.
This isn’t related to you Photogirl, but to the general comments on the blog. There are some women on SA that don’t want very little to no money. They are just looking for gifts and/or experiences they couldn’t afford themselves. Yes they will see a married man. My experience with those types of SBs are that they have had numerous divorces and they really just don’t want a relationship with a guy that will leave them alone; they have mental health issues and/or they are married themselves and not revealing it, and finally, the last category, they are hoping you will leave your wife for them. As always, you reap what you sow
Have a great weekend !
NYGent says: I think there are a few SBs — very small percentage — who truly believe that there are SDs out there that will pay 5-10K a month just for the privilege of hanging out with them. It doesn’t even occur to them that this isn’t a sufficient “mutual” benefit for $$. They tend to be the much younger, super-beautiful girls, often models who are used to being worshipped for their beauty alone. It is a combination of naiveness and/or being too high on themselves. As I say, I think they’re pretty rare, but unfortunately you and I seem to have run into a couple of them and we might well profit from some of the comments (mostly from SBs) to “toughen up.”
I swear up and down that I will never date anyone associated with modeling ever again but keep repeating the same mistake. We should see them from a mile way. What’s the old saying … play with fire, get burnt by fire. As suggested by various posters, we not only do we need to toughen up but also be less generous, less patient and less compassionate.
From now on, I’m asking for a free test drive first and changing my handle to “InsincereSD”.
Ms Behavin~389197 says:
Probly gonna get yelled at for this one….but maybe some of the SD here should move there age preference up a tad. As a SB a bit older (and some of the others here are too)—no disrespect to my fellow sisters on here of the younger age group, they seem to have it all together–but we dont seem to have some of the drama problems,and we seem to enjoy the bedroom activities.But thats just me I may be speaking out of turn…but we all get a voice on here.
To explain my earlier comment about drama, I’ve seen drama with all ages of SB but the drama with younger SB seems to be less complicated was there are less issues with financial destitution, substance abuse, children, ex-husbands, love, etc. I’m not saying that all women in their 30’s are drama queens but their drama issues can be more deeply rooted and harder to deal with.
photogirl – that was not about other women but you. He wanted to get you for less. I have already several “friends” like that. Their interest is sexual, but they cannot afford it.
Good morning all… rough night, couldn’t fall asleep till 3am! Should have come back to the blog… lol. That video is definitely horrid…. almost to a comical point. Seems that the SD’s in the CT, Western MA are a bit lacking these days. I’m thinking I should broaden my area. I wanted to try to stay close to home seeing I work full time, but now I am thinking that NY isn’t that far. i can drive to the train station and take the train in… be there in 2 hrs. I did have a guy contact me from Chicago…. said it was something about my smile. Wants to pay for me to fly out, the hotel, and said he’d give me a “generous gift” for my travel. Something in me is a bit off by this…. maybe because it’s a first meeting? Maybe he really is that busy with work that he can’t travel himself. Maybe there’s nothing wrong with it and I’m just new to the traveling relationship. Can you guys chime in on this one? Oh…. and it’s clear that there will not be ANY intimacy… he didn’t mention it, but I wanted to make it clear that I’m not that kind of woman.
NYGent says: I think there are a few SBs — very small percentage — who truly believe that there are SDs out there that will pay 5-10K a month just for the privilege of hanging out with them. It doesn’t even occur to them that this isn’t a sufficient “mutual” benefit for $$. They tend to be the much younger, super-beautiful girls, often models who are used to being worshipped for their beauty alone. It is a combination of naiveness and/or being too high on themselves. As I say, I think they’re pretty rare, but unfortunately you and I seem to have run into a couple of them and we might well profit from some of the comments (mostly from SBs) to “toughen up.”
I swear up and down that I will never date anyone associated with modeling ever again but keep repeating the same mistake. We should see them from a mile way. What’s the old saying … play with fire, get burnt by fire. As suggested by various posters, we not only do we need to toughen up but also be less generous, less patient and less compassionate.
On the first comments, I met someone about a year ago that didn’t work out. I won’t go into the details, no reason to. Recently she contacted me though, and after some thought, I did decide to spring for a dinner with her to discuss. Yes, she is a great looking girl. But she doesn’t quite play the I’m great looking so hang out with me game. But it was pretty close. She texted me a few days later about meeting. And it got into a text conversation where she finally said “you are wanting to have sex with me, but you are married, and I will not do that. You should want to help out a poor struggling college girl out of the goodness of your heart”. Playing that old guilty card I guess you could say. Told her sorry and moved on.
In regards to the comments on models. Okay, I met someone new this week that certainly fits into the model classification. In fact she is very involved in it. Everything went great, but I do have my guard up based on past experience. Definitely going to put some effort into this one because she was both hot and fun. Things went well enough to kill my interest in anyone else for right now, so I’m going to do the 3-4 meeting investment and see how it goes. I figure I should be able to see her true colors by then if things turn for the worse.
Rachel – for a first meeting, if he is really interested, he should come to you where you will be more comfortable.
Good morning everyone! Sunny and NO snow in Minneapolis today…
BostonSugah – I’ve never been to Boston, but am possibly coming there within the next few months… would love to ask you for some suggestions! Could you email me, please? villacypris @ y place
thanks!!
thanks for the advice SG2. I’ll ask him how he feels about coming to CT!
Rachel – how well do you know this guy? Have you been communicating for awhile? Do you know his real name/occupation, do you have a good sense of his motives, his honesty, his level of respect?
That being said, none of those things will matter if he is a sociopath seeking to lure you out to chicago, never to be seen again.
So, I exxxaggerate, HOWEVER – the issues of safety have been covered numerous times on past blogs, as have the issues of travel, and who should travel to whom on the “first meeting”.
Unfortunately there is no litmus test for a stranger’s character, especially one whom you meet on the internet, and about whom you know nothing, aside from what he tells you.
If you feel that you know him well enough, and you have a plane ticket, and a hotel room booked in your own name, and have your own money to fall back upon, in the event that you need to get away…. perhaps it would be okay.
If not, then ask that he come to see you first. If he won’t, he either doesn’t have time, isn’t that interested, or can’t employ his socio-plan outside of his local area.
Anna Molly & NYGent – I recommend ‘db Bistro Moderne’ for lunch – it’s close to Penn St & GCS BUT i’m sure NYGent has his personal favs. Another pot blog-mance – i’m excited! Late night for me so i’m bleary eyed. Morning all
SincereSD and I think NYGent – some models are huge fun (in general not specifically in bedroom) but are used to being fawned over. As I posted before this is your male fantasy & you don’t like when reality intrudes & you keep on repeating patterns. If you wish to keep your fantasy then realize that reality can intrude. I don’t mean to be preachy or harsh but a psychologist would have a field day with this psychosis.
awwww….. hey Flo Rida!!!!!!!
“I don’t mean to be preachy or harsh but a psychologist would have a field day with this psychosis.”
I was just thinking the same thing…. this whole blog/site would be a wonderful study into human psychology/psychosis…
VC… hilarious post! however i get what you’re saying. We did communicate rather frequently for a while. I do know his real name and his occupation. BC came back clean. Just states he’s too busy with work… and he’s married. We’ll see what he says about trying to come out here. I plainly just asked how he’d feel about coming to CT to meet me as it will make me feel more comfortable. Nothing to send out a red flag to him.
hahahahah….. good…. i didn’t want to “creep” you out…. if you did a background check on him, and have spoken extensively, it would probably be safe for you to go…. sometimes we have to take that “leap” of faith or trust in the other person… when/if you do that, only you can decide….
Morning sugars and I see we have another blog so here’s my catch up:
photogirl: You are not wrong. He sounds like a time water to me
NYGent: You’re so sweet. Why can’t I find one like you where I live(frown)
SouthernGent: Grats on your pot. Got my fingers crossed for you
Hey NCGent! Why can’t I find a clone of you where I live either. To me thank you is manners even if someone just holds the door open for you. You would hear thank you coming me till you would say stop thanking me already….lol
You forgot to say hello to me, too.
Darn I forgot to answer the blog question
A sugar arrangement I like to have is a SD who is fun, sweet, nice and a mentor in addition to being a benefactor. One who would teach as well as assist and take pride in my growth. A romantic would be nice too.
Aahh one can dream
VC – I got an early morning flight back to NY so tired. i’m skipping lunch but will meet friends at calle ocha for drinks at 2pm (long story). I have 2 guests in town so museum in aft then maybe work evening (argh) or I might be able to blow it off & have fun. Giants suite tix on sun. i’m tired. glad you are better.
Rachel – the 1st trip has been discussed many times. don’t share a cab from the airport, don’t get a limo, if poss have a spy in the public meet (but that’s excessive), don’t drink unless you know it’s untampered, no alone time on 1st meet, escape route, safe txts to home base on scheduled basis (who know where you are & whom you are with) & you should be fine.
SincereSD~
As a bartenderd I do under stand all ages can have drama. I have a hard time wrapping my mind around it,because I am one of the few I know with out it. I am in the 40 age group, have no kids, a job I enjoy, on debt,no ex,have not been in love in ages…so I really have nothing to fuss about. I’m on SA looking more fore a playmate that I can travel with and have fun with.I’m just not looking to get married and it seems most men on the other “dating” sites are very interested in that.
Thanks Flo Rida! I’m happy to be feeling better as well… hopefully a nice powerwalk in the sunshine and uhhhhhh 40 degrees will help, too!
Hope fun trumps work this evening… and you can get a nap in there sometime…. enjoy the museums, fun!
And… I do believe the giants are coming to play the vikings in early january 2010…..
RedMaru… you summed that up well…. one could dream he exists!
One can dream….but I still like the clone idea!! then we can all share in the wonderfull SD we have here on the blog!!!!
All – quick q to SDs – if SB profile has spelling or grammatical errors (& I don’t mean split infinitives) do you care – are less intrigued. I realize SDs are visual & chemistry may be more important than writing skills but isn’t it a sign of intelligence? Or do you like a profile with spelling mistakes?
VC – r u volunteering for the blog pyschologist role
Dreams become reality…..
Flo Rida —- not explicity, nor publicly — not educationally qualified for that role…. other than the abnormal psych class and the thesis I wrote on the differences between organised and disorganised serial killers, with some help from people at the fbi’s behavioural sciences unit….
the human psyche is a fascinating place!
Ahemmm – methinks Anna Molly get’s first dibs.
VC – i’m not a big american sports fan (soccer, cricket, rugby) but I like the live spectacle. reminds me of a female i-banker friend who grew up in SD & went to a world series game & superbowl but when I asked her who was playing she couldn’t remember (hint Padres likely playing Yankees). Those tix were wasted.
I remember…. was just trying to lure you to my local area….
Perhaps she was having too much fun in the box drinking champagne to pay attention to the games…..
Good morning!
Thank you everyone for the feedback.
Flo – I know your questions were directed towards SDs but a pot recently shared a profile with me of one of his pot SBs. I was floored and a rather disappointed as her profile was seriously lacking in the area of grammer and how she carried herself in a written manner. She was cute…but not gorgeous and very young. Said he was curious and intrigued…still don’t quite understand it but he had already met her and said she was pretty cool and was a very nice person.
I agree…. I think a profile that has typos and poor grammar are directly related to someone’s intellect. This is where you are supposed to put your best self out there to all potentials. If you don’t care enough to make sure it’s right, why should someone assume you won’t be the same in your relationship. You can’t halfa*s it.
NYGent- I think she should of sent a thank you short after .. i agree YOU took her out therefore the thank you should come from her first. I know when i go on a date I always say thank u shortly after i leave them.
Also i do agree the girl in the video does need help. Matching would help alot. LOL
Boston~ i hope you have a great weekend sounds like u are going to have fun.
Bunny~ If i were to ever see a SD out and about with their family i would just walk right past. maybe a slight nod… I don’t want to cause any problems and i am sure there will be txting later.
