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Living the Sugarlife
  • Posted Mar 25, 2011
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  • Written by Brandon Wade

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People are discovering the Sugar World of dating for mutually beneficial relationships in many different ways…

Many people not familiar with Sugar Daddy dating find it hard to believe until they see it for themselves. Countless curious seekers have stumbled upon the pages of SeekingArrangement, finding themselves intrigued by the idea that there are many real people out there who are pursuing something that they may have never thought practical for them.

Yet, once it becomes apparent that the sugarlife is indeed a very real possibility, the sugar high is often not very far behind.

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Before Sugarlife

There are many different ways of attaining a sweet sugarlife. Here are some of the ways many here have found their sugar sweet spot:

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After Sugarlife

By having a sugar with whom they can escape the ‘ordinary’.

Lots of sugars here have said that one of the best perks about the Sugar World for them is being able to spice up their lives by meeting the interesting, unique, and attractive individuals in the Sugar World. There are many SD’s and SB’s who are looking to share their unique take on life with another sugar, all while being able to appreciate their time together within a non-permanent relationship.

By having real intimacy with less drama and more fun.

There are lots of people who think that sugar relationships are all about two things… yet many here know that in truth, a sugar relationship should be much more than a ‘transaction’ or exchange of raw goods. On the contrary, many here have reported their sweetest sugar updates when realizing how close they can be with a sugar dater, and how good it feels to know that the relationship is mutually beneficial. One Sugar Baby said that her most cherished memories so far in her sugarlife are of being able to meet with her Sugar Daddy for their once-a-month visits, which she says are highly intimate while still ‘feeling light and fun’.

Do you have any sugar in your weekend plans?

How’s your sugarlife been lately? Have any tips or questions you’d care to share with the Sugar Daddy & Sugar Baby blog?

What’s the sweetest thing about your sugarlife at the moment?

164 Responses to “Living the Sugarlife”

  1. SA Moderator Team says:

    All personalities and perspectives are welcome in the blog, while personal attacks and name calling are not. It’s inevitable that there will be disagreements but let’s handle it as mature adults with class to keep the dialog constructive and respectful. Please refer to the “Blog Etiquette” for more details. Now comment away and let’s enjoy the blog!!

  2. cleo says:

    first :P

    not much to say really, i’m visiting my niece and her family for the weekend so you know, not sugary in the dating sense of the world at all!

  3. Michael Oceanic-Euro-Anglo Alleycat says:

    Second

  4. Mondaine says:

    Do you have any sugar in your weekend plans?

    I am halfway through the weekend here in Mondaine-monde, and having a lovely quiet one. Mais! I have just started learning a Brahms Intermezzo (for myself) but I think my sugar, who has yet to see me play, will be delighted to have a a private performance once I’ve mastered it. Tres romantique!

    How’s your sugarlife been lately? Have any tips or questions you’d care to share with the sugar daddy & sugar baby blog?

    Sugary. I like my sugar SMART, and to date I’ve been pretty lucky, having some sparkly conversations with some scintillating individuals.

    What’s the sweetest thing about your sugarlife at the moment?

    Hmmm, the possibilities I guess. Lots of things paying off in my life all round at the moment, hard work on career showing good results, a lovely vacation coming up, and lots of ideas for things I’d like to start this year.

    Unfortunately have consumed a bit too much dietary sugar in the last couple of days and feel a bit blech so I see a lot of water and vegetables in my next few weeks. Some sugar is not so good!

  5. Mondaine says:

    and @LASB – nice going! I adore meeting new people when just out and about not looking for it. Even when it doesn’t go anywhere it’s still such a gift, eh?

  6. LASB says:

    Mondaine –
    How awesome that you are a musician! Very sexy!! Yes, it was a nice pick-me-up. (Pun intended.)

    I hear ya on the sugar. At some point after the fruit plate, beer, and sips of various other sweet alcohol that I’m not into, there was this huge ice cream tower in front of me, covered with M&Ms, chocolate chips, caramel syrup, and all sorts of stuff that I never eat. Just the one bite I took makes me want to go on a month long detox! It’s hours later, and I still feel like I’m on sugar overload.

  7. Acidbearcare says:

    Sugar in weekend plans……not much left, sugar’d out from last night!

    Sugar next week! Current SD on tuesday, ex sd on thursday….should be interesting….

    Sweetest thing about sugarlife are the people in it….

    And a sugartip, don’t take life too seriously or you’ll never get out alive.

  8. Dallasbaby says:

    i do not agree this lifestyle is less drama as the blog says ! I have never had so much drama in my life !

  9. Michael Oceanic-Euro-Anglo Alleycat says:

    Hey Dallasbaby – what was the drama?

    I think that most relationships have drama of one sort or another. But with sugar, you can make very clear rules about no drama, or whatever you want. And then if drama turns up? Buh-bye…

  10. Cali SB says:

    LASB!!! How have you been? Long time no chat! :) Where were you eating? Maybe I need to hang out there! haha

    I tried to send a message to a pot last night and SA told me I’m over my 10 free message limit. What? I’ve been sending messages for almost 2 years (nearly 400 messages) and now there’s a 10 message limit? What the heck? Needless to say, in the zero success I’ve had on this site in almost 2 years, there is no chance I am upgrading to have even more “zero luck”.

  11. Cali SB says:

    I realize this is a new blog so many people have yet to even respond to the new question at hand, but I’ve been thinking lately and have been wondering your opinions to this question.. Many SD’s are married and it seems as though most SB’s are okay with that. What is the difference between dating/sleeping with a married SD and dating/sleeping with a married man who is not an SD? Does it make it okay if there is money/gifts involved? It seems as though there is a negative social stigma to dating/sleeping with a married man (understandably), but yet it seems to be acceptable if it’s an arrangement situation.

  12. Dallasbaby says:

    Michael: I had some huge drama when I was seeing a married man and his wife got into his email and then they both sent me a nasty couple of mails together calling me all kinds of names and making fun of my looks followed with lots of hooker statements….I would think she should be calling him a trick / john then ?

  13. Bela says:

    Dallasbaby – Yeah, the married guy situation is tricky. You never know how his wife will react when she finds out – which she always does. You just have to hope that she’s not the type to go nuts on you. The perfect arrangement is when the married is out of convenience for both parties and his wife is comfortable with him having a companion.

