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Keeping Your Sugar Fresh
  • Posted Sep 29, 2009
  • Written by Brandon Wade

5 years ago
Keeping Your Sugar Fresh

Keeping your sugar fresh isn’t just about updating your Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby dating profile, but also about staying in-touch with what your real and current expectations are here in Sugarland. It’s natural for our tastes to change over time, as well as our needs…

How often should a Sugar Daddy and Sugar Baby update their photos (posted or not posted)?

Have you changed your expectations from what they were when you first joined the site? If so, how? Why?

What should be the blog quote of the week?


916 Responses to “Keeping Your Sugar Fresh”

  1. Lannie says:

    How often should a sugar daddy and sugar baby update their photos (public and private)?

    I feel that photographs should be updated yearly at least so they reflect how a person looks, however, if I was to get my hair cut or dye it I would automatically update it to reflect what I look like at present. I find it frustrating and a little dishonest to look at a photo that is ten years old as can often be reflected in the clothing style and someone is trying to pass it off as present and that reflects their character to me.

    Have you changed your expectations from what they were when you first joined the site? If so, how? Why?
    I recently joined the site but my expectations have already changed to a more realistic view of what I want and how far I am willing to travel to meet with a SD.
    What’s your favorite sugar-quote from the blog this week so far?
    I do not have a favorite quote but do love the conversation regarding coffee, drinks or dinner on a first meeting with a potential SD or SB.

  2. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    How often should a sugar daddy and sugar baby update their photos (public and private)?

    ~~~~Whenever their appearance changes. I am always playing with my hair. In fact I got it dyed today, so I need to take more pics. My appearance changes every 3-4 months. Whenever I get bored and find a new hairstyle to rock.

    Have you changed your expectations from what they were when you first joined the site? If so, how? Why?

    ~~~~ My expectations changed in that they became more realistic. When I joined this site I had no idea how hard it can be to find a good match. I should have realized that there would be fakes on here just like anywhere else online.

    What’s your favorite sugar-quote from the blog this week so far?

    ~~~~Reasons Why I love GVoice, By NYC SB.

  3. Nicki says:

    How often should a sugar daddy and sugar baby update their photos (public and private)?

    I think if it’s working, no need to update it, unless you change significantly. Gaining or losing weight, changing hair color or getting some facial surgery would be reason enough… Otherwise maybe yearly.

    Have you changed your expectations from what they were when you first joined the site? If so, how? Why?

    No, I just got to know the “game” and now I know how to detect true SDs and fakes. Because of that, I tend to talk about the arrangement on the second or third date, while before joining the site and reading the blog, I never thought I could or should do that.

    What’s your favorite sugar-quote from the blog this week so far?

    There were many, but Sincere Sd’s NSA story takes the crown. “No Sex at All…” :) Gotta love that one!

  4. NYC SB says:

    How often should a sugar daddy and sugar baby update their photos (public and private)?

    As soon as something in their appearance changes… Nothing worse than not being able to recognize the person you are meeting as their picture was 10 years and 30 pounds ago…

    Have you changed your expectations from what they were when you first joined the site? If so, how? Why?

    I have fine tuned what I want out of an arrangement. I know now that I need physical attraction. I know now that I cannot keep an arragement where the SD wants to interact with me all day long and see me 3 times a week. I know now that I cannot get away from work on a short notice. I know now that it will be difficult to maintain an arrangement with an SD from another part of the country unless he visits NYC.

    What’s your favorite sugar-quote from the blog this week so far?

    NC’s (i think) pot SB interpretation of NSA … hilarious!

  5. NYC SB says:

    AtlNicole – private question for you…

  6. texaSD says:

    Well, i am one of those SD’s who doesn’t post a pic, However if the girl would update it 1 time a month, or prior to our meeting at least send me a recent pic, or webcam…

    Nope haven’t changed my expectations,

  7. Gemini29 says:

    How often should a sugar daddy and sugar baby update their photos (public and private)?

    I would think at least yearly. Some people change quickly over a year, and some people…almost seem to stay the same even after years have elapsed. At the VERY least have one good recent headshot and/or one good recent fullbody shot to show a pot SD/SB through email…that way no one is shocked or surprised when you show up to dinner looking like your bad self. I laugh at some SDs who have pics of themselves from 20+ years ago or SBs who have overly photoshopped photos that leave out the wrinkles, bad skin, and pudge (etc).

    Have you changed your expectations from what they were when you first joined the site? If so, how? Why?
    No real change in expectations for myself. Still searching for the elusive perfect 10 SD. I guess the only change I might have had is opening myself up to the possibilities and also to reconsider what kind of sugar relationship I would be able to maintain right now. Traveling with the SD at the drop of a hat is not a feasible option for me. Neither is dealing with a SD who wants to see me constantly. I need an independent SD! :D

    What’s your favorite sugar-quote from the blog this week so far?
    Hrmm… right now its NYC SB ‘s #3 Gmail Voice option. Suhweet revenge!

  8. MsPriss812 says:

    I just updated my profile because I wasn’t getting the sort of responses I was looking for. Any suggestions?

  9. Koi says:

    Hi there!

    I would say yearly, or when you make a drastic change (ie. haircut, color, etc.

    As for expectations. Mine have changed. When I first joined I only had it open to men in their 30′s! I know, I know, lol. Now I have it set all the way to 50! So it all depends on our personal preference. =)

    Favorite Sugar Quote… from Anon, “NSA = No Sex Allowed!” haha

  10. Koi says:

    Hi MsPriss

    Updating is good! I would say, put your best (yet honest) photos up. If you’re a smoker, quit. And be open minded about age! =)

  11. SugaCaneBby says:

    How often should a sugar daddy and sugar baby update their photos (public and private)?

    - Anytime they do something to drastically change their appearance. Me, I get bored with my hair a lot. Long waves, a short sassy cut, a springy crown of ringlets. Yeah, I’m pretty much going to have a photo-turnover every other month, heheheh.

    Have you changed your expectations from what they were when you first joined the site? If so, how? Why?

    - Hmmm, I think I’ve become a little more lax and changed my approach so that it works for me, but what I’m looking for hasn’t budged. I want a gentleman in every sense of the word. No “P4P” or people just looking for laid.

    What’s your favorite sugar-quote from the blog this week so far?

    - The “NSA” mix-up gave me a pretty good laugh earlier today. Too funny! I’m sure there are more but that’s the one that comes to mind most recently.

  12. Miz_Red says:

    Maybe there IS a SD drought???

    My inbox has been empty for DAYS!
    What am I doing wrong???

    Will all the ladies & gents PLEEEAAASSSE check out my profile & pics and PLEEEAAASSSE give me some honest opinions???

    Thank you loveys!!!

    xo- Red

  13. Gemini29 says:

    Hey Miz – Same here, and same goes for my email inbox too…all the SDs I’ve been chatting with for the past few weeks have poofed. Makes for a very sad SB on this end of things. I keep wondering what I’m doing wrong…or if because I don’t live in NYC or LA I’m just not a suitable SB :(

  14. Miz_Red says:

    Its kind of weird. Usually I have a few new emails/msgs from diff SDs [even thou they may not be right for me].

    I don’t live in either place althought I am slightly close to NYC [Im in NJ].
    Where are you?

  15. Gemini29 says:

    I’m in MD… pretty close to Baltimore and about an hour from DC. You’d think between those two places I’d be ok with a decent pool of SDs but apparently not. Its not like I live in the backwoods of Wyoming (no offense on Wyoming people) but sometimes it feels like I do.

  16. Miz_Red says:

    Lol….that’s not to bad! I was talking with a pot. SD & unfortunately he poofed. But before he did, we had great conversation and he even gave me a helpful gift of paying off my cell phone bill [with even a little extra for the next month]. And guess where he is from!- Wash. D.C.!!! So, they do exist! Lol.

    Part of my prob is…I am on this site via my cell phone. I am able to do EVERY thing like a computer web browser would do…BUT…it won’t let me select the button to mesg a SD directly from their page! =( How stinky is THAT?! So I have to literally wait until someone mesgs me, & then I can reply. I have found SO many men in my area that sound great but I can’t mesg them!!! I was thinking of actually putting my headline as something like “Im unable to hit “E-Mail” so please write me 1st”. Lol!

  17. Gemini29 says:

    Miz_Red- Ok here’s my take on it… A) I love your hair, I wish I had the guts and the look to pull that off! I would change the headline to “Bold and Bubbly seeks…” because its more of a positive spin on things. I would take out the crying times part, guys always seem freaked out by a girl crying, no need to scare them off before they get to the rest of your profile. I would also take out the bit about your circumstances, you can add that into a letter when you talk to the SD/SM but you don’t want to seem desperate or here for only one reason.

    One other thing… and this might be what is keep your responses down….are you really looking for a sex-less relationship or just..not just sex?

  18. photogirl says:

    How often should a sugar daddy and sugar baby update their photos?

    I know I need to update my photos as they are about a year old. Thing is I have not changed a bit in about 10 yrs(other than hair length) and I do not like to be photographed…go figure.

    Have you changed your expectations from what they were when you first joined the site? If so, how? Why?

    Since first seeking a SD/SB relationship yes, I’ve learned a lot more about myself and what I seek in a SD partner.

    What should be the blog quote of the week?

    I have to agree the NSA and GVoice reason #3 were good ones!

    I’ve been lurking for the last several days as I’ve needed to sort out some SD issues. But while keeping up with the blogs I think it is important for everyone to remember to that we are all individuals with different experiences, beliefs, expectations and opinions. This needs to be a place where we can all be open and honest and offer constructive criticism.

    I have always found this online family to be very helpful and insightful. Let’s keep it that way!

    Lannie – Glad to hear you had a great trip and nothing wrong with being a little frugal :)

    NYC SB – How was the scotch tasting? (It was scotch right?)

    Mz Red & Gemini – My inbox has been very quiet lately as well. Seems to come and go in waves. Atleast in my experience.

    Sweetread – Great to hear the date went well! I think we need a night out lol.

  19. Gemini29 says:

    Lannie – btw, I think your arrangement that you had recently (the business man NYC dealio) sounds…almost perfect. And there is nothing wrong with turning down gifts and things…better to seem frugal than seem greedy in my book.

  20. Miz_Red says:

    Thanks *Gem*!!! So much!

    I did consider changing those SAME things you said. My thing with sex…im a bit undecided. Im not ruling it out…I jus’ don’t want that as the basis of the relationship. Id like more of a friend. But if I change that part….how should I word it?

  21. Miz_Red says:

    Oh & P.S.- the reason I make a big deal out of my circumstances is bc they SUCK. Im a single mother of 2, I don’t drive & live in no-where-land, and when I say a single mother…I mean I don’t even have any family of friends to lean on if I need child care UNLESS its scheduled & they’re paid for it. So its REALLY a pain. & I feel like when I come out & explain that, the pot. SD will be kind of like “wtf”. Lol.

  22. Gemini29 says:

    Miz_Red – Ok I understand better about the sex thing now… um. You could word it as “Not looking for just sex, marriage, flings…would like to start out as friends and go from there!” or something to that effect.

    It sounds like from your profile that you have a good head on your shoulders and that you are working your way up…so I would focus on that, goal-driven SBs get better results I think. Hmm…words to think on for myself, lolol. Remember the SD/SM’s are looking for hassle-drama-free…and talking too much about the bad in your situation will probably turn them off. (on your profile at least, I think its ok to be frank in emails when getting to know the SD/SM. then they can swoop in and save you all white knight like :) )

  23. photogirl says:

    Miz Red – I do love the hair too! Super cute. I agree with Gemini’s suggestions. Also as a single mother myself, I don’t list that in my profile. From my experience it can run pots off. I wait until they either ask or bring up a conversation about their own children. Believe me, I know how difficult things are right now and can completely relate to your situation but you don’t want to turn off a pot SD before he even has a chance to get to know you. Maybe just leave it as a single mother without all the details?

    I love the 3rd photo of you. I believe you had that posted as your first pic before and would like to suggest that you move it to the 1st spot again.

  24. Miz_Red says:

    I would just love that =)
    Like a damsel in distress ^_^

    Ok Im gona update my profile now so hopefully it will be approved by morning.

    That is one thing- I have major goals & plans. Maybe I should mention some things.

    Thank you sooooo much!!!

  25. Miz_Red says:

    Thank you *PhotoGirl*!!!

    Everyone seems to love that picture! Ill switch it!

    I love u guys!!! Lol!

  26. NYC SB says:

    ok my thoughts on allowance:

    It should be your basic monthly needs (rent, food, school) + two trips to the spa (say 500)

  27. Gemini29 says:

    You’re welcome hon!

    I think on mine i’ll be dropping my allowance range back down, and maybe specify that i’m looking for the higher end of it. I get the feeling that guys are being scared away by the current range. *sigh* But that gets to wait until this weekend, when I’m going away and won’t be tempted to log on 45 million times ;)

  28. Gemini29 says:

    NYC SB – Two trips to the spa per month! lolol I’ve never even been to a spa once! That would be the life!

  29. Flo Rida says:

    Q – How often should a sugar daddy and sugar baby update their photos (posted or not posted)?

    Photos should be current but a private email suffices.

    Q – Have you changed your expectations from what they were when you first joined the site? If so, how? Why?

    I now realize that after this arrangement ends that I can’t do this again, I’ll never meet someone so fun, generous and kind. Btw it’s not a bed of roses as he’s superdemanding and my life is put on hold whilst I’m with him as he wants me available literally 24/7. There are moments when I can’t even pee because timing is soooo important – wierd story. Finally I just for fired from my regular job (not a suprise as I haven’t been there for 2+ months, but as I’m paid on commission it’s not as if I’m costing them anything).

    Q – What should be the blog quote of the week?

    NSA – sweet!.

    All – On the smoking front, I have a different take, I don’t smoke on a regular basis, but a good way to meet smokers is to smoke (sounds stupid I know), also the Cigar crowd is very small and very upscale. It’s such a small clique nowadays that smoking automatically gives you an in – do you have a light, blah blah. If you have a real zippo lighter or can talk to Trinidads, DR or what Castro smokes etc SD’s are REALLY impressed because it shows you know about their world, their interests. Kissing someone who smokes can be “distasteful” to non-smokers though. Have you been to Europe? Asia they smoke like industrial chimneys over there, my clothes and hair reek of cigs after a night out over there.

    Lannie – Sounds like there’s little chemistry or are you still “keeping it medium key”?

    Miz-Red – Your pics are great and profile look good, small edits, I would drop the “single mum” – mention that later, also drop Beauty & Wellness (just say you work and later when you say a business keep that vague – SD’s don’t care about specifics at this stage, I agree with Gem29 – drop the crying and drop the bad mouth, drop the “sarcastic”, repackage the “thick super thick comments – it’s a positive don’t apologize for it (losing few lbs, toning up), drop the “VERY” little work – NO negative comments at this stage. Also re-package what you can do for a SD, put more color to being loyal, friend etc, being there for them. SDs want someone who is fun, good personality and drama free.

    Gemini29 – I’m not good with editing, OC is better but what’s your profile#?

    OC Sugarbaby – Not a dig at LA and I know that OC to LA is a good drive, but why doesn’t LA have as good restaurants as NY? Btw I looove the Edison – cool nightclub and SD and I had a blast during Korean night at a nightclub (SD and I are not Korean) but seeing 1,000 Koreans getting really wasted and hurling in the restrooms was a cultural experience (no offence intended to Koreans). My fav restaurant is a small restaurant called Provence or Providence (I’m not sure of name), Spago and Ivy are only good for porn star watching, Campanile is a good brunch place and the Chaplin tie in is cool. Though, for such a large city I would expect more.

    NYC SB – If you like Per Se you’d love French Laundry – it’s a pain to get there but SD says it’s much better (they are also sister restaurants). My fav restaurant in world is Sketch in London – really really cool and fun.

    PAX and signing off for the day.

  30. photogirl says:

    Flo Rida – I have a question for you…

    Kit Kat – Can you send her my email?

  31. Flo Rida says:

    Photogirl and NYC SB – Scotch is another area where rich SDs love talking about (also cars) in US young trendy people drink vodka which has destroyed the market for scotch drinkers. Know Scotch and you’ll win Scotch lovers (who tend to be old and wealthier than the average male). Small market though. OK REALLY signing off now.

  32. Flo Rida says:

    photogirl – My email is atllgw at g place – anyone can email me, but i can’t check it til late tonight though. OK REALLY really signing off now.

  33. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Flo Rida – Profile # is above. I know I need to put something in there about what I can offer a SD…but I’m not entirely sure how to put it or even what I can offer them at this stage. Also, as a word to all, the allowance amount will be dropping as of this weekend, I think its def scaring guys away. It is what I would need to be in an exclusive SD/SB relationship though, the low end of it that is.

  34. Miz_Red says:

    Thanks *Flo* & *Gem* again.

    I believe there are some SD’s lurking in here I jus’ got an email =D Yaaaay! & so far, he seems very sweet!

  35. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Anyway, I’m off to go do errands and stuff. If anyone else wants to take a stab at my profile & pics, go ahead, I’ll catch up on it later.

    Have a good day sugars! and congrats on your new email Miz_Red! :)

  36. Miz_Red says:

    Thanks *Gem*!
    Have a great day!

  37. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Hello again! Taking a break from all the schoolwork for a couple hours. I am still disappointed by my Poof Daddy, but I am sure it is not the last time that it will happen to me.

    Allowance is a bit of a tricky subject. I hate talking money at all. It seems kinda tacky to me, but it is a necissary evil for this sort of relationship. I pretty much ask for enough to cover my monthly expenses plus put a bit towards my student loans. My goal is to have the loans paid off by the time I graduate next year. I would love to be able to start my career without that debt hanging over me.

  38. NYC SB says:

    Gemini29 – I had never been to a spa either… but this lifestyle is about providing you with luxuries you wouldnt normally be able to experience on your own no? dream big aim high

    scotch tasting – ugh i really was not a fan … i had great time but the liquor killed me…

  39. MarieSB says:

    How often should a sugar daddy and sugar baby update their photos (posted or not posted)?

    *** I think if there are any major changes that really change your look you should update the pictures. If you went from blonde to brunette but you still have the blonde pictures posted that could be a problem. They should be updated to how you will look when you meet someone.

    Have you changed your expectations from what they were when you first joined the site? If so, how? Why?

    *** No my expectations have stayed the same. I know what I want and I will not stop until I find the perfect arrangement.

    What should be the blog quote of the week?

    *** hmm..

  40. RealisticSD says:

    Miz_Red, I agree with all the posts above. You don’t need details of your situation. The SD knows the SB needs financial help, so leave the details for the first meet. I have said before, a desparate woman who will be with you because she needs money is a turn-off, while a damsel-in-distress whom you help and who shows her appreciation in terms of freindship, admiration, and romance is a huge turn-off. Fine line, I know, but be very aware of which side of the line you’re standing on because it makes all the difference.

    Gemini, I think 5-10K does turn off many SDs, partly because there is a big difference between 5K (doable) and 10K (only if the girl is absolutely amazing). Too bad I live too far, otherwise I think you’re totally worth your stated allowance range.

    I used to check the 3-5K in my profile, but then I knew I’d give much more to the right SB, so I changed it to “open/amount negotiable”. If I put 5-10K, then I’d pretty much have to give any SB that range, but some are just not worth it. Sorry if it sounds mean, but it’s true.

  41. RealisticSD says:

    sorry, damsel in distress is a huge turn-on

  42. NYC SB says:

    RealisticSD says: If I put 5-10K, then I’d pretty much have to give any SB that range, but some are just not worth it. Sorry if it sounds mean, but it’s true.

    Its not mean at all… but at the same time if they are not worth it then why waste your time and settle ;)

  43. Delia DeLyon says:

    Hey everyone, I dont see any search options that allow me to enter a profile number, how do I do that?

  44. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    RealisticSD – Open in the range really drives me crazy. I wish the ranges were not quite so large, then we could be more specific as to what we are looking for. I am not crazy with money, so my requirements are not huge, but if a man is offering twice what I need for a good SB, why wouldn’t I want that amount?

    PS: I have always dreamed of a white knight.

  45. Miz_Red says:

    Thank you *Realistic*!
    I just editted my profile…hopefully it will be approved by tomorrow.

    That’s me!
    A damsel in distress!

    =)

  46. NYC SB says:

    AtlNicole*389079* says: PS: I have always dreamed of a white knight.

    I dont think he exists ;)

  47. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    NYC – Oh I know. The odds are better that I will win the lotto, but I keep on dreaming.

  48. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    NYC – I think kit-kat and I decided that SincereSD was our Prince Charming. That is the closest I have found to the elusive white knight.

  49. NYC SB says:

    SF SD will be mine then hahaha

  50. NYC SB says:

    AtlNicole*389079* says: NYC – I think kit-kat and I decided that SincereSD was our Prince Charming. That is the closest I have found to the elusive white knight.

    lets hope this changes for you SOON ;)

  51. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    NYC – I know right. How unfair that my Prince lives 1000s of miles away.

    Realistic- I had always imagined that a SD would be more attracted to an independant woman. How does the Damsel in Distress play into that? I have always tried to keep any distress seperate from my sugar life.

  52. NYC SB says:

    yes but the distance ensures that he always stays prince charming…

  53. Happy Lurker says:

    Update you photos ?
    Sure ! This is also governed by the laws of keeping your business website attractive to new vistors. You should refresh it at least every month ! Not only update you photos, but please update the text as well.
    Have I changed my expectations ? A few months ago I stumbled on this blog and liked to follow it, because it showed genuinely nice persons.
    Then I got a paid membership and thought that could lead to meeting such a person. The only ones I meet have Dollar signs in their eyes.
    I myself am not the “significant other”, but my wallet is.
    Still I am searching in that Sugar bowl hay-stack to unearth a soul mate.
    As my name reveals I am a happy person.
    For this reason I turn to the author Helen Rowland and present you with my Sugar quote:
    “To be happy with an SD, you must understand him a lot and love him
    “a little. To be happy with an SB, you must love her a lot and not try to
    “understand her at all.
    I am sure this puts a smile on your face.
    It means that I bring you some happiness.