Being discreet is important …a nod and a smile goes a long way. After all you both know what the smile means
I think i need to move East if i am going to have any luck finding a SD…. LOL…
Photo~ as for your adventure with the guy that only wanted to give $500… granted he maybe right that there are some girls out there that only need or want that much. But i think you did the right thing by telling him that u were looking for more.
A smile does go a long way. Just walk by without a smile. He will txt you saying how nice you looked and you can then say that he looked nice too, but you didn’t want to give him attention with his family there. He will appreciate the discretion and adore you even more because you just proved your word true.
Anna Molly: Sorry to hear about your “breakup.” Flo Rida’s suggestion of db Bistro Moderne is a fine one. We can meet there at noon on Tuesday, ok? It is 55 w. 44th St betw. 5th and 6th in the City Club Hotel. I posted my email two blogs ago if you don’t have it . . .
Anna Molly~ Now we are all verryy jealous ta the fact that you get to have lunch with NYGent…so please play close attention because we ALL want details when you get back LOL
Hot Damn just got email from a Dr. in N.O. wanting my # we have email several times. I’m so excited!!
Hello sugar blog!
Care to share an example of an arrangement that you’ve had or always wanted to have with a sugar daddy or sugar baby?
Heh. To put it bluntly…. I want someone I really connect with and have great chemistry with. I want all that fun and razzle-dazzle of when you just start dating someone…that first 3 months in a new relationship where everything is starry-eyed and fun and the fun just doesn’t stop!…but all condensed down into a SD/SB relationship. I want a guy who will spoil and pamper me with an allowance and gifts, and someone I can spoil and pamper with myself and other gifts…Basically I envision us spending our time together having a ball, always enjoying our time together and looking back on it thinking it was awesome and looking forward to our next meeting together.
Oh wow. And I couldn’t even watch more than 10 seconds of that “video”. I now have 10 seconds of my life that I cannot get back and I will not waste more of it on her.
Good Morning Everyone! Happy Saturday…
An Example of an arrangement that I would like to have with a Sugar Daddy…
We would both be single, not more than 10 years between us in age. He would find my intelligence and beauty to be the first thing he noticed, but is knocked over the head with my silly “blonde” side and down to earth nature. I would of course be blown away at his business brilliance and hidden little boy charm. Chemistry and mutual adoration would be, no… WILL be my perfect arrangement.
Stephan, I found the video clip to be very tongue in cheek funny! I loved it. I have read the other comments and it is sad to hear that the video was taken so literally and she is being picked apart. Kudo’s for that brave girl for even putting her face out in cyber space. It’s not like she is giving out her profile number or phone number! lol
long weekendd..withh no planss.
i need a SD : (
Hi Katiee! Welcome to the blog. Yah, no plans here either. But I am sure the blog can entertain you. I am going to go get my nails done to try to cheer myself up. Polish change and girl talk with everyone in the salon is always a fun diversion! I will be back later. Katiee, where are you from? Im in LA.
Heyy OC! Most def. Im thinking of doin a little bit of shopping to cheer myself up..: ) im down in SC.
I hear you katiee… no plans here in CT either. definitely go shopping. I’m going to cook a wonderful tuna steak. I did the manicure last night.
Tuna steak.never had it Rachel i bet its good. yeah i may stop and get one of those too. : )i need a night of pampering.
Hi Everyone! I’ve been a lurker for awhile and decided its time to join. No plans here, just enjoying the rainy weather here in NY. I “might” meet a pot sometime tomorrow. But I’m not sure, they always seem to disappear.
I am so behind on the blog!
NYGent, I think the traditional thing to do in the old days may have been for the guy to call and thank the girl, but in modern dating and sugar-dating, the norm appears to be for the girl to call if the guy paid. I am not sure every SB knows that though, so I would give someone the benefit of the doubt and if interested text them or something. As for the girl who used you for gifts, I think real SDs experience plenty of getting used, to the point of almost getting used to getting used. I could enumerate some stories, but then you’d all think I was an idiot for letting myself get used so easily.
Photogirl, the guy is looking for a fling or mistress, not an SB. I would clarify the difference. Plus, having seen your pics, $2K is way little for you to ask for.
BostonSugahBabe, if he’s late, it’s a sign he doesn’t respect your time. From my experience, that will never change. Once I met with an SB who was over 45 min late to the first date. I liked her, but she was late every time we met. No matter how much I stressed the need for her to respect my time, she never changed. Once I had to wait an hour in the parking lot for her to get dressed. Learned my lesson. Next time someone is late to a first date for no good reason, NEXT!
The “holler from a car”: I know a guy who married someone he met when stuck in traffic and he hollered at her.
Flo Rida, I notice bad grammar/spelling, and have conluded that it is a bad sign in an SB. It either shows lack of intelligence/education or not caring enough to proof-read her profile. But it has not been a deal-breaker so far.
Gemini29, I love your description of what you want!
SincereSD, I think I need to learn tantra.
After catching up on the blog, my curiosity on watching the vid has vanished. I am pretty sure I can do without wasting my time watching the filth.
And I am reminded why I don’t straighten my hair that often. D@mn takes forever. Well on to stage 3 I hope I can be done before my son is due to be picked up. lol
Lady 8….. 3 step process???? What kind of straightening do you do? GEEZ! You must have some crazy arm muscles!
LOL. I have very curly hair. usually I just wash it put leave in moisture in scrunch it, pin it and then an hour later take down done.
But to straighten I have to first blow dry straight, then use my straight iron, then to give it a tiny curl mostly for body I use my huge curl iron. Hence 3 step process.
I like my curly hair, but I wish it was easier to straighten.
WOW… sounds like a lot of work.
Good news all… made a date with a potential SD for beginning of the week. Thankfully he understands the concept of SD/SB
any SD free tonight in the Anderson area.boreddd out of my mindd..
Good luck rachel,
Yes it does. is why I don’t do it very often.
“NC Gent says:
October 24, 2009 at 9:21 am
There are some women on SA that don’t want very little to no money. They are just looking for gifts and/or experiences they couldn’t afford themselves. Yes they will see a married man. My experience with those types of SBs are that they have had numerous divorces and they really just don’t want a relationship with a guy that will leave them alone; they have mental health issues and/or they are married themselves and not revealing it, and finally, the last category, they are hoping you will leave your wife for them. As always, you reap what you sow”
Very good point! People always have reasons. “Everybody’s Looking For Something” … A woman may say she doesn’t want any money or gifts. So she is looking for love, and in reality that means she wants the guy to leave his wife or spend lots of time with her. Perfect love leads to commitment, otherwise there will be a big drama.
Regarding women who accept low allowances. Sugar dating and traditional dating have different rules. Even if you take $100 – there is a monetary component involved, and the value of the deal will be $100. How strong is the chemistry – doesn’t matter. Low allowances do not help much but make you cheap. Why are the girls who agree to see married men for low allowances so cheap? Is that their actual market price or they have some hidden agenda?
Good point Margo about ulterior motives perhaps – hope everyone is having a sugary weekend
Margo~most allowances are set by expences,I happen to live in an area that does not have a high cost of living.Yes I’m at the beach ,but the rents down here are not that much.I of course would never except a $100 deal.I dont base my allowance on if he is married or not either.Mine is base on extra play $$(shopping and travel) for me.I’m sure everyone has there own idea of what they need to keep them happy.The cheap ones just tend to make it harder for the rest… but you always get what you pay for. Maybe the guys should remember this.
Flo — I pass by SB profiles that have lots of typos and poor grammar. I prefer intelligent women who actually care! One or two small typos are no big deal.
Katie — what is your profile number? I will be near Anderson on Tuesday evening — maybe we could catch dinner – I hate eating alone!
I’m trying to not read the blog as much, but as you all have said, it is quite addictive. So I’m back here again…lol
I have a second date tonight but right now I just wanna take a nap…
Bunny NYC – take that nap as the weather has been awful all day. i’m going to a party tonight-i’m excited I don’t have to work! Yay.
NYGent – That sounds great! I will find your email and get in touch. What do I need to wear? Do I need to dress up or can I go casual?
I am sure you will have a great time with NYGent — he seems like the perfect gentleman
Best wishes NY Gent!
Hey blog family! Not much happening on my end of things either…rain rain rain all day long!
NY Gent – I think it is so nice of you to take Anna Molly out! I hope you two have a stellar date!
Anna Molly – Why did I get visions of him thinking a dark corner of Central Park would be a nice place to “frolic”? Ick. At least you found out beforehand! And you get to meet NYGent!
Anna Molly – do I understand it right, that the guy you were supposed to meet paid for your ticket? Have you met him before?
Margo – We shared a few emails and what not, but I never met him in person.
Sorry to hear about your situation AnnaMolly
Is it my computer screen or does that girl in the video have a big purple spot on her side and something purple in her panties?
NCgent:400264 dinner would be great.
hope you get this : )
lisa – I’m assuming both are probably tattoos. I think I’m more horrified by the canned script and the mic she’s holding…I keep wondering if she’ll break into song and then it will become the SB-wannabe Karaoke hour!
She sounds like she’s in grammer school reading an essay, lol
Anna Molly – db is full of biz types so NY smart trendy but not glamorous & not too casual is appropriate. Clearly NY Gent should have definitive work though.
All – hey how about an outdoor toga & lingerie & CL party in the Hamptons in the summer (beats this yukkiee NY rain). If we wear masks as in the Tom Cruise – Nicole Kidman movie I could even come with or sans SD. Anyone interested? This party i’m going to had better be good as my hair is a mess.
Flo Rida- I’m down for any Hamptons shenanigans…and masks sound awesome!
If anybody wants to email go ahead
I down for the hamptons too!!
Hey sugars! How is everyone tonight?
Hey girl! I’m fine, still recovering from being sick…. so chilling at home… how are you ??
Aww, hoping for a speedy recovery for you villa.
Did you get my email?
Thanks so much! I just checked and there it is in my spam folder! I’ll reply right now…. sorry! Did not see it all day….
Lol No Prob hun! I need to eat…I will reply afterwards
Hi everyone!
I have been taking a break from the blog- I became much too addicted, and I have been a busy, busy lady as of late!
Oh,
Flo- You MUST be referencing “Eyes Wide Shut.” I swear, unintentionally, I stumbled upon a “Brooklyn edition” of an “Eyes Wide Shut” party. It was insane- bizarre, creepy, yet somehow intriguing? Everyone was wearing those masks, lingerie, and there was a video booth. My, what these eyes saw happening in that video booth!
Great idea, though, for our own get-together.
p.s. will be emailing you back shortly.
Liv – miss ya babe – wish I could send u pics of a lingerie party I went to last year sans masks – it was sick (no sex allowed though which was probably a good thing)
Is everyone in for the night?
Should we talk about the girl in the video again? I don’t think the purple is a tattoo or pubs, I think it from the green screen they have..real sucky editor
In for the night….bored so was browsing SD profiles for “entertainment”…and came across this “winner”. I got a laugh out of this….maybe someone else will too. I wonder why all the hot girls aren’t just throwing themselves at this “catch”. *rolls eyes*
“THE GIRL IN FIRST PIC IS THE GIRL I SPENT 2 AND A HALF YEARS WITH, SECOND PIC IS A GIRL I SPENT TIME WITH AND WE GOT ALONG GREAT!! SHE IS KARLA GRIFFIN (MODEL) GIRL IN SECOND PIC IS WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR!!WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR IS A SINGLE, MUST BE VERY VERY HOT…FRIENDS FIRST…NO DRUGS AT ALL!! I AM LOOKING FOR SOMETHING SENSATIONAL. 28 TO 38 SMALL SIZE.LARGE BREAST (FAKE IS A PLUS) YOU MUST BE VERY HOT!! PICS MUST BE SENT AND WHAT YOU ARE JUST STRAIGHT FORWARD SO NO ONE IS PLAYING GAMES!! I AM TIRED OF HEARING FROM FRIENDS.YOU COULD HAVE ANY GIRL YOU WANT.YET I AM ALONE. MAYBE I AM JUST TO PICKY WHO KNOWS. I AM 47 ALL ITALIAN IN GREAT SHAPE, HONEST, INTELEGENT, FUNNY, RICH, I LIVE IN A LARGE CUSTOM HOME BY MYSELF (SOMETHING LIKE YOU WOULD SEE ON CRIBS)
I HAD THIS BEFORE WITH A GIRL FOR TWO YEARS BUT SHE WAS A FAKE AND JUST A PIG. I AM LOOKING FOR CLASS AND YET A WILD SIDE TO HAVE FUN!!”