  14. Michael Oceanic-Euro-Anglo Alleycat says:

    @Dallasbaby – ouch and ouch!

    I have always found that the ones who yell the loudest – in this case both the guy and his wife – are the ones who are feeling the guiltiest about a situation.

  15. Dallasbaby says:

    Bela: funny think is in the mail she said she did know the whole time and that they had a bet going that I would take the bait and that I was used for them to ” get off ” on in the bedroom. Used like trash !

  16. Dallasbaby says:

    Just one of the mails I got : You should find out peoples sexual sides before you think you are “winner” because we laughed about using you every time. Lance and I have a very open relationship and well you were just something we used to get off with. You in fact my dear, were the “loser”!

    The champagne he brought you was literally about to be thrown in the trash, it was bad! He laughed when he told me he brought trash for trash!

    I wonder where you think you are going in life from here. You are getting noticeably old and very soon everyone is going to move on to something better. I mean who wants to be with an old trashy used up hooker wanna be?

    You really thought Lance would hurt me for you? LMAO!!!!!

    Had you asked me to participate this may have ended different!

    Have a nice life!!!

  17. Prehistoric-DC says:

    Dallasbaby, that email was horrible.. but obviously she was hurt, jealous, insecure, etc. What I’ve never understood is the fact that the WOMEN get angry with the “OTHER WOMAN” – be upset with your guy. The other woman didn’t tie the guy down, force him to do anything, etc.
    Don’t listen to what she had to say.. she’s projecting her feelings of anger onto you. They obviously don’t have the “open” relationship she thought they had..

  18. Prehistoric-DC says:

    Happy Saturday everyone! :)

  19. Honey says:

    Cali on the moral stigma part…
    Remember that this is still America, founded by Puritans. In some european countries there is a different attitude. I remember being floored when some ex french president had both his wife and mistress at his funeral!! People sometimes don’t know how to handle it, we are taught that it is “wrong” to sleep with a man who is not married to you. Men may have it a little easier in not being thought of as “easy” or a “whore” for being in a committed relationship with one person according to our double standards. my Daddy’s wife has not been sleeping with him for over 10 years, I have only been with him since we met, but I’m still sure she thinks of me as his…light skirt, piece on the side? whatever. All I know is that we make each other happy.

    Dallas, forget those losers, You were not the one who had made any promises you didn’t keep to the loser guy, she needs to take up her issues with the guy who signed a piece of paper promising all kinds of stuff. You made no such promise to her,tell her to keep a better eye on her man, you didn’t take him anywhere he didn’t want to go…

  20. The Lone Gunman makes Caligula look like a Puritan says:

    @Dallasbaby:

    I have a slightly different take on the email excerpt you quoted.

    Are you certain that both the wife AND the husband were sending those messages to you? I strongly suspect that you are only dealing with one person here, and that person wanted to break things off with you in a very hurtful manner. There are some pretty strong clues (to me) in how that thing is phrased to indicate this and create that outcome.

    TLG

  21. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Happy weekend sugars! How are my sexy NYC sisters feeling today?

    Just a sprinkle of sugar this weekend as I was greeted at the door by a flower/ chocolate delivery! Next week…another attempt to Reach the Beach!

    How’s my sugar life been? Well….it’s complicated. Not dramatic…just complicated.

    The sweetest thing about sugar is definitely the people. I love meeting our blog friends and every gent I meet has some amazing attribute that I learn from. It’s sooooooooo much better than regular dating!

    DallasBaby – This is no reason to put yourself through any more of this. Close the e-mail account or create a rule that treats their addresses as spam. Never let anyone have more than one opportunity to insult you…less than one if you can help it. Blacklist them and find yourself a real gentleman. Meanwhile, put those away, stop reading them and don’t give them the power to affect your self image. N E X T !!!

  22. Dallasbaby says:

    Thanks everyone !
    TLG: that email was from her, but at first I was getting them from his email and the email said it was the both of them together and it was even more nasty then the one I posted !

    Strange thing is we are pretty much equal in the looks department and some would even say look like sisters. Same age and body type too !
    Everything about her would sound just like me , pretty much twinzies !

  23. Mondaine says:

    @Dallasbaby, RTB is right – you do not deserve to be insulted like that. As tempted as I would be to write a well crafted smackdown reply, the right thing to do is delete & block.

    One thing that I do is I consider beyond what is being said and ask myself “what’s speaking”? The letter you quoted is coming from a very twisted place. Imagine living like that. We should feel nothing but pity for the author, whoever it was.

    And if there were any clues you missed that now seem to stand out in hindsight, you can adjust your screening methods appropriately.

    <3

  24. Dallasbaby says:

    Mondaine : The only way I could keep things like this from happening would be not to be in the sugar bowl at all. I would be willing to bet that all men have someone they are seeing or have been seeing before me unless they do in fact live under a rock ! I never met anyone though who lives under a rock and a clean slate as they all claim.

  25. Cali SB says:

    Dallas, sounds to me like she got into his email and read the ones from you and started sending out her own pretending to be him. He may have even let it go (but not necessarily been in on them) to save his marriage. Like a coward..

    I’ve been dealing with a married man lately. At first I didn’t know he was married and even made jokes about him having a wife, which he denied. We talked as friends for a month or so. We began to flirt and I began to like him and let my guard down. Finally the day he decided to make a move and kiss me (a couple times that day), he called me after he left the second time and confessed to being married. *sigh*

  26. LASB says:

    Hey Cali!!! Nice to see you here! Your story sounds awfully familiar.
    Yes, let’s hangout. There are a few local events going on that may have some IRLs.

  27. Mondaine says:

    @Dallas I don’t think the fault is in the sugarbowl necessarily – fraud is the minefield of all online connection – dating, commerce, news etc. Suffice to say that people in *genuine* open loving relationships do NOT have to go on despicably cruel hunting expeditions. Anyone can see there is nothing of truth in the email that was sent to you. Treat it with the contempt it deserves. When I say adjust screening I don’t propose that screening can ever completely rule out unsavoury experiences, it’s only risk management. Even with the best processes disaster can still happen, sugarbowl or not.

    @Cali SB I looked at your profile and for the life of me I cannot understand why you have had “zero luck”. I think it must be due to actual luck (and maybe your location?) Re your recent experience, what a lying pretentious slug he was. He does not deserve one more moment of your time.