  54. Nyc Atl how yall ladies doing? and I am thinking on a open minded ness meter I think Texas Sd wins that
    Sinsere is nice and insightful and Deep. me I am a little too boistrous for him *I guess*
    SFSD I think he and I would crack jokes all the time!

  55. NYC SB says:

    Happy Lurker – It does seem like all the bloggers would make great SDs or SBs… presents somewhat of a skewed view of the SA membership population

  56. RealisticSD says:

    AltNicole, yes it’s true that we don’t want someone emotionally needy who will text us every 5 minutes 24/7, and we want someone who has ambition in life so the SB doesn’t feel like a money pit who will never put any help given to her to good use, but the fact that the SB has financial needs is a given in these relationships, so it is important for her to be the damsel-in-distress as opposed to the “I’ll do anything for money.”

    I want an SB who needs me emotionally and financially but who is not too needy in terms of time and attention. Believe me, it’s all treading fine lines, as are many aspects of “sugar” relationships.

    Happy Lurker, I agree that the people on the blog are an intelligent, thoughtful, and articulate group that is not representative of the flakes and man-whores who seem to dominate the site based on personal experiece and what SBs say, respectively. But just like finding the ideal guy.girl is not easy in real life, finding the ideal SD/SB is not easy on SA.

    So to answer AltNicole’s question as to why settle for an SB worth less than what I can afford, I guess the answer is that I am realistic. Just as you do not wait for the white knight, I do not wait for Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty. Now I’d rather be with no SB than with a totally wrong one, but there is a spectrum, and there is a point on a spectrum where I’d have someone as my SB but not consider her ideal and not think she’s worth 10 grand a month. I know, it’s strange to put a dollar value on individuals, but I guess in reality it works out that way. My guess is that it works the same the other way–an SD who is totally unappealing looks- and personality-wise will pay more than an attractive charming one. Again, this brings out some of the shadier sides of sugar-dating, but I don’t think it can be totally denied.

  57. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    RealisticSD – Thanks! I think the 10k amount would be awesome, but mostly completely unrealistic. I’m actually more in the 5k range. I upped it to weed out the 1-2k guys I kept getting, but think I’m loosing the 4-5k guys too.

    *steps back and re-reads all that*
    Yeah I don’t sound like I have $$ signs in my eyes at all. But seriously, I’m trying to look at this from a logical standpoint. *shrugs*

    Happy Lurker – when I’m looking the money is the first hook, the person next, and after that it is the personality and the person and the way he treats me that wins out. Money and spoils do not buy me. Politeness and respectfullness and true generousity is the key to my SB heart.

    NYC SB – Totally shocking, I figured you’d be a at the spa once or twice a week kind of girl. Totally fooled me! ;)

  58. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – try putting the 3-5k range… this way you are not weeding them out

    and a weekly spa??? hahaha no way I save my allowance and pay down debt… im trying to get ahead in life and i know my looks wont last forever… however i realize i need to look good so i get a facial monthly from a friend who works at a spa and gives me a deep discount

    im not a girly girl at heart… more of a tomboy … but i play the girly girl part well ;)

  59. RealisticSD says:

    Gemini, you’re not good at bargaining, lol. I offered you 10K and your counter-offer is 5K?!

    Yeah, NYC SB surprised me too. I always figured she’d be a frequent flier at prime Manhattan spas.

  60. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Realistic SD – While it is true that, all things being equal (which they never are), I would prefer a SD offering a bigger allowance over a SD with less money to spend, that SD with the bigger allownace would still have to fall within my standards. I have had the misfortune of meeting some men that could not have bought another moment of my time at any price. It is fair to say that a man who was slightly less attractive or slightly less personable would still get my attention if he was offering a very generous allowance. But at the same time, I would not even agree to meet up with a perverted, obese billionare.
    In effect, I am selling my time, but not necissary to the highest bidder.

  61. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    RealisticSD – lolol! Um. 7k?

  62. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Gemi – Girl go for 15K, since he is feeling generous today. then you will be covered through Xmas :)

  63. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – yikes!

    Realistic – I am Gemis representative in this negotiation

    she will take 10k and is willing to travel to you provided she flies first class and is fed at a fine establishment of her chosing… oh also she needs a spa visit each time she travels so she feels refreshed and beautiful for your meetings

  64. This allowance really does have lots of nooks and cranny’s it seems.

    I could ask for 4-5k but at this time it really isnt reflective of what my Actual needs are. I mean I would think a SD who was intrested in me getting on my feet would say what do you need and based on my answer ,decide if he would donate more to the Kit-kat alturistic fund!

  65. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Kit- kat – There is an idea. We can start a nonprofit organization. Think of all the lovely tax write offs for our tax concerned SDs. Now what should we call it?

  66. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    *dies of laughter*

    oh you guys! :D

    NYC SB, don’t forget about my Louboutin shopping trip….an absolute necessary must to my eternal happiness!

  67. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – yes… i mean after all how many models have your wit and personality and intelligence… hahaha

  68. NYC SB says:

    Atl and Kit Kat – sugary deductions :)

  69. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    NYC – I was checking out the Jimmy Choo website today ( not that it is saved to my favorites or anything), and I actually prefer their fall line to CLs. I like statement shoes and the Georgia (lovingly named after my state) is at the top of my wish list right now. Check it out.

  70. NYC SB says:

    Jimmy and I have not been on good speaking terms after a terrible blister fiasco… but maybe we can rekindle our relationship

  71. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    These are the sexiest shoes on the planet! I would dance my botty off in these things and not even think about the blisters. That is why God invented pedicures after all.

  72. *Writing out checks* the sugary Dectudictions fund, attn to Kit -kat, Nyc Atl ang Gemi in the Amout of 1mil, and it memo space would read
    Emotional Stumilus packages!/ Shoes for the Feety!! lol

  73. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Ohhh. Now if only we could get out little not profit sponsored by Neiman Marcus. We would be all set. Any SDs out there have some NM connections? It is for a good cause!

  74. NYC SB says:

    OMG ATL!!!!!!!!! I DIE I DIE I DIE… new collection is OMG I DIE… I WANT THEM ALLLLLLLLLLLLL

  75. Miz_Red says:

    Guess who is emailing back & forth with a handsome SD???…

    =D

  76. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    NYC – looks like we may need two Sugar Daddys this season. One for regular expenses and another for shoes :)

  77. To All:I have a Question, when you View a photo do you Look at the backround? I got a hit from someone*diffrent site* and the house was cluttery you could tell he has no woman there! and 2 if hes disorganized I wonder if his timleyness is also..is that reflective of him being on time with his assistance?

  78. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Yay Miz Red. I never had any Blog magic like that!

    Kit-Kat – I do look at the background. It can tell you a lot about a person’s interests. A cluttery home? Even if there is no woman living there, it is not hard to find a maid service in most areas.

  79. OK yall Someone is going to Write a letter to these companys and Inform them that the sizes need to fit wide feets and long feets too!
    Then we will need a special line the we will endorse as the Sugar babies , not available in stores!! hahah hows that one,? I think they should give us the irrigular ones though!

  80. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Alt – Mmm. That Jazz is one hot little number. And same goes for Breidin, Blaze, Jinx (what a name!), Bonnie, Fire, Blythe, Wish, Grant, Jesse, Jagger, and Witty. They can all come join my shoe harem. :D

  81. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Gemi – Did you see the Gillian? I am in boot mode today. Last year’s boots are not going to cut it this winter.

  82. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Kit Kat – Um, sorta. I’ve seen pics of guys in what I’m assuming is their house..and if it looks rather “slovenly tiny apartment” then I pass. But the reverse is true, if I think they are shown in a house that is too ostentatious I assume they are either trying to hard or are major snobs…..then I also pass. I have thing though for guys shown in their kitchen ;)

  83. Miz_Red says:

    *Kit Kat* I agree…I look in th’ background!
    This SD im emailing with right now has a beautiful looking kitchen in the background!!! Lol!

  84. NYC SB says:

    GRANT what shoe dreams are made of… i want i want i want… too bad i bought 4 pairs of louboutins yesterday :( 2 shoes 2 boots

  85. Delia DeLyon says:

    kit kat i def check the background. that alone can tell you whether someone is bs’ing and not what they say they are.

    i joined another site like this yesterday called mutual arrangement and ALL the guys looked like creepy, loser, child molesters or serial killers, lol. and the backgrounds all looked like cheap cluttery apts or trailers, lol. def not the class of people i have nor want in my life, so i killed my account within 30 minutes of creating it.

    can someone please tell me how to search using a profile # on the site? thank you!

  86. I seen one guy had a profile photo up and 2 things stood out to me A. he had a can of pest control spray, and B there was some V.S lotion on his dresser of clutter! lol I was like oh how nice a liar!!/with critters!!
    BLOCK!!

  87. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Yay, girls bonding over shoes!

    I can see myself being attracted to a SD with a HUGE….kitchen. lol Sorry I had to. I am in a goofy mood today. But seriously, I love to cook, and I would imagine that a man with a nice kitchen would have some degree of culinary skill.

  88. photogirl says:

    I feel completely shoe deprived with all this talk! Maybe I can have just one pair from the fund?

    Kit Kat – Yes…I always look in the background as well. You can tell a lot by those images… And what about the ones where every photo is cropped and you can see the arm of a ladie? How do you SB’s feel about that? I personally would not post a photo of myself with a man cropped out of it (limbs still visible).

  89. Delia DeLyon says:

    gemini, i agree, if the guy is standing in front of some ridiculous house with a bunch of expensive cars posing i think he is FOS too.

    confident, secure, wealthy men of class will post normal, realistic pictures. only a poser or someone really insecure would post a pic like that.

    i saw a profile yesterday of a guy in my area and one of his pics is a room stacked with money to the ceiling, lol, uuuum, yeeeeeeah, ok buddy…

  90. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Delia – The easiest way is to pull up any account and replace the last 6 numbers in the URL with the account number you are looking for.

  91. well on the other hand If A they are cunning it isnt too hard to go to a model home dealer and snap away being they are all staged or any model type of redisnce. and honest it wouldnt matter because I rather a hotel accomadations anyway! I want to get a massage that NYC is talking about! lol just curious on what you all thought.

  92. photogirl says:

    I meant to say lady(ies)

  93. NYC SB says:

    Im so hungover I would love a massage right now…

  94. Delia DeLyon says:

    ahhh, duh, thanks nicole!

  95. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Photogirl – I do not mind pidtures of men with other SBs, because to me that mean they are experienced and know the lifestyle. However, I agree, I do not wat to see a random arm wrapped around a SD. Either he should have the woman in the photo with him, or go take a different picture.

  96. like MR. front page with the two ladies whats the use?
    it all depends on context if its of an occasion such as a birthday party.. this one ny guy has a photo with his mom in it and I thought his photos were very well rounded, another of him at his apt another of him and his doorman, all had captions I though it showed his day to day , and I told him too!

  97. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Awww NYC. I know how that feels. I get hangovers from too much wine. I am always careful with liquor, but wine can be decieving. I have been bartending for a few years now though, and drinking is all a part of it. Even before I hit 21, men were trying to convince me to do shot with them.

  98. ok, now im just posting with my profile number for some exposure because noone has looked at my profile in days. living in Kansas doesnt help, not many options in my area at all. another of the millions of reasons i dont fit here, and cant wait to move back to the west coast next year…

  99. To ALL:
    speaking of other sites lemme go check on it I will see yall folks in a bit

  100. MauiGirl*393374* says:

    Hi all,

    I’m new here. I live on Maui. I’m looking for someone who will spend time on the island. Is this realistic and do I have a chance based on location?

  101. i used to live on maui, whereabouts are you? I lived in Paia, Haiku, upcountry in ulupalakua. i also spent a lot of time on hana side in kipahulu, oh my gosh i miss it SO much!

  102. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Alright folks, it has been fun. But I have to head to school for the evening. I will catch up with you later tonight. Ugh, I really need a life right now.

    NYC – Drink some Powerade and close your curtains. Hopefully you will feel better soon.

    Bye all.

  103. photogirl says:

    Welcome MauiGirl, I too used to live there when I was younger. My mom has been back there now for many years. Just out of curiousity I did a search for SD’s in Maui and it only brought up 2, but removing Maui brought 110. From what I recall it is rather easy to ‘island hop’.

    As far as the mainland, I would assume there are many SD’s who would enjoy visiting you in Maui!

  104. SugaCaneBby says:

    Hey sugars! Getting a late start today. Watching Law & Order and I somehow more disturbed by the feature crime than I should be. Go figure.

    Delia Delon – Yeahhhhhh MA is FULL of creepers. I cancelled my profile shortly after getting it approved and browsing for a bit. The kicker is you have to be a premium member to read what anyone is looking for as far as an “arrangement” or meesage them and NO ONE was premium…so I wonder how they stay afloat. Full of creepers anyway, like you said. Just men looking for casuals hook-ups.

    Hmmm, I am not one for designer shoes, but Jimmy Choo needs to come out with Grant in either a red or black…and I’m all for it. :)

  105. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hi Sugar’s! Just pop’d in to say Hello. I am off to class!
    “How to bring out your inner Damsel”…
    OC will never be the same again!
    I will embrace being a damsel in distress and let those big blue eyes bat real honest to goodness tears at the thought of my $150 bank balance.
    Sad smiley faces will accompany my texts with the sad tale of how smoke came out of my laptop last night.
    Did I mention that my car tires are 10 years old?
    Yes, the inner Damsel will from here on out tell her tale of SB woes (true stories) and learn to hide her brave face.

  106. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    NYC SB – AHA! THAT must be why you are unhappy that you got FOUR PAIRS OF CL’s. A hangover. It will make you feel sad about almost everything. ;) I hope you feel better! Lots of water, darkened room, and get off the darned computer! ;)

  107. Koi says:

    Hi everyone!

    How do I search for a member on here by their #??

  108. hey Maui girl!
    there was a hawian guy on the front page like 2 days ago! look him up he was ok I guess

  109. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Koi – Go to “view your profile”, and insert their numbers where yours are ;)

  110. MauiGirl*393374* says:

    Hi Delia and photogirl!

    Thank you for the welcomes. I am Maui born and raised and I feel truly blessed. I love it here. I’d like someone to spend time here with me instead of the other way around.

  111. Koi says:

    thank you gemini!!

  112. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – currently at work… so no rest for me till tonight… serves me right

  113. NYC SB says:

    HI OC! I was wondering where you were

  114. Texas Sd Chris rock is on oprah today, there is some more Cultural funnyness you might like!

  115. Koi says:

    I was wondering why quite a few of you had numbers after your name! lol.

    Even though I’ve been blogging, I just officially joined today!

  116. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    NYC – eeeep. Ugh I so feel for you, that sucks.

    Koi – Consider this your offiicial official welcome to the blog! :D

    I included my numbers because I’m curious if anyone thinks I should make any changes. Apparently I just need to negotiate my allowance better! lol :)

  117. MauiGirl*393374* says:

    How do you find people you’re interested in on this website? Is “search” the only option? It seems like the blog replies are mostly from girls. There are thousands of men in the search results but how do you narrow it down? Any advice? I like message boards because you can find someone easily through conversations but this site doesn’t have one.

    P.S.- How do you help men find you?

  118. Koi says:

    Thanks for the welcome!

  119. NYC SB says:

    Gemini29 *365643* says: Apparently I just need to negotiate my allowance better! lol

    Not when you have your personal negotiator ;)

  120. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Maui Girl – There are a few vocal SDs on the blog, and supposedly (like an urban myth) a bunch of silent lurking SDs

    Otherwise, search is the only option…just start browsing profiles and get an idea of what you are looking for. Email some to start, see if you get any responses back, etc. You can narrow it down by state, and there are more advanced options if you become a member.

  121. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    NYC SB – Good point. I’ll just forward all allowance discussions in the future to you ;) “You’ll have to run this past my NYC SB, she handles all of these negotiations for me” :)

  122. Koi says:

    Oh! NYC SB are your financial services available to all!?

  123. NYC SB says:

    makes you seem super classy and sophisticated lol

  124. Peisinoe says:

    Hello everyone! I’ve been lurking for a time and finally feel that I’ve built up enough experience to be able to be useful around here. I’ve been involved in the SD/SM/SB world for about a year and part of SA for about 8 months. I’ve made lots of mistakes, had many wonderful experiences, met so many different types of men and currently have an arrangement with an amazing gentleman who treats me like a princess. I recently introduced a friend to SA and it has been so rewarding being able to help her avoid so many of the mistakes I have made. I’m hoping to be able to help others in a similar way, and also get advice from and share stories with all of you.

  125. Koi says:

    Can the SD’s view who has viewed them??? Do you ladies usually search and “Favorite” men?

  126. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Koi – Oh yeah, I search and favorite men all the time. :) Normally I tryyy to go back and actually email my faves too. Oh and if you are a premium member you can view who viewed you, and I think see who saved you as a fave, not sure on that though.

  127. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Welcome to the blog Peisinoe! Ooh another experienced SB! Sweet! :) You bet we’ll be picking your brain ;)

  128. Olivia says:

    I am becoming frustrated! I keep emailing with several pot SD’S, text, etc, and even met with one for lunch (he received a kiss at the end)…he knows that I need a bit of financial assistance, but continues to text, “hey baby, when can I see you again?” There has been no move to provide me with anything other than a few glasses of white wine and a salad. Am I being too harsh and money-focused? Or is he just playing around and hoping to get a little more physical each time we meet?

    And all of this talk about Jimmy and Christian is killing me! I don’t even have enough for my dry-cleaning at the moment!

    Sorry for being a debbie-downer! I’m feeling quite cynical today!

  129. Koi says:

    Hi Olivia

    People have metioned before that, “Those who ask for nothing, receive nothing.”

    With a lot of the pot SD you come across, they will try to get as much from you as possibly, while giving as little as possible in return. There are some good ones (from what I’ve heard) but not as easy to come across. I say tell them what you are looking for specifically, and see what their reaction is. The worst they can do is say “No.” And in that case, at least you can move on to your next pot SD!

  130. Margo says:

    Please advise.
    A guy asked me about my expected budget. After I gave him an answer, he asked: “how often and how much time do you have discreet for that?”
    How do you usually reply such questions?
    Thanks.

  131. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Olivia – I’ve been there the last few days in cynical land. Maybe you should text him back something along the lines of “I’m ready to meet if you are ready to discuss the arrangement” and see how he responds. It would let you know whether he is interested in just playing around or serious.

    Keep your chin up girl, sugar is right around the corner!!

  132. NYC SB says:

    Olivia – you are sugar dating… its normal to be concerned about money… if he wants to move forward you should discuss allowance… tell him that you enjoyed his company but if you two are to continue seeing each other than you would like to have some sort of an arrangement in place

  133. NYC SB says:

    Margo – ask yourself what your availability time wise is… then tell him :D

  134. Koi says:

    Hi Margo

    I’m not sure about your specific wants from a relationship.

    Personally, I would say what someone mentioned earlier at NSA

    There is not specified amount of times and longevity. You decide together how much time you want to spend together. Sex is not a guarantee, though. But if you want it and it happens, great.

    Hope that helps.

  135. Olivia. your tell Mr. touchy-feely that you cannot meet unless hes ready to propose his arrangment . this is assuming he is attractive to you and vice versa,
    Nyc at that point he should front her a month allowance? I had this Question myself

  136. GLPlayground says:

    Are gay sugar daddies also allowed here?

  137. Koi says:

    Hi GLPlayground

    I would think so! When I filled out the form it gave me the option to check off that I was in search of both a “sugardaddy” and sugarmommy”

  138. Peisinoe says:

    Thanks Gemini and Kit-Kat!

    Olivia – I second NYC SB, after you’ve established a mutual interest it is natural and expected that the next step is to initiate discussion about the details of an arrangement. If he balks or starts talking ‘free trial’ or ‘test drive’, move on.

  139. Olivia, Im sorry to hear about your frustrations. It sounds to me as if he might be stringing you along, but I am pretty intolerant of bs so I would probably tend to dip out of that situation more quickly than most.

    Have you all had good experiences with the other sites of this nature? Im finding this one to be the best. I mentioned above MA is full of creepy dudes.

    And sugardaddyforme tricks you! they let you have a “free” 3 day trial premium membership, but make you give card info and tell you that you must cancel before the 3 day trail if you do not want your card charged. since i am broke, I followed the cancellation rules(you have to write them to cancel, you cant cancel your own account!) i emailed them from my own email, and through their contact form asking for a cancellation so that my card isnt charged about 40 hours after i began my free access so that i would be sure they would have plenty of time to receive before my trial expired. This was on Monday. Not only have I gotten ZERO response to the now 4 emails I have sent, the charge is now pending on my card! WTF!

    And the sugardaddie.com site hates me, kicks me off and wont approve my profile! it is the exact same as on here, same pics and text, but they have twice now kicked me off and enabled my email address from being able to access the site!
    Apparently someone there doesnt like me! When I emailed them about it, it was kicked back and said it was undeliverable! i am pretty wowed, I guess I dont fit their requirements of what a sugarbaby should be, look like, etc. Its pretty hilarious. I thought it was a fluke the first time, but when I signed up with my other email and the exact thing I happened I realized it is personal, hahahahahaha!

    So yeah, looks like I will be sticking mainly to this site, and Craigslist. So far all the inquiries ive gotten through CL havent panned out. Was talking to one very nice gentlemen for a bit but he was extremely right wing conservative and looking for someone the same, or at least not someone as extremely opposite of him.

    There have got to be some sweet, globally, politically, and socially conscious, organic food, travel, yoga and music loving wealthy generous men who want to hang out with a woman who is far from the ordinary that has seen and done a lot while maintaining a youthful and positive vibration and outlook on the world that is chill, loyal and strong with a lot of opinions who is working hard towards medical school right? They can’t possibly all want a barbie doll!