Ny Gent why are theses women doind this to you It actually makes me soooooooo mad! makes no damm sense that broad didnt Even send or say thankyou! argggggh
ok my next comment is to you are you attracting these ungrateful bunnies? like I said before you and Sinsere?Insinsere need to go on a Sb Tour so you know how to pick a Quality person!
I mean I am really insulted myself because 1k is pretty close to what my allowance is and that would really be put to good use and Definelaty not taken and give you my @$$ to kiss!
she just basically did a test drive on you !!!
You want me to come up there??? I will bring my kickk butt purse!! lol
again you and some of the other SD need to have these pots you find go through us her on the blog and if you get a 85%yes rate then Contuniue on
NewTxSB – Oh you should see some of the profiles of the SDs from my area….its enough to make a girl rather depressed and wonder if she’ll ever find anyone of quality near her!
I found this line hysterical though: “YOU COULD HAVE ANY GIRL YOU WANT”
Oh really? Any girl Iwant? AWESOME!
Yayy people!!..oh the subject of abhoring profiles- I went to the profile of someone who faved me and saw his bare naked ass. I read no further…anyone have some spare eye bleach I could borrow?
“SouthernGent2 says:
I swear up and down that I will never date anyone associated with modeling ever again but keep repeating the same mistake. We should see them from a mile way. What’s the old saying … play with fire, get burnt by fire. As suggested by various posters, we not only do we need to toughen up but also be less generous, less patient and less compassionate. ”
*** Sounds like you already know what the problem is and also know the solution….just need to put it in action.
In my personal opinion, there is absolutely no reason to take a potential SB shopping on the 1st date and spend $1K on her right then. IMO that’s ridiculous! The 1st date should a dinner or lunch just to see whether or not where is chemistry IRL. You should’nt need to “prove” anything to a potential SB on the 1st date ….she should already know by your name/company/occupation etc whether or not you’re who you say you are (ie. if you have the $$$).
Now after the 1st date, if things went well and you want an arrangement…bring it up. Once the arrangement is official, then feel free to take her on shopping trips. If you’re not 100% sure and want a 2nd date, then after the 1st date, you can send her a gift if you really feel the need to get rid of some $$…but YOU pick out the gift and send it to her. Any SD who takes a POTENTIAL SB shopping on the very 1st date, spends thousands of dollars on her, and then feels used when she dissappears afterward with the $$/items, has only himself to blame.
Be generous AFTER the arrangement is agreed upon. The $$$ isn’t running away is it? You’re looking to “arrange” a deal here…..instead of your penis or your heart….allow your brain to guide you when making decisions regarding potential SBs.
“BostonSugahBabe says:
Yayy people!!..oh the subject of abhoring profiles- I went to the profile of someone who faved me and saw his bare naked ass. I read no further…anyone have some spare eye bleach I could borrow?”
*** Yikes! *hands you some bleach*
Well said NewTx, though the pot I am seeing wants to give me a gift on the first date. Plus we are having lunch and spending the afternoon at a museum. He says he wants to give me a gift because he cares. IMO I don’t think that it is a need to prove something so much as it is a show of affection. Granted 1k on the first date is excessive, but I think if an SD wants to give his potential a gift to express his interest/affection,then that should be okay.
Texas girl I gotta give you a high five!! you hear my frustration with them!
by (SD’s) picking up a person that Expects a 1k shopping spree you are asking for 2 things Trouble and ungreatfulness!
My only exception for this is unless the lady hasnt the wardrobe that is nessecarry then it would be plausiable, but even then it should be such as once you know for Sure she is of sound mind
I hate to hear when a kind SD gets taken for a swim!!
Looks like I missed a bunch in the few hours I did my house cleaning. So I see this weather is affecting everyone’s day. I think it would be a blast for the get together!
I have to admit… I’m bummed that the yanks game was postponed tonight
I also agree NYGent… the sb should have thanked you… even if it was a quick txt or email. It’s basic manners 101. But… you need to think about if you want to be with someone like that…. if she treats you this way now, how will she be able to make you happy in a relationship. The ladies may be right… maybe she’s new and isn’t in tune with this ordeal…. or maybe she was in shock from being with a true gentleman of your caliber. If I were in your shoes, I would email or txt her asking how she likes her gifts. That will prompt her to respond in kind and you will know from her response if she is interested in you for gifts or for you.
Flo Rida says: Giants suite tix on sun.
So we might bump into each other again… hahaha
Hi all…
Rachel hey I like that Idea to prompt her !! thats good reverse physco!!*sp*
We just gotta toughen up our sd’s on here!
Oh Ny Gent I would say what Everyone on here says if your spidey sense goes off then heed what you feel. and yes maybe give her another shot!….. and if that dont work
You start meetin babes at mcDonalds lol give um a damm happy meal card . at leas then you know they arent after ONLY your wallet!!
lol
Anybody know any Nascar folks I want to go to one of the Races!!*pouts*
“BostonSugahBabe says:
Well said NewTx, though the pot I am seeing wants to give me a gift on the first date. Plus we are having lunch and spending the afternoon at a museum. He says he wants to give me a gift because he cares. IMO I don’t think that it is a need to prove something so much as it is a show of affection. Granted 1k on the first date is excessive, but I think if an SD wants to give his potential a gift to express his interest/affection,then that should be okay.”
*** IMO your situation is fine. If the SD has already bought an item that he wants to give as a gift….that’s fine. But to take the girl in a store on the 1st date and telling her to pick out whatever is stupid IMO.
Nyc I was wondering I said to myself this cannot be on of Nyc’s referrals!
We need to make a checklist for him!!
NYGent – you sure pick all the winners … my offer still stands…
Thanks Kit-Kat!
We definitely need to protect our good SD on here!
“Kit-Kat*367987* says:
My only exception for this is unless the lady hasnt the wardrobe that is nessecarry then it would be plausiable, but even then it should be such as once you know for Sure she is of sound mind
I hate to hear when a kind SD gets taken for a swim!!”
If a potential SB shows up wearing something so inappropriate that the SD is unable to take her out to a decent restaurant in it, then that’s his indication to RUN….Not to spend $$$ on her. Her wardrobe should become his concern once an arrangement is in place….he’s more than welcome to buy her an entire closet once she actually becomes his SB. But I don’t see any need for a girl to get a brand new outfit (most girls will tag on shoes etc with this too) on the 1st date at the SD’s expense when an arrangement hasn’t been agreed upon.
on the checklist…. is this to be warning signs or move forward signs? I’m thinking warning signs!
Hey NYC SB!
NewTx- he wants to take me to a store and pick out a scarf?? Lol I didn’t know how to tell him that scarves are for old ladies, like my grandmother would love that gift. And no offense to the ladies on here who wear scarves, if you can pull it off kudos to you, it just not for me. I’d rather have a pair of new sneakers, which would cost way less than the scarf. Just don’t know how to tell him.
“BostonSugahBabe says:
NewTx- he wants to take me to a store and pick out a scarf?? Lol I didn’t know how to tell him that scarves are for old ladies, like my grandmother would love that gift. And no offense to the ladies on here who wear scarves, if you can pull it off kudos to you, it just not for me. I’d rather have a pair of new sneakers, which would cost way less than the scarf. Just don’t know how to tell him.”
LOL…..get the scarf and give it to your grandmother!
Texas sb
no not like she is
Dressed like pam anderson I mean just under dressed! or like Cheaply dressed you know but if she looks like a street lady or a Video girl or the pussy cat dolls yes most definealty run!!
Boston do you have alot of boobage?? Me I like my boobage but if my girls are out peeking at the world my brother wants to put jackets and stuff like that on me!
And the scarf if you pick on that’s cute use it as a belt! say thanks and see if hes just a Scarf- daddy!
Ladies – I dont think taking a girl shopping as part of the first date is a big deal. I mean it should happen after lunch/dinner aka the SD knows he has chemistry with her …
I can’t totally agree with the outfit situation. Some women may not have anything to wear to a fancy restaurant. I myself don’t have many outfits to wear to such occasions as fancy restaurants includes the olive garden, fridays, and the cheesecake factory (yum yum). So it’s understandable for an SD to buy his SB an outfit for their outing. That can be his gift, not a full on shopping spree, but a nice outfit. I’d hate to wear the same outfit I have to every pot date.
my example is you probabaly cant take your pot to a nice dinner in her best of Walmart attire… even the nicest stuff pales in comparison to a good blouse from Express or Macys… thats was what I was meaning
NYC we talking about NyGent he has to be restrained!! lol
I say Ny Gent no spending until at least the 3rd date and you buy a 200dollar piece of jewerly as a first date gift surprise… AFTER dinner this gift is to be presented ! or a gift card something of the sort! and let 200 be your First date limit!! no more 1 k shopping sprees!!
Haha…my grandma loves scarves!
I told him that using a nice 300 dollar scarf to wrap my hair seems..a little of.
KitKat- I have minimal boobage. And I don’t think he is just a scarf daddy, but more like the daddy of my dreams
hey ladies I spend some time wondering about What my sugar sisters would say….
So lets say a pot messengered your allowance to you in Savings bonds??
lol I wonder
I was reading this thing where the man paid his taxes in pennies because he didnt agree with the apprasial!
be cute the ups man drop me off 3k in ones!! lol
I’m wondering if he means a pashmina… I’ve heard many men call that a scarf. I myself love my cashmere pashminas, I use them in lieu of a jacket when wearing something fancy and strappy or off the shoulder.
“NYC SB says:
I mean it should happen after lunch/dinner aka the SD knows he has chemistry with her …”
*** But how does he know that SHE feels the same way? That’s she not going to dissappear after that 1st date?
As far as SBs not having nice things to wear out to dinner….I can only speak from personal experience. The few potential SDs I met for dinner all took me out to “normal” restaurants that didn’t require me to wear outfits that cost hundreads of dollars. These are the restaurants where dinner for 2 people would probably cost $100 (minus alcohol). I mostly shop at Marshall’s, Macy’s, Bananna Republic etc…..and my outfits didn’t “stand out” at these places. Maybe things are different in places like New York…..but going back to spending $$$ on the 1st date, once again I don’t understand the need to go to a restaurant on the 1st date where someone needs to wear a fancy outfit. In my humble opinion, keep it simple. I don’t see anything wrong with going to Cheesecake Factory on the 1st date….because the focus should on the conversation…..not the $$$ place/decor.
“Kit-Kat*367987* says:
NYC we talking about NyGent he has to be restrained!! lol
I say Ny Gent no spending until at least the 3rd date and you buy a 200dollar piece of jewerly as a first date gift surprise… AFTER dinner this gift is to be presented ! or a gift card something of the sort! and let 200 be your First date limit!! no more 1 k shopping sprees!!”
*** Great piece of advice! Now if we only get the boys to follow this….
No its a scarf I went to the website of the store he wants to take me to and indeed there they were-300 scarves.
Boston so take his Scarves why not? he will eventually see that not you no need to hurt his feelings I would lets see you can line the inside of a purse with one like a purse that has worn lining, umm upolster a sofa pillow umm lots of stuff you dont have to Wear them I even seen something in a picture frame and give him a photo of yourself!
or yan can fib and say G-ma liked it so much she begged you for it!
ohhh I meant
he will eventualls see that you arent in to Scarves!!
sorry yall watching t.v
kit-kat you are hilarious! I’m getting sleepy so I will say goodnight to you all. Till tomorrow…. (I have a feeling I’ll be dreaming about shopping for scarves… lol… sorry!)
I like that “G-ma loved the scarf so much she had to have it” line! Haha…I don’t know. I mean 300 on a scarf seems pretty much to me. I’m used to paying 5 bucks for a scarf, paying 300 seems ridiculous
Hahahaha rachel!!! Good night! Sweet scarf dreams hun!