    On marriage…. maybe I should not get started, lest I give away too much.

    Firstly I don’t judge anyone for their conduct in a marriage. It looks like it is a very difficult thing, to be married. It appears to be quite common to not have your needs met. If the relationship is not hostile or destructive (violent, abusive etc) and one party needs to look outside it to satisfy a need, I think that the marriage should still be carefully preserved. If I’m in a relationship with a married man, I want him to stay married. I want his life to be better for his interaction with me. In some cases, that means: no emails, no texts, and wait for him to call. Price you pay for spending a little time with someone who is simply awesome in the context you know them.

    It’s all individual but the golden rule for me is to stay non-judgmental, openminded, and of course respectful to all the parties involved, even the ones you’ll never meet. Sometimes the way you do that looks different, but the basic attitude is the same.

  28. Cali SB says:

    LASB — Yes, let’s! We never did get together the last time and then I was MIA from here for a while. This is my last weekend off work probably til the end of summer, maybe a day off here and there, like next Sunday. I’ve realized I need to make new friends locally. As for the married man, the worst part (I suppose) is that he wasn’t even a pot SD, he was IRL and he’s a cop. AND he works my area soooo… yeah, stupid situation to get involved with, marriage aside. I am really hoping to find an SD soon.

    Mondaine — Thank you. :) I have had literally maybe a handful of interested and possibly REAL SD’s in the past almost 2 years message me. I would say not even a full hand. The majority were just out of my age range comfort zone (like 50′s). I don’t know, maybe there are too many people to look through in the LA area. I don’t have plastic surgery or anything and there are TONS of gorgeous women here. I think LASD is right (we discussed this a long while ago), many SD’s in this area can easily find a SB in person so they don’t have a need for a site like this.

  29. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Cali SB – Hey chica! I’ve missed you! Give the early 50s a try. They’re usually so sweet and have vast experience (in more ways than one). Plus, they know about arrangements. You will be pleasantly surprised!

    Mondaine – Beautifully said!

    ***waives Hi LASB! ****

  30. Mondaine says:

    Reach the Beach, merci beaucoup. I could say the same thing about all the posts of yours I read while I lurked here.

  31. Cali SB says:

    Hi Reach! Missed you too! :) I’m okay up to late 40′s, POSSIBLY a couple years into the 50′s, but it really depends on the person. I am looking for a connection and I can’t just fake physical chemisty that isn’t there. I’d like to stay within 20ish years of my age. Even 25 years would put me at 52.

  32. @Cali – now you’re just hurting my feelings ….

  33. Cali SB says:

    What did I do? :(

  34. Cali SB says:

    I said it depends on the person! :) I’m only 27, it’s not like I am 40 and saying that. Goodness. lol

  35. The Lone Gunman makes Caligula look like a Puritan says:

    @Cali SB

    If Michael’s hurt, then I must be devestated at mid-50……:(

    TLG

  36. The Lone Gunman makes Caligula look like a Puritan says:

    …SO devaststed that I can’t even spell, darn it! :(

    TLG

  37. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Lol….see what I mean Cali? :-)

    These men are very sexy and the attraction is there regardless of age…i’m just sayin’

  38. Honey says:

    Night all, you handsome, older men and you gorgeous women over 30!
    Isn’t that the expiration date for sugarbabies? lol! I like them smart and powerful and sometimes..they get smarter with age and more powerful?

  39. Cali SB says:

    I’m just breaking hearts all over the blog! ;) In all fairness, neither of you are asking me out on dates. I’m devastated! :(

  40. Cali SB says:

    I don’t think anyone commented on my first post. What with this 10 free message limit all of a sudden? After almost 2 years I can’t send any more messages unless I upgrade?

  41. **Do you have any sugar in your weekend plans?**
    I have a date with SD2 tomorrow, he’s letting me plan where we go and what we do which I love. He’s calling me around 3 because he’s on the cape for his yacht club’s meeting. I have no idea what I’m going to plan for tomorrow, but he wants to nail down plans about where I’ll be taking classes this summer and purchase my new laptop which is nice. I’ll try to think of a nice date since he always plans them.

    **How’s your sugarlife been lately? Have any tips or questions you’d care to share with the sugar daddy & sugar baby blog?**
    It has been pretty satisfactory, the thing I don’t like about SD2 is he wants more contact than SD1. I like having our time together, the very occasional text here and there and then we have our separate lives. SD2 is SO attached already it is making me a bit uneasy. I’m a bit unsure on how to proceed here so we’ll see. I am keeping my options open.

    **What’s the sweetest thing about your sugarlife at the moment?**
    The gifts, shopping, having my tuition paid for while still taking care of all my own personal bills from my job and maintaining my independence. Also, the secrecy of my other life, no one at my full-time job has any clue and I LOVE that!! I’ve also met some amazing girls within the sugar community (online and even in real life – love you “Lee”) and I truly feel fortunate for that. Lastly, the invaluable advice and knowledge SD1 and SD2 have given me as CEOs of their own companies and well-educated males, they have learned so many things they are passing onto me because they see I am genuinely interested. These lessons are priceless and most likely the best things I have gained while within the sugar world.

  42. Bela says:

    Cali – That’s so funny! My age limit used to be at 45 (I’m 29) but then I met my girlfriend’s husband (super hot) and found out he was 60(!) After that, I relaxed my age rules a LOT. Just like men want a woman who takes care of herself, I feel there’s nothing wrong with wanting a hot older man. Yummy!!!

  43. Bela says:

    Rock on, Kennedy!!

  44. Cali SB says:

    The blog is dead today..

  45. Honey says:

    Ditto Kennedy!! esp. on the last part. The security, I’m just looking for a little bit of my own now.
    And I like being able to buy a splurge every now and then. and it makes me softer… Before when I was doing it all on my own, I was tougher and more suspicious, every date I was armed-enough money to pay if he turns out to be a jerk. Now I screen the jerks out and have mostly met the greatest of guys. and no one really knows my status either, they have already let me know that they didn’t really understand and it’s one of the things where you have to see it to believe it, right, ladies, hard to explain how someone you never met is sending you a ticket to meet him somewhere and you are NOT going to sleep with him for sure!

  46. @Honey
    I feel the same way. I have been pretty fortunate (after a few not so fortunate silly men) after my screening process to encounter some amazing, sweet and nurturing men.