  140. Olivia says:

    Well, I have told him that I am looking for a monthly allowance (bills, loan, etc.). He replied with, “that’s what it’s all about, baby.” Yet, no move toward anything. I am afraid of becoming a test-drive, if I keep giving in, assuming that he will eventually help me out. I am super busy, and our schedules conflict. If I were to meet him during his availability, I’d be missing work, and therefore, out the money I would have made…all for a free meal. He just can’t commit to or verbalize any sort of arrangement, and I know that he wants to be affectionate and somewhat physical. Perhaps, I should give him one more meeting period, and if after that, we still have no arrangement in place, then I’m cutting him lose!

    Any man can claim to be SD, but come on, show me!

  141. Koi says:

    Hi Delia

    I opened up a free account with sd4me and that one was a total dud.

    I can’t believe you got kicked off SD.com! I thought the whole point was to celebrate unique relationships.

  142. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Olivia- From that description alone, you need to make him commit to an agreement before you see him again or cut him loose. Don’t put your job or income in jeopardy for a sorta wannabe SD guy!

    Also from the sound of it, do you really want to be in arrangement with a guy who’s schedule conflicts so badly with yours? I understand being in a pinch money wise, but really, if it continued…that would just be rather annoying from my point of view.

  143. Olivia says:

    Yeah, what the heck?
    That’s not only bizarre but really, really dumb for a website to screen you…when you are not violating their terms!

    Their loss! Actually, loss(es)*

  144. Gemini, I cant imagine youd be having probs finding a good SD, youre a hottie and you seem smart, nice and down to earth!

  145. NYC SB says:

    Any man can claim to be SD, but come on, show me!

    HA! And thats your answer… if he wont verbalize tell him just that and then promptly move on

    As for when you have agreed on an amount you should also agree on how it is to be paid… monthly… weekly… a bit each time you meet? If you agree on a monthly payment ensure you received the allowance prior to intimacy otherwise you risk on giving him a free test run for a month…

  146. Olivia does he like you is he smitten? if so just leave him alone and surley he will see your Serious and come with an offer otherwise all that baby baby mess can fly in the wind… that all is worth anyway!

  147. Koi says:

    Olivia,

    I’m in the same boat as you with two pot SD. I say if he is starting to get physical, you should definitely word exactly what you want in an email before you meet. That’s what I did with the one that went for a kiss on the lips.

    The one that was more reserved, and gave me a sweet cheek kiss, I’m meeting with this weekend, and I will bring it up then.

  148. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – i couldnt agree more!

    NEVER EVER EVER JEOPARDIZE YOUR DAY JOB FOR AN SD … REAL OR WANNA BE ONE… he can leave you just as fast as he met you and then who is going to pay the bills :D

  149. Olivia says:

    Gemini- You’re right. I mean, I would be able to squeeze him in…but with no motivation, it’s hard to readily give up my limited amount of free time. I usually choose to reserve that for “me time” or for friends.

    I think it’s just not going to be a good or right match.

    I’ve been thinking that, and you all have been pointing more toward that.

    Thank you, ladies, for all of your responses! Much needed!

  150. Olivia says:

    hahahaha, Kit- Kat. “that baby baby mess!”

    That’s what I’ve been thinking…Once was sweet and endearing, but come on, now!!!!

    and NYC- that’s wonderful advice. Allowance should be out of the way to leave plenty of time for much more fun and engaging conversations and meetings!

  151. Peisinoe says:

    My number one advice to everyone starting out in this is don’t settle! I’ve seen that sentiment reinforced on this blog on multiple occasions, and it’s pivotal to your happiness. It’s great to meet different types of men, consider alternate arrangements, perhaps enter into something short-term to get a feel for what being an SB is like (quality, agreed upon short term – not one night stands) but always remain true to yourself and what your needs and desires are. It takes longer and the process can be frustrating, but dedicating yourself to an arrangement you’re not happy with takes a huge emotional toll eventually.

  152. When I first got the idea to try to do this I went into it thinking I would be acting, and would mold myself to whatever a man wanted me to be. After having worked in a high end salon and spa for 2 years, I know that I am capable of pretending, but that I dont like doing it.

    The more I read this blog, the more I have discovered that it is just like all other aspects of my life, I have to be me and shine in the way that only I can. I am awesome and some awesome SD will come along whos been waiting for a chick like me his whole life :)

  153. Koi says:

    Go Delia!

    That’s the right attitude to have!

  154. The Lone Gunman says:

    Delia DeLyon *390669* :

    Initiate a charge-back through your credit card provider for failure to provide the services requested and honoring their own cancellation agreement.

    TLG

  155. SugaCaneBby says:

    I’ve had some success on SD.com and a few others…the one where you have to pay, I skipped it all together because it sounded scammy. If I had a site and wanted to set up a free trial, that’s what it would be: Free. Their account would be disabled after the trial and if they decided they wanted to continue, THEN they could give me their credit info. Websites like that depend on folk forgetting to cancel and I’m good for that. ;)

    As far as CL, I’ve attempted to post an ad but they block it before I can?? It doesn’t have any innapropriate language and actually reads more honest as far as a dating ad then any others I’ve seen. Doesn’t contain coded contact info or anything. Eh. I guess it’s along the same lines as what Delia posted about with SD.com (got approved for that no prob, no pic posted, and the pot I’m speaking with contacted me anyway. O_O Odd, but it shows that he read my page! He gets brownie points for that).

    According to the tracking code I have, my package should be here Friday and then I can FINALLY get back into my search for “The One”, lol. Remind me to never again order anything that requires 10 BUSINESS days to ship, yeesh.

  156. MauiGirl*393374* says:

    Delia,

    I was also kicked off of SD.com. Reason? They thought I was under 21. Thanks for the compliment (I do look like a little girl) but I *am* 21!! I have this trouble all the time. No one believes my age.

    Don’t take it personally. That website was wacko so I joined this website instead.

  157. Peisinoe says:

    Thanks Delia, I love your confidence!

  158. NYC SB says:

    FYI – Sushi and hangovers… not a good mix …

  159. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    NYC SB – Eesh… Stick to the gingerale and saltines with a hangover… or at least vegetarian sushi ;)

    Mmmm sushi. I think I know what I’m going to have for dinner now! Thanks!! :)

  160. NYC SB says:

    SD dearest sent some amazing sushi to work because I am working late… well his assistant did but nice gesture none the less :D

  161. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    NYC SB – Can you clone your SD and send a clone down here please? lol

  162. MauiGirl*393374* says:

    I’d love to hear some success stories. Anyone care to share?

  163. Koi says:

    MauiGirl

    Eh, I’ve had one travel daddy. We took trips to California, Vegas, and Mexico. It was my very first experience on the site, and I didn’t really know what I was doing and what I wanted. It was fun, but I realize now, it’s not what I’m looking for. Since I’ve gotten to read all the posts on here and see how some of the other SB and SD work things out, I plan on being more specific about what I want. ie. allowance-wise

  164. Koi says:

    Oh, and gifts, but I’d rather get an allowance and have the freedom to shop on my own. =)

  165. mauigirl, at least they gave you a reason! and hey, looking young is GREAT! at 32, most people think I am in my early 20s-I have no problem with that! they almost didnt sell me a bottle of wine at the liquor store a couple of weeks ago because apparently the girl thought I was underage, she scrutinized my ID to a T! Put it under the black light, pulled out the book, and was bending it and was still very skeptical, hahaha!

    Thanks Lone Gunmen, I am gonna do that right now!

    And thanks to you as well pesinoe, Confidence is a tricky one, I try to stay humble but I know that sometimes I can come off a bit cocky. Im just a woman that knows what I have to offer and exactly what I want so I dont have time for anything that doesnt fit into that equation.

    I got a response from a kid on CL, he is 21, works for the cable company and makes 55G’s a year. Not bad for his age, but not exactly what im looking for. I told him I am looking for a man with a bit more wealth, stability and maturity and he told me that I am in no position to be picky and mean.Does any of that sound mean? those were my exact words. heck I didnt have to respond at all!

  166. Peisinoe says:

    Delia – no, that doesn’t sound mean though he obviously interpreted it as such. His reply, however, that ‘you are in no position to be picky’ is inappropriate and mean according to any interpretation.

  167. MauiGirl*393374* says:

    Delia, that’s great about your ID! Haha, it’s nice to be treated young, look young, etc. but when they start denying me from things based on their speculation of my age… well… It’s more than annoying.

    The way I see things, every girl has the right to be picky about who they want in their lives. We respect ourselves which means not just anyone can have our hearts.

  168. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Hello Sugar Family! Back from class and munching on some KFC before Top Chef comes on tonight. Fried chicken is easily my biggest weakness.

    Right now I don’t have time for a travel daddy.I have always thought the idea was intriging though. Maybe when Summer rolls around again I can take some time away from school. I have been saving up to go to Vegas, but then it is time to pay tuition again.

  169. Koi says:

    Hi AltNicole.

    Vegas is super easy to go to! You just need to find a weekend off!

    I just went there two weeks ago, we stayed in a gorgeous penthouse suite, saw 5 shows, and ate at delicious restaurants. I’ve already had 3 other men offer to take me. I’m actually turning down Vegas trips, lol.

  170. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Ugh Koi you suck :)

    I love to play poker, so when I go I want to have at least a grand with me to fully enjoy the casinos. That tends to be the problem. I can afford airfare and hotel myself.

  171. EastCoastFilly says:

    Hi everyone!

    As far as updating, if it stops working I will change right away, lol. I don’t have pics up so no need to update but the pics I send to pot SDs are always within a few months ago to present.

    I have a Q:
    How many SDs do you email at one time hoping for a response. I almost want to shoot out a whole bunch (I personalize each one) and see what comes back. Is that wrong? I’m still looking for the perfect fit. The ones I’m attracted to aren’t consistent enough to help me enough due to schedule and family constraints and the one that is always there, well, I am not really attracted to physically. Hes a good guy but not that attractive and not at all good on bed. Its starting to wear on me. The other guys were so skilled sexually I’m craving that, not a dud!

  172. Koi says:

    Ah, okay, AtlNicole!

    You’re a gambler! I’m not, lol. Unless they want me to play, then I’ll put their $ on roulette.

  173. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Good evening everyone. Got 3 hours sleep last night. But was worth it. Had a great time with a pot SD. Looking forward to see how thing will proceed.

  174. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Lots of new faces. Have I not been on the blog in that long?

  175. Koi says:

    Hi EastCoastFilly

    I say go for it! Shoot out as many emails as you can keep track of.

    The way I look at it, time is our enemy. We’re desired the most in our youth. So, I’m getting to know as many people as I can handle at a time, until the right one comes along and then he will have all my attention.

  176. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    I have never been big on slots or roulette, but I LOVE Texas hold em and black jack. I play online all the time. Half the reason I want to go to Vegas so bad is to meet some of my poker crushes in the card rooms.

  177. Koi says:

    Hi SweetRed!

    Tell us about your date!

  178. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: I am back, my class took longer than I thought! I learned a lot. ;)

  179. Koi says:

    AtlNicole, that’s impressive! I don’t have the patience to learn those gams. So, I stick to betting on odd/even and red/black.

  180. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    OC – I am jealous. My classes are so freaking boring this semister. I am fighting to stay awake half the time.

  181. OCSugarbaby says:

    The Lone Gunman: Hello… Where are Y O U?

  182. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hey Nicki: My Damsel in distress class, was really interesting! LOL

  183. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    My date. Well it wasn’t really one. It was a last minute, can you met me thing. We have been talking for 2 weeks on the phone and have not been able to meet, but we talked sever times a day and would text silly little message through out the day. Last night he was on a business trip and came back early and was heading back to town and asked me if I was available to meet him. It was 10pm.

    We met at a little bar/club in the parking lot. We never made it inside. We talked for several hours. He kept asking me if I would like to go inside but it was such a beautiful night I was enjoying the fresh air and so was he.

    Let me tell you the chemistry…it was defiantly there. I am looking forward to see where this leads.

  184. Olivia says:

    MMMM….AtlNicole- fried chicken is my weakness as well! with a nice, flaky, buttery biscuit, of course!

    I’m in the library on campus eating a cold Larabar.
    Ughhh.

    Hello everyone else! I hope tonight is treating you all well.

  185. Koi says:

    Great to hear you found Chemistry! Keep us posted as to whether your arrangement works out!

  186. Olivia says:

    Sweetred: He sounds charming and like a total gentleman! Keep us updated!

  187. texaSD says:

    15k ya i could not afford that, i would be broke, i think Gemini is too rich for my blood…

  188. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    He is and he calls me just to tell me I am beautiful :) He is a real charmer. A gentleman all the way. Some times I get a little uncomfortable at all the complements, but it is nice.

  189. OCSugarbaby says:

    Well Hello Tex, we have not met yet! I am OC. I’ve read your posts…very funny ;)

  190. EastCoastFilly says:

    Koi, thanks for your input.

    Sweetredhead, awesome, hope your next real date goes well too! He sounds dreamy :)
    I’m new on the blog but signed up a few months ago and have been lurking every day. Finally joined in! But I feel like I know you all already, lol.

  191. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I carry mace with me all the time. He thought it was so funny I had it in my pocket. He joked about it. Then he asked if he kissed me would I mace him lol

  192. texaSD says:

    lol, really, i can’t remember what i wrote

  193. Texas sd did you see my eariler post to you?

    Sweetred so happy you had a good time

  194. MauiGirl*393374* says:

    Sweetredhead, sounds good so far.

    I need some hope! I feel like this is all wishful thinking. Please share your success stories.

  195. texaSD says:

    Kit-Katt, what can i say, you are so right lol

  196. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    EastCoastFilly, welcome, glad you decided to join in.

    He is wonderful in personality and style and humor but yet to see what an arrangement will be. But the first step is getting to know him and finding out if there is chemistry, hopefully we will discuss the arrangement soon.

    We have only discussed the arrangement aspect briefly. I am hopeing he will call tonight oops and there he is lol

  197. EastCoastFilly says:

    Fingers crossed for you Sweetredhead, let us know how the convo went

  198. OCSugarbaby says:

    MauiGirl: Aloha! You are beautiful. I lived on Oahu for a while for work about 4 years back. I loved it!

  199. texaSD says:

    OC-Where about in the OC are you

  200. Texas you owe me a drink… Dr. pepper works!

  201. OCSugarbaby says:

    Tex: I am in the Newport Beach area of Cali

  202. texaSD says:

    kit-kat, sure lol

    OC-Lol nice spot

  203. OCSugarbaby says:

    Tex: I have spent a lot of time in Texas. Dallas was like my second home with my last job! I grew to love cowboy hats on men.

  204. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    He just called to say hi. He is out of town again and will be back on friday. He wants to discuss the arrangement when he gets back.

    He asked me to visit his family sometime. I asked him why he did that.
    That confused me a bit, as we have just met.

    He said he knew I would be comfortable and fit right in with his family. And he would be proud to take me with him when he goes to see them.

  205. EastCoastFilly says:

    hmmm. Thats kinda weird Sweetredhead. Well, see what the arrangement is and make up your mind after that. Who exactly is he going to say you are to him when you meet the fam?

  206. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I have always thought that we would keep family and friends out of an arrangement. This is a new concept for me and a bit perplexing.But as I have always said each arrangement is different and you make it up as you go alone I suppose.

  207. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    A friend. What else is he going to say lol

  208. Nico says:

    Hello Red :) How are you girl? Congrats on the first meeting going well. I agree it is a bit odd that he (already) wants you to meet his family. What are YOU comfortable with? Are you okay meeting family knowing your ‘type’ of relationship?

  209. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    He also asked me, if all men fall for me. I was thinking huh? lol. I just said people do like me, and I have never had a problem with connections.

  210. Koi says:

    OMG!

    Law and Order is about a Sugar Daddy case tonight!

  211. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I think I would be ok with it. We already seem like good friends. it is like any “normal” relationship. With benefits. Who is to say what is normal anyway. No one has to know HOW we met and the reasons behind it.

  212. Nico says:

    then YAY!!!!! ;)

  213. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Hey nico, how are you? Long time no see. Missed you! How are things in sugar land with you?

  214. Nico says:

    Hey girl :) I’ve been lurking. Lotsa new faces around although it’s fun to see some old(er) ones too.

    I am great!! Thank you! Life is good and sugar is AWESOME!!!

  215. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    My husband (ex) did ask me to marry him within 3 months of meeting lol. Guess I do something to men that I am not aware of lol

  216. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Great to hear Nico. Your a special lady, you deserve wonderful sugar.

  217. Nico says:

    LOL @ Red…it must be the charm of the Red Hair *wink*

    Thank you *blush*

  218. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    BUT i do wonder what the ummm sleeping arrangements will be and IF he plans on spending the weekend there. Questions I will just have to wait and see what the answers are.

    No we are not intimate yet lol

  219. Nico says:

    Well, likely that will be ironed out before the family comes in to play (or you would hope) ;)

  220. Lannie says:

    RealisticSD: states “I think 5-10K does turn off many SDs, partly because there is a big difference between 5K (doable) and 10K (only if the girl is absolutely amazing)”…… I am just curious as to what classifies a pot. SB as absolutely amazing? lol

    Flo Rida: I am sticking to the agreement but for me I feel very little chemistry towards him… so I will not continue after the month is over… sometimes there are things that are more important than financial security such as staying true to one’s self and not losing their identity in the process. (smiles)

    Kit: When I look at a profile picture, I look for alot of clues especially in the background but when I post a picture I actually remove the background and put in a solid color for background so I do not give away where I live as to protect myself. I also look for signs in the picture and magnify the page so I look at what type of watch they might be wearing or other subtle clues that might tell me about the pot SD.

    SweetRed: It sounds like your meeting went well, if there is chemistry it is worth considering but I can understand being hestitant when family is brought into the conversation. Is he looking for an arrangement that might turn into a permament traditional relationship?

  221. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Speaking of “old”(er) bloggers….. ;) … hi sweetred and nico!

  222. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    And now that I scrolled up …. good evening to everyone! I’ve missed a lot in just 24 hours!!

  223. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    That is were it gets complicated. That I am not sure of. I have made it clear at this point I do not want a relationship like that. But he keeps saying he will turn the tables on me and make me want more from him. I think he is joking.

  224. Nico says:

    Hola Villa…good to see you too :D

  225. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Villa!! hey girl. It’s old home week. Good to see you.

  226. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I did introduce him to the blog, so he will probably see my posts. lol

  227. SincereSD says:

    Wow, I don’t login for a day and I’m the topic of discussion! Here’s my comments on several of the postings:

    AtlNicole*389079* says: I think kit-kat and I decided that SincereSD was our Prince Charming. That is the closest I have found to the elusive white knight.
    Thanks for the compliment ladies. I think you two are pretty nice as well … although keep in mind that I’m a 1 SB type of SD.

    Kit-Kat*367987* says: I am thinking on a open minded ness meter I think Texas Sd wins that Sinsere is nice and insightful and Deep. me I am a little too boistrous for him *I guess SFSD I think he and I would crack jokes all the time!
    KK, I don’t log in for a day and you’ve found another SD? :’(

    AtlNicole*389079* says: Allowance is a bit of a tricky subject. I hate talking money at all. It seems kinda tacky to me, but it is a necissary evil for this sort of relationship. I pretty much ask for enough to cover my monthly expenses plus put a bit towards my student loans. My goal is to have the loans paid off by the time.
    Nicole, you are on the right track. Know what you want and prepare for the allowance discussion. What you laid out here is a good starting point. I wrote a blog about how SB should prep for allowance discussions sometime last week. I would add that’s it’s important to protect your credit rating paying off some of your debt. I’ve talked to too much pot SB with serious credit issues and had to help some who I was seeing with credit planning and counseling.

    AtlNicole*389079* says: I had always imagined that a SD would be more attracted to an independant woman. How does the Damsel in Distress play into that? I have always tried to keep any distress seperate from my sugar life.
    Dating a “Damsel in Distress” is a double edged sword. As much as I get satisfaction from being a noble knight, I would like to have my SB maintain her independence. I’ve had too many issues with needy SB in the past including playing credit counselor, baby sitter, AA detox, SB falling in love, etc.

  228. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I have nothing to hide and I have been honest with him. So if he sees the blog, it is ok with me.

  229. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Thanks! I know! Great to see you ladies as well. And with such good news, I’m happy for you! :D

  230. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Ut oh I think I am allergic to his aftershave lol, my face broke out sheeh!!

  231. Lannie says:

    Well its been fun but this is one very tired sugar who needs her sleep, and yes this early as I still feel sleep deprived. Have a good night everyone and may all your dreams be sugar coated.

  232. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Good night lannie, sweet sugar dreams. I should go to bed also. Going on 3 hrs sleep.

  233. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Good night, Lannie. Belated congrats on your arrangement!

  234. Nico says:

    Well ladies…as fun as it has been to see you (and other on the blog I am not ignoring) I must go climb in the hot tub *sigh* LOL ;))

  235. Sinsere I thought I heard a horse neighing!!
    you may have as many Blog S/Bs as you like. its all Electronical!!
    but as far as real life no I cant juggle people either!

  236. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    good night Nico, nice to see you. I am headed off to bed also. Rest up for the weekend lol

  237. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    good night nico and sweetred. hello kit kat and sincereSD!

  238. SincereSD says:

    Nicki says: What’s your favorite sugar-quote from the blog this week so far? There were many, but Sincere Sd’s NSA story takes the crown. “No Sex at All…” :) Gotta love that one!
    I can laugh about this story afterward but it was like a bad dream that you wanted to wake up from.

    GLPlayground says: Are gay sugar daddies also allowed here?
    All are welcome. I remember there was a gay SD who posted frequently … MichaelSD?

    Koi says: I opened up a free account with sd4me and that one was a total dud.
    Be careful with that site. They automatically renew memberships and will maintain a death grip on your credit card, billing you after you cancel.

    MauiGirl*393374* says: I was also kicked off of SD.com.
    Yes, they also reject photos that are shot in a studio or look too professional.