New texas yeah girl if we can get ol Ny Gent to quit being a push over he will do good! a shame ladies cant restrain them self .
Texas we have all those places over here but I stick to macys or Lane bryant I like all their stuff Marshalls/ Ross is Fabulous for assesorys
have you a Tj maxx home goods over there? that place is Awesome for home stuff, my tax rebate went to them lastyear well about 40% of it! lol
Boston I hope you dont think I am picking on you at all I just say make lemonade.. ya know my mom Still buys clothes that she Really must be joking thinking I am gonna wear, so I will take them to a tailor and fix them a little
the twins baby clothes have made them a Nice winter quilt for their beds
I am sorry guys I spent lots of time with Martha on t.v and my neighbors are Avid sewers
Kit Kat~ pimp -hes just a Scarf- daddy!
omg you kill me girl
NewTXSB~ Love my Ross store . Just got a formal for $60 full beading. It is fab!!!
awhh Night Rachel
and Boston I am tellin you girl take the Scarves and Trade one of your Sugar sisters lol I know a Sb who likes scarves right now and She has a bunch of stuff she needs to clean out! lol!!
whats the website any way? I wanna see a 300$ scarve myself now!
KitKat:
Funny you mentioned TJ Maxx, I’m planning on going there tomorrow to look for some home stuff.
The area I live in has literally everything from Dior, Chanel etc (places I usually walk by)….all the way down to Ross, TJ Maxx, K-Mart etc.
Ms.Behavin:
For some reason I never have any luck a my local Ross.
I also would love to see a $300 scarf! I have a few that I wear sometimes but I got them at the Dillard’s outlet….I think all of them were less than $20 each!
Ms Be WHAT???? I was being Serious… lol that man may have a thing for scarves I mean thats a Really nice fabric for 3 bills…
I dont like scarves either but this is only because I don’t know exactly how to wear one or what with..
ok us black ladies would use it for a sleep cap.. ya know after we get our hair done.. That would be Exactly what I would use it for.. no split ends less breakages heck yeah …
Boston send me on of them scarves I will make you one for you too!!
We have a great one here.I always get great stuff there. My best was the formal I just got,perfect fit in choc.brown(looks great with my red hair) boobs look good in it…could’nt ask for a bettert dress.and I’m 2 months ahead of time to buy it.:)
you have a TJ Maxx home goods? they are addictive I am a Bedding whore love Duvets and “Down”Anything and dont have Floral arrangements oh man… I get excited!
Kit_Kat~just bought 2 down pillows and lookin for a feather bed, Wal Mart has one for 45$ may have to have it.
Salvatore Farragamo I believe is the name of the designer,and if I do get the scarf I would def trade with any of my sugar sweets, and I don’t think he’ll mind, he likes me far too much. Yeah we women of color do love to protect out hair. That’s why I can’t see using a 300 dollar scarf as a wrap.
Kit Kat~ I have some black girlfriends and as much as y’all spend on your hair… I say hell yea you better wrap that stuff up in something to protect it!!I’m so happy mine is wash and wear
Ms Be check Overstock dot befor you finalize your descicion also Tjmaxx home goods has som slightly irregular beddings that are high thread count like sleeping on a cloud!!
Kit Kat:
I dunno if TJ Maxx has separate stores for home good but the one near me does carry home stuff. I need to buy quite a few home stuff so also hitting Bed, Bath, and Beyond tomorrow. Should be a fun but tiring day.
MsB- I’m so jealous of your wash and wear…I have to do my hair for my dates…so dreading it, its going to take hours and probably cut into my football game
Thanks Kit Kat I have a TJ rite by me. I will check it out.
Funny funny … I checked out a local dating site,just filled out the basic info. NO personal stuff, just where your from.Had a guy just drop me a email saying— you sound interesting. I typed back .. Really I didnt post any info. LMAO
Sugah~ My hair is natural curly. but will go straight very easy, so mine is super easy to do anything with. Takes me about 20 mins. to have it fixed. Takes longer to pick out my outfit!! lol
lol it is Wash and Wear I wash mine and Wear somebody elses lol
I just relaxed my hair so I will be on the Natural do tip for a while lol
but Boston I am telling ya wrap and protect that hair girl…
my hair is as long as oprahas but I hardly Ever wear it out.
Boston you dont have any Barter/hairdressers around there?
I let the beauty school girls wash and set mine 15$ with a tip and I go to a Real hairdresser for my chemicals
OMG you kill me girl
lol it is Wash and Wear I wash mine and Wear somebody elses
Checked out overstock…looks like better prices thx for thr tip.
I need to change my name to something to Reflect my wit… wit kat??
dunno suggestions?
yeah I am always looking for a Deal and good at finding them.
I am the family deal maker I real the papers looking for laptops on sales Appliance deals lol its bad my folks all call me to see if I know anything!
oh yes Boston I will get on the horn and see if I can arrange a sugar swap!! lol can you E-mail me? Keya 703 at yahhhh
Know the feeling girl, I get the same thing here. Were you located at? Atl?
Has everyone left us??
Ms Be no Florida near Jax!!
I’m here….just burned my finger while trying to make tea…. *sigh*
I’m in orange beach Lower Al
NewTXSB~ shoulda got a glass of wine:) no burn there!!
I’m mixed so my hair is super curly throughout most my hair, the rest are waves…I used to get a relaxer but I wanted to do the natural thing.I’m thinking of getting it again but then I would really need an SD to keep my maintenece up….lol at the weave joke..how about witty kitty for your new name
Also I can’t afford to get my hair done on a regular basis so I do it myself.
OK ladies going nite nite now. Sweet sugar dreams to all
Ms Behavin:
Lesson learned.
Good night!
Night MsB! Sorry about your booboo Tex..
I’ll email you when I get to my comp in the morning, spending the night at my dads and blogging from my phone, now you know I’m addicted
Okay, I guess I’m kind of addicted to the blog…I just got back and decidd to catch up on it since I’m not quite sleepy yet.
Boston – Salvatore is a great designer…but maybe I’m just biased because I’m from Hong Kong and used to seeing it all my life.
Flo Rida – yes I took that nap and it was well worth it! Though, sorry to say I may skip out on the Hamptons. I travel to strange countries in the summer.
I’m in a bit of a bind because the pot SD I’ve been seeing is very nice and all, but I think I want someone with a bit more…roughness? Aggression? I don’t really know how to put it…but…manliness, I guess? He’s pretty much left the choice up to me and I’m just kinda thinking that this could either end very well or very badly. You would think with all the alphas males running around NYC I’d have run into one who has been a little more assertiveness, but maybe I’m just so direct that I don’t see the pot SDs I have met as enough for me…
Also, as much as everyone has been commenting to NYGent that he should curtail his spending on SBs on the first date, maybe that’s just the way he is. Can’t just change something immediately, even if you know what you’re doing is foolish. It’s a whole psychosis, as someone mentioned before.
Besides, why is anyone feeling bad for him? Maybe Anna Molly and him will hit it off! Be positive, no?
Positive thoughts generate positive actions! I’ve have never heard of salvatore until today. And what a blow, still can’t get used to the idea of 300 for a piece of cloth. And frankly I hope I don’t get used to it and end up one of those plastic barbie dolls that won’t pay anything less than 200 dollars on a pair of jeans. I like shopping at A J Wright and marshalls. Do you know how much clothes I could get for 300? Tho I guess given the circumstances I can now (or soon) visit stores like arden b, hollister, aeropostle, and aldos..ahh aldos shoes shoes SHOES!!
Well I am turning in ladies, sorry if I am leaving anyone hanging, but my thumbs are getting tired.
Good Night, Happy Football Sunday. Go Pats in London…now I dream of shoe shopping : )
BostonSugah: Thanks!
Bunny NYC:
Regarding the potential SD, its upto you to decide whether or not his lack of assertiveness is something you can deal with. Personally I also prefer men that like to take control and are a bit aggressive. Yet my SD is nothing like that! LOL….my SD is a very laid back guy who always has a huge smile on his face and anytime I ask him about anything, his response generally is “Whatever you want”. Its a “package deal” and in my case, I’m ok with him being so laid back. Now you have to decide if it’s something that ok with you with this particular guy.
Bunny Nyc I dont feel bad for him he is Grown and he can buy all of New York if he like.. I just want him to find a wonderfull lady for him to go goo goo over!
Boston I only relax my hair every 8-10 weeks I have pretty nice hair and refuse to do any other chemical to it! and it shouldnt really be that much to get it relaxed.. pending on where you are going I would say 75 dollars should do it jcpenney is a good place they use Mizani products.. I am not sold it Mizani but it is a predictable result and for goodness sakes do not let them use regular or anything that is Regular use mild or sensitive or special.. give you more time to smooth it!
sorry I am a hairdresser and I get in bueaty mode… I dont want my sistas taken for a ride either
anyways guys I am off to bed too
catch yalls later!
“Bunny NYC says:
Also, as much as everyone has been commenting to NYGent that he should curtail his spending on SBs on the first date, maybe that’s just the way he is.
Besides, why is anyone feeling bad for him? Maybe Anna Molly and him will hit it off! Be positive, no?”
I wasn’t directing my comment specifically at NYGent…it was to any SD that takes potential SBs to lavish restaurants or shopping trips BEFORE they have an arrangment. I used NYGent’s $1k shopping trip as an example b/c I couldn’t get it out of my head! I just can’t imagine a man letting me spend $1K the very 1st time I meet him IRL.
And I don’t feel bad for NYGent or any of the other SDs here. Its just a bit frustrating to see that their generosity is being taken advantage of by girls out there. (Except RealisticSD…his generosity is not being taken advantage of and he should continue treating his SB like a princess!)
Boston – Salvatore is an Italian design house known for their shoes (he designed things like the wedge and the cage heels), but their flagship store is in HK, so I’m used to seeing them around. They are huge in the luxury goods world. Maybe if you don’t like scarves, you can ask for shoes from Salvatore instead!
I’m the same way though, where I’m used to shopping at something like TJ Maxx…but Aeropostale is not very expensive right now (I just bought $20 jeans there!). I’m big on sales around this time of season so I do know how to stretch that dollar. But if someone’s going to buy me a luxury item, I won’t say no.
NewTX – He’s very laid back, but he plans everything and also generally tries to take my opinion into account also. I really do like for someone to take the helm a bit more but he is very nice, so I’m not entirely sure if I should overlook it or not. I will have to mull on this one a bit. I’m far to busy to think about it this week since I have a lot of work, so I guess it’s really up to how I’m feeling next week.
Anyway, good night all. All the wine I drank tonight has finally kicked in.
Good morning all on this relaxing Sunday morning,
Does anyone have any sugar in their week- end “that is the question”.
To be honest I look back on an astounding Saturday.
It is so tiresome meeting one pseudo SB after the other, so I decided on a radical change in my gentlemanly behaviour in the sugar bowl.
I have taken sugar dating to an even higher level, stratospheric.
I am the inventor of HAREM SUGAR DATING !
It means not one after the other but a bunch at the same time have the pleasure of meeting me.
Perhaps you remember that I am into canine friendly ladies.
Yesterday I took along six sugars and their gundogs into Belgium for a patridge day in a beautiful landscape. By observing how they handle their dog “a girl’s best friend”, I could see what kind of person they are.
My shootlunch and the glass of Piper Heidsieck really turned them on.
The age of these potentials ranged from 26 to 47.
In the evening we shared a delightful dinner with great banter.
That was also a contest to see which one might be the chosen.
That Heffner guy could not have set it up craftier.
By now you will have observed that my ego is really, really big.
That was hammered to bits when the conversation turned the wrong way.
The wine makes them daring obviously.
They all looked at me intently after one remarked that HP was really an athlete for someone of his generation, having walked the whole day.
Well that put me down to earth again, now you know how sugars look at you in real life. Hilarous indeed !
But at the end of the day I was embraced and kissed and hugged and they all wanted to come again and assured me it had been wonderful.