  47. testing my avatar..hopefully it works!!

  48. Honey says:

    It’s lovely!!

  49. Honey says:

    I just found out by accident that you can get to your blog just by clicking on your name. I always clicked on the link name not the person name.
    I had always wondered how people could find other people’s blogs…

  50. Cali SB says:

    I feel so naked without an avatar. How do I get one? Just go to gravatar.com??

  51. Honey says:

    Yup!!
    follow the instructions, they walk you thru it.

  52. Honey says:

    and if anybody here has a direct email to Stephan and his is not out living his life…tell him to answer the customer service email he got.

  53. Cali SB says:

    Hmm.. is it working?

  54. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Hi ladies! I think this came up on the last blog that there were some technical issues and nobody will have to upgrade to send messages. Hang in there until they get it fixed. I’m sure it sucks that you can’t e-mail people back. Maybe put some little thing in your profile that says you will return e-mails as soon as the glitches are worked out.

    Busy weekend but it’s been a lot of fun (with one little exception). Celebrated three birthdays and we even caught some fish this weekend!

  55. Cali SB says:

    YAYYYYY!!! I need to find a better one since I’m a blonde, but that’s good for now!

  56. Cali SB says:

    Okay, here’s another one. I don’t know which one I like better. Hmm.. I’ll have to do some google searching later.

  57. Cali SB says:

    Great, the new one isn’t working. Grrrrrr.

  58. The Lone Gunman makes Caligula look like a Puritan says:

    Cali SB:

    As I recall, the gravatar image is linked to the email you use here–but you have to make sure that gravatar has that info beforehand. That may be why you’re experiencing ‘technical difficulties’.

    TLG

  59. The Lone Gunman makes Caligula look like a Puritan says:

    ..and then, of course, the image shows up right after I send that last message.

    Nice avatar, Cali SB.

    TLG

  60. Cali SB says:

    lol TLG. I got that one to work, I had another one that wouldn’t show up that I tried to switch it to after this one. I like this one, but I’m not a brunette. I may play around with it later. :)

  61. NYC SB says:

    Kennedy – I own that ring… Muse has a pic of it on her hand … She jokes its her wedding ring to me… Since she is my blog wife lol

  62. Honey says:

    What kind of ring is it Pink diamond, tourlaine/ tourmaline? White gold, silver? I like white gold, I like silver, but am allergic to it. Great excuse to buy white gold or platinum!

  63. Cali SB says:

    Awww Honey.. no Tiffany’s for you! :( Well, most of Tiffany’s things anyway.

  64. cleo says:

    silver rings turn my skin colors and i cannot put it in anything pierced AND it doesn’t tend to look that good on me so neither does platinum (which i love :( ) but i recently learned that if you put a bunch of amber in with the silver it makes up for not being gold and looks great with my skin just like gold does.

    i’m delighted because while i love gold it’s nice to have some variety available in my choices…

  65. I have no idea which ring it is I think I just google searched “pink diamond” but the cut is a little bit similar to Harry Winton’s classic emerald cut. I have one similar but cushion cut and in a different color :)

  66. Honey says:

    Looks like bubble gum!!!

  67. Honey says:

    Cali—please forgive my…..lol!!
    Thanks Kennedy and thanks Reachthebeach for the gravtar info, came in handy lots!!!

  68. teebabs says:

    hey hey some of us love them old and powerful cos they know how to treat a lady

  69. Reach the Beach SB says:

    You said it teebabs! Welcome!

    Morning sugars! Exciting week for me! Bring it on!

  70. Alice says:

    Weekend plans: my best friend is moving across the country very soon, going to help her pack and say our last goodbyes! My heart is breaking, but I know that she’ll be happy with her new s.o. and planned field of study.

    Current sugar life: Stagnant. It’s getting a bit frustrating, actually. Not so much because of the lack of dates, but because I may not be able to pay off what I still owe for this semester and will likely have to end up dropping out all together. Not sure what I’ll do after that, because my mom probably won’t let me come back home if I do haha. But I’ve pulled myself out of of some pretty spectacular Indiana Jones-esque scenarios, I’ll figure something out.

  71. @Honey I like that little icon!! <3

  72. Honey says:

    Oh Kennedy you little flatterer!!
    I used to be a housemanger/nanny
    Used to take care of this cutest little girl Named Kennedy Alexandria. She was the cutest,sweest,little girl! I always thought Kennedy was such a classy sounding name for a girlStrong, Classic and Sharp!
    Like a pair of shoes can be sharp, mostly black shoes…shiny…Or is that just too bougie of me? Can a name BE Bougie? Rambling…. Good Morning All!

  73. Honey says:

    Reach the beach !! Share!! Circle share!! What have you been up to? Do tell!

  74. beth says:

    I don’t have any sugar planned this weekend. I feel so fortunate to have found an amazing sugar daddy. This coming May will mark are one year anniversary together. Things arent perfect but what is. The only blunder I have made is become too dependent on him, I know a cardinal sin I have committed in the sugar world. I still need to find a better paying job so what he gives me is just an extra bonus.

    Things get a little bit tricky though. I’m also dating this guy who is not too far from my age who i’m growing to like. But I will not be exclusive with him because i’m seeing my SD. Dating this guy I actually like has allowed me to realize that if I want to have the independence of being on my own and get with a real guy I better be making some real dough myself. :/

  75. cleo says:

    beth: most of the ladies on this blog prefer their real men to be of the rich and spoiling variety as well…

  76. Cali SB says:

    I can send messages on SA again. WOO!! :)

  77. Cali SB says:

    ^^^^ Not that I have any messages from pot’s to reply to because I don’t get contacted.. but hey, if it ever happens, I can reply now! lol

  78. ebonysb4u says:

    Hey sugars,
    im fairly new to this whole sugar dating world. Im much younger than most of you all (21). I was reading earlier you discussed a screening process. please give me more details or tips about that please :)

  79. Cali SB says:

    “Much younger” at 21… ouch.

  80. Cali SB says:

    Tip #1: Don’t offend other SB’s on the blog.

  81. ebonysb4u says:

    A lot of SD i’ve sent messages too told me i was too young so i just wanted to put it out there. Sorry i didn’t mean to offend anyone.