    Sweetredhead*269443* says:Had a great time with a pot SD. Looking forward to see how thing will proceed.
    Great news … hope it works out for you.

    NYC SB says: As for when you have agreed on an amount you should also agree on how it is to be paid… monthly… weekly… a bit each time you meet? If you agree on a monthly payment ensure you received the allowance prior to intimacy otherwise you risk on giving him a free test run for a month…
    I agree with the concept and do provide my allowance upfront as a sign of good faith. I think some SD will be uncomfortable advancing too much … and I want to point out that I’ve also been scammed by SB with this approach.

  239. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Hello Girls! and Guys!

  240. SincereSD says:

    Good evening Gemini and Villa!

    Kit-Kat*367987* says: you may have as many Blog S/Bs as you like. its all Electronical!!
    Damn KK… you sure know how to burst a man’s bubble!!

  241. awhhh comon SINCERE ya killin me over here!! ok when you come to Fl I got you for dinner!

  242. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    hi Gemi !

  243. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Hi Gemi, Kit Kat and Sincere! Hows the night going for you all? I noticed I missed Nico, Sweetredhead and Lannie again…oh well!

    I got the a-ok to send one pot SD some cam phone pics of myself…hoping to keep him VERY interested in meeting me. Hey! cut the looks, nothing dirty…yet…. ;)

  244. Sincere how would you like to be a benefactor to our non-profit organization ? Sugary Deductions.. it gives shoes to the Feety.. mainly CL’s

  245. All: I called my pot he sounded all nervous lol kinda cute.

  246. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Ahahahahaha!!! That was my first thought ;)

  247. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    hello sugars!
    how is everyone?
    Lannie~ so glad your back, how did it go?
    VC~ hiya girl!

  248. ok Gemi I know you keep it lady 24/7 I had no doubt!

  249. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hey BG! is it freezing up there yet? i had to pull out my cashmere sweaters and im still cold. brrrrrrrr.

  250. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ yes, it’s freezing!!! I had to take out the leather jackets :(
    but i’m home bound for a few days, twisted my ankle… I have to rest lol… what a fucking week and it’s only wednesday! :D

  251. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Ha Kit-Kat, I keep it lady 24/7 on this blog…but there are a few hours out of that 24 that get a bit more pussycat dolls-like. ;) Lady with a twist of sass and bad kitty! ;)

    Ok ya’ll didn’t hear that. I’m all lady, 100% of the time. Shhhhh. ;)

  252. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    VC – I know, right? I’ve been all bundled up in clothes and my robe…quite a sight I guarantee that! I’ve been so thankful it switched to cooler weather, and now I’m remembering what winter was like last year…lots of flannel and cold toes!

    Sweety- Oh gosh, that sucks, I’m sorry to hear that! Take it easy on that ankle, I hate sprains. I’m hoping some lurking SD on this blog will take pity on you and send some sweetness your way…just to help you recover! *cough cough*

  253. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Oh no! Sorry to hear… i hope you have a fireplace and some bottles of good bordeaux to make it less painful :)

  254. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Gemi – you are in Maryland? I’m in Minnesota…. we had the most beautiful weather of the summer during september, and then overnight… WINTER! ha! I love it though, autumn is my favourite season.

  255. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Villa Cypris- Yeah MD. Don’t mind me, I get cold easily. Strangely enough, fall and winter are my fave time of year. Minnesota in the winter though…god I’ve heard it gets cold up there! *brrr* getting cold just thinking about it! And don’t get me started on Canada at Christmas time! icey!!

  256. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Thanks girls, yeah it sucks but…. i shouldn’t of been running in the rain lmao!
    VC~ yes I have wine, a fireplace, but no firewood!
    Gemini29 ~ I do need sweetness!!! :P but i can forget the louboutins for a while

  257. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Gemini29 ~ hey i’m in Canada lmao, I hate fall and winter! Hate the cold. I need warm and sunny all year round…. any SDs from warm & sunny places i’m here!!!!! lol

  258. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Sweety SB – You just need a handsome SD to carry you around then! ;)

  259. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Gemi~ yes i do lol… :P

  260. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Better get out there with your axe and chop up some wood! :)

    Gemi – yeah, it does get *cold* here in the winter…. last january it was MINUS 20 degrees… lucky for that that was over the 10 days I was down in palm beach. I tried to discreetly update my facebook status with things like, “powerwalking on the beach in skimpy clothing… errrr… i mean trudging thru the snow all bundled up”… HAHAH!

  261. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Villa Cypris – LOLOL that is always fun, I do the same thing when I travel! :D

    Ok alls I’m off to bed…almost falling asleep onto my laptop! Night and sweet sugar dreams to all!! :D

  262. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ I don’t chop wook, I ordered it, but it takes a while for them to bring it over….I so need a vacation to a warm and sunny place right now, i could stay there til the end of april lol

  263. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Sweet dreams Gemi! good night!

  264. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    nite Gemi!

  265. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    My ankle is killing me!!! see what happens when I try to get back into shape lol

  266. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    I just read a man’s profile that literally says “Be blonde or become blonde, either way i only want blondes” My jaw dropped. What a lame profile. How many hits could he possibly expect?

  267. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    AtlNic~ i’m blonde lol send him my way lmao

  268. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi AtlNicole – hmmmm…. apparently some people are extraordinarily specific in what they find attractive… I suppose it’s better for him to state that up front and then no one wastes her time contacting him if she’s not blonde or willing to become blonde.

  269. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ yeah, i had a guy here say if your blonde don’t even contact me! lol

  270. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Oh reallly??? Wow. I can’t imagine being that rigid with regards to the characteristics I find attractive.

  271. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    I know! it’s funny…. some people are strange! but aren’t we all in are own way?

  272. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Yes. Differences are what make us each unique!

  273. RealisticSD says:

    AltNicole and NY SB, nice bargaining for Gemini. I’ll just have to say yes—I’m sure she’s worth it.

    AltNicole and Kit-Kat, I think it’s a great idea—we should create a charity for SBs so our contributions can be tax-deductibe.

    Delia, to search using a profile number, do the following: click on a profile and then change the profile number in the address bar. But make sure you’re looking at the same gender profile (i.e. to look up another man’s, I’d have to preview my profile and change the profile number, and to look at a woman’s I’d have to look at a female profile and then change the number).

    Koi, the SD can see who has viewed them.

    Olivia, if he is not bringing up the arrangement, you should. If I am interested, I always bring up the allowance, because I think it is more comfortable for me to discuss what I am offering than for an SB to ask for a specific amount. Of course, there are some SBs who come straight out with a dollar amount, but they are often enough the “take the cash and run” type. No worries though—the cash always runs out and they’re back, but they’re just not right as SBs. But in your situation, there is no point spending more time with him without a clear agreement. To me it sounds like he’ll never give you anything of substance.

    Margo, he’s trying to come up with a solid agreement so he knows what he’s getting in return. Nothing wrong with that. Just tell him what you envisioned in terms of the amount of time you’re willing to devote to him.

    MauiGirl, I can see how someone would think you’re under 21. But youth is an asset when sugar-dating.

    Lannie, what makes an SB truly amazing is the feeling I get when I am with her. Some women just sweep me off my feet at first sight and others I can find very attractive but not be as swept away by them. But I don’t think someone could train themselves to sweep my off my feet.

  274. RealisticSD says:

    IRL SB story: So tonight I had dinner with a good “friend” (i.e. a friend but we both know we have some feelings for one another but we just leave it at that) and I told her I should get a travel-partner SB for when I travel and that her sister would be perfect for it. She totally agreed and said that for sure she’d have her sister be my travel-SB. I then offered to pay her sister per day what she makes in a month when we travel together and she said that her sister would say yes for sure. The only problem—her sister lives in another country so travelling becomes too complicated, unless I do more far-away travelling.

  275. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    RealisticSD~ that is pretty amazing! maybe it can work out anyways?!

    VC~ yes the world would be boring if were all the same!

  276. Realistic.. isnt it Supposed to be about Ease and convience?
    thats a whole lot of whirlly bird just to see a sb when thers a Whole bunch of us Right on here!!

  277. RealisticSD says:

    I agree. That’s why I said it’s a problem and I doubt I’d ever put in the effort to travel with her in particular.

  278. RealisticSD says:

    Another funny thing about SA is that for the last few weeks my account has been hidden from search, so the number of times my account has been viewed should be the same or perhaps only slightly higher. But the number has dropped! How is that possible?

  279. Atl and Kit kat need sponsors for our non profit org !!

  280. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    hey BG – remember OPOV? i wonder what happened to him??

  281. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~I don’t know! I miss My OPOV!!!!

  282. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Ok maybe not my OPOV but…. lol

  283. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Maybe he’s out there lurking around…. never know!

  284. Realistic ok
    I just remember reading somebody saying nothing kills passion like the Airport!!

  285. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ He might be…. would be nice to have him on here again!!!

  286. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    good night Kit-Kat.

    BG – yeah, it would! would be nice to have more men contributing to the discussions!

  287. You Never Saw Me says:

    “VillaCypris *276489* says:
    October 1, 2009 at 12:33 am

    Maybe he’s out there lurking around…. never know!”

    Maybe…..

  288. SugaCaneBby says:

    Ugh, dropping the one pot I have at the moment. Everytime I log on and he starts to chat with me he’s always like, “I wish I was there with you, naked, snuggling, keeping you warm.”

    Which would be sweet and sexy…if I knew him like that. Not a prude by a long shot, but I HATE when people rush intimancy. I HATE when people force chemistry. I hate it. I’m done with him. Going to figure out a way to tell him thanks but no thanks…

  289. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    You Never Saw Me~ Is it you? my crush? :D

  290. You Never Saw Me says:

    I wasn’t here.

  291. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    HA! :)

  292. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    SugaCaneBby – I agree completely. That is SUCH a turn-off, not to mention uncomfortable, and inappropriate, considering you’ve not reached that level of “intimacy” yet.

  293. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    SugaCaneBby~ i agree with VC! it’s too much too soon… maybe tell him your not comfortable with that!

    You Never Saw Me~ missed ya!

  294. SugaCaneBby says:

    VC – Haven’t even met the guy or talked to him outside of emails. Like I said on another blog, I’ll save him some time driving 2 hours out of his way to get sex (because it’s not going to happen. no cookies for the children on 1st dates, ya dig?) and I’ll save my self an awkward night of roving hands.

    Too bad though. He was a cutie and I liked his sense of humour.

  295. SugaCaneBby says:

    Lol, I meant Sweety SB. Jeez, let me put my drink down. XD

  296. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    There will be others. Never compromise your comfort levels, for anyone.

  297. SugaCaneBby says:

    Make that twice. I wondered how I read that wrong. Yikes!

    I told him that I wasn’t aware of us being at that level yet and he just called me a silly girl…then I had company so I had to log off. I’m just saying, this is the man who after asking me if I needed financial assistance and I assured him that I’m about more than the money replied with “Good. Most women I’ve met through here are just whores.”

    Well s’cuse me, bud, but that sounds like what you’re looking for.

  298. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    SugaCaneBby~ lol, i’m drinking too VC made me lol, she told me to drink a bottle of bordeaux lol

  299. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ yes it would be nice if more SDs were contributing to the blog!!!

  300. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Wow. I would automatically delete him, with a comment like that.

    I am drinking water…. I did not make you drink BG!!!! A friend of mine sent me a list of the contents of his wine cellar…. thus first growth bordeaux were in my mind…. :)

  301. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Who else used to blog with us? Perhaps they are out there as well!!!!

  302. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    SugaCaneBby ~ he actually said that Good. Most women I’ve met through here are just whores… he would of been in the trash and blocked the first time he said something like that to me!!!

  303. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    lol aww i thought thats what you said lol, joking, but you did put the idea in my head and since i had this great bottle right there, well…. cheers!

  304. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    SugaCaneBby – someone informed me that the purpose of this site is to “short circuit” the “dating process”…. do away with all formalities, niceties, conversations that allow two people to get to know each other and develop a connection, or chemistry. Sounds like he would get on well with your guy.

  305. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    saluti BG! :)

  306. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    yeah i think after this last glass my ankle won’t hurt anymore!

  307. SugaCaneBby says:

    VC – lol. that guy is a nut and has no clue what he’s talking about then. but yes, back to the drawing board. :)

    Once again, I wish it were a requirement for people to read the book Mr. Wade wrote, get tested on certain subjects in it, and THEN they can set up a profile. HA! in a perfect world.

  308. You Never Saw Me says:

    “Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:
    October 1, 2009 at 12:58 am

    VC~ yes it would be nice if more SDs were contributing to the blog!!”

    I don’t blog anymore because I am no longer in the game. So you really can’t call me an SD.

    (and because of some clash of personality issues – maybe that’s why many of the “old-timers” have left)

  309. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    SugaCaneBby~ What book is that?

  310. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    You Never Saw Me ~ still miss ya!

  311. RealisticSD says:

    Personally, I like “all the formalities, niceties, conversations that allow two people to get to know each other and develop a connection or chemistry,” so what I am paying an SB for is the inconvenience of having to see my on my schedule, having to be discrete, and knowing that she cannot have me in a “normal” relationship.

  312. You Never Saw Me says:

    BTW, thx for the thoughts VC and BG.

  313. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    You Never Saw Me says:
    October 1, 2009 at 1:09 am

    I don’t blog anymore because I am no longer in the game. So you really can’t call me an SD.

    (and because of some clash of personality issues – maybe that’s why many of the “old-timers” have left)
    ——–

    Congrats on the former… and sorry to hear about the latter….

  314. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    You Never Saw Me ~ your welcome, you are still in thoughts!! always my Irish blog crush! :D

  315. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    You’re welcome, You Never Saw Me… but I did! HA! :)

    RealisticSD – exactly. I think anyone, male or female, who thinks with the head on top of his or her shoulders, realises that the best connections/intimacies/sex are formed between the ears, and want to develop those connections before all others, knowing it will make the physical ones that much more satisfying.

  316. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    SugaCaneBby – I meant to address that last post to you as well.

  317. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ you got that right Girl!

  318. SugaCaneBby says:

    Sweety SB – The Seeking Arrangement book. VERY informative. It gave me some nice ideas about how to approach certain issues that one would encounter living in this lifestyle.

  319. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Yeah BG – don’t let the blonde hair fool ya! hahahahah

  320. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ It never did!!! ;)

  321. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    SugaCaneBby~ yeah its maybe a good idea to get the book

  322. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I know… it’s my standard self-deprecating ‘excuse’ … I can’t remember what I did a while ago, but the person looked at me like “what the hell”? So without saying a word, I took a big chunk of my long blonde hair and held it out. It was hilarious.

  323. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ lol you are funny girl…. some think because we are blonde that we are dumb! lmao… surprise! we are smart! lol

    You Never Saw Me~ I do agree with that, lots of the older bloggers are never here! too bad…
    Like nitemare and SE , they are never on here!!! maybe I’m not here when they are but,,,, i haven’t seen then either :(

  324. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Yeah, that’s why I can make fun of myself, because I know that the “stereotype” doesn’t apply to me.

    Oh yea! Nitemare and SE…. I miss them, too. I bet they are out there somewhere…..

  325. You Never Saw Me says:

    BG did they get chased off too?

  326. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    You Never Saw Me~yes, and by a stalker!

  327. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Who is chasing people off??

  328. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ i know!

    would be nice to see them on again too!

  329. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Ok sugars, I need to get to bed…

    You Never Saw Me~ soo nice to see you on here again! don’t go missing for too long!

    VC~ I sent you mail…

    Good night

  330. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Good night. Bonnes reves!!xx

  331. Flo Rida says:

    RealisticSD – VillaC – I agree if you state a range of $5-10k and you give a SB $5k by definition she’ll be offended. My SD says what he wants is looks, youth, intelligence, chemistry, geographical and time convenience and I suppose that’s what other SD’s want subliminally – to this I would add no drama. Chemistry is so intangible and vague that it captures a broad spectrum.

    Lannie – a wise man once said ‘to thine own self be true’ Polonius in Hamlet. I’m not losing my identity I’m not sure I can handle the pressure – it’s a bit like Gordon Ramsey on that chef program except that SD’s only scolded me once, but I’m a pleaser and an overachiever and so haven’t got to two strikes yet. Good luck in your arrangement.

    Sweety – have some poutine and smoked meat at Schwarzes for me.

    NYC SB – I was born in England so I understand scotch though the brand has been destroyed by marketing in the US.

    Photogirl – you have email.

    VillaC – keep warm.

    Gem29 – if you want I could help you with your profile – forgive me but it’s a bit about you as opposed to what you can do for a SD – also travel is an issue – I only read it and I didn’t look at your pics but everyone here says you’re a hottie. I can only get to this late this week or next week though. Equally don’t feel as though you have to accept this offer. Email me at atllgw @ g place. PS i’ll help others (on a scheduled backlog basis). PPS do you need help if RealisticSD is going to be your white knight? LOL

    K-K – how you doing babe?

  332. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi Flo Rida!

    Thanks, cashmere sweater lounge outfit is on….. toasty warm for now! :)

  333. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ good night to you too

    Flo Rida~ HA! who doesn’t know that place! but i don’t eat poutine! sorry….
    have a good night!

  334. Peisinoe says:

    I am so jealous of all you ladies all cozied up indoors because it’s cold outside. I’m from the midwest, moved to the west coast a few years ago and miss chilly fall nights like crazy!

  335. Happy Lurker says:

    Good morning all,
    I read a posting some time ago “I am a sucker for a picture with a guy and a labrador”. This gave me inspiration to change my search requirements. I then started to browse for canine friendly ladies.
    Thought I hit the jackpot with a lady owning working English Setters.
    The English Setter is known as the Gentleman’s Dog, so I invited her and her Setters for a day out in the countryside in beautiful Belgium.
    Last Saturday the weather was just perfect for a first get-together, with lots of sunshine and a temperature in the seventies. I met her and saw a good looking woman, dark eyes and black hair in a pony tail, with two beautiful dogs that complimented her appearance.
    Guessed she was in her fourties.
    We spent a lovely day out for partridge and out in the field, she enjoyed the gourmet shoot lunch I had prepared for her, mushroom soup and a courgette guiche (Spanish recipe of course) together with a glass of Navarra wine. Yes I know ladies, the perfect SD and all that.
    At the end of the day we shared a delicious dinner. When I drove her back we touched on more personal information.
    I almost ran the car off the highway, when she told me that she was sixty years old. Imagine how young she had stayed in her appearence.
    Must be by all that exercise of walking the dogs several times a day.
    The only intimate thing we shared was when she said, she wished to breed a new litter of her Setters next year and would I like to buy a pup.
    Conclusion: I have to narrow the search down to girls with a black lab, eventually a chocolate lab would also do.
    Upon parting you kiss each other on the cheek three times as is the custom in Belgium. She tried to plant a kiss on my lips though.
    According to the rules of engagement on SA, this is way out of line.
    I liked the dogs though.
    Life is like a comic strip to me !

  336. RainyStreet says:

    Good Morning Happy Lurker :) wow 60?? Why is that not one of the first questions you asked her?? I know when I meet someone one of the first questions is ‘how old are you’? But hey to each his own right ;)

  337. Lannie says:

    Gemini: Smiles and hugs to you and so sorry I missed you again, hope your weekend is sugar coated.

    Happy Lurker: I wonder what it is about age that makes a person so nervous, in my profile I post my age as I also look younger than my years but there is a plus to maturity as well. I guess there is someone for everyone, good luck with your hunting and may it be sugar coated.

    Sweety: The trip was good, a little busy but he was a perfect gentlemen and again tommorrow I am off again to the other coast which again is filled with many events. This time I will be gone for 5 days so again I will not be able to blog but will send email to Kit and she can pass it on. How is everything going for you?

  338. Happy Lurker says:

    Hi Rainy,
    I was under the impressions that the lady was on the wrong side of thirty.
    A gentleman is not supposed to ask for the lady’s age, so I didn’t.
    Besides it could ruin the day.
    My astonishment was more about the fact that just as Lannie, she looked so very much younger.
    I bet she could feature in an advertisement for Chanel products or so, that keeps your complexion young and wrinkle free.
    Anyway, it was a great day there out in the countryside.
    I keep a country diary of all my outings by writing a few pages and mail it to friends. At then end of the season I bind it into a book together with the photos and it forms a nice Xmas present for friends.
    They also enjoyed reading about my Setters’ Day.

  339. Lannie says:

    Happy Lurker:

    She could also look young by genetics, my oldest sister is now 50 and when she goes out of town she often gets carded in nightclubs as they do not realize her age, she has even been denied service as it was suspected she was using a fake ID ….lol…. however, age is often not relative especially behind closed doors. When I hit 38 I noticed a difference in my sex drive and preferences and became much more comfortable in my own skin to let my hair down. I love being in my forties now and able to be a SB and feel I have alot to offer. Everyone has preferences which is what is so great about this site, but have you noticed that many people today look younger than their age. I think as a SB it is important to be healthy and take care of your skin. Yet, I must say in a man I am attracted to gray hair and a few wrinkles as it gives him an aura of being oh so distinguished looking. (smiles)

  340. RainyStreet says:

    happy lurker: did you meet her on SA or in real life? I’m asking because I usually ask age before we meet…that’s all…;)

  341. RealisticSD says:

    FloRida said, “Chemistry is so intangible and vague that it captures a broad spectrum.” I agree. Look at a bunch of kids on the playground–some will just be drawn to others and only want to play with them. They don’t know each other from before, sexual attraction is not even part of the equation, and their decision is rather firm–they will only want to play with that one child. In case the kids have mutual chemistry, they will play for hours on end and won’t be able to wait till they get to play with each other again, but if the chemistry is not mutual, one child starts whining, “Why won’t he/she play with me?” The same holds true in dating. We just cannot help whom we well “chemistry” with.

  342. RainyStreet says:

    LOL I have no problems with a woman that age being a sugar baby so don’t get me wrong! i was just wondering…if your preference was younger women why you didn’t ask?