Driving back we passed a streched Hummer !
That’s it, I thought, next time this will be the mode of transport.
I will, let you know if my harem approach will lead to any tangible success. After all you never know.
You have to reinvent yourself constantly to lead a life of satisfaction.
Again it is a wonderful page in my life which I experience as a comic strip.
Have a great Sunday with lots of sunshine in your life as well.
Morning sugars! Beautiful day here, the rain cleared up to bright blue skys!
On another note…how many times/ways does a SB have to say “Thank You!!” for it to stick? I see a lot of mentions on how the SB never sent a Thank you email or text. Did she not say Thank You in person to the SD? Wouldn’t that mean more than to a person than an impersonal email or text? Or do SD’s require both as a sign of appreciation?
Gemini: interesting question. As I think back over my SB first dates, I generally don’t get an in person “thank you” for dinner if I don’t offer an arrangement then and there. It’s as if their disappointment prevents them from showing any appreciation. I know that many SBs on this blog seem more willing to allow an arrangement discussion to be deferred to a second or even later date, but that’s not my experience. Nonetheless even absent an offer, I do find that those SBs who are still interested will follow up with a text or email saying “I had a great time, really enjoyed meeting you” (although curiously, still no formal “thank you”). When I get neither an in person thank you or followup text I assume they are either not interested or they take the absence of an immediate offer as indicating no interest on my part, which translates to no interest on their part. Just my experience.
Anna M: Once again Flo Rida’s advice, this time on attire, is spot-on
NY Gent- Yikes! I always say “Thank you” in person. And not just once, it tends to thank the person along every step…from drinks to dinner to anything special along the way. I was raised to be polite, and its always a sign of good character to show your appreciation to someone. Heck, I say Thank You to the checkout girl at the grocery store!
Gemini – I am the same way, goes back to treating people the way you would like to be treated.
NyGent – Should not matter whether an arrangement was discussed. You treated someone to dinner and possibly more. A thank you should be in order(IMO in person), even if they were not interested.
It just seems like a big shift in the blog that the discussion has become more SD-centric in terms of “bad experiences.” Not that it’s a bad thing, I think once in a while it’s good for SB to hear about what’s going on from the alternative perspective.
I’m used to saying “thank you” all the time too, so I’m not entirely sure where this lack of manners comes from. Perhaps she is shy and if you said something like “thank you for your time” she would be more forthcoming with a “thank you” in return? I would think it would at least jar some social cues in their brain to say something back to that. If it’s not returned, then you have assuredly tried everything to be polite and it is most definitely her problem.
Good morning sugarland! lolol…. I was not woken up with the attack of the scarves nightmare!!! Last night was raining, horrible winds…. this am it’s bright, beautiful and sunny! Still no sugar plans for the weekend. I do however need to pick a place of interest to meet a pot SD for the beginning of this week, it would be nice if a guy gave a clue as to what he likes. I mean I’ve talked with this guy for 2 weeks over email, but haven’t the foggiest idea about what cuisine he prefers. What if I like Thai and he despises it… the date is doomed to fail. *sigh* my plans today… goto gym… goto work to get a head start on my week…. aka clean my desk so the owner doesn’t freak! Payday Fridays are my worst day of the week! I’ll be blogging from the cell today (sooo addictive)!
Bunny NYC – I agree, the thanking should go both ways. Thank the girl for her time, and thank the guy for taking you out/giving you gifts/etc.
It does seem like this blog is filled with the SD side of “bad experiences” this go around. I would really LOVE to hear the SD and SB “gold star” experiences…the arrangements that were awesome, the dates that were fantastic, the shopping sprees that were enjoyed and appreciated…and what made it all so special. Lets dream on the positive, instead of dwelling on the negative!
Good morning all!!
So I see I’m not the only one who say please and thank you for every little thing. Its a force of habit, like buckling my seatbelt everytime I get in a car. The girls on this blog were/are raised right.
Thanks seasame street!
Another note, it was a rainy days yesterday and a beautiful sunny day today. What’s good with the weather!!
No dreams of scarves or shoes, but I had the song “papparazzi” by lady gaga stuck in my head, in my sleep all morning.
Good morning! It isn’t raining today…yay!
Flo Rida, I need clarification…:) what would be considered too casual and NY smart trendy? I would assume that not too casual would mean no ripped jeans, t-shirt and sneakers. Help me please!
I’m guilty as well, I probably say thank you too much and always with a big friendly smile. And definitely at the end of the date right before we leave whether or not anything about an arrangement was said. After all he did pay for the evening that at least warrants some acknowledgement! lol
I usually wait for the man to either email, call or text as I am old fashioned. Its my job to make sure he feels appreciated and in turn he will pursue. I always make sure they are clear that I am interested.
BostonSugahBabe: I fell asleep the other night with Britney Spears’ “3″ stuck in my head. So I sympathize! I like both songs but certainly wouldn’t want them as the soundtrack to my dreams!!
After a date, I’ll always say thank you in person before we go our seperate ways.
Britney Spears and Lady GaGa….oh my, I would go nuts!
Gem-Haha suddenly I don’t feel so alone. And it compels me to want to hear the song when I wake up to make sure it’s out of my head. Has happened so many times with so many songs.
Anna Molly- I actually like Lady Gaga (go figure, as I don’t really like pop) but she can really sing and is a great performer. I liked her at the MTv awards, crazy outfits and all, bloody performance included. So little artist can sing and run around the stage in thigh high boots. Kudos to her!
Go YANKEE’s… ok, now that I got that off my chest.
Good Morning to all. Coffee in hand and it is a glorious day in Cali!
My lessons learned from Sugar Dating are that just because you have a few bad experiences do not necessarily mean YOU need to change. Try to put your best foot forward and be genuine. If a few sour apples find their way into your path, weave your way around them and keep moving.
NYGent your generous nature should be encouraged not restrained. Shop, dine and be who YOU feel comfortable being. Your next apple will be shiny and sweet (love the NY/Apple analogy).
Sugar dating without lavish dinners and shopping would be boring. However, not all sugar dating is shopping, travel and lavish dinners. Define your own sugar rules!
To quote from my favorite Sugar Movie: “In case I forget to tell you later, I had a really good time tonight.”
Ok, Gemi: here is a good sugar story for you today. The SD that I ended things with last week; at the end of the evening I slipped the cashiers check from the allowance he gave me several weeks earlier back into his jacket pocket when I hugged him good-bye. I did not want to keep it, knowing that I could not continue. This morning a dozen roses and a new check for my allowance amount and then some was sitting on my doorstep.
I have nothing against Lady GaGa, she is actually a good singer. I guess I’m just not a pop person. Give me Incubus any day
I like the old standards too; Etta James, Frankie, Ella Fitzgerald, ETC
Morning sugars,
O wow OC a Gentleman. That was a very nice surprise. You surprised him with the returned check so much he wanted to say thank you.
Morning Lady! Not sure about the gentleman part, I think he just felt quilty for his lies. But like anything else you brush yourself off and move on. They call this accelerated dating? Well the hurt, pain and anguish is accelerated as well.
I think I ate an entire bag of trick-or-treat candy yesterday! Good news. I have a pot date for tomorrow. Better lay off the candy! How’s vegas? I have heard from several Vegas SD’s. You have a ton of them out in the desert.
Well at least honest enough to hone up for his actions.
I think I remember that one from your previous post.
There are alot here as far as those listed on SA but rarely do I get one to email me.
We are actually get some cool weather most of the time. Typical fall here it hipity hops between cool, warm and hot. Tough still a lovely day today, get to wear my favorite fall clothes.
Thinking of casting my net to outlaying states, as I don’t mind much of a drive. Maybe will have better luck. The few who have emailed are Dawgs.
OC – Well you must be on Lady Karma’s good side….all your good deeds and honest spirit keep rewarding you! While that is a nice bonus, I will keep hoping that you find the perfect SD for you…this time one free of hidden lies too!
Lady, dawgs are everwhere! I had one San Fran pot email me back that I lived TOO far away. lol Here he caught my attention enough to email him, it was very sweet of him to send the response back. He said he was frustrated that all the women that he WOULD be interested in live too far away. I can see if I was in a different state but SAME state. lol
So, distance for one SD may not hold the same meaning for another. Try the outlying states! You may never know. Can I give you a little advice on your profile again? I like that you added the line I gave you earlier. But shorten it a bit. The male attention span will not read the whole thing. Keep it long enough to grab their attention and short enough to have them read it to the end.
There’s GEMI! Hi ya sunshine
OC – that was a classy move on your part. I wish you well
NYC SB – alas Giants tix are unused. SD’s daughter has flu & he’s spending the afternoon with her (admirable). I’m not going without him. Enjoy game.
NYGent – methinks a ‘I had a wonderful time & enjoyed meeting you’ is equivalent to a thank you. I’m reading that SBs want an allowance discussion at 1st meet – would it help if you set expectations by saying first meet is a chemistry meet & second or third meet is an allowance discussion. The allowance discussion can be brutal so I think it’s best to separate the two (i know others disagree). Btw methinks $1k shopping shows generosity of spirit, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that – I would prefer if it was directed at more deserving souls.
Anna Molly – Sorry I forgot you are part of bridge & tunnel club (no offense). email me at atllgw @ g place. I’m not sure NY Gent should see our banter.
Liv – I will send some more anonymous pics from the lingerie party last year to you. Enjoy
NewTXSB – I think I met the NY equivalent of you last night – her personality matches yours exactly
To those who want to SD hunt IRL,I’ve concluded that SB has to be smoking hot, flirtatious, fun & move in the right social circles (which requires seed money & time to begin with). I see tons of IRL SBs in NY – they are smoking hot though also some are crazy.
On a more uplifting note my SD on our first shopping trip spent $+10k on me in 30 mins-it certainly got my attention. But he’s also known me for 10+ years & know’s I have a good head on my shoulders.
Ugh. Dealing with a petulant pot SD who doesn’t want to take no for an answer. I gave him polite turn-down message (and really, it was super polite and even nice!) and he still tried to negotiate with me. Oh and at a number under my stated allowance. Silly, really.
Ok so I think this has been covered, maybe, but how often should I delete and post a new profile (in order to show up as newer in the search)? I think I’ve been on SA for about 2 1/2 months now…and am getting ready to launch a new profile. Is it time to start over again?
“BostonSugahBabe says:
October 25, 2009 at 11:17 am
No dreams of scarves or shoes, but I had the song “papparazzi” by lady gaga stuck in my head, in my sleep all morning.”
I like this too. Will go to Lady Gaga concert in Toronto on November 28.
Hiya OC! And everyone else
Thanks Flo, it did take a great deal of thought. I felt like I was played with all of the lies. But in the end if I didn’t return it I would have felt less in control. Trust me I was shaking in my Manolo’s trying to find the right moment to end things and slip the check into his tuxedo pocket. I will accept his gesture and I have send my “thank you” message. It took 5 pieces of trick or treat candy and three cups of coffee to write it! I didn’t want to seem ungrateful but at the same time I needed to keep that door closed. I think I found the balance.
I was thinking of that, and would you believe that I did shorten it a few days ago. LOL I do have a habit of being wordy at times.
Well I summed it up again and shortened it.
Bad sign when someone echo’s what I was thinking about on my profile.
NewTXSB – I did a poor job of copy and paste. Those weren’t my words about the “model” type girls. I am not very good with changing font, italics, bold, etc on here to have made that clear.
Me personally, I have no real problem with the model types. Unless their heads are too big to fit thru the doorway.
WOw and it is approved already. that is a first.
You have mail Flo Rida
OC – i’m addicted to swiss or belgian chocolate but have stopped eating them as I need to reserve my calories for alcohol & heavy dinners (SD lifestyle). I find that yoga and meditation quietens the noise in my life allowing me to make decisions clearer & with less emotion – guilt. You’re a classy lady.
Gemi – I don’t have a profile here (so please correct me if i’m wrong) but I don’t think there’s any harm through canceling old & posting a new profile – this also removes any doubts on your part. Either way should be fine though.