  82. Lol @honey you CRACK me up!!! Many things can be considered bougie, so a name can as well. I love masculine sounding names for girls, like Dylan, Blair etc. Kennedy is especially close to my heart because I’m from the Boston area. My true name is actually a bit bougie sounding as well lol. What can you do?!
    @ebony I don’t think you’re “much” younger than most of us, some of us are only a few years older..being a female I’d definitely be easy with the age references lol. I kid…kind of :)
    Basically what we do when we find someone that seems worth our time, we obtain their personal email (the @ ______ usually contains their last name because they own the company), work phone number and/or name of their company. From there we can view their LinkedIn profile, company bio (which often has pictures of the more senior staff) as well as any articles associated with their successes/donations etc. It is important during this process to be cautious about revealing the same information about ourselves, personal email, where we live/work for obvious reasons.
    I wish you luck!!

  83. Bahaha @CaliSB see my comment below yours!!

  84. @Cali – hahaha – now you know how TLG and I felt the other day …. lol

  85. Honey says:

    I don’t mind being older, I like it, can’t eat everything like I used to but I like myself more. Plus it helps if you have great parents who gave you great looking, soft skin that never looks its age! And I’ve stopped putting age requirements down,some guys just lie about their ago. Like this one great guy who said he was 59 but then whipped out his senor citizen discount card that you have to be 62 (at least!) to get! This was after he flew me out to Carmel, living in the other mayor of Carmel’s house(not clint eastwood), took me shopping in Downtown Carmel,were I actually hate shopping, cause EVERYTHING is expensive, even the cheap stuff. So after dropping all that cash, he gives it away to save, like $3.00 on the entrance fee to the place we were going! But he could out hike me and was very active and in shape for many a man younger than him. Italian….from Milan, he did have great taste in clothing!!

  86. @Honey – I kinda like getting older (but not old!) as well, don’t have any choice in the matter anyway, so the point is to enjoy whatever is happening!

    I am fit (walked to Everest Base Camp 2 weeks ago), healthy and lovin’ life. There is no other way to approach life, than to just go for it, and have a great time along the way.

  87. Cali SB says:

    lol Michael, I didn’t mean to give you a complex! It’s not like you have asked me out and I turned you down! :) Like I said, it all depends on the person!

  88. Dallasbaby says:

    I agree that many men who are 50 or more will say on profile they are 35 or 42 but clearly you can tell the photos it is not the case. They say it is to get younger girls ?

  89. Honey says:

    Michael, you either get older or you die…
    Everest huh? Wow I am impressed, that 1in 3 death rate has kinda kept me below the clouds!!
    Is that High enough to see your house from there? I like mountain climbers, they have great stamina!!! There was this guy I dated who did mount blanc at least twice, once in the dark.Ice climbing or something crazy like that.I used to be a jock and would always inspire my boyfriends to improve themselves. Karate,and mountain climbing. I could more than keep up with every guy I dated. I like the extreme sports and am very competitive and I used to do everything from Endurance racing to Ultimate Frisbee!Hunter Jumping with Tennis and Hashing thrown in. On On!!(Hashing being a drinking club with a running party, not a drug.)
    But I think I shall pass on Lady Everest… Hats off to you Brave, kind sir!! I’m just a girl!!!

  90. @Honey – it was just Base Camp at 18k ft, I wasn’t going near the top, too dangerous!!. The Ice Falls just past Base Camp are the most dangerous part.

    Was fun enough as it was though, 12 day walk, stunning scenery, plus lots of good stories and great photos.

  91. whitelillies says:

    EbonySB4U – I’m 22, and get the wrong kind of guys all the time because they’re looking for that young thing to manipulate. Perhaps just down play your age until it comes up and then show any pots how mature and responsible you are. Sure, this has been a problem in the past for me, but the right SD notices that I am smart, calm and going places with my life. When he realizes you’re an adult, however young of an adult you are, age will probably be less of an issue. However, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. If you feel like he’s a creep, next him, no matter what he’s offering. And all the lovely sugars, regardless of age, here can back me up on that one.

    Cali- What are you talking about? You’re all of twenty-seven, I believe you mentioned. Not old enough to be offended.

    Alleycat- Hottest Pot to ever contact me was in his mid-fifties and I was totally attracted to him. Unfortunately, our priorities were different, but no complex necessary, especially if you’re a fit guy. I will take an in shape SD over a pudgy one any day of the week, regardless of age.

  92. Reach the Beach SB says:

    EbonySB4U – There are some links on the right that talk about screening, first meets, travel, etc. that have been compiled over time from some of the best! Definitely go through the archives and absorb that wealth of information!

    Hi sugars! Still plowing through mid-term stuff and so ready for the semester to end…

  93. The Lone Gunman makes Caligula look like a Puritan says:

    @Michael Alleycat (in best Gran Tourino imitation)

    [img]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Gran_Torino_Shooting.jpg[/img]

    Get off my lawn!!!

    TLG

  94. jess says:

    Hello. I am somewhat new at the whole sd dating scene but I have my profile up on the site and looking forward to getting some positive replies to it. I have been on the site for about 3 years on/off and have not gotten any REAL prospects as of yet and I don’t know why. Can anyone give me some tips on how to make my profile POP???

  95. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Jess – Welcome! If you would like sugars to be able to see your profile, paste the web url to your page in the “website” section where you leave a reply. Just remember, this blog is totally public, so anyone can click through to see your profile. Would you prefer advice to be posted or to have it sent to your email? Go back to the October 2009 Blogs and look for posts from Flo Rida. She has some amazing profile advice!

    Good morning sugars!

    ***Sigh*** I thought I had a decent response on a part-time postion as an AA, but it turns out to be another one of those “cash my cashier’s check” scams to buy stuff for an orphanage. Really? Do you think I’m that unaware? Grrrrrrr

  96. Reach The Beach SB says:

    Let’s see if the gents are lurking…

    ( – Y – ) Boobies!

    ( | ) Bootie!

    Young, hot coeds!

    Blues dude!

    Help, Help, I have drama in NYC! (You know we love your white knight)

    And for the ladies….

    Vroom, vroom VC!

    Flo Rida – You’ve been gone far too long!

    Gemi – Lots of NE ladies to share with!

    SWR – You know you’re always welcome here!

    Scarlet – Have you recovered from your NYC hangover?

    Carebear – Same for you!

    Besos to those who know I didn’t mean to leave you out xoxox!

  97. Reach The Beach SB says:

    Found the profile tips!