  343. RealisticSD says:

    The age issue has been brought up a number of times before. IRL, I have generally dated older women, but somehow all the SBs I have met have been a good bit younger than me with only one exception who was my age. But I think it is partly because women looking for an SD have mentally prepared themselves for a much older man and are often surprised that a lot of the SDs are not that old.

  344. RealisticSD says:

    Happy Lurker, I am not sure there are rules of engagement with respect to kissing on the first date, are there? In my experience, if I am attracted to her and the chemistry is there, it’s all fair game.

  345. NYC SB says:

    AtlNicole*389079* says: Half the reason I want to go to Vegas so bad is to meet some of my poker crushes in the card rooms.

    My ex was a professional poker player… he is just so fine… maybe I should make introductions ;)

    Olivia says: MMMM….AtlNicole- fried chicken is my weakness as well! with a nice, flaky, buttery biscuit, of course!

    Now why is everyone forgetting the best part of the meal??? Bring on the spuds :D

    Sweetredhead*269443* says: My husband (ex) did ask me to marry him within 3 months of meeting lol. Guess I do something to men that I am not aware of lol

    Please figure it out because I want to know… in 2009 I have been proposed 3 times already… all after 3 months of dating

    RealisticSD says: AltNicole and NY SB, nice bargaining for Gemini. I’ll just have to say yes—I’m sure she’s worth it.

    HA! Well then you no longer need a traveling SB then do you?

    ————————————————————————————–
    Hi Sugar fam :D

    I have a jam packed day at work today so I will be MIA

    I stayed in last night instead of going to see my SD due to my lovely hangover… thankfully he was very sweet about it

    Tonight I am off to a concert with a friend

    I have been contacted by a very young and attractive man off this site… He is just so adorable and works in a field I hope to get into one day… now idk what to do… we had a great convo on the phone and he wants to meet but i somehow dont feel right about it (although SD and I have an agreement that we can see others)

  346. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Lannie~Glad it went well, woo hoo the west coast! lucky girl!
    I hope it goes as well as NYC, tell me all about it when your back!
    have fun!

  347. Mika Sadaf Marie says:

    well ive just started on this site and im hoping to make the aqquaintence of a gentleman of caliber.

    im curious as to how well other girls have been doing on this sight.
    are there a lot of time wasters.

    i set my ideal number simply up a little higher to deter any would be time wasters.

    i also kept my bio simple.
    im well read, and a student and i am very young i suppose. 19 being right on the dot and afro-arab.
    although i look predominantly african american.

    i know that looks as always are a given. but i would hope given the gent’s intial attraction he could see more than adorable face.

    anyway thats my impromptu introduction

  348. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Good morning everyone!

    Mika, welcome to the blog, and SA! Of course, there are some “time wasters”, just as there are in real life… but you’ll learn to recognise them rather quickly.

    Peisinoe says:
    October 1, 2009 at 2:28 am
    I am so jealous of all you ladies all cozied up indoors because it’s cold outside. I’m from the midwest, moved to the west coast a few years ago and miss chilly fall nights like crazy!
    ————————-
    :D
    I’ll send you some chilly 40 degree air!!!!! I know what you mean, though, I lived in FLA for 18 months and sorely missed the change of seasons. I love the cold!

  349. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    NYC SB – I saw a pair of CLs last night, “Differa”…. reminded me of the SD on here with whom you were debating the merits of taking the shoes off, or leaving them on…. those would be wicked difficult to remove in the heat of passion! :P

  350. NYC SB says:

    I just got the Babel boots… those would be hard to remove as well :D

  351. Lisa Marie says:

    Hey Sugars!!!!! Hows it going in here!?!? I have been gone for a while. What have I missed?

  352. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I’ll have to look those up!

    hi lisa Marie…. you’ll have to skim the blogs and see! ;)

  353. Miz_Red says:

    Good afternoon ladies & gents!

    I editted my profile & switched my photos. My photos were approved and im just waiting on my profile!
    I hope its better!
    Everyone get ready to review for me!

    Thanks loveys! =)

  354. Lisa Marie says:

    Hey Villa….yes I know I have to skim…lol. I am trying to. Working at the same time (bad me)

    Hey Red!!! how you doing hun?

  355. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    hey Miz Red – looking forward to seeing the new profile!

    Ja, lisa marie… wouldn’t want to ruin any surprises by just telling you what you’ve missed! ;)

  356. RainyStreet says:

    Hey Lisa Marie good to see you!

  357. Lisa Marie says:

    Hey Rainy!!! Missed you guys!!! I had to work over the weekend away from computers. And then my little one was sick so I was home till today, so its been a crazy week.

  358. Lisa Marie says:

    hey Rainey you have my messenger right?
    get on and message me

  359. Lisa Marie says:

    Villa, Love the Avatar. What is that stone? I cant think of the name right now.

  360. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Nice boots NYC SB! :D

    hi rainystreet….

    I’m heading out for the day. Sending everyone good wishes for a great afternoon! xx

  361. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Lisa Marie – my avatar:

    Leviev Chameleon Diamond Ring

    The Chameleon diamond is the rarest type of diamond because of its unique properties which allow it to change color in different temperature and light conditions. This extremely rare stone has a stable color of greenish yellow but then they can change color.

    This Leviev Chamelon diamond ring an extraordinary radiant … Read Morecut 8.04 carat fancy dark grey green chameleon diamond surrounded by pink pave diamonds that is set in 18 carat pink gold. The size and rarity of the main stone drives the price of this beauty up to $2,100,000.

  362. Lisa Marie says:

    WOW Villa…its gorgeous!

  363. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Leviev and Graff are purveyeurs of some of the most extraordinary stones in the world. x

  364. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Yes, it is! :)

  365. Lisa Marie says:

    lol thanks Villa

  366. RainyStreet says:

    lisa…lol…i forgot your email?

  367. Lisa Marie says:

    yyyyyahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhoooooooooooooo the unbreakable_dream5

  368. RainyStreet says:

    luvU2makeItrain @ yaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh ;) if anyone wants to add me

  369. hello you all I been lurkin

  370. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hi Kit-Kat! ;)

  371. NYC SB says:

    Hi girlies!

  372. Oc hey lady whats shakin ?

  373. OCSugarbaby says:

    I just messed with my profile a bit. I am trying to see if changing the wording to “less is more” and omitting graduate degree. Maybe education does not play into the SB qualifications. At least a Masters does not in my book. It is funny, I have had more hits and emails since I changed it up!

    Hi ya NYC SB!

  374. OCSugarbaby says:

    Men are visual, I don’t even think they get past the pictures! Then when they want to email you back they have to go back to your profile several times to read your stats again and again…

  375. NYC SB says:

    OC for the longes time my profile was like 2 lines long… no one ever noticed i had a masters degree… i have changed it since and im getting slightly more emails but maybe thats bc of the LBD picture rather than the wording of my profile

  376. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: How are you feeling this morning? Sweetie stay away from hard the hard stuff unless of course it is a martini! I stick to the clear stuff!

  377. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: That is funny, a picture is worth a thousand words! I show my figure in my second shot. I think I may put it as my first and see if that shakes it up. I am down to to the wire on saving for getting the “girls” done over Christmas. I still have several $$ to go to make it. Now that will be a fabulous picture! lol

    My date on Sunday was nice, but he was not ready to be an SD. I think he wanted the GF adventure. Oh, well. Many dates but still not finding the chemistry to match mine.

  378. Miz_Red says:

    OK LADIES & GENTS!
    Get ready for review!

    Profile approved!
    Photos approved!

    Everyone go look & read…
    Tell me what you think, etc.

    Thank you!!! =) xo

    *367023*

  379. NYC SB says:

    OC – you are my kinda girl… I never drink colored liquors… but a scotch tasting was offered and i couldnt say no :) A dirty martini or skinny girl margarita (patron on the rocks +4 limes) is my drink of choice

    My LBD pic is the 3rd one… maybe I will change it up as well lol

    Bummer about the date…. well bummer he wasnt ready to be an SD but Im sure you had an amazing time as always

    I decided to allow the young pot from the post above to fly in Friday and take me out to dinner… it is just a dinner and my SD is out of town so I figured why not :D

  380. Happy Lurker says:

    Hi Rainey,
    Yes, my preference is really way below the line of 60.
    To be honest I did not meet her here on SA.
    Lannie, I agree that keeping young has to do with genetics.
    More so it comes from you outlook on life. I lead a happy life.
    Also all the men in my family reached over 90, so I still have decades of fun to go. But I liked my different approach of searching.
    I will continue on that path looking for canine friendly ladies.
    In two weeks time I will “test drive” (so sorry about the joke) another one by taking her out in the Belgium countryside offering her the pleasure of my company and my palatable shoot lunch.
    Yes, Realistic I see your point about kissing on the first date and I agree.
    It even leads me to a new Sugar quote:
    “Happiness is like a Sugar’s kiss……. you must share it to enjoy it “

  381. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: You should have dinner with him! Why not is exactly right. Yea, try switching the pictures around. Let’s see if it works for both of us.
    I need to find a plastic surgeon SD, maybe that will save on the breast aug! lol

    Miz_Red: You are a hottie! I love the changes. ;) Be ready to have them standing in line.

  382. OCSugarbaby says:

    Happy Lurker! That is sweet. Yes, my friend kissing must be shared to enjoy it or it is just “puckering” without the “pleasure” ;)

  383. Koi says:

    Good Afternoon all SD’s and SB’s!

    It seems like everytime I sign off and sign back on, I missed out on quite some convo’s!!

  384. Koi says:

    I have a question for all.

    Have you come across many pot SD that love to brag about all the cars they have, their homes, their expensive watch and LV collections, etc? But when you bring up a simple shopping trip for SB they get all tight?

    Someone please explain this phenomenon to me.

  385. OC i will give you one of my D’s lol and still have plenty left for me!!

  386. NYC SB says:

    OC – there is a plastic surgeon SD in NJ but im thinking you wont like him… he claims to love to spend money on many SBs … at the same time :p

    Koi – talk is cheap…

  387. NYC SB says:

    kit kat – send some my way as well :D

  388. Koi says:

    Yes, NYC. Talk is cheap.

    He keeps sending me pics of all his material possessions expecting me to be impressed. I told him I would be impressed when he bought me some of the same. Ha.

  389. OCSugarbaby says:

    Kit-Kat: No kidding I will take that “D” and can I have another??? My bitty “B’s” need a Santa SD to make my Christmas Dream come true! Maybe it will be his dream too!

    Koi: An SD who doesn’t understand shopping is hard to convince. I don’t mind if they don’t like shopping with me. I can do the fashion show for him later. But one that does not understand it makes me scratch my head and go… ummmm

  390. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: NJ SD sounds very busy! lol

  391. Koi says:

    Hi OC,

    I just emailed another pot SD about the allowance and he said we can discuss it over shopping, yay! Some do have a clue =)

  392. OC sure I have 2 D’s to spare… its organic too hehehehehe it wors for me I still have a D left!!

  393. NYC SB says:

    My young pot flying in tomorrow texted me “is the waldorf a nice place to stay”

    LMAO … yes yes it is dear pot… and we shall have dinner at their steakhouse… steak and potatoes = bigger boobies and bootie :D

  394. Nyc you can get some of the junk in the trunk!! lol

  395. NYC SB says:

    kit kat – i got the junk in the trunk… everyone thinks im hispanic bc i have the jlo butt hahaha

  396. but in return I need work out buddies!! thats fair!!

  397. NYC SB says:

    Koi – just because a man can afford his “toys” does not mean he is generous as you are finding out with that pot

  398. humm well then that wont work for sure

  399. NYC SB says:

    kit kat – i unfortunately do not work out… but if i did and you were near i so would

  400. NYC ok for you Ill be your shopping buddy !! all the block walking works too!!

  401. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: So you want the “BBB’s” Bootie and Bigger Boobies? Killer combination! My last SD tried to talk me out of wanting the surgery, ah not so much. It is for ME not him! I live with the girls 24/7, my choice. I would however be open to someone who assists with the financing have a say in the size. Whoa, that could be scary if he says “J”… lol

  402. OCSugarbaby says:

    I would need a VW van as my bootie so I wouldn’t fall over!!!

  403. OCSugarbaby says:

    Oh Yes! The profile approval god or godess is hard at work. My profile was approved in 15 minutes! Now, just waiting for the picture changes to be approved.

    I am off to lunch ladies. Starving! Be back later.

  404. NYC SB says:

    OC i remeber seeing an SBs profile on another site and she said something like “My girls are DDs but we can change them to whatever you want them to be”

  405. Miz_Red says:

    THANKS *OC*!
    I hope so!

    EVERYONE CHECK OUT MY EDITTED PROFILE/PHOTOS!

    THANKS ALL MY LOVEYS!

    =) xo

    *367023*

  406. Margo says:

    SBs,
    how do you combine the sugar life with your job if you work full time?

  407. GLPlayground says:

    Why do we gays feel that we have the most unfair life above all? Not much success stories for us…

  408. Not much happily ever after for us. LOL

  409. Miz_Red says:

    Omg….what a horrible way to advertise a website.

    We aaaall know about uuuu!

    Lol!

  410. NYC SB says:

    Margo – I work full time… and then some … usually when meeting a pot I tell him that i am unavailable to meet during the day unless we are planning something special and its an one off thing… i usually meet with an SD at night after work and weekends

  411. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Lisa Marie

    you can see all the jewels on offer…. the website even has a snappy musical score! enjoy!

    later —–

  412. MauiGirl*393374* says:

    How long did it take you to go on a date with a man when you first joined?

  413. NYC SB says:

    OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG – no i didnt get new shoes!

    pot daddy is flying in tonight… we are meeting at the NYC Stock exchange… he has a floor license … which means I get to see him in action… I DIE!

  414. MauiGirl*393374* says:

    NYC SB, wow, lucky!

  415. NYC SB says:

    :D so excited!

    I met my first SD in real life… but once I joined and was able to meet with people it took me a week or so to meet the first man off the site

  416. Celly says:

    i like putting up pictures and updating them, not to be vain but im cute! lmao

    i think everyones expectations change once ur on the site b/c of the people you meet on and offline, i personally havent met a potential SD and i dont see the rush but it would be nice to get to know someone without getting a bad vibe or a negative result.

  417. OCSugarbaby says:

    Margo and MauiGirl: I have a full time career. My sugar life never crosses into it. I have my evenings and weekends free. Not to mention 4 weeks of vacation I use just for sugar escapes! I met my first SD about a week into joining. Did not date much from SA the first go around but I am making up for it now! I think it is so fun to meet all these wonderful SD’s. My take on it is that about 80% will not be a match with chemistry, so I am keeping an open mind but being super picky.

  418. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: Stock Exchange! You must be floating 3 feet above the ground in your CL’s!!!

  419. I have a pot coffee tomorrow I am kinda aggravated because its now fall, and now I am going to feel dressed the wrong way*does that make sense*? my Fall things haven come in Quite yet I had been picking things from websites and arghhhh I wanted to have a Cardicoat arghhhh!

  420. NYC SB says:

    OC – you have no idea… if he had said i will take you shoe shopping i would be less excited than going to the exchange… its NFP friday meaning it gets CRAZY on the floor… aka hot traders everywhere shouting and going nuts… YUM

  421. OC And NYC so if I like him when he ask to see me again.. Do I A say ok and meet again w/o arrangment or B tell him I would feel better if there was an arrangment in force?
    Suga I want you opion too!

  422. Nyc I so wish me and OC were your handlers hehehehe

  423. Koi says:

    OMG.

    My car was stolen sometime between 12am and 3am this morning. I’ve already filed a police report and called insurence (though it doesn’t matter, because I only have liability). Wish me luck.

  424. OCSugarbaby says:

    Kit-Kat: It is 89 degrees in Cali today! I miss fall weather!

  425. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    I am loling at all the surgery talk. None of that stuff needed for me, I’ll just need a reduction when I hit 50 or so! Although OC, if you want a tip on a good place to go for it…email me. I don’t want to be brash and just send you an unsolicted email, lol.

    and NYC SB’s pot SD is going to be wondering why she is all worked up before their date! Never knowing it will be his floor skillz that got her all hot and bothered! :D

  426. Lisa Marie says:

    LOL ok I am browsing….OC and NYC..I wanna see your profiles for talking about these pics and changes and such. I wanna see!!!! LOL

    Red…I am about to look at your profile now hun.

    Kit Kat. Girl. I missed you! Ha ha…miss my sugar fill of the blog for the what…week I was gone!?!?

  427. Lisa Marie says:

    Oh yeah caught the surgury talk too….I could us a little addition on the top. I am not small, but I think I could use a fill. LOL. As for the bootie….I am good there. LOL

  428. LM of course I did!
    OC its nice and breezy here it by no means is cold just Whining because I wanted to get a sweater coat with the out fit I have picked out!

  429. NYC SB says:

    Gemini29 *365643* says: NYC SB’s pot SD is going to be wondering why she is all worked up before their date! Never knowing it will be his floor skillz that got her all hot and bothered!

    Oh he knows… I told him… hahaha he said as long as one of those traders dont steal me from him he is happy to get me hot and bothered in any which way ;)

    Koi: Im sorry this happened to you

    Kit-Kat: See how the first date goes… then we can discuss next steps… you may not even like him

  430. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Ah, Koi, that’s horrid! Good luck dealing with it!!

  431. Koi says:

    Thank you, Gemini!

    I just stepped outside to leave for work, and it was gone!

    I guess, now I do have a “need” for a SD.

  432. NYC your right I get all wworked up.. gosh if I dont like him I am going to be aggravated I have been talking to him for I think a month now!

  433. KOI they stole a parked car? wow they musta had nothing Else better to do, was it a Parts valuable car?

  434. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Hey all I need a bit of advice. a pot SD and I have reset up our date. I’m renting a car to get down there and he’s paying. He asked how much he should send. How much wiggle room should I leave in the figure? I want to leave a bit, in case of…I don’t know…the car being late, or something… but I don’t want to overpad the figure. How much have previous pot SDs sent for transportation costs in the past?

  435. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – how much will the rental cost? then add $100 to it for incidentals

  436. Gemi I have a site for rentals its pretty reasonable !
    just off top of my head 100 deposit 125 gas 65dollars a day rental 15 dollars a day car insurance?

  437. Of course I dont know Where you are going but I figure it may need preimum gas/tolls/food. I have that site heres my
    E-mail Keya 703 at yahhhhhhh

  438. Koi, I’m so sorry to hear about your misfortune, that is awful, I hope it is found and returned to in working order. Sucks you only have liability, now you really need a good SD!

  439. OCSugarbaby says:

    Kit-Kat: As for the second date? I like that you are thinking ahead. However stay in the moment. Focus on the first date and take it from there. If you have your head already thinking about the next date it may be hard to enjoy this one. The arrangement will flow with each of you moving forward together. It may be touched upon during the first date. Just see what the conversation brings. I never like to talk about it on the first date.

  440. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Ooh good point about the deposit…

    Does the car rental tend to involve gas and everything else? And then 100 on top of that for incidentals? Sorry if I’m overanalyzing I just…want to not screw myself over and not give an overinflated number either.

    Kit-Kat – I use Enterprise…they pick you up! lol but thanks :)

  441. Island Beauty says:

    Good evening all…… I see i missed all the surgery talk… I would just like a breast lift…lol

    Koi sorry for you unfortunate experience.

  442. Lisa Marie says:

    Oh Koi…that horrible! I am so sorry!

  443. Koi says:

    Hi everyone.

    I know they are going to tear my car apart.

    It’s a 1998 Acura Integra. Most stolen car for parts. Pearl white, body kit, gorgeous rims. I wanna cry.

  444. At enterprise they have a bring it the way you got it type of deal!
    so if nottoo much gas dont leave too much gas, there is a prieum where you can pay like 4 a gal and they dont care what gas level you have and Enterprise may have up their deposits from 100 they did here,
    I would go on the Internet and reserve a car it more then likely will be cheaper !
    thats how I do it, I like rentals… it it breaks down ya call them HEY come get your stuff!!

  445. OCSugarbaby says:

    Koi: What is the world coming to! Sorry sugar!

    Lisa: I actually found a website that girls go on and sugar daddy’s contribute to their Breast surgery! This can’t be legit! I would show you my profile, but my pictures still are not approved. I moved them around.

    How funny is it when the SAME pot emails you forgetting you already said “No thank you”…

  446. Koi says:

    Thanks everyone for your symphathy.

  447. Lisa Marie says:

    lol OC….well when they are approved you will have to let me see

  448. Lisa Marie says:

    ok sugars…I am off for now…gotta head home! Talk to you all later!!!

  449. OCSugarbaby says:

    Bye Lisa! ;)

  450. Gemi its coming!! with a joke !!

  451. Koi I know my brothers car had a dammm gas shut off Stwich and yoou know them dummies got a roll back ad stole his car! it was a honda he did so much to that car.. they found it It had no Axsels no interior no motor forget about the Rims lol! I am glad he didnt lem me do his Audio. because that would have been another 2k

  452. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – why dont you call enterprise and have them work up a quote for you… which includes everything :D

  453. NYC SB says:

    OC an SD site for boobie jobs???? umm im intriqued… although im still on the fence about getting one

  454. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    lol good idea NYC SB … let them do all the hard work! :)

  455. Koi says:

    Hi Kit Kat~

    I agree with OC. Go on the first date and enjoy yourself. I think it’s good to wait until the end of the date and see where you two fall in terms of chemistry.

    After the date, once he’s shown that he wants to continue seeing you, I thin is a good time to bring it up. Maybe in an email before the second date, or during the second.

    What do you think, ladies?

  456. Koi says:

    AWw Kit Kat! You just reminded me of my Polk stereo system! Gone Gone GONE! ugh.