Gemi, delete and start again. I have only done that once before, but it clears out the old view and starts fresh.
Flo, I have a weakness for any chocolate! But have put it away for the day. Thanks for the compliment!
SouthernGent2, you have all the girls chasing you. It should be who can push the others out of the way to make it thru the door!!!
OC – I don’t know about that lol. I could share some pretty good stories with you, but if posted them here it could be taken the wrong way. Or someone might be a lurker here that would know she is being mentioned.
The truth is I just want to be with one person. Not afraid to go on a date or two or maybe even three to find that out. Just right now my favorite potential is long distance, so that makes things a bit more difficult.
Did you and I ever swap emails? sugardaddy49 at the gspot place dot
SouthernGent2, thanks for the email addy! I will shoot you off one now. I agree it takes about three dates to see the real deal.
Well it seems as if most of the sugar family is off doing sugar things for the weekend!
I’m off to go clean house, make this place look as shiny pretty as it is outside! 
Ta sugar fam!
Hey ya! So I’m sitting at work… it just occurred to me (sometimes I can be slow)…. I’ve had a SD for years… but he’s a platonic SD. We worked together for years, good friends… nothing EVER happened between to two of us. I’m friends with his wife, and he & I run the same circles, same friends, same likes dislikes, etc. He always goes out of his way to do things for me. When I bought my car… he gave me 7k to add to my 4k deposit because he wanted me to pay it off in 2 years without killing myself. Birthdays… always took me shopping and got the group together for a huge night out starting at the most upscale place we have here in CT, then anywhere *I* wanted… in his limo with all the peeps. So my B-day is coming up next week… I’ll be the big 3-0 (wow)… and he’s no longer in the area…. but he wants to fly me & my girls out to Vegas, out us up in a hotel out there for the weekend & all expenses on him! And of course in true form, he wants to buy me the birthday outfit. Unfortunately, I think I’m going to decline, although I am completely intrigued seeing I’ve NEVER been to Vegas or the West Coast. Just thought this was a funny story.
Hey – if any of you can check out my profile… give me advice. If you want to email me for any reason (SB’s get together for shopping or what have you or ANYTHING) my email is sunset1911 @ gmail . com
I still can’t find NYGent’s email…..ugh.
NY GENT – SOS for NY Gent! SB in distress! (see above)
Anna Molly –
I couldn’t help doing it… it rhymes!! 
lol…you’re funny
Anna – have you tried “search on this page” function for NYGent’s addy?
No….I guess I should try huh..lol
Anna Molly – Last blog back, about the middle of the way down.
Hope I didn’t step on any toes there by copy/paste the post
Thanks Rachel….I guess two set of eyes are better than one
Not a prob!
Where is everyone? It’s sooo quiet!
Does anyone know how long it takes to have profile pic approved? and also are there any success storys out there. I have never done this before…
Smiles, Linda
I think I may have scared them all off….. do I smell???? LOLOLOL
how is everyone tonight?
BORED
I just got back from the grocery store and am going to start cooking dinner soon! yummy! trying to think positive thoughts as far as SDs go!
SAME HERE!.
i dont even want to think bout SDs.
no luck there!
anna
NYGent says:
October 22, 2009 at 9:48 am
Beach girl: now that would remove all the mystery, wouldn’t it? But I don’t mind giving out my email,
In terms of spoiling on the first date, I used to give something monetary on the first date as a sign of my interest/seriousness and if I was interested, I would bring up the exact arrangement on the first date. But, based on advice from those on the blog, I was convinced that it’s better to just meet and see if there is chemistry and if there is, to then offer an arrangement.
In any case, I don’t blame someone for spoiling a girl on the first meet, as it can be fun, until you realize you’ve been used. So much of being an SD is the enjoyment of spoiling someone, and I think this aspect is not well appreciated by anyone other than true SDs. Women tend to think the only pleasure the SD gets is sex, but that is not the case.
hello all hope all is well
Hi everyone…..looks like a very slow day here at the blog….
Realstic SD has captured much of my thinking as well. Of course nobody likes to be used but there is an intrinsic pleasure from spoiling, even on a first date. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt, and yes sometimes you get burned but it’s part of the “cost of doing business” on the site. Nonetheless with a couple exceptions (I think NYC SB and OC), most of the comments on the blog consider such early generosity sappy or naive, so I’m inclined to scale it back somewhat going forward.
NYGent, RealisticSD has great wisdom, you both do. Don’t change something that gives you pleasure just because of a few bad SB’s. So stop talking such foolishness and get back to the game! LOL
NYC SB! No way I thought the same thing about the email.. lol But I too have a dirty mind!
“RealisticSD says:
But, based on advice from those on the blog, I was convinced that it’s better to just meet and see if there is chemistry and if there is, to then offer an arrangement.”
*** And this worked out great so far right? Having an arrangement first so you know that she’s here to stay for the long run….and THEN spoiling her…
I miss you btw. *pout*
*** NYGent:
I’m one of the SBs that think that spoiling someone on the 1st date *before* establishing whether or not the she likes you enough to come back for a 2nd date or accept an arrangement is naive. I do understand that SDs take pleasure in seeing the joy in a SB when spoiling her…but I just don’t understand why it can’t wait until the 2nd date or after the arrangement.
All that being said…..if you have no problem paying the “cost of doing business”, then you shouldn’t change anything. But if you don’t like the feeling you get when you realize a potential SB used you for $$$ after spoiling her on the 1st date, then you should take steps to change your actions. Whether or not a potential SB is able to use you is completely upto you.
HI ALLL…. I have missed ya! Blogging from the owners box at the Giants game
Hope everyone had an extra sugary weekend… I am currently chatting up some gents from the box… i mean I am NETWORKING
laughed at southerns g spot email… i think im the only one with the dirty mind here lol
OC – halloween candy… yum yum… i am going to be lady gaga this halloween… have the chanel shoes (well they are in the mail) and got a blonde wig… now i can pretend to be the blonde everyone on the blog thought I was
NeOhio – did you get my email?
NYGent – scale back if you want… but again there is nothing wrong with giving an SB a little luxury if you like her… it gives you joy and I would hope she appreciates it … if not thats her character flaw and not yours
Enjoy your date on Tuesday!
Ny Gent I would like to restate my opionion : I think it so wonderful of you to Offer a 1k shopping spree Really I do and If that is the way you do things so be it!
I think if you find a nice lady and go out on a coffe /dinner date
She should be happy with a “Im serious gift” or some cash I think a 300 dollar piece of Jewerly would knock me out my seat and the only reason I say hold on to the $ugar just a tad or Restructure your Bounus’s
thats all my thinking is that EVENTUALLY you may get dejected and a Really deserving Pot maybe passed over on the spoiling…
I think us here on the the blog just want you to be a happy sd and more or less a generous one *with a so- deserving Sb*
I’m going to echo OC… I was thinking about it while mopping today and I was thinking…if we take the generosity out of the SDs….then what are we doing to the fun of dating a SD…the generosity of SDs is legendary…and it would be a darn shame for a SD to scale it back for the next SB just because of a bad experience with another girl. Trust me, if a SD took me shopping…..I would be the biggest smiliest girl in the entire city! There would no ends of the Thank Yous and WOW, it would be amazing!
Ok I got carried away in my happy space.
Um so..to all the super generous SDs out there….keep up the good work! Don’t let a few bad experiences sour you….there is a wonderful SB who will appreciate it all so much just waiting for you around the corner!!
newtex and kitkat: i think you’re right, $1K is a bit much for a first date shopping spree and $200 or so would be more reasonable. The problem is I live in NYC and if a first date, as so often in my case, is brunch downtown followed by “a little shopping” we often end up at some place like Jeffrey where even if the deal is she can pick out “any one thing” that “thing” is generally +700. Now if if I lived in OMaha and we went to the mall I’m sure I could get out of there pretty unscathed . . .
Maybe the key is dropping brunch and just going with dinner: the stores are closed by then, even in NYC . . .
“Gemini29 says:
I was thinking about it while mopping today and I was thinking…if we take the generosity out of the SDs….then what are we doing to the fun of dating a SD…the generosity of SDs is legendary…and it would be a darn shame for a SD to scale it back for the next SB just because of a bad experience with another girl.”
IMO there’s a big difference b/t a SB and a *potential* SB. SDs should spoil their SBs….but IMO the 1st date is to establish whether or not the girl becomes his SB and the focus should be on conversation.
NY Gent- Hmmm…. I think brunch and then some light…whatever..shopping sightseeing whatnot..is better than dinner. That allows you time to talk and learn about each other and see each others traits habits and personalities…more so than you would learn over dinner. Just my two cents
NYGent – I do not consider such early generosity sappy or naive(just hate to see it not being appreciated). I’ve never been fortunate to experience it my self but I can guarantee it would never be taken for granted.
“NYGent says:
newtex and kitkat: i think you’re right, $1K is a bit much for a first date shopping spree and $200 or so would be more reasonable. The problem is I live in NYC and if a first date, as so often in my case, is brunch downtown followed by “a little shopping” we often end up at some place like Jeffrey where even if the deal is she can pick out “any one thing” that “thing” is generally +700.
Maybe the key is dropping brunch and just going with dinner: the stores are closed by then, even in NYC . .”
*** First I’m not sure why there *has* to be “a little shopping” after brunch? After you walk out of the restaurant, you go your separate ways and ifyou really like her, you offer her an arrangement and take it from there. I hate to keep saying this but I really can’t wrap my head around the concept of “let’s go shopping” on the 1st date.
Second, if you’re so adamant about giving a gift on the 1st date, then have you ever considered buying something yourself and presenting it at the end of brunch/lunch/dinner as a gift? If you got to know her a little before meeting for the 1st time, surely you have an idea as to what kinda stuff she’s into…so it’s not that hard to pick out a perfume, book, scarf, earrings…whatever…..or even a AMX/Visa GC. This way she’s not in charge of picking out the item.
so I’ve been dating an SB for a few weeks. She’s very nice and fun to be around. I have done a bit of spoiling (shopping sprees, high end dinners) but she doesn’t seem to be interested in anything affectionate or intimate.
i do like her and don’t want to hurt her. but I also don’t want to keep this up when I could spend my time doing other things. any ideas on how to approach it? i’m thinking of just telling her straight up i’m looking for a relationship (sugar or otherwise) with more affection and intimacy and see what she says.
Gemini: I agree which is why brunch is my preferred first date. There are lots of great sights in downtown NYC like hi-line and meatpacking district. Of course all the shops are very chi-chi and high end. But brunch in, say, Murray Hill, is no fun: no good restos or shops and nothing interesting to see. So what’s a SD to do . . .
Ny Gent .. I was looking through a paper to day and I saw some Earrings they were tahitian pearls I havent ever seen pearls of this color before, these were 399 So my point is you can always Order something Rare/ and diffrent. I think your genorisity is wondreful, and Yes I did forget what things cost up there in the city,
a Massage/spa/day would be nice to anyone and a good thanks for the meeting gift
I echo texas words a Pot is indeed diffrent than a Sb and ONCE they get to That level THEN go daddy ga-ga.
Example I had a date*conventional* once and he brought a pineapple
ok so -what.. It was a very Rare pineapple and he showed me how to seed it I dunno if you all know but the little honey pineapples I never had one before.
NewTXSB says:
Second, if you’re so adamant about giving a gift on the 1st date, then have you ever considered buying something yourself and presenting it at the end of brunch/lunch/dinner as a gift? If you got to know her a little before meeting for the 1st time, surely you have an idea as to what kinda stuff she’s into…so it’s not that hard to pick out a perfume, book, scarf, earrings…whatever…..or even a AMX/Visa GC. This way she’s not in charge of picking out the item.
This a good option as well.
Randomyounger: I just went thru this. Almost everybody on this blog, esp. the SBs, said pack it in if there’s still chilliness intimacy-wise after the 4th date at latest. I ended mine right after the 4th date and it was the right call for both of us. If there’s nothing going after 4 dates or a month, whichever comes earlier, then it’s just a slow torture heading toward oblivion.. Sorry to be so blunt but the SBs on the site are very good at toughening you up (at least they’re trying in my case).