    Check out these posts from the archive: “Marketing Yourself as a Sugarbaby“, “Sugar Dating is a Game of Odds“, and this one from NYC SB’s blog about profile tips: “Seeking Arrangement –

    Profile Tips“.
    Profiles – to save time:
    Rule1 – don’t say anything negative – no I could lose a few pounds
    Rule2 – Personalize be unique – don’t say you’re fun prove it with a story or your humor. Don’t say I’m a foodie say ‘Do you think Per Se is better than French Laundry’ don’t say I’m well travelled say ‘I’ve travelled to 37 countries & can’t decide if dining at Felix overlooking HK Central or snorkeling at the Great Barrier Reef is my most memorable experience’
    Rule3 – weed out undesirables & also tell people what you want ‘if you are between 30 & 45, emotionally grounded & able to provide mentorship & financial assistance then I’d like to hear from you, I won’t bite (unless biting is what you’re into… kidding!)
    Rule4 – upscale it – show you know their world (of course this only applies if you really do).
    Rule5 – SD will read the tag line & look at the pics & read the profile. but you can lose them on the tag line – examples Boston Barbie – Simply the best – Better than all the rest – A glimpse of bliss. Insert a line on discretion & balance. Keep it short (SD are very busy and have short attention spans – they’ll decide within 1 min to move on).
    Rule6 – Add a line on being 100 percent committed to this & understanding mutually beneficial (with chemistry)
    Rule7 – do not add all your interests – most SD aren’t interested in the same things – they don’t care about pilates or Twilight or being a girly girl. Only add interests that connect with them (generally s-x, sportsm food, business, sports cars, travel).
    SD lists the SB types as Investigators, Arm Candy, Drama Queens. The only acceptabe category is ‘I’m arm candy on Loubotins and for the right man I offer a glimpse of bliss’.
    SD are thinking what will this SB do 4 me – in life as well as the bedroom – r they drama, disease, drug free, do they understand me, will I get along with them, r they fun & balanced, will they follow through. Make sure you answer all these q-s rest is supply-demand.

    Hope it helps!

  98. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Some other suggestions involve keeping your profile at the top of the lists for those who are searching for you:

    - Log in often so those who search under “Most Recent Logins” will see you.
    - Avoid updating your profile on the weekend…only the old profile will be seen until the new one is approved. Approvals seem to be faster at the beginning of the week.
    - Sundays tend to be the busiest “search” days, so make sure you’ve logged in regularly.
    - Don’t be afraid to reach out to someone who sparks your interests. There are only a few that have worked out this way (myself as one), but they can work out. Some had tried adding someone to their favorites or winking, but these guys get hundreds of these. Be unique!

  99. Moon Patrol says:

    beach – I saw the the tee & aye you were displaying. You know what I find enticing is not when a woman licks her lips but when she just more or less sticks her tongue out. To me it is a very important body part and also very personal. Its just of matter of doing it at the right moment or the after the right comment. I have other ideas bout what is attractive in a woman and if you want I may tell.

  100. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Moon Patrol – Nice to see ya! How have you been?

    That description brings up a WIDE range of visuals :-) Is there a tongue piercing involved?

  101. Moon Patrol says:

    I am on the upswing and think it will stick. The piercing just confuses me. I do like a lot of ear pierces.
    I feel pretty wise and had only one slip up around christmas time when I got taken for a short ride against my real wishes. I’ve been going through IRL dating but no real chemistry or joy has been found, except for one, that is unavailable (married to her job). The women that I gravitate too are on this site. I’m just not ready to start something up, that is just yet.

  102. whitelillies says:

    RTB- Thanks for re-posting those, and adding to them.

  103. stephan says:

    Thanks Reach the Beach SB for posting those suggestions!

    Here’s a link to a new page ‘Profile Tips‘ – thank you RTB! :)

  104. Cali SB says:

    *sigh* What a day. I’m starting to lose faith in humanity.

  105. stephan says:

    Cali SB – we must not loose hope.. but I know the feeling, shucks i’m just trying to keep faith in myself lol :)

    What’s goin on Cali SB?

  106. stephan says:

    am loving the (recently updated) new ‘Profile Tips‘ page – it’s now on the top menu and right sidebar, it’s been a long time in coming!

  107. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Cali- People will always disappoint…if you let them. Hang in there chica! Vent and get it out.

    Moon – Sounds like you’re doing just fine! Did I confuse you about the tongue piercings or do they just confuse you in general? Since you like piercings…do you like tattoos?

    Those tips were a compilation from many…Thanks to those who took the time to put them together in the first place. It’s a working document, so any and all suggestions are always welcome!

  108. stephan says:

    RTB – absolutely – thanks to all those who’s suggestions are compiled in the Profile Tips page, and all the great pages!

    And absolutely any and all suggestions are always welcome! :)

  109. Cali SB says:

    Stephan/RTB – I’m not sure it’s appropriate for me to post here. It’s one of those people are not always who they seem, even if you think you’ve “known” them for a long time. Involves a former blogger. I was not personally wronged, but as this person was a friend of mine, it makes me hesitate in meeting any potential SD’s in person. If you’d like to email me, I can explain further. Stephan, you can share my email with RTB if she doesn’t already have it.

  110. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Cali – You have mail.

    Stephan – Thanks! :-)

  111. Cali SB says:

    My firefox is freezing everytime I open my email. I’ll log in on IE as soon as I finish sending a message on my normal email.

  112. Cali SB says:

    But hey, if anything this “situation” means I’ll never use SD.com! :)

  113. stephan says:

    music to my ears Cali SB ;) (wish i knew how SD Guru makes those green smiley’s!)

  114. Honey says:

    Can I take any houston sugarbabies to lunch? or dinner?
    I must admit to having an ulterior motives. I have a shop at the grand lux cafe and/or the cheesecake factory, but I am dieting and can’t eat all the fried foods. My treat, I’ve used up all my friends and they only go on the ones they want now, like pappadeaux and steakhouses and stuff. I hate wasting the food…

  115. Cali SB says:

    Stephan, if you want to know why, you can email me. I just don’t want to post it here for discretion of a “friend”.

    Honey, come to LA. You are more than welcome to eat vicariously through my gluttony! lol

  116. Enigma SD says:

    Hi all – unfortunately, you can never really know someone completely, no matter how much you think you do. All the screening in the world doesn’t help if the person is clever.