  457. All: in my family nobody calls anybody we try to have a function and Nobody knows What is going on nobody know who is bring What… untill I moved back up here! I am the family operator!! lol I guess I just gravitate to this! seemes I am the blog operator too!! lol
    its all good! love the job!! thankyou

  458. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: Yep! A website just for raising $ for a boob job. Too funny, I read thru it and think it may have merit! lol But not the way I want to go about it. lol

    Koi: Or Kit may not like him! I have spoken to someone for several weeks, met and zero chemistry. Granted some men you may have to set up a second meeting for dinner to get to know them better if you are still unsure. I personally like the second date scenario. Taking your time and being sure, is the way to a stronger connection with each other.

  459. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – how did you get your picture up???

  460. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    NYC SB – gravatar dot com It is some sort of universal icon hosting service…I was so jealous of everyone else’s that I finally right clicked on the picture and was like hmmm what is this gravatar thing about…

  461. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: I just sent you the gravatar link via email

  462. Koi says:

    OC and all

    Do you wait for him to bring it up, or do you??

    Somebody posted before, to bring it up when he starts getting frisky.

  463. NYC SB says:

    OC – thanks!

    Koi – rule of thumb is he should bring it up… if it happens on date one then awesome… if he asks to see me on a second date and i like him i will meet him again… hope he brings it up then… if he doesnt then i follow up with an email… of course all of this changes if he starts asking for intimacy… then i bring up the allowance… i dont want to be in a situation where im intimate with him and nothing has been agreed upon… then it becomes harder to ask for it … but thats just me… there are no hard and fast rules but this is how i have done it in the past.

  464. Koi says:

    That sounds good, thanks, NYC.

    I’m tempted to ask for a car right now! =/

  465. NYC SB says:

    Yeah I hear you – I hope you live in an area where public transit is convenient so you can get to and from where you need to go…

  466. Koi says:

    NYC~ I don’t. I live on the outskirts of the city… but I can get my sissy to drive me to work for now. So there’s a silver lining.

  467. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB and I are very similar in that theory of bringing it up. Moving forward together is the only way!

  468. NYC SB says:

    OMG OC – that was going to be MY avatar!!!!!!! too funny

  469. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: You can have it sugar. An SD send me that pic, I knew you would like it! Take it girl I have a bunch more. xxoo

  470. Koi says:

    How do we give ourselves an avatar?

  471. NYC SB says:

    OC – great minds… hahaha :D

  472. For the avatars go to gravatar.com

  473. Koi says:

    How about to add it to your blog name here?

  474. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Koi – it “attaches” to whatever email address you are using for the blog, if that helps

  475. You have to go to the site and i’t asked for your email you want to have the avatar for and the rest is listed…

  476. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: My passion is Gucci Purses anyway!

  477. Koi says:

    Thanks Gemini and Island Beauty!

  478. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    lol can’t wait to see everyone’s new avatars! NYC SB – I can trade on the CLs if you like, I feel like they are more “yours” anyway.

  479. you’re very welcome

  480. OCSugarbaby says:

    Gemi: I told her to use the CL-Paris ones! They are on my “Santa Wish List”

  481. hey everyone i just started a business and i would like you all to take a look, is it against the rules to post my site in this forum?

  482. OCSugarbaby says:

    Island Beauty: I believe the webite url will not post.

  483. OCSugarbaby says:

    I found a better image! The caption of the Hershey Kiss says “the only kiss with no strings attached…ok maybe one”

  484. OCSugarbaby says:

    Island Beauty: Not sure if SA will leave that up or not. But I will check it out!

  485. lisa says:

    It is a violation to use the site and blog for commercial interests

  486. Koi says:

    OC, that’s a pretty funny quote!

  487. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hi Lisa! Chill…

  488. lisa says:

    Rules are rules

  489. ROTFLMAO lol whyyyyy !!!!! Gina YO!! we gonna need the Garlic in here!!

  490. OCSugarbaby says:

    Koi: I know! Too bad the writing is so tiny.

  491. oh I got one too! not what I wanted but o-well

  492. OCSugarbaby says:

    Kit-Kat: What is it? G?

  493. NY I just left the Site they got some killer bags, I was looking for a python or Croc one.. of course I didnt see any purple ones so that will do

  494. photogirl says:

    Good evening everyone!

    NYC – Excited for you! Hope it goes great!!!

    OC – I am so curious about that website. I’ve thought about it, but don’t know if I could ever go through with it. Can you email me the link? I wouldn’t want to go about it that way either…just curiousity :)

    I am enjoying a nice bottle of icewine :)

    I’m upset… I came home with a new pair of shoes and while I stepped outside to talk with a neighbor, my lab got a hold of one…guess he was mad at me! He has not done that since he was a pup. Luckily they were very inexpensive.

  495. photogirl says:

    Same to you Kat on your coffee date!

  496. I need to put something else up there!! I might Change tomorrow!

  497. OCSugarbaby says:

    Photogirl: I will see if I can dig it up again. I had to clear my cache to get my blog photos up.
    My Lab use to open my closet and eat tons of my shoes! Good thing I kept my Gucci Purses on the TOP shelf!

  498. yeah I got to Wear my hair as it seems , so I have to do the Wash and blow dry stuff!. yayyyy fun!

  499. Island girl can you e-mail me Keya703 at yahhhhh

  500. Well ther’s no way to delete it as far as i see….. @ lisa

    btw love the new avatars…

  501. Koi says:

    Ok! Time for a new topic!!

  502. Koi says:

    Shopping: When your SD takes you shopping. Do you let him lead? Or do you take the lead in picking things out and asking to go into certain stores etc? What do you do when SD suggests going into Victoria’s Secret on early dates before arrangement?

  503. Koi it wont matter.. just you wait you will see the Sillyness has entered!!

  504. Koi says:

    Sillyness?

  505. Koi says:

    Has anyone on here been in the position of accepting a prenuptial agreement?

  506. VS dont fit me!! gotta go to the big girls store!! lol and I would lead straight to the Cardigans and sweaters! and if he wants some summthing special I would hope hes Bright enough tohave the lady put it in the Bag so as I would not even know it!! heyyyyy!

  507. OCSugarbaby says:

    Shopping my favorite Topic! I like to shop solo, but if my SD was with me I would have something in mind. I am a planner! Perhaps I have some things in mind for him so I will lead him to stores where we would find that item. I am so use to shopping with men who have the attention span of about 1 hour, so I keep focused and stick to the plan! As for if he wants to go to Vicki’s a bit too soon? I actually prefer some other places, but pre-arrangement shopping is nice. But for intimate items without being intimate? That has a lot to do with the two people involved and if they have that comfort level yet. I would model for him in the dressing room! lol

  508. Koi says:

    OC~ Yes, modeling in dressing room is fun! But only if you are already at that stage!

    I had one man want to go into Vicky’s and I was like, “Not yet.”

    I’ll take you up on the game plan advice. And have some things in mind… men do tend to get tired of shopping faster.

    The main concern I have is not wanting to come across as too greedy.

  509. Koi/OC notice I said I am going for the Cardi’s if he wants some undies that fine but no viewing till both parties have reached an agreement!!

  510. Koi says:

    Lol, yes, Kit Kat, I noticed! Good girl!

  511. Koi well assesories tend to stay low on the Scale of bang for your buck, nice fashion jewerly.. heck K-mart has stuff on sale… dont know how the Quality is but!!

  512. OCSugarbaby says:

    Koi: I am not one who needs things. But if the pot SD wants to take me to get that Gucci Bag that he knows I have been eyeing up, chances are he will tell me ahead of time. Maybe we are looking for an outfit for a special event and under garments to go along with it. Like I mentioned I usually have a purpose, the SD would most likely already know my needs. They tend to ask. With the right person it will not be a guessing game of how much. Talk with them! They don’t bite.

  513. Koi says:

    What! Well, we don’t have to go bargain shopping either! I’m thinking $500-$1000 is a good starter trip before an arrangement. What do yall think?

  514. Koi says:

    OC~ I want to talk to them, but I don’t want to flat out ask, “How much are we spending today?” ha

  515. Koi says:

    In the past, I kinda just kept going until they said, “Let’s go have some dinner.” And took that as my cue, lol.

  516. OCSugarbaby says:

    Miss Koi: The amount depends on the SD. I have never had to flat out ask. How about saying something like “Thank you for taking me shopping, I can’t tell you how amazing it feels to have someone as sweet as you be so generous! But, shopping for extravagances’ is not my every day routine. What did you have in mind for our shopping trip?”

  517. gotta fina a store with a bench and call the girls to pull stuff aside must be quick guys have no paticene. unless we talking bust buy yeah i need 20 min

    i hear theres such a Daddy that buys Washers!! lol *i am messing with you*

  518. Koi says:

    That’s a good idea. I’ll ask what they have in mind ahead of time for the next excursion!

  519. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Yup I’m out too, actually going out for once! :)

    Ciao OC! (heeheeheeeeee)

    Cya everyone!

  520. OCSugarbaby says:

    Ladies, I am going to grab dinner…

  521. NeOhio SB says:

    Koi: I had a great SD that would actually send me e gift cards from Nancy Meyer lingerie in Seattle..(great lingerie shopping) for exquisite tastes from La perla to gilson to andre sardas…..at least a 2500k gift card per month…plus he would send things directly to my house that he picked out that he wanted to enjoy on and off of me. Thats the way to go.
    BUT there are plenty of La Perla boutiques around town in diff. areas that you could suggest.

  522. Flo Rida says:

    Miz-Red – I like the profile – the one thing I question is the ‘we start off as friends’ but I can see how you might want that to deter the ahem ‘undesirables’ looking for a fast hook up. My only comment is adding ‘if we connect it won’t take long’ – at the end of day what you are comfortable with. Great job.

    Koi – funny story about the guy in Vicky C’s it would have been funnier if you had gone through with it though.

    Gem29 – some car rental places give you hell if you are below 25 – also liability insurance is low but comprehensive is much higher (and if you don’t utilize your own car insurance (which will cover a rental) this get’s expensive). Some rental agencies limit your mileage. Also navigation is on top & finally if you pick it up at an airport they add a concession charge.

    Must dash – night everyone – big hugs.

  523. Koi says:

    NeOhio

    Wow!$2,500 for one store, that’s awesome!

  524. NeOhio SB says:

    Koi: Absolutley…i was like a little girl in a candy store, however, if you look at the prices of those things, 2500 does not go far..not like having 2500 in VS…….BUT the quality far supercedes VS…….So, getting the 2500 per month, plus he would send me things…was unbelieveable…sure added to my collection of fun lingerie.

  525. Koi says:

    NeOhio:

    Well, good for you! Always nice to hear success stories. =)

  526. Koi says:

    Oh, and Goodnight Flo!!

  527. James says:

    I prefer to see a business plan! at least an exit strategy

    nice gifts at holidays, but transfer only Universal Gift Certificates

    most sensible in the long run

  528. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi Koi and NE Ohio – my ears perked up at the mention of La Perla! That is my favourite! SUCH great lingerie. lucky you! :)

  529. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi James – I don’t believe we have “met”. Welcome.

  530. James says:

    hi there VC, the group helped me out a few nights ago so I want to give back

  531. Koi says:

    Hi Villa and James! Welcome back!

  532. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    James – that’s cool. I think I recall reading your posts. I’ll have to go back and re-read.

    Hi Koi! How are things?

  533. James says:

    so what’s the decent way to end a long-standing arrangement? this is for cause, and will not be a particular surprise

    mostly I would like to preserve my self-respect and our mutual dignity

  534. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Hello everyone. Still catching up on the blog. Just got home from the most hellish Calc test ever written. I wanted to try out my new avatar.

  535. James you want the Nice version the short version or the like it is version??

  536. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Uh Oh…I can hear Kit Kat sharpening her claws…

  537. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    James – She knows she messed things up. Just tell her flat out that you consider her behavior unforgivable and you don’t want to pursue the relationship anymore. Yes it takes work to find a new SB, but at least you will get a fresh start with someone who will have some respect for you. This chick obviously didn’t value your friendship or she would not have put it at risk like that.

  538. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    hi Kit Kat and AtlNicole –

    ohhhh James… now I remember.

    In my opinion, that is an inexcusable breach of courtesy, respect, dignity, and any other feelings or experiences which the two of you shared.

    I would keep it short and simple – and say something along the lines of, “i am ending our arrangement based upon the extreme disrespect and disregard for common decency that is inherent in the intimate interacations between two persons, and which you violated. Thank you for the experiences we had, and the time we shared together. I wish you the best in all your future endeavors.”

  539. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Hello Sugars!
    VC~ girl how are you?

    James~ just be honest with her, tell her that you can no longer see her due to the fact that you don’t trust her, she disrespected you in a way.
    I’m sure others will comment here as well, but be honest! it’s the best way in my opinion

  540. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hey BG!

    I’m doing well. How is your ankle???

  541. Atl.. I gave a choice..
    James I would use Atl’s Version and tell her that you are not intrested in Any one Who has such a lack of common Courtesy and…
    mean version.. send her a Get well card Sorry sister your gravy boat Just left!! lol
    or just Ignore/ set you phone to go directly to Voicemail when she calls!

  542. See ATL Villa said what I said!! see lol
    anyway that made me mad all over again that silly lady!! oh lemme go get a soda bye yall!!

  543. oh here’s my e-mail you all please e-mail me keya703 at Yahhhh

  544. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Yay I got a webcam. Now I can update my pics whenever I want. I am playing around with it right now. I have never had one before.

  545. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Hey VC~ ankle is painful…

  546. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Slow day in the sugar world. It is for me anyway. I am thinking of redoing my profile. Thus- playing with the webcam. Let me know if you see anything I could change in my wording.

  547. James says:

    thanks guys

    I do want to be honest, and the honest truth is that I don’t want to be with her anymore, no matter how forgiving I might want to be

    the thought actually makes me shudder

    that might be hard for her to take, but maybe it’s the best thing I can do to help her understand how deeply she messed it up

    I’d rather not put it in terms of rules and take the role of rule-enforcer, this is more elemental, it goes to the reason you’re together in the first place

    she’s coming back from a long trip in ten days and is sending anxious emails

    I don’t want to do it by email, not only was this a long and (seemingly) successful arrangement, but it’s important to me to be able to face her as I say it

    and show her that I am able to eat my lunch as I do

  548. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Sorry BG – hope it gets better soon.

    AtlNicole – you mention wanting to find a “decent” guy…. why settle for just “decent”!?! I would replace that adjective with “great” or “amazing” or “fantastic”…. i.e. I would like to find an amazing man with whom I have chemistry and genuine attraction…

  549. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    James – trust, courtesy, respect, etc ARE “elemental”, fundamental tenets of any successful relationship, from acquaintance to spouse, without which you lack the foundation on which to build a successful partnership. She betrayed those fundamental tenets. It’s not about enforcing any “rules”… the anxious emails are indicative of someone who knows she “fukked up”, so if you want to keep it at its’ simplest level, when you see her in person, merely say, “It’s over.”

  550. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Besides James – We are all more than willing to help you find a GOOD SB. That is what we are here for.

  551. texaSD says:

    I just confused what happened

  552. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    James~ i agree with VC

    VC~ yeah I hope so too, oh on the other hand , the shoes!! inspired lots of my friends to do the same lol

  553. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Texas – James was on here a few days ago telling us all about his SB drama. He finally decided to let her go, which we were all trying to convince him todo.

  554. texaSD says:

    i was gathering he was giving her the axe, but as to why, i couldn’t understand that.

  555. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    HA! Yessssss…. the shoes….. :D

  556. OCSugarbaby says:

    The days results of changing my profile are in!

    New shorter version of old profile (very short actually). Just a few lines!
    Down graded my education to just a BS
    Put a body photo as my main picture
    Views Today: 10x’s more than any other day
    Emails: 5
    Added as a Favorite: 15

    End result: Very happy SB Keeping it FRESH seems to be working!
    *Changed my pictures again so once again I wait…

  557. James says:

    thanks Villa

    the less evolved part of my masculine brain wants to have her lost earring, books and poems hand delivered by my firm to her center in an envelope marked personal, so the office manager has to send her an email in Australia asking her if she wants to have it opened

  558. texaSD says:

    394010 tell me if anyone knows who that is in the picture?

  559. OCSugarbaby says:

    Tex: I think you may not want to post profile numbers of SB’s that are not posting it themselves. Maybe the discresion thing…

  560. ohh villa such lauange.. lol
    James villa hit the nail on the head James I walked in on my Exhusband I found some sandals… at the door way andI just shook my head because he was so brazen, I open the door and there they are sleep!! lol I wasnt mad I kicked into Mischife mode!! since her clothes wer all on the floor I picked them up and threw them out side along with his. for what ever reason the police had been called and I told them I just wanted my things and at that time they made him leave the residnce. I took my gun my clothes and a few other things! I got in HIS car and drove off!! *quite funny watching his mistress walking down the road in a Sheet lol* She had no respect for me and MY Domain so no I didnt care about humility!
    long story short he called and called sorry sorry sorry and what can I do I told him I didnt feel good driving HIS car around so if he would Exchange cars I would feel better!
    when I met him he had flowers and Every damm thing He could say with him.. I told hi I would think about it and said he was sweet for buying the flowers*whatever* I left and its been 13 years and I am still thinking!! hah haha ha
    moral She know She burned her sugar ass! dont you Even waste a butterfly, A nerve, on her !

  561. texaSD says:

    its a fake profile, the picture is of Adrianna Lima, Victoria Sec. model

  562. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    James – wanting to get revenge is the instinctual thing to do… but it might increase the “drama”… whereas a simple “It’s over” will convey the message and to be discarded with finality, and without remorse or regret, or care… that will be a greater revenge than returning all her poems to the office…

  563. OCSugarbaby says:

    Tex: You think so? But does Adrianna pose nude?

  564. texaSD says:

    OC, ya i think so, i know Lima when i see her, and ya she has posed Nude before

  565. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Tex:: I’m not familiar with any VS models, so I’ll take your word for it.

    OC: interesting, removing the “graduate degree” from your profile… hmmmm…. hmmmmm….

    Kit Kat : WOW.

  566. ahh thats how I got so wise!! lol

  567. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Tex – I know Adriana anywhere. She is my favorite VS model. Not a very original profile pic though. Might work for some people.

  568. OCSugarbaby says:

    Villa: yea I am Blonding it up a bit! lol Fits me to a T. Most days anyway!

  569. texaSD says:

    there is a lot of fake profile’s for SB here, i find at least 20 everytime i look

  570. OCSugarbaby says:

    Tex: Fake SD’s too. I actually got an email from one who was a reporter. At least he finally told me that he was. So, NOT interested!

  571. texaSD says:

    Well to be honest, I read a lot of profiles and honestly i wonder what some of these girls are doing here,

  572. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    My profile is kinda long compared to the ones that I have browsed through. I wonder how many people actually sit and read the whole thing.

    Maybe I will cut out some of the extras. Something has to get a man’s attention though.

  573. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Interesting… sometimes I wonder if the reason people don’t reply to the messages I send is because their profiles are FAKE! Huh!

    again, OC…. interesting…. I know a lot of men are intimidated by “smart” women… I suppose when they see we have “graduate degrees” that is enough to deter them from contacting us…. although, how do they know the degree is not in some obscure mindless discipline????

  574. OCSugarbaby says:

    Nicki: I am telling you it is all visual! I put my bitty size B’s as my first picture. Hit, Hit, Hit… Go figure.

  575. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ that is interesting, I never thought of that… fake profiles for SDs…

    I think for me it’s my location…

  576. texaSD says:

    I don’t think Men are afraid of smart women, what would make you say that?

  577. texaSD says:

    Sweety hmm why would you think that? where is your location? if you dont mind..

  578. OCSugarbaby says:

    Villa: My being an SB has nothing to do with my education as far as I am concerned. I don’t think they will even care. Some may be looking for college degree, but who knows! I am proud of my blood sweat and tears to complete my education, however my $llowance has nothing to do with my advanced degree. It is not like a job or an employer. Like I said, this is only a test.

  579. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I said “intimidated”… not “afraid”… sure they are… insecure men feel threatened by women who are intelligent, and can think, analyse and come to their own conclusions. Men who are secure in themselves, and more highly evolved, want a woman who can carry on a conversation, contribute thoughts and ideas, challenge his views, make him look at the world differently, etc. That has been my experience at least.

  580. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    TexasSD~ I’m in Montreal Canada!

  581. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    OC – I know, believe me! I have two graduate degrees. I don’t mean to state, either explicitly or by implication, that there is or is not a direct correlation between the level of education one has, and whether or not she is an SB, commands a certain allowance, etc.

    I merely wonder how many men look at the education level and dispatch with profiles based on what it says….

  582. texaSD says:

    Make him look at the world differently…. I don’t know about that, I don’t want anyone to make me do anything lol… I again would hugely disagree with being intimidated… every guy wants a woman to think for themselves and come to their own conclusions, especially here, why else would they be here then? Sex? escorts are lower price then SB’s… Companionship? thats what Upperclass escorts are for, the GFE’s type and such. But I guess if thats your exp, i can’t do anything about that. but maybe if you look at it from a different angle you might be able to come up with a few other reasons

  583. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    OC~ i sent you something!

  584. OCSugarbaby says:

    Tex: I read an SD’s profile last week that stated he wanted:
    18 year olds or possibly 19 (exact words)
    Highly Educated
    Well Traveled
    Not taller than 5’6 (he was 5’6)
    Model Quality Looks Only

    I scratched my head and thought he may be spitting in the wind but god bless him for knowing exactly what he wants.

  585. texaSD says:

    I love Montreal :), I was going to have a reason to be there, but the Election doesn’t look like it will happen, so no work for me :(

  586. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Tex~ the Elections? we have some coming up! well if you come up this way let me know i’ll show you around! :D

  587. texaSD says:

    lol ya wow, But then again, i wonder if thats a fake profile… What is the age of the SD?

  588. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    HA! I knew, as i was writing “make” instead of “cause” it would be interpreted negatively.