Random hello and hi!
did you guys make an arrangement already? in your screening process did you ask her Whather idea of sugar dating entails?
NY Gent- Choose the area you like, ask her if she’d like to take a walk and enjoy the “____” air/day with you, and just walk, talk, people see, and such, and stop in shops when YOU think the chemistry is there. Or maybe see if she would be interested in going out with you for a second date or whatnot and THEN take her shopping…but only if you want to. I don’t know exactly….just make it spontaneous and fun. Not like “ok we’re done with brunch, let me go buy you something pretty.”
“RandomYoungerSD says:
so I’ve been dating an SB for a few weeks. She’s very nice and fun to be around. I have done a bit of spoiling (shopping sprees, high end dinners) but she doesn’t seem to be interested in anything affectionate or intimate.”
*** Questions: Have you already given her the allowance you 2 agreed on? Is this the first time she’s been in a SD/SB relationship?
New texas I think you are Reading my mind lady!! or we on the same wavelenght tonight!
NewTX: good ideas on how to scale it back.
Gemini: I usually am not so direct as to say “let’s go buy something nice” afte brunch. It’s more like, as you suggest, “let’s stroll around,” then we just drift into these chi chi stores, her eyes light up at something, I say try it/them on, one thing leads to another and voila there you have it. Maybe NewTX has it right, just don’t go there . . .
“NYGent says:
Sorry to be so blunt but the SBs on the site are very good at toughening you up (at least they’re trying in my case).”
*** LOL….Lord knows we’re trying…and not giving up anytime soon!
” Kit-Kat*367987* says:
New texas I think you are Reading my mind lady!! or we on the same wavelenght tonight”
*** Great minds think alike….
Kit Kat – you took the words out of my mouth! I don’t think any of us would like to see any of these extraordinary SD’s become jaded…perhaps we are a little defensive and come off a bit too strong
NY Gent – maybe getting her something you think she would appreciate? It iS the thought that counts and I am sure when talking with SB’s you have SOME idea of what they would like or enjoy…then you can remain in control of how generous you want to be whether it is lunch or dinner
On that note – just read NewTX’s post and well said. I also think that if you feel there are genuine sparks you can make a decision for some spoiling based on that, but it isn’t a mandatory, especially if you feel you are being under appreciated.
hey Taz!! whats up lady!
Now reading MORE posts – I feel so repetitive lol
Hey Kat! Was quiet when I checked earlier then there was so much to catch up on lol..
Hello Random, welcome to the blog
Indeed – welcome!!
NYGent:
I’ve never been to NY so I’m not at all familiar with the specific places you’re talking about. But if after brunch, you don’t want to part ways, then how about going to the museum or strolling through the park or something? LOL….there must be public places you can take a potential SB on the 1st date after brunch where items worth hundreads of dollars aren’t being sold.
What sets the amazing from the ordinary SD is his style! There are no stead fast rules to sugar dating, everyone needs to dance to their own drummer. You don’t have to enjoy the song or like to dance to that kind of music but try to understand that some really get a thrill out of how it makes some of us feel.
How the SD presents the date, his creativity in planning it out, possibly taking you shopping and watching how he acts or reacts to the experience can put the chemistry factor thru the roof. I have been on sugar first dates that were very nice, handsome man, great venue, interesting conversation… but there was no “wow factor” The offer of an arrangement was made at the end of the evening and I honestly had to think about it. Which means “no”…
I love shopping and that “Yippee” squeal that it brings is priceless. It can be from the SD pointing out something like book he knew I wanted to read (browsing thru a bookstore) to remembering I have a over the top Gucci purse fettish and making a bee-line to the Gucci store. When the shopping has a comfortable casual feeling to both the SD and SB it is an amazing experience.
NewTX: just keep trying! I think one problem some of us SDs have is a tendency to get a bit mesmerized by an attractive SB on first date to the point of not thinking logically or pragmatically, which leads to irrational behavior. It’s a tendency we have to fight and as some other SB blogger, I forget who, observed a blog or two ago it can border on psychosis if it reflects a pattern.
RandomYoungerSD, you’ve fallen for the sugar-without-the-sex trap. You just need to be up-front about what you envision or be more sexually aggressive.
NYGent, I don’t like shopping, so I don’t end up with your problem. I guess I am more of the cash-daddy—“Here’s a wad of cash, go buy whatever you want.” But if shopping will make someone as happy as Gemini said she’d be on a shopping trip, I’d definitely consider it, as long as I wouldn’t risk getting caught at a place like the the main mall around here.
Taz, I gave being jaded some serious thought, but decided against it mainly because if other people want to use me, that’s life, but that will never make me want to use other people. Plus, I cannot punish someone new for what someone else did. Granted, we learn our lessons and our intuitions about people change with experience, but I guess I am an optimist by nature and am willing to give people the benefit of the doubt until they really don’t deserve it any more. Then I end things.
NYGent, you’re absolutely right about our loss of common sense with overly attractive SBs. There was a study a few months back that found that men, when presented with just the picture of attractive women, were willing to take higher and higher levels of risk betting money. We just can’t help it. It sucks to get used, but the next time around we end up doing the same.
OC, I guess I need to plan sugar-dates better so they are more out-of-this-world experiences.
i asked her what she wanted on the second date… she said she wanted to be spoiled with shopping, did not mention a cash allowance. perhaps she wants me to bring it up again now that we’ve been hanging out for a while and we seem to get a long? she does not seem very experienced with sugar dating. she told me she had met some other dudes, but they were either too old or turned out to be broke.
i am not too experienced with this sugar dating stuff myself. i had an “SB” for about a month, back in the summer, who I met through another site. i’d buy her gifts and expensive dinners, she’d hang out and hook up more like a normal girlfriend, except up a notch. there was no allowance involved. just “i want to be spoiled with shopping”, again.
Gemini- funny thing is, I used to hate shopping, so i would buy clothes that I thought would fit me, but nowadays its not like when i was younger, everything is fitting differently, now I know, why women spend more time shopping, So when a SB wants to go shopping, I look at it as a time to shop for myself too, and get pointers at the same time
well said realistic. I actually like shopping with women and get a kick out of seeing the thrill on their faces when they know they now own that bag or pair of shoes (and trust me i’m not gay or metro, it’s just something I enjoy). But my antennae is up more now due to the advice from this blog . ..
Evening Sugars, How is everyone?
Hey Texas~ long time no see, It is fun to shop for a man, and myself!
NyGent~ It’s fun to shop with a man that enjoys it!
Hi guys, back from a weekend visiting the kids at school!
OC, I admire the classy way both of you ultimately handled that. A positive ending to what could have been an unhappy story. Yankees are in the lead so I’m in a particularly benevolent mood!
NY Gent, if I hear you right, you know you don’t have to do that, but you like to do it. It makes you feel good and sets the tone you’re trying to achieve — your way of trying to show that the sugar is ALL a gift. This is who you are and will make some lucky girl very happy, but man I do urge you to be selective in choosing who you see as there are some more venal souls who may misinterpret or try to take advantage of your generous nature.
Personally, I do not offer anything of value in the first meeting. I would rather meet straight up the first time, for lunch or a drink in a business suitable location, treating it almost like a relaxed mutual interview. I want to know that I’m dealing with someone grown-up I can talk to, trust and find interesting, before we get into the discussion of sugar anything. I do not respond to women who say in their profiles that they require a gift on the first meeting. I think different people are comfortable with different approaches.
Gemini, the kind of date you’re talking about is fantastic if you’re looking to tell if you’d enjoy hanging out with someone. I would never go on a trip with someone without logging some quality “day” time together. You can learn a lot about someone by how they interact with people and in different situations.
The happiest SD/SB moment I ever had was with my bad girl two winters ago. I flew her out to San Francisco (business class) for a weekend. We stayed at the Mandarin Hotel in a junior suite with glorious views of the bay and bridge. On Saturday, after a morning shopping in the Haight and an afternoon holding hands at SF MOMA, on the spur of the moment we decided to go to the ballet. We sat, just the two of us, in a side box at the glorious old Opera House watching Giselle, a warhorse of a ballet, but the shine in her eyes and her joy in the moment was pure delight for me. Followed by champagne and room service and modeling the fruits of our shopping trip back in our room, with the lights of San Francisco twinkling beneath us …. I know, it’s straight out of Pretty Woman, but what can you do? I actually got to live it.
Beach- Ya been busy, and sick, honestly still feel exhausted I have had 2 naps today, and I feel still not enough sleep… How you been?
Random: whether she wants an allowance or just shopping is sort of beside the point. The point is you seem to be giving her what she wants in terms of benefits (so far) and she’s not reciprocating with mutuality. If she is one of these model-hotties it’s possible she’s of the view that her hanging out with you shoud be compensation enough. You’ve got to run from those types and fast, as I’ve learned the hard way.
It’s very awkward, I find, to say to someone, “so i’ve been delivering the goods, what about you?” It sounds so transactional, and the reciprocation should develop naturally and without the need for express discussion. If it doesn’t I think you need to think seriously about moving on and finding someone who responds enthusiastically.
“Beach_Girl*395953 says:
NyGent~ It’s fun to shop with a man that enjoys it!”
*** Yes it is. Unfortunately I hav yet to meet a straight man IRL who truly enjoys shopping.
NYGent – “If I went to the mall in Omaha..” hahahah…do they have malls in Omaha? No offense to the midwesterners…in the same boat! Do what’s right for you. Hope you and Anna have a fab lunch…way to make lemonade from lemons!
OC – The allowance and roses could be out of guilt. I would suggest, he genuinely appreciated your honesty and integrity and wanted to reflect his appreciation.
Boston – I may be a bit late on the scarf issue…could be a fettish…wonder if he wants to use it as a restraint.
However…tie it around your purse, tuck it into the collar of your sweater or suit to add color, drape it over a lamp (not for too long). I’m sure you could find good use for his offer. It is odd that he is being so specific.
Hello sugars!
That’s all for now!
RandomYoungerSD, you guys really need to sit and talk it out. It’s hard for many SBs to really talk money, but the earlier you get it out of the way, the easier. The more experience you get, the easier it becomes to avoid the pitfalls, but to be honest, the more clearly the expectations are spelled out, the better.
Personally, with my current SB, after the first date, when we decided to see each other again, I e-mailed her details of the arrangement. Normally if I’m interested I do this in person on the first date, but that day I was having a head-ache (thanks to crazy drama queen SB who was still roaming the streets of my neighborhood–long story, but you can find it in the previous blogs). My e-mail was as follows:
“As for the arrangement, I will offer you what I have offered others. $x,000 per month paid at the beginning of the month. Since this is already mid-October, I will give you $y,000 for October. At any time you’re welcome to end the arrangement, as is the case for me. I don’t have sex until I am pretty sure things have a significant future, so if I don’t jump your bones, don’t take it as a sign of lack of sexual interest.”
(numbers blocked out because I am not sure if she wants it publicized on the blog, but I can say that y = 3/4 x. amazingly, she objected, saying that y should be 1/2 x, but i said she should not worry about it)
Anyways, I see the nitty gritty of the arrangement as just that, a basis that sets my expectations and hers. Although I did not spell out my expctations there, I had mentioned previously to her that I’d want to see her one or two afternoons a week and one evening a week for 2-3 hrs or so. We had also both agreed in previous e-mails that a non-sexual sugar relationship would not work. In reality, I offer much more than the stated allowance, because I want to make sure the SB is well taken care of, and in return I want more than just her time and body, as I want someone to connect with and enjoy on a personal and emotional level as well.
But there is no one formula for this.
James~ I was at that hotel 2 years ago and the views are amazing! Sounds like an Amazing time!
Texas~ been ok, ankle all healed… Working hard… you know the usual things!
“New SB in SB *395409* says:
Boston – I may be a bit late on the scarf issue…could be a fettish…wonder if he wants to use it as a restraint.”