  117. Honey says:

    Cali, don’t you threaten me, I can find shops in California too!!!
    I’ll make you fat!!!

  118. Honey says:

    Fri, 4/1/2011 Late Dinner (10:00PM-11:00PM

    Sun, 4/3/2011 Brunch (11:00AM-12:30PM)

    Mon, 4/4/2011 Dinner (6:00PM-10:00PM

    Thu, 4/7/2011 Afternoon (2:00PM-5:00PM) any takers?
    and see how I am posting it, if you disappear after meeting me, Stephan can find me out and you will all be witnesses!!!

  119. Cali SB says:

    Honey, lol Try as much as you want, you can’t make me fat. I have the worst eating habits on the planet (I am ADDICTED to dessert!) and don’t work out. I should be 300 lbs already. Bring it on! :)

  120. Cali SB says:

    Now I’m hungry! I already had 2 Reeses cups and a PB Twix for breakfast..

  121. Honey says:

    No sugar for me,sigh….Let me get another cup of green tea….
    eat for me Cali…lobster is no fun without butter, I’m scared to try it without it…what will it taste like..Will it be like Lowfat sour cream,which is so bad that I would rather NOT have any at all rather than eat it? Will lobster taste like lobster without the drawn butter? Dare I find out?

  122. Cali SB says:

    I will eat all the chocolate and desserts you want, but I won’t eat lobster! Seafood creeps me out! :(

  123. Honey says:

    When I am not on a shape up, cleansing regime, I would eat EVERY animal. I have eaten Deer, moose,lobster,( tropical, maine, rock,) crab, shrimp, crawfish, alligator, boar, antelope or was it elk? lamb,clams , octopus(love me some calamari!) mussels, oysters, snails,fish, fowl and everything in between. I hope to eat kangaroo and ostrich, but haven’t made it…yet…
    There’s a place for every animal…at my table!! Now my stomach is growling….

  124. Cali SB says:

    I don’t do “eclectic” food. *shivers*

    RBT.. Gmail won’t load for some reason, so I can’t email you back. :(

  125. Honey says:

    Sorry but cheescake factory is not my idea of a good time. I like it for my niece who is a young lady, but I’m more the rainbow lodge or the old brownstone, Four season Noe at the Omni used to be good, but I just like pates…goose liver….liver….
    So what Do you eat, Cali, chicken?
    and I’m vegan friendly, know a lot about eating raw and sometimes even do it!!

  126. Cali SB says:

    I love beef, chicken, and pork. I also love salmon. And I’ve had quail. I hate hate hate all raw food. Except fruit!

    I’ve been emailing with a pot and he’s been saying from the very first email that if I meet him he will bring a nice gift to our first meet. Yet when I asked him what he would like to do for a meet he said coffee or lunch? Really? Coffee? That seems a little odd, don’t you think?

  127. Honey says:

    Coffee is not too weird, maybe he wants to minimize how much time he spends on the first meeting, guys get burned too. And no offense, but taking three lovely ladies out a week could add up moneywise!! But he comes bearing gifts!!
    I used to be a dating coach for guys… so I would advise them to start out on a coffee date first, that way if she is boring or not your type, one doesn’t have to waste 2 or 3 hours on a date where both already know it’s not going to work out… I’m off to school. good luck on your date

  128. Cali SB says:

    Well, that’s just one of many red flags at this point. I don’t feel comfortable meeting with him as of now.

  129. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Cali – You may just feel the red flags because of the day. Wait until you feel a little more at peace then re-evaluate. Coffee really isn’t so bad for a first meet. I actually prefer it. If all goes well, extend it to lunch, but at least a lady isn’t going to have too much wine on a first coffee/ lunch…hopefully!

    Enigma – Hey!!! Not even a mention of those boobies!

  130. Cali SB says:

    RTB – I don’t think it’s just today. He only has one photo on his profile and can’t come up with any more to send me. His profile name is one thing and signs his emails as another, yet there are no matches to his name for someone so accomplished. Honestly, I’m just about to give up looking.

  131. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Cali – Take a break and do something that brings you joy…something simple and wonderful that reminds you of the good in the world. Volunteer somewhere…a woman’s shelter or the rescue dog place you love. Sugar is so hard on the spirit sometimes and it’s not worth letting it bring you down.

    Know this… I have had the success you’re looking for. Perhaps my needs are different or the fact that I live in an area with a low cost of living makes it a bit easier, but I know you can have as much success as you desire here. It does mean taking a few calculated risks, but you know what those are going in.

    Only you can make you happy and I have seen you on your great days! You’re fun, energetic and have so much to offer! A little inner peace can go a long way!

  132. Cali SB says:

    He thinks I’m playing hard to get by wanting real photos or a real name. How infuriating.

  133. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Now, he’s just playing games. Tell him that “a lady can never be too careful and although I respect your need for privacy, some type of verification is necessary if you two are going to meet.” If he fights it, then block and delete. Meanwhile, use tineye.com to search the picture you do have and use google to check the e-mail address. Lastly, google the blacklist sites and see if he pops up on any of those.

    Still…don’t let his behavior be a total reflection of every SD here.

  134. Cali SB says:

    RTB – what are blacklist sites? I definitely don’t let one person reflect on the rest, but no SD’s are finding me (or aren’t interested). That’s what’s disheartening. Unfortunately, there are just too mand SD/SB’s to wade through in LA and it makes connecting with any pot’s very difficult.

  135. Cali SB says:

    RTB – I have never heard of tineye. Thank you so much for that! I’m sure that will be useful for a lot of things in the future! No results on his photo, however. Not sure if that is a good or bad thing.

  136. Cali SB says:

    I just used tineye to search a photo of myself (my FB photo) and it’s showing 0 results. I also tried a stock photo of a boot I just purchased (which can only be purchased online), also with 0 results. Not sure how well this site actually works. Hmmm.

  137. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Pooh…it’s not perfect, but it does get hits at times.

    The blacklist sites are places where ladies post info about pots who have been dangerous, picture collectors, etc. They sometimes have e-mails, aliases, phone numbers, etc to help keep the other ladies safe.

  138. Cali SB says:

    RTB – I just emailed you — gmail is being so weird. I can’t load the site from time to time today. When you reply, include the BL sites, please?