    I disagree, Tex. I have had men themselves tell me about other men, who want a woman who is dumb as a rock, will do whatever he tells her to do, that he can just f**k and then not have to talk to…. to each his own…. it all depends on what someone wants in a companion…

  589. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~Anytime you are welcome!! it would be great sister!

  590. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    BG – I will have to come visit you sometime… I’ve heard montreal is a fantastic city!

  591. texaSD says:

    VC-Hmm, i don’t know if I would use the word cause either, maybe introduce him to a side that he might not be aware of…

  592. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ oh weird my comment to answer yours in before you…. spooky!
    and i also have a guess room, if you not allergic to dogs and cats you can come here!!!

  593. texaSD says:

    Sweety- If you are serious about that, I will definitely let you know lol

  594. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Thanks, BG! I am rather allergic to dogs and cats though… :(

    but ya never know!

  595. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Texas~ yeah i’ll show you around no problem, it is beautiful here, ok right now it’s cold but tones of stuff to do here!!!

  596. OCSugarbaby says:

    Villa: I am telling ya, I like the new version of OC. She is not dumb, but she is more focused on what is important to have a successful sugar connection.

    Tex: I had to go look but that SD was 49.

  597. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Where in Texas are you, TexaSD?

  598. texaSD says:

    The Capital.

  599. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    OC – I highly doubt anyone, no matter what your profile has listed, would ever consider you “dumb”. :)

  600. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    OC~ I know you will have success soon….

    VC~ oh no, you can pitch a tent in the back yard, but you’ll have to wait for summer…. :D

  601. texaSD says:

    OC-what is the profile number, now i am curious lol

  602. Texas not Saying YOU but I wonder What men are doing here, looking for a 3rd girl in my threesome, the less that 500$ guys are funny.
    So many men looking for pamela anderson. it is Depressing, My first thought is Pam dosent want them..they cant get Pam,
    Secondly we are Sugar Dating WHY NOT pick and Choose often.. I mean Me I do want a Long term arrangment and a pesudo boyfriend yes sorta
    but I am not just gonna enter in to With anybody but on the same token I am not Exlcuding anybody. well jerks there out!!

  603. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I’ve heard Austin is a great town, never been there, however….

    BG – perhaps the tent has a fireplace and a shelf of bordeaux???

  604. texaSD says:

    Kit-Kat, first thing is first, what are men doing here? I would say 85% Sex, Of those 85% they also want something else on top of sex, that is different with each guy, i don’t know about the Less than 500 dollar guys, i guess i don’t know exactly what guys write to you SB’s. Sugar daddy is a slang term for a rich man who offers money or gifts to a less rich younger person, usually female, in return for companionship or sexual favours thats what Wikipedia states

  605. texaSD says:

    VC- I think its a pretty good town, Although I also many Cities and towns all have their own moments, I would Compare Austin with Atlanta, just smaller… with more hispanic people lol

  606. OCSugarbaby says:

    Sweety! I looked through the pictures you sent. I send some back! You are so Beautiful.

    Tex: lol My profile is in limbo again I messed with the pictures again.

  607. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    VC~ lol that would be amazing!!! i’d join ya lol…

  608. texaSD says:

    OC, i don’t think I have ever seen your profile… I think I have only see ATL’s, which is funny because i was just looking at profiles, and I saw hers recently login in lol

  609. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    OC~ thank you!!! *blushing* now I can make a new profile!!!

  610. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Never been to Austin, but Atlanta has a pretty huge hispanic population these days. They just prefer to live in the suburbs, like me. Inner city ATL is way to crowded to deal with every day.

    I am always so curious about these citys you girls (and gentlemen) live in. It makes me want to travel more. ATL is the only real city I have lived in for any length of time.

  611. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    yeah, BG is *hot* :D

  612. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    nite nite OC – sweet dreams!

  613. OCSugarbaby says:

    Nite Everyone! This was a fun night, good to have a man in the house. ;)

  614. texaSD says:

    Sweety- Now you have me searching Montreal….

    OC, its like 9pm there right? but goodnight

  615. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    lol, my profile is from march i think … and i’m deleting so… making a new one
    what is your profile texas?

    OC~ nite girl, thank you!

  616. texaSD says:

    Sweety- I created it, nothing there, I think except I am looking curious, If i want to meet a girl I will let her know, however i will always accept emails and see what they say. but other than that.. no pic, and not much other info..

  617. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    texas your blocked your profile?

  618. texaSD says:

    Pending Approval

  619. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    oh, ok, did you find me?
    lol

  620. texaSD says:

    Sweety, I have no Idea lol

  621. texaSD says:

    Sweety, looking for you has not been a total loss though, Montreal is an impressive candy shop

  622. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Really, I have no clue I have never found SBs from montreal…. they are hot, no wonder i don’t get nothing
    :(

  623. Texas yes I know what it means but .. maybe “I” have my idea off. Me personally I contact anybody long as they arent Abnoxious and Crude.

    I do not know what the problem is with 98 percent of these guys on here I contacted many and I received back about 5 thats fine because the % that I got back were from the Real SD with som cohonnes,
    and of those 5 I wasnt Romantically contacting 3
    so Easy to say I am nearing and arrangement with a current pot sb!
    Eazy peazy!
    Well I got a date tomorrow… or again he will dissapear lol Whatever he does I think he gets jitters and what for Coffee.
    Let me go find my hair… or maybe I will wear my natural hair!
    Goodnight ladies and Gents!!

  624. texaSD says:

    30XXXX I like this one,34XXXX that is nice too

  625. texaSD says:

    Kit-Kat- I think you sound like your pretty much “down” for anything, I don’t know what kind of people you are getting.. but i think your attitude is great, so I have my fingers crossed for you. But ya goodnight there, good luck, and if not, well you can always tell us how it didn’t go lol

  626. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Texas i’m older though, they are pretty!

  627. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    KK – You are so lucky. I wish i could get away with artificial hair. I would settle for a good weave, but the charge crazy prices for us poor white girls. I asked at a salon once and they said that since my hair is so thick it would probably run me over a grand for extentions. Oh but I hate waiting for it to grow out. Grrr.

  628. texaSD says:

    lol My age range is all over the map, I think most SD’s are too, so I wouldn’t get fixed on age, I think the oldest one i have considered was maybe 45, which is about 20 years older than me lol. But i was impressed, good genes… err great genes

  629. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    KK~ at least you have a pot SD date!!! you go girl,,,, I’m sure it will be fine!

  630. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    texaSD~ you are in your 20s? hummm….

  631. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    texaSD~ now I’m curious!!! hummm and i can’t even see you in your profile not fair!

  632. texaSD says:

    Late Twenty’s, but ya…

  633. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    I was chatting for the first time with a guy from another site. It is 1 AM here and he was trying to get me to meet him for a drink. I am all cozy in my PJs and not even considering it. I have a feeling that this will be the last I here from this wannabe SD.

  634. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Ooooh. Late 20s? Do you have a southern drawl? Now you have my attention Tex;)

    J/K No offense, but I prefer my SDs a couple decades older.

  635. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    texaSD~ not funny…. did you find me? do you need a hint? lol

  636. texaSD says:

    Sweety- Lol…

    Atl- Probably

  637. texaSD says:

    Ahh, no southern accent, I am actually from Las Vegas, I have just lived here since high school, i went to California for College, and I spent about 1 year in the Philippines

  638. Atl all you have to do is find you a gal at the busstop.. the one With the baddest hair… ask her who did HER hair!! and I garuntee 60 that thing will be layed out like jess simpson!
    and my hair is past my shoulders I just dont like messing with it

  639. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    AtlNicole~ lol,

  640. texaSD says:

    Sweety- ya probably…

  641. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    I lost a drunken bet with my boss about a year ago and had to cut off all my hair. It ended up in a pixie style about an inch long. It was really cute on me, but growing it back out has been a very slow process.

  642. texaSD says:

    I like your hair ATL

  643. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Texas a hint???? it starts with 306, first photo in a black dress, second leather top, third smiling!

  644. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Thank you Tex. Hopefully my new pics will be approved soon so people can check out the new style. I just got it done again yesterday.

    I just got a PS3 and am trying to figure out how the heck to work it. I am not technologically savvy. I will figure it out somehow. I just got Confessions of a Shopaholic on Blue Ray, because the only thing sexier than Hugh Dancy is Hugh Dancy in HD.

  645. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    I agree AltNic is a real hottie!

  646. texaSD says:

    lol i been looking for the last 5 mins….

  647. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Lol sorry texas lol i couldn’t remember the number, lol

  648. Texas not Really down for anything . I am not intrested in a clingy man or a overtly Freaky one either! but a nice man that control his second mind is fine! but if you meant any nationality of man naw that dosent matter I think Everybody should check out whats out there before they settle down so they arent Wondering what they missed!, and Besides Sugardaddys arent marrying Sugar babies So Really whats the use of type casting??
    heres a thought hey tom, I seen you yesterday with some black gal at the le fleru frilly leubotant hotel yesterday, oh ahh sure ted, that was my assistant oh yeah assistant to what.. ahh cultural Explorations!!.. oh your travel agent!! yes ted my travel Agent!!
    hahah see how easy noone would ever know!! hahaha

    I really honestly see men who pick the same lady over and over again…
    gee she looks kinda like your Wife…. busted!!!!

    maybe its me but to outwardly look at me and Any man I may be around, its anybodys guess! EOE lol and taking applications!!

  649. texaSD says:

    Lol, well I don’t mean you want a clingy guy or a freak, but I think your getting the picture.

    Sweety- your as tall as I am lol, Nice smile

  650. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Oooh I get to peek at Sweety’s profile :)

    I love your pics! You have such a pretty smile. If anything, the smile should be your first pic.

  651. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    AltNic~ I’m canceling that one!! dont know which pics to put up though…. i’m confused… lol apparently the girls here are hot…. lol… so I need to spice it up you know!

  652. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Texas I’m over 6 feet in heels!!! lol thank you!

  653. well its just something for guys to think about!
    ok goodnight again!! for real now!

  654. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    There are sexy girls everywhere. Although there are few girls in Atl up to my exacting standards, there are enough for me to feel the heat.

    I am begining to think that dirty doc I saw has messed up my mojo. I need to get working on some good karma or something. Just paid bills, so I am broke til next week :(

  655. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    AltNic~ You are a hottie girl, you shouldn’t have any problems! and your young!

  656. texaSD says:

    ATL- there are some pretty nice women in Atl, i am in awe sometimes, Every time i visit my cousin, I have a great day sight seeing…

  657. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    I am tall too Sweety. It’s hard to work with a SD who thinks he wants a petite girl. Those tiny girls don’t have legs like ours! Puh-leeze.

    Not trying to offend the tiny girls of the world. You have your own appeal.

  658. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    AltNic~ oh i missed that about you!!!! lol you are taller than me!

    Texas ~ did we loose you?

  659. texaSD says:

    Goodnight Kit kat

    Nope i am still here.

  660. texaSD says:

    Sweety- I would use the middle picture as your first pic

  661. texaSD says:

    Atl; did you have at some point in time different pics up? or more pics? I could have sworn you had more than 1

  662. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Texas~Leather always gets the men!!! lol, yeah i’m gonna change it though…. i think i have some other photos OC was helping me pick out…. but…. it’s so hard!

  663. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    I was also told to show the “girls” more lol

  664. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    I had more pics up. I am replacing them with new ones that are still pending approval. I changed my hair and didn’t think it was fair to leave the older style up. I prefer to save showing of the girls (what little i have) for an in person meeting. Right now I am wishing I lived out west where it is more acceptable to get some enhancements done. Around here girls with fake boobs are assumed to be strippers or worse. I am amazed that it is still frowned upon, but that is the deep south for you.

  665. Taz says:

    Hello Everyone!

    I have been lurking around here for the last week or so…been a member on the site for about a month now…met a few pot sd’s so far..one I may be considering :)

    Where did all the sd’s on the blog go? I see a couple but I enjoy hearing BOTH sides of the spectrum!!

    Curious…realistically what would you say the average span for a long term arrangement is?

  666. SugaCaneBby says:

    I FINALLY caught up with the blog! Woot!

    …and it’s time for me to go to bed. X____X Exhausted.

  667. RainyStreet says:

    wow i am so sleepy tonight! another day lost to waiting for a pot SD to flake out again :P

  668. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    AltNic~ god we should exchange mail,,,, if you don’t mind I could ask Stephan to send you my email?

    Taz~ yes, it would be great to have more SDs on here. As for an average span for an arrangement , I think it depends really, I have had a SD for a long time, longer than some. Some have had 8-5-2-or1 years to a few months! not sure what the average is!

  669. RainyStreet says:

    me too sugacane!

  670. texaSD says:

    Atl- Lol i think no matter where you are, if you can tell they are fake as far as I know, people think your a stripper or something, when I was in LA, I can’t remember meeting any girl with a fake set, In Las Vegas, if you have a fake set, there is a good chance you might be a stripper.

    Taz- 6months-1 year?

  671. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Sure thing sweety. I am becoming good friends with a lot of SBs. Now if only I could find a local SD who was so easy to get along with…Chin up. I got this. Mr. Perfect is looking for me right now…ok he is probably sleeping right now, but maybe tomorrow after work :)

  672. texaSD says:

    Atl- The other pics you had were pretty nice i remember

  673. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    AltNic~ he’s dreaming of you!!! ;)

    Stephan~ could you send AltNicole my email please!! :) thank you so much

    Ok sugars, my ankle is killing me and I have to be up early to get my lashes redone! yes, it’s the only fake part I have, and I love Them! :D
    night!

  674. texaSD says:

    Sweety- Goodnight

  675. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Texas~ night !!!

  676. Peisinoe says:

    James – Sorry your SB relationship came to such an unpleasant end. I think ending it swiftly and with as little emotion as possible is the best thing you can do for yourself. She has bad sugar karma coming her way, best for you to say ‘Thanks for the good times’ and wash your hands of the whole thing. She knows she f’ed up, I think it’s ok for you to just do it by phone or email and mail her stuff to her. As tempting as it always is to make the other person hurt like they hurt you, I think in the long run you’ll be happiest if you make a clean and professional end. And hopefully a bird will poop on her head. :)

  677. photogirl says:

    Peisinoe – And hopefully a bird will poop on her head. LOL

  678. texaSD says:

    Lol I wish I knew what happened with James’ SB

  679. Vixen says:

    Peisinoe-Thank you for that laugh..needed it tonight

  680. photogirl says:

    TexasSD – From what I recall, his SB would check into the hotel the night before they would see each other and she would have another man come see her at night prior to her seeing James.

  681. Peisinoe says:

    You’re welcome. :)

  682. texaSD says:

    Photo- Whoa, now questions come to my mind… Just from that, I am guessing not a NSA relationship? The guy that would come in was a random guy? or was there a pattern, and how did he find out?

  683. photogirl says:

    TexasSD – I will let James answer those questions for you… I think he talked about it in the last blog or the 2nd to last. I don’t recall all the details but she was completely wrong in what she did IMO.

  684. texaSD says:

    Photo- :( ahh, now i am left wondering…

  685. photogirl says:

    Texas – Just went and found it for you. Read the ‘Sugar Daddy Drought?’ blog about a 3rd of the way down…

  686. Newbie SB says:

    LOVE reading the blog — y’all are so smart and resourceful — but I feel like I’m in way over my head. :(

    Pot #1 wants to fly me across the country and stay with him for a few days in lieu of a first date. WHAT?? He sounds too good to be true (heart-attack-inducingly so), but all the info he gave me matches up. I’ve never been to *Distant City* and while I think it would be amazing, the entire fly-you-in deal has skeevy overtones of “we will have sex or you can go home”. His listed allowance is higher than what I feel comfortable asking for, but he resides among the uber-wealthy and I figure he can afford it. I tried to steer him toward flying to my city (EVERY other non-local has offered to do so), but he cited business as an excuse (elaborately). Maybe also kind of uptight and formal?

    I don’t want to have a bad experience. I don’t want to be blinded by greed ($10,000/month is screwing up my brain, serrrriously — I would have gladly divided $3,000 equally between rent, shoes, and savings but even with the same three categories it seems ostentatious). I don’t want to fall into a “test drive” situation. I’m young(er) and tend toward naive, but for some reason worst-case scenarios keep popping into my head.

    Eeeeeeesh. And I still so very much want everything to work out fine.

  687. texaSD says:

    Photo- Ok i read it,

  688. photogirl says:

    Newbie – I am sure the other ladies can give much better advice but I myself would have some serious hesitations. I would much rather prefer we meet for the first time in my area. Do you know anyone in his city that you can stay in touch with or call upon in something goes wrong? How long have you been talking with him? Have you told him you are not interested in intimacy on the first meet?

  689. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Newbie: The basic “rules” for meeting a pot out of town is to get your own hotel reservation in your name. make sure you have a round trip ticket, and have somebody in your destination city that you can contact while you are there if you need to. Most major cities are represented in the blog, so if need be, many of us would be happy to be your contact. It is not unheard of to fly out to meet a new SD, in fact there are a few girls on here who are experienced with such arrangements. I would read through the blog from about a week ago when Lannie was going through your situation, as she was given advice from many of the more experienced SBs.

  690. texaSD says:

    Where is this guy Newbie?

  691. RainyStreet says:

    I’m near Seattle and could be a contact for you!

  692. Newbie SB says:

    I’ll go look at the older posts, thanks! :) Both of you mention things that are troubling me — the hotel reservation (which I pushed for) is definitely under his name, I don’t know a soul in this particular city. I joined about 3-4 days ago; we’ve emailed back and forth and talked on the phone today (briefly). He’s in Manhattan… Nothing has been confirmed yet — no plane tickets.

  693. texaSD says:

    If its not in your name, Don’t go.

  694. Peisinoe says:

    Newbie SB – Bottom line is never do anything you aren’t comfortable with, no matter how much money there is or if even if you feel you ‘ought to be’ comfortable. That little voice in your head and feeling in your tummy has your best interest and safety in mind always! Yes there are fabulous men out there. Unfortunately, there are also horrible men. Almost more dangerous, there are plenty of men that fall right into the middle but tend to lean towards trying to see exactly how far they can push things.

    Yes, the flying to other cities to meet is not unheard of and not necessarily unreasonable, however (big however) if you are as new to this as you indicate and are worried about being too naive and getting into bad situations, my advice would be this: tell the gentleman that while you appreciate his interest, eagerness, and generosity, you just are not comfortable flying to a city you are not familiar with to meet a man you don’t know. Let him know you’d love for him to fly to see you if and when he gets a break in his busy schedule, and if he’d like to get to know you better by email or phone that perhaps in the future you would consider visiting.

    Then start to get experience in the sugar world by looking at profiles, reading this blog as far back as you can (many, many amazing and strong women with great advice on here), communicate with men in your area, meet for coffee with those you are interested in…. basically learn all you can safely, comfortably, and on your own terms. Take care not to put yourself in a position where you think you could be convinced to do something you’re not ready for.

    Don’t feel like this guy is a ‘one in a million’ and you need to take the leap so as not to lose him. Sugar comes and goes, someone else will always come along. If this guy is a true SD, he will understand your hesitation, he will want you to be comfortable and give you time. If he pressures you, he’s a** and not worth a second thought.

  695. Newbie SB says:

    Peisinoe, thanks — I think that’s exactly what I needed to hear. I will send an email out and focus more on gaining experience with local pots. My thanks to everyone, actually! I’ve been trying to read through the archives but the current conversations are so fun!

  696. Peisinoe says:

    Awesome! Glad I could help. Confidence and experience will propel and protect you in the sugar realm!

  697. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Exactly what Peisinoe said! Unfortunately it is very easy to get burnt in this type of lifestyle. Never let dollar signs cloud your judgement. Not to sound jaded, but Ithere have been men who gave me money, and afterwards I was left feeling like I would give it all back just to erase them from my life. You don’t want to put yourself into that position. Take your time and get to know the man you are going to see. It sounds like this man’s money has some strings attached, and that won’t work out in your favor.

  698. Newbie SB says:

    Strings… ick. Fortunately, this is propelling me in the direction of the charming/witty/gentlemanly pot who contacted me before I threw up a profile pic. :D Yay! So I hope all will end well.

    Your wisdom & perspective is MUCH appreciated.

  699. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Well keep us updated. We always love to hear news from the sugar world! That way those of us who are having slow weeks can live vicariously through the new girls

  700. Newbie SB says:

    Haha. I *SUSPECTED* that there was a strong “new girl” phenomenon! I’m actually a bit madly in love with this blog. Got to love the steady stream of chatter — just drip-drip-dripping like an IV! It is my addiction. ;)

    But the weirdest thing was him being in NY. Really? Why would you fly me out for the occasional weekend with such a city at your feet? Come on. One rolls one’s eyes. I have to admit, I feel hugely guilty about still wanting the swanky stuff and glamorous existence when my actual needs are much more mundane. Oh well. Life, it goes.

  701. newbie
    if he is a real SD bottom line he wants you to feel Safe.!
    otherwise the rule is if yous Sugar-senses are going off You listen to them. plane tickets in your name R/T hotel In your name.
    now if he has a room resevered thats fine IF you are at that point fine but
    it makes sense to get your own accomadations without him Knowing where you are…. I think it best you read past blogs so you will know how this works. us ladies on the blog DO NOT WANT YOU TO BE UNSAFE
    we dont want you in a scary situation Either.

  702. ok back to the news bye all!!

  703. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Yay my new pics were finally approved! Let me know what you think of them. Browsing through the other SB profiles I have noticed that most of them are more provocative than mine. I am not sure how to pull of classy if I have a picture up of myself modeling my newest La Perla.

  704. The Lone Gunman says:

    AtlNicole*389079*:

    What do I think of your profile?

    I wish I was in the Alanta area.

    TLG

  705. The Lone Gunman says:

    To the Canadian contingent from the last day or so who’s profiles I looked over:

    I’m off to take a cold shower now…and then try and focus on my work today….

    TLG

  706. DC says:

    Just realized sweety is BG. Hey BG! How the heck are you girl!?