*** Mmmm…..that sounds dreamy…. *sigh*
NYGent: Thanks. Yes, she is a model hottie, actually. Sounds like it goes with the territory. Honestly I’ve been on the fence about her for the past couple weeks, but whenever we meet up again she seems to charm me back. I can’t rationalize it.
As someone I think OC said it comes down to personal style, and to some extent how risk averse you are. Some people aren’t willing to invest more than a 20-30 minute coffee date or quick drink for a first meet, and that’s fine for them. Personally I don’t find that I can learn or discover much of anything in half an hour except whether I’m physically attracted to them, which is a very important, but I try to determine from pics in advance whether at least a necessary threshhold level of physical attraction will be there. For me, if there is that base level of attraction, I need either a brunch/lunch/dinner, i.e., hour and a half or more, to figure out whether there’s a connection, and sometimes some post-eating time together, be it walking, shopping or whatever. It’s a bigger investment, bigger risk, but potentially bigger payoff. Just a matter of personal style.
NewTXSB~ yes it is hard to find a man that loves to shop, but if you model things for him ,,,, maybe!
Random~ NyGent is right…. This just happened to him, read previous 2 blogs..
Hi Taz~
RealisticSD says:
“Taz, I gave being jaded some serious thought, but decided against it mainly because if other people want to use me, that’s life, but that will never make me want to use other people. Plus, I cannot punish someone new for what someone else did.”
Good to hear Realistic – I hope every SD sees it that way
Hey BG!!!
Welcome back James
That sounds amazing btw!
“but whenever we meet up again she seems to charm me back” (RandomYoungerSD)
OK, time to run then. I had this experience once where everything was not right at all, but when I was with the SB (actually, a pair of SBs or SB duo as some have called them), I would forget all our problems. You won’t put up with it forever, so my recommendation is for you to confront her with your expectations now.
I’m back… house is clean! Haven’t had the pleasure of a SD taking me out for shopping YET. So I can’t really say much about that other than this…. if I was eyeing something in a store while we were walking around outside and my SD took notice (unbeknownst to me of course), then that thing I was eyeing showed up on my doorstep or he gave it to me the next time we met… I would be blow away because he was interested enough in me to notice that I liked it.
I may be a little weird here, but I’ve noticed that when a guy pays attention to me… like he remembers nearly everything I’ve said… I’m a sucker for him. Real example: This one guy a while back…. we would meet and talk about everything under the sun everytime we saw each other. It was easy talking to each other. He paid such close attention and remembered everything I said. I was like WOW…. needless to say he had me hooked….
James, thanks for all your ealier advice on my looming end to my sugar story. Yes, it did work out. Happy? Well, no not happy but at least I feel good about myself and his actions were admirable. But as I expected, he txted this evening asking if I would reconsider. Hmmmm, knew the roses smelt funny. LOL
The allowance will be put into my rainy day savings fund. Still don’t feel good about spending it. I will however pay off that fabulous dress I bought for the event! It was a head turner! But now that stupid dress will always remind me of him. Stupid dress!
Upside is karma is working, I have several pots and one tenitive date for tomorrow (unless game 7 happens).
NY Gent, when my wife’s in town, I’ve met SBs at Starbucks or similar places. That way, I don’t waste too much precious time away from her, and if things are not right, I can leave after 30 min or so and poof! OK, I know all the SBs hate the poof daddies, but I only have poofed when the SBs look nothing like their pictures, otherwise I tell them I am not interested.
When she’s out of town, I meet up for dinner. That way I get to have a nice dinner as well.
Random: ultimately there is no better test than body language. When you gaze longingly at her (she being a model hottie), does she look in your eyes or away? When you put your arm around her or peck her on the cheek or neck does she up the ante or act like a block of ice who reciprocates, if at all, in a perfunctory manner? In other words when you try to reduce the distance between you does she try to reduce it further, or to widen it? It does come down to intuition and common sense, and it is very very hard to analyze these things coldly when she is stunningly beautiful and you want to believe . . .
OC~ good for you girl! You are on a roll…
sending positive vibes your way!!!
Random- Do your self a favor, drop her.
“When you gaze longingly at her (she being a model hottie), does she look in your eyes or away?”
Drama queen SB could not look me in the eyes at all. She said she could not look someone in the eyes until she felt very comfortable with him. Yet, she was comfortable enough to have me rent her and her guy “friend” an apartment and buy them a car after meeting them at Wal-Mart for an hour.
From work I have learned that there is nothing like a good look in someone’s eyes to establish a connection and trust.
I should add that when I hesitated to give drama queen what she wanted, she went into a scary trance and started intermittently shedding tears, so I ran as fast as I could. But then I went back to offer her and her friend a ride back home, because I was worried about whether they’d make their way back, and they refused, instead loitering about my neighborhood for a couple of days. Hence the headache I had the next day.
Thanks Beach! I spoke on the phone today with that wonderful *smile * SD today! We shall see…
realistic: exactly. the eyes have it. I’m sure there are any number of shakespearean sonnets that say this eternal truth, none of which I can recall offhand. . . .
Random~ I think all the SDs here tonight are giving you very wise advice!
Welcome to the blog!
But I guess I have been shopping with SBs. I guess I never counted Wal-Mart as shopping.
And I have been shopping with NewTXSB, just not for women’s clothes or accessories. But I think she saw how quickly I wore out from shopping. I went to the mall yesterday with my wife and kids, and despite not really buying anything, I was totally worn out. I fell asleep at like 8 (hence the not blogging) and spent most of today napping too just to recover.
Random, Texas, Realstic: Yeah, you’ve basically all confirmed what I knew anyway (when I’m not near her, that is): time to end it. She is “fun”, but I know it’s not going to work. There are also other red flags that I can’t get into here.
She usually communicates over text messages. I feel kind of cowardly breaking it off that way, but I’ve had it done to me through emails, so what’s the difference. Should I risk seeing her one last time to say goodbye? ugh.
OC~ woo hoo…. you go girl! Why can’t I live where there are lots of SDs?
I am getting discouraged!!!
OC, just returning the favor. You were right in my case, I was glad I did the deed in person in terms of my own self-respect and the overall dignity of the ending. About that text … his masculine pride may feel obligated to keep trying a bit, or he may want to test if his chivalrous gesture changed your mind. I assume you’re not going to respond … it’s over. Here’s hoping there’s no game 7 and you get right back out there again!
All this talk about shopping/not shopping has me concerned.
I have a pot who I get along famously with–and wouldn’t you know it?–when we finally can get our schedules synchronized, we will be meeting for an extended shopping date right out of the gate!
Would it also surprise anyone that it was MY idea based on our emails?
Oh, woe is me–have I stepped in it, or am I a great pot Daddy who should stop fretting and just cooperate with the inevitable?
TLG
TLG
RandomYoungerSD, what I would do in that situation is to meet her one last time, try to get more physically intimate, and if there is the least bit of hesitation on her part, tell her exactly what I think. The conversation that would ensue would grant her the opportunity to state any of her thoughts or reservations, as there might be some value to that in terms of the lessons we learn about people and relationships. Unless a real solid agreement is reached, then I just move on. Getting rid of these super-hot but troublesome SBs is not easy, but being rid of them is a relief!
“RealisticSD says:
And I have been shopping with NewTXSB, just not for women’s clothes or accessories. But I think she saw how quickly I wore out from shopping.”
*** LOL…yes, I can vouch for the fact the RealisticSD hates shopping. After like 15-20 minutes in the store, he literally asked “Where’s the exit?”. LOL…like a prisoner anxious to escape. I felt sooo bad…..as he mentioned earlier, he works much better as a “cash daddy”.
hhahhah OC , my sister, we would both get them and share notes lol…
I need to move!
HEllooo Shug’s!!!
Sorry Im kinda hyper tonight.
Just got back from a very nice date with a super gentleman. Held the door open for me in the restaurant, even for the people leaving (He is tall so they went right under him LOL!), didn’t seem agitated that the waitress keep giving him the finger (the wait finger I mean), which was pretty rude of her IMO, but he still left her a generous tip (way too generous for her attitude) and even walked me to my side of the door and opened it for me! Ladies, chivalry is not dead!
We had a great time, and I said thank you as I gave him a hug and kiss on the cheek. He seems like a great guy. He also didn’t mind how I was being “heckled”, to say the least, as he picked me up. (Live in a not so great neighborhood, I don’t have drama, just some people can’t help but hate).
He said he was interested, but I still want to wait and explore my options. I still want to see the 61 yr old first.
What had me absolutely ROLLING ON THE FLOOR LAUGHING MY ASS OFF was this email I received from a guy who I declined respectfully because he wanted to do that “pay per visit” crap. Trust me ladies (and gents) this is hilarious!
“I got a real chuckle out of your email.
I am a honest man so I’m gonna let you in on something. You are a whore. I know you are a whore, you know you are a whore. And any other Daddy willing to give you money for a relationship knows that you are a whore.
And I am a John, someone willing to pay for your company. This is why I have stopped pursuing a SD relationship. Because you women seem to think you are more intelligent than a successful man. You are all just actresses (which usually also means whore). You most likely have a young and broke boyfriend and also a somewhat poor family which is why you choose to do this is the first place. I find it amusing that a 19 year old woman would think that a successful adult male would think of her as anything more than a moist entrance for relief. I do apologize if my language is a bit short the PATS game is on so i blame my directness on the bud light, but you seem like a nice enough girl i figure I’d give you a clue. At the end of the day tell yourself whatever you need to sleep well at night. I too hope you find whatever it is your looking for.”
ROTFLMAOO!!! Don’t blame it on the a-a-a-alcohol guy.
OMG Beach if you lived in LA I would NEVER get any dates!
Random, here’s an idea: text her that “we need to have a serious talk” and see what happens.
random: see the extended discussion a few blogs ago about my preemptive breakup with SB by email. Many different opinions were voiced, but bottom line is I was (and am) comfortable having done it that way because I was 95% sure she wanted out of it and this was a way of letting her off gently and easy as opposed to an awkward in person or phone convo which I knew she wouldn’t have wanted to have. But there is a certain view that you never ever break up with somebody by email or text no matter how much you’re in the right and they’re in the wrong. (I think it’s the only thing OC and I have ever disagreed over!)
No James, I have not responded to the text. You are right, it does sound like a pride thing and I don’t want to emasculate him by not txting back. I am not sure what to do, but I may have to hide the chocolate again! Between the game and the txt I am stressing out…
OC ~ first I need to go for a vacation see my friends and my sister from another mother!
Boston, I’m glad you’re laughing because that’s one ugly email. Totally beyond the pale. That man has issues.
Hmmm, I just noticed a new blog handle. Can I now admit to having had a crush on Sweety?
Random- ehh up to you…
BostonSugahBabe:
Glad to hear your date went well. And that guy’s e-mail….all I can say is WOW…
On Me James???? mail me!!!
OC: I think your behavior exemplary in all respects, wish they were all like you . . . .
Boston – Congrats on the good date! and my jaw drooopppped at that other email. And then I busted a gut laughing about how the “bud light made him do it”. Bud light. oh man.
Random – Call or do it in person. A breakup should not happen by email or text (except in certain cases). You can be a better man than that. But perhaps in your case, calling would be a better move, as doing it in person might cause you a bit of distress.
James, Sweety is my Canadian twin. I would totally approve of this crush you speak of!!!
Beach, come down for a visit any time! Psst, did you see what James wrote about Sweety??? LOL
OC, I can see why you want to acknowledge his text, but something light like thanks but you can’t reheat a souffle is probably enough. I’m stressing a little bit too … but keeping the faith!
OC~ lmao, I did
…. I so need to go to the sun… it’s too cold here.. And I miss my Cali Sister!
I can not stop laughing at the email. I told him what he wanted sounded like an escort and he said he didn’t want an escort, then emails me this drunken tirade about me being a whore and him being a John. Classic!..Reminded me of this Clint Eastwood moive I saw once.
Whoohoo for the blog hook ups!
Gem-Bud light! LMAO, I swear. I thought to myself “don’t blame the pats for you’re idiocy”