  139. Mutt of Color aka Bela says:

    Enigma – What happened? Are you okay?

  140. LASB says:

    Stephan – Can you give Cali my email please?

    Cali – email me!!!! :)

  141. Cali SB says:

    Or vice versa. I thought you had my email. Actually I think I have yours, lemme check.

  142. Cali SB says:

    I emailed you. I think. Lemme know if that’s still your email address.

  143. whitelillies says:

    Honey and Cali- Your food exchange was hilarious, but made me so hungry! You two should have a food show.

    Cali- Agreed with not meeting a potential sketchy guy. I’m glad you’re putting your safety first.

  144. Honey says:

    Cali-go with your gut! Thanks White Lillies
    Nite all.

  145. Cali SB says:

    I just ate a frozen TV dinner. Chicken fingers, macaroni and cheese, and a brownie. Pretty gross. Not the kind of dessert I usually like! lol Anyway, I have a REAL date tonight, not sugar though he is 9 years older than me, but I did meet him online so I’m pretty nervous. Eep!!

  146. Michael Alleycat says:

    @Cali et al – I am meeting a potSB tomorrow for coffee.

    Coffee is actually preferable – it is easy to leave after 45 mins, but is also easy to stretch to lunch if both parties agree. I almost always do coffee as the first step.

    Enjoy your date!

  147. Cali SB says:

    Michael, I just can’t win with you! lol Heading out now.. have a good night, sugars! :)

  148. Dallasbaby says:

    I feel awkward at coffee meetings myself because first of all it is a stranger and I prefer to at least have a nice meal to focus on to fill the void of awkward silence and it just seems a bit more romantic to me .

  149. SD Guru says:

    I know I’m a bit late to the party but all this talk about food, coffee for first date, and married SD’s got me thinking… better late than never!!

    @Honey
    There’s a place for every animal…at my table!! Now my stomach is growling….

    Since you seem adventurous, google “Carnivore restaurant Johannesburg” and check it out. You can have just about every animal in the zoo at your table. Bon appetit!! I wonder if Carebear checked it out when she was over there.

    @Cali SB
    I asked him what he would like to do for a meet he said coffee or lunch? Really? Coffee? That seems a little odd, don’t you think?

    Here’s my take on the first meet that I’ve shared with the blog previously. I guess it’s time for a refresher. A first meet mainly serves 3 purposes:

    1. Will he/she show up as planned
    2. Will he/she be as advertised in the profile
    3. Will there be compatibility and chemistry to take things further.

    Anything else that happens is a bonus. Meeting for drinks/coffee or a casual lunch/dinner should accomplish those goals. Save the more elaborate fancy stuff for the next meet if things go well. This is easy to do when both parties are local. If travel is involved by either party, then making a decision to meet would require more thought and planning. But the underlying purpose should remain the same.

    What is the difference between dating/sleeping with a married SD and dating/sleeping with a married man who is not an SD?

    The difference is that a married SD should provide a mutually beneficial arrangement to the SB. Where as a married man who is not an SD provides… what? A dead end relationship? It shouldn’t matter how others judge in either case. What’s important is how does the woman benefit from seeing a married man.

    It’s one of those people are not always who they seem, even if you think you’ve “known” them for a long time. Involves a former blogger.

    What happened is very sad indeed. :cry:

    @DallasBaby
    I had some huge drama when I was seeing a married man and his wife got into his email and then they both sent me a nasty couple of mails together

    Your situation reminds me of my own experience from years ago which I wrote about in “Mixing Love and Sugar” in my blog. I was seeing a married SB and you can read the letter I got in part 6.

    I also wrote about “Married vs Single SD’s” in my blog. Married SD’s are not for everyone and it usually comes down to personal preference.

    @Bela
    The perfect arrangement is when the married is out of convenience for both parties and his wife is comfortable with him having a companion.

    Another perfect case is when the married SD is not looking for his next wife or to change the family life he has, and he is careful and smart enough to cover his tracks so the spouse doesn’t find out.

  150. Beach_Girl says:

    Hello Sugars! What a crazy day!!!

    Cali SB~ It is awful what happened… but I don’t think it has anything to do with the site…..
    Not that I would discuss this here, but you have my email…. if not Stephan or the blog gods and goddesses can sent it to you!

    Off to bed for me, it’s been a long day!

  151. Gail says:

    Wake up Sugars : ) Coffee is on. Have a great day everyone.

    Happy Belated Birthday RTB!!! Sorry I missed your special day.

    Lisa…Percy….wake up!!!! Tickle…tickle…..

    It’s time to wake up Beach…stop sleeping so long : )

  152. The Lone Gunman returns next week to a North america near YOU!! says:

    Food.

    Looking forward to eating at the old familiar places when I get back.

    Nom Nom Nom….

    TLG

  153. Michael Alleycat says:

    New blog

  154. Lily says:

    I haven’t caught up, I just wanted to say hello!!!
    I’m in sugar bliss land and loathe even thinking of the day when I would ever be seeking sugar ever again. Sigh, …..sweet sigh.

    Off to travel on Monday! 10 days whirlwind tour throughout the west coast!

  155. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Thanks Gail! No sleeping here…Jet-setting to various airports with the ultimate destination to FL!

  156. Honey says:

    Have a great time, Lily!

  157. Kindred Spirit says:

    :( Would be nice to be in the loop as to “what happened was so sad” about a former blogger, etc. Surely I am not the only curious one??

  158. Reach the Beach SB says:

    Kindred – I’m sorry and it’s not fair, but it would be disrespectful to share it. I’m sure those who know were told directly by the source. (At least I hope).

    In sunny FL!!! Yay!

  159. Kindred Spirit says:

    RTB- Understandable, but then what it comes out as is plain gossip (and yes, I’ll admit to being curious, kind of hard not to be with all the frickin’ “hints” and “hush-hush” flying around). So, please others be respectful of those who don’t know and will never know, to know bring IT up on this blog, like it’s a private club matter. I agree, should not be posted if not the whole world’s business, but then again neither should the “carrot gossip” swinging around, either. Totally unfair and I’d rather not have been (though I understand unintentionally) baited. End rant. :)

  160. Kindred Spirit says:

    Btw, enjoy FL, I hope to visit Key West for the first time with a friend in May!! :D

  161. Kindred Spirit says:

    Sorry, meant to write “to not bring IT up”, not know. blah :)

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