  707. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    DC~ i’m good girl!!! how you been? i don’t have your mail anymore send me something!!! how is the sugar in your life girl!!! :D

    TLG~ who are you referring too??? ;)

  708. DC says:

    BG- you’ve got mail (unless you changed your e-mail addy). Sent to the h-mail one

  709. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    should be fine DC!
    i’m leaving to get my lashes done, talk to you all later!!!

  710. NYC SB says:

    HI SUGAR FAM!!!!!!!!!

    Just came back from my NYC Stock Exchange experience with my lovely pot… He is ADORABLE!

    Now let me catch up on blog activity

  711. NYC very happy for you butI am off to do arrands
    I wanna hearabout mr.NYSE
    tootels!

  712. NYC SB says:

    TexaSD – wow you are a young one! never would have guessed

    OC – icewine? what is that… also my ex’s dog used to eat my shoes as well… not cute

    James – im glad you have decided to end your arrangement and are going to do it in person… very classy indeed

  713. Gemini29 *365643* says:

    Hey sugar fam! I’m going to disappear for the weekend, but I shall reappear again monday! Have fun on the blog!

  714. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – Have a lovely weeeknd :D

  715. photogirl says:

    NYC – That was me…not OC :) Icewine is absolutely yummy. It is a dessert wine. I like my wine very sweet and someone suggested it to me. Although I got the lower end brand it was still very good. I enjoyed the whole bottle last night :)

    As far as the shoes…it made me think you and the others with your CL’s and I thought that would have been a nightmare had it been a pair of those!

    Please fill us in with Mr. NYSCE

  716. NYC SB says:

    Sweet wine – i will try it… i like mine dry most of the time

    Thankfully i never wore my cls when the dog was eating shes bc this was maybe 5 years ago… i dont even think i knew what cls were at that point! ignorance is bliss hahahaha

    Mr NYSE is on his way to take me to lunch… he is in his mid 20s as well… totally adorable… incredibly good at what he does… i like him… im not sure how chemistry is between us bc all we talk about are the markets hahaha… hopefuly during lunch we can have a more personal conversation

  717. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Good morning girls!

    Have a great weekend Gemi! NYC SB – sounds like an exciting date! Hope lunch is equally as titillating! :D

  718. JetSet*102276* says:

    For some reason my long winded blog entries never post.. My reason for staying so silent on this blog.. Let me give this a test..

  719. AJ says:

    I Been here on and off, I been reading the log… I have meet couple girls some of them are fake not same person when you meet them…The only female I still remember, “Glamour Amazonian” IN DC area, she was very smart she own a cleaning company and works at a gym, she has a young daughter her ex husband left her over a younger female, she seems honest and DAMNNN she was hot big tits big ass pretty face! she looks like a porn star! I was quite intimidated by her beauty and brain.
    I’m black, she told me she didn’t like black dude, she said she likes the hot looking one, i’m fat and ugly, I offerd her more money she said no Thanks…
    Now i’m with a another latin girl that I think she is a hooker… She’ll never tell me what she does for living… pay her 500 twice a month she is ok.
    AJ

  720. JetSet*102276* says:

    Okay that one posted.

    So my comments.. I’m a little scatter brained this morning..

    So my SD news..

    I visited a guy from NYC that was charming, funny and good looking. Seemed like a great package and was offering 15k a month.. We met on like the 10th and he gave me a nice gift for taking the leap of faith and flying to meet him. He insisted we start our arrangement ASAP.. Being the 15th as he believes in twice monthly bank transfers.. Great.. So i was to see him the following week and he informed me that he would give me like 3k to visit him for the last half of the month as he’d be out of the Country the following week… And he felt it was only fair..

    I really only have one relationship to compare this with but he kind of made me feel like some sort of escort basically bartering a per visit arrangement.. Not this spoil and take care of you option that he initially offered. In my previous arrangement my SD took care of me ALWAYS whether our schedules always lined up or not. I just feel if someone is offering a monthly allowance, shouldn’t they stick to it? It’s a little tough to rely on something like that and then someone say “Well… I’m going to be here so i felt it wasn’t fair”

    I’m kind of in limbo with that situation because he’s put that bad taste in my mouth so i took about a month break from seeing him as i’ve been busy with life anyway and i spoke to him on the phone the other day and he said he’s had a few “mini-arrangements” which in my language means a few ‘rendezvous” since we’ve seen each other but i’m still #1 on his list and he would love to be exclusive with me…

    Um ewwwwww… So if i get busy for a few weeks i can expect him to jump on the next thing that crosses his path?

    Please give me input? I really enjoyed our time together but i’m getting a lot of Red Flags…

    XO

  721. Jet set I did respond to you on the other blog it posted but youhave to… mann they jump these bloggs around!!
    anyway I said if you dont feel comfortable you shouldnt do it, after itis you who is responsiable. red flags are a no go!! follow your intutioun!!

  722. NeOhio SB says:

    Jet Set: A true SD will take care of you on a montly basis, no matter how many times you get together OR NOT. Once an agreement is made from his side, he should be willing to stick to that…not play games of pro rating just because he doesn’t have time…..Id have a red flag on that one too….

  723. JetSet*102276* says:

    I figured as much but wasn’t sure if i was being unrealistic as i only have one prior arrangement to base things off of

  724. NeOhio SB says:

    Jet: You never mentioned in your blog if you did in fact meet him the following week or he did the transfer for the 3k as he told you.
    Remember patience is a good thing here….don’t compromise on what you want, need or deserve. There are great SDs who do in fact walk the walk…not try to justify a reduction of what you want or need due to the fact he is the busy one……..

  725. NeOhio SB says:

    A cute joke for a Friday afternoon to all SBs and SDs on the blog….

    Found on the Refrigerator One Morning :
    My Dear Wife,
    You will surely understand that I have certain needs that you, being 54
    years old, can no longer satisfy. I am very happy with you and I value
    you as a good wife. Therefore, after reading this letter, I hope that you
    will not wrongly interpret the fact that I will be spending the evening
    with my 18 year old secretary at the Comfort Inn Hotel. Please don’t be
    upset—-I shall be home before midnight.

    When the man came homelate that night, he found the following letter on the dining room table:

    My Dear Husband,
    I received your letter and thank you for your honesty
    about my being 54 years old. I would like to take this opportunity to
    remind you that you are also 54 years old. As you know, I am a math
    teacher at our local college. I would like to inform you that while you
    read this, I will be at the Hotel Fiesta with Michael, one of my
    students, who is also the assistant tennis coach. He is young, virile,
    and like your secretary, is 18 years old.
    As a successful businessman who has an excellent knowledge of math, you
    will understand that we are in the same situation, although with one small
    difference – 18 goes into 54 a lot more times than 54 goes into 18.
    Therefore, I will not be home until sometime tomorrow.

  726. JetSet*102276* says:

    NE Ohio-

    I absolutely did NOT go see him for 3 days for 3k.. I’m sure a high class hooker charges about that for an hour and maybe thats where his experience lies but thats not what i’m looking for and i don’t feel anyone should make me feel that way

  727. GO HEAD MOMMA!! hahah thats what I am talking about!! lol

  728. photogirl says:

    NeOhio – that was great :) Much needed laugh this afternoon!

  729. NeOhio SB says:

    Jet Set: You absolutely deserve better than that………DON”T settle for less than what you want, need, desire and deserve. Never let your own personal standards go less. A great SD will appreciate you for the quality woman you are and what you WILL bring to the table.

  730. ok guys What to say.. I had a date today, just coffee but this is his game. every time I say yes I will meet, he dissapears such as I tell him I will confirm with you on the night previous on time… then vammosse I wont hear from him till sunday.. hey Iam at the bowling alley… too late for my taste and I have to arrange babysitter.
    What to say to him, I am trying to be nice!

  731. stephan says:

    NeOhio SB:

    That was a hilarious story!!

  732. Lisa Marie says:

    Hey everyone hows it going??

  733. hello Stephan can you send island girl my e-mail?

  734. Lisa marie hello lady!

  735. Lisa Marie says:

    I can send her your email Kit Kat
    I talk to her, I have her email

  736. Lisa Marie says:

    Looks like I missed alot last night….the one night I dont get the blog its full of chatting

  737. NYC SB says:

    JetSet – while I would like to tell you that “Yes your allowance should be there whether or not you guys see each other each month” I dont think I can. 15K is a lot of money… Having been in high allowance arrangement before and am in one now here is a solution I can propose to you should you choose to see him again.

    Agree on a base allowance say 5k which will be wired whether or not you see him on a given month. Then agree on the frequency of your monthly visits to him. Should you meet those then he should wire you the rest.

    I can see how he can be reluctant to give you a full allowance when he has not seen you. Especially at the begining stages of an arrangement. Put yourself in his shoes would you give a person 15k after meeting them once and then not seeing them again for a month?

    I am not advocating that you go back with him at all… I am just pointing out another side to consider.

  738. yes please LM if you would

  739. Lisa Marie says:

    ok I did!

  740. JetSet*102276* says:

    NYCSB

    Well i took a month off from him after this weirdness began. We met and he insisted I was the one and wanted to get started right away including the allowance (his words).

    Then when we were on the phone after i returned home he started offering the 3.. Which if you’re talking about 15k a month.. 3 is almost an insult.. Which led to me deciding i needed to walk away and take a break from things for a few weeks..

    Of course he expects to see me which i would expect as well. And maybe your idea of a base allowance is a good idea. I just felt a little insulted when he went from saying one thing to saying another.. When i questioned him about it. He mentioned he would be out of the country for the last week of the month and wouldn’t see me but would be happy to follow through with the original agreement if i made up the days the following month.. He already wants to see me 12-15 days out of the month which is a lot more than i’m used to. Considering i have a weekend job and a little boy.

    I’m not sure given the circumstances that i’m ready to fly across country when i’m already feeling this way

  741. Hi all…..Did you miss me? lol I got you email add @ Kitkat

    Jetset you’re hott, don’t settle

  742. NYC SB says:

    JetSet – I believe I have met your SD… who was very keen on seeing him a specified number of days and if I didnt my allowance would be lower unless I make it up the following month… Oh and he was away for a week each month so I either could go with him or see him more often when I returned… I am not a fan of this… If the expectation is to see him 3-4 times a month then ok thats reasonable… if the expectation is to see him 12-15 times a month (thats pretty much half the month) than I dont think its reasonable … this is more of a live in gf so to speak rather than a fun sugary arrangement… i dont want anyone taking up that much time out of my life…

    I would go ahead and look for a new one… clearly this one was a fake

  743. Lisa Marie says:

    I agree with NYC…she is right. That is way to much time out of your life. Thats more of a live in GF than a Sugar

  744. I just can’t understand, i line in NY and find it so hard to find a SD, and even harder to find a GOOD SD. Are they really that hard to find or am i not looking hard enough and not in the right places? Any ideas on what i should be doing to find better results?

  745. NYC SB says:

    Island – most NY SDs are married and they tend to like bringing in girls from elsewhere for a once a month visit rather than having an arrangement with someone living in the same city as their wife… but this is just my theory

  746. NYC SB says:

    My new pot aka MR NYSE is not from new york either… he is from NC… speaking of which NC Gent where have you been hiding?

  747. Flo Rida says:

    NYC SB – I agree with you, I think the heart of the ‘problem’ is comms & expectations. SB feels ahem like a P4P experience & SD feels why should I pay for her when we didn’t meet. Both points are valid from their respective points of views. Just sit down & talk it through.

    AtlNicole – like the new pics – your hair looks different – you’re a babe. I also agree that Atl does have talent you have a unique look and any SD would be lucky to meet you.

    K-K – sounds like SD is having trouble following through – maybe he likes the idea of a SB better than the reality – either way tell him his problem (name it and shame it) give him 1 more chance and if he still screws up dump him – you deserve better.

    NewbieSB – rich Manhattan men have sooooo much money that they can fulfill all of their fantasies (that involve money) which include flying someone (you) who they are intrigued or attracted to. The super rich can do what they like when they like – my SD flew to Spain for dinner and then flew back because he ‘felt like it’ flying you to NY is no different to ‘because he can’. If you really don’t feel safe just ask him ‘Hey I’d love to but I don’t feel safe can I bring my bodyguard? (bouncer) if he’s rich enough he can make it happen’. Ladies the name of the game is not ‘I don’t feel comfortable’ – it’s ‘how can I get comfortable AND get what I want’. Alternatively if you have local options then close the NY door. Sorry if this is preachy – I’m very tired but 7 years of sales training has made me ‘always be closing’.

    Peisinone – spelling – you are right, putting yourself on the edge is taking a big psychological toll on me – but I’m mentally tough and the rewards are worth it (short term at least).

    All – SD is on a biz trip & I’m flying in my college roomie for wknd – it’ll be great to c her again. Pax & have a great weekend everyone.

  748. NYC SB says:

    Flo – enjoy your weeeknd with your friend

  749. Flo Rida says:

    Island Beauty – NY SD keep mistresses that they meet IRL and they arrange their lives and social circle to ring fence between home & mistress life. Meeting a SB is a big big risk (esp for those without a prenup – but even with a prenup the risk of a wife finding out are huge – both financial and non).

    NYC SB – I have your email but may I email you a q – it won’t be until mid to late next week though.

    ok off to Teterborough. ciao peeps.

  750. NeOhio SB says:

    NY SB: I have to second your thoughts on Jet Sets pot SD….You need your own life aside from the SD arrangement. He isn’t here to consume your time, just the sugary aspect. 12 – 15 days is a no go with me….wayyy too much time. Quality sugary moments is what this is about……Last SD i had, saw 3 times per month max, some overnites….was given 10 k direct deposited into my account, plus 2500 in lingerie shopping per month and another 3k in incidental gift cards, etc……He absolutely “got it.” Hard to find the keeper ones…….Sounds like the NC pot is a good one….Those southern guys are truly geniune and caring…..Good luck w. your ventures with him.

  751. NYC SB says:

    Flo -Teterboro …. ooooo someone is flying private ;) my Daddy used to work near that airport

    looking forward to your email :D

  752. NYC SB says:

    NE – My last one was the same way… 20k per month and i would see him 4 times at most… its hard to find someone with that mentality though

  753. James says:

    hey guys, about NY SD’s — there are several levels. The top level, the big money guys, making between $10m and $100m/year, may be as NYC SB describes — meet the mistresses IRL, or fly women into town once/month. Mistresses are part of the Park Avenue way of life, have been for generations. Frankly, that type of guy doesn’t have to do much if anything, the women “manifest” themselves in their lives. Many of the more famous financiers and investors are also notorious womanizers, why? Because they can. Money turns them on because where there’s money, some women seem to follow.

    Then there’s the next level down — the guys like me making between $1m and $10m. I think that’s the sweet spot for this site. The single guys in their 20′s making that kind of money may behave like the big boys, but the older ones don’t, usually. I think they (we) prefer local women. They probably don’t have pre-nups and are likely on their first wives and have families. They have enough sugar to spread it to one or two worthy girls who appeal to them. They have enough to be generous, but still want something recognizably like a GFE, which usually means a real woman with a real life.

    I’ve had the opportunity to meet a few of the top professional women over the years — at one time, they were called HDH’s for High Dollar Hotties. Some were quite nice, some cold, all very polished, all leading somewhat surreal lives. One was friendly with the Horndog-in-chief, Ole Bill (they never caught him with the real ones, remember the Secret Service refused to give up the logs). One is currently under house arrest for tax evasion. One had to leave the UK to avoid a major political scandal. That’s a different type of woman and a different world than this one, just like the super rich guys are different from more than 90% of the men you’re likely to meet here, IMHO.

  754. Happy Lurker says:

    Hi all,
    The blog is moving forward again so fast, lots to read up.
    Several times this uneasiness shows up how to deal with a pot SD or SB.
    Now here is a bit of surprising wisdom.
    ” What does My Body Have to Say About this ? ”
    Always “let you body talk”, nice songtext by the way.
    Our culture has long mistrusted the body. It’s been seen as a confusing blend of God’s handiwork and the devil’s playground.
    It is rather a vortex of intelligence.
    Every cell comes equipped with awareness. Your body has something in the neighbourhood of 40 trillion cells – quite a consulting committee.
    Call on it when you are confused or undecided.
    Relax quietly and ask your body what it has to say.
    Then note many sensations. Around your heart you are picking up excitement and it says “Yes” even is there’s also a little anxiety about doing something new, a first sugar meeting or so.
    Or in your belly, are you feeling dread, a “gut reaction” telling you to take another path, because danger is ahead ?
    Most of the advice asked for here in SA really stems from what those 40 trillion cells tell you.
    Let you body talk, it is indeed the best consulting committee you have.

  755. I can’t agree more @ HP

  756. NYC SB says:

    James – thanks for saying that so elloquently…

  757. James says:

    thanks NYC SB, I find your comments on target too :-)

    and now that I’ve caught up, thanks to all for their contributions on my personal issue — the group is an excellent sounding board and I hope to return the favor

  758. JetSet*102276* says:

    Thanks for your insight Girlies.

    I thought that i had a good point.. 12-15 days seemed ridiculous but he has this weird persuasive side of him that makes him sound like he’s always right.. Grrr… And of course i only had one SD experience to relate it to. Which he spoiled me unbelievably and i saw him 2-3 times per month.. Usually weekend getaways.. With no formal arrangement but never saw less than 20k per month and unlimited shopping..

    Which i’m sure my previous arrangement was absolutely ideal but he got a little possessive and started lying about ridiculous things.. And of course NYCSD made me feel like 20k was unreal for as little time as i spent with my ex..

    I think ultimately i should feel super excited to see my SD and ALSO have my normal life with my son, friends normal engagements without feeling like i’m taking away from my SD.. My SD should feel like a breath of fresh air and not an obligation… You can’t put a $$ sign on that.. I just yesterday upgraded my membership.. So hopefully that’ll help weed through the BS.

    Thanks for your input girlies..

    And i think if i ever have to fly to meet an SD in the future i’ll find a girl here as a lifeline as i tend to have minor panic attacks of worst case scenarios!

  759. JetSet*102276* says:

    James-

    BTW thank you for your input. Helped put things in perspective!

  760. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hola Chica’s! I am enjoying this FABULOUS Friday afternoon. Kicking myself that I did not freshen up my profile sooner! It is getting more hits than I ever dreamed.
    Plus, I live 40 minutes from LA so I changed my location to LA instead of the OC! BAM! Why didn’t I do this sooner. It has been the most fun I have had in months!

    NYC SB: Are you still floating off the ground from this mornings NYSE sugar exchange?

  761. hey James hook your fav Kit Kat up with a .. wel it do not matter tall male and reletivly cute!!

  762. OCSugarbaby says:

    Kit-Kat: What happened on your coffee date????

  763. NeOhio SB says:

    OC SB: I would love to see your profile and be able to put a face to your great blogs and wonderful insight……Can you provide a profile #

  764. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hi NeOhio! How are you today? I like my discretion, so I don’t post it on the blog. I take it you are in Ohio? I lived in Medina as a young girl for a few years.

  765. NeOhio SB says:

    OC: Completely understand……Just in the short time i have been on the blog seems many post the number asking for constructive criticism, etc.
    Actually im in between Cleveland and Pittsburgh…..Lived in Laguna Niguel for many years…still have property out there and do many west coast migrations.

  766. OCSugarbaby says:

    NeOhio: Laguna Niguel! Very cool. I love being out in Cali. Sure beats the midwest snow and cold!

  767. NeOhio SB says:

    OC SB: Trust me, Im here as LITTLE as possible. Have a beach home in Cabo as well, so spend much much time down there. Cali is the way to go…true paradise. Plus lots of great SDs from there..my last one was a Del Mar guy…phenominal. Glad your tweaking of your profile made a diff…sometimes those little things make a huge impact. Good luck.

  768. OCSugarbaby says:

    NeOhio: Thanks! I am so close to LA that it made it a better fit. I just can’t believe the SD’s that search LA from around the country! Amazing…

  769. OCSugarbaby says:

    It must be Happy Hour on the East coast. Where did everyone go?

  770. OC man mr kingpin doing the mia thing again I think I am either gonna tell him some thing nice or not so nice I dont know just yet

  771. OCSugarbaby says:

    Kit: Why spend the energy. Let him chase you. THAT is what he should be doing. You just keep moving forward and if he is worthy he will catch up with your fabulous self!

  772. well thats why I just keep saying Ill meet him because I think he want to but Chicken out.. whatever until I find an SD Ill play cat and mouse .. cant hurt

  773. NYC SB says:

    OC – im finishing work here so i can catch up Mr NYSE for dinner… he is flying out tomorrow so I figured we can have 3 dates in one day ;)

  774. Flo Rida says:

    James and NYC SB – I think HDH stands for High Dollar H**kers but I understand your tact. Yes the IRL mistresses is a misnomer because it’s actually unreal the lives they lead. Roomie and I are back & we’re going to paint the town red. NY be afraid, be very afraid. Ciao peeps

  775. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hi NYC SB: Sounds lovely! Why is Flo telling you to be afraid?

  776. ha ha NOW this sukka E-mail me AGRHHHH

  777. Newbie SB says:

    I emailed the Manhattan pot and a huge cloud of relief washed over me. SO good to know what to say. Flo Rida, you pushed me in the right direction (and weren’t at all preachy!). Are there any blog posts where y’all discussed your first/early sugar experiences?

  778. OCSugarbaby says:

    Kit-Kat: Listen to OC! Why waste your energy and get frustrated. Chill and put your energy towards someone who deserves it. Cat and mouse game is not the way to go. It just will get you more frustrated in the end. Move forward and let him be.

  779. Oc your right.. I kinda politley fussed at him and just let it be like that ,

    you cannot take me to Daytona before I meet you , We were supposed to meet this morning, I am not going anywhere where I cant pay my own way*just in case I have to make and Quick Exit* and if you cant tell me ahead of time Reasonably *so I can get a sitter* its not going to happen!
    thats what I kinda said!

  780. OCSugarbaby says:

    Kit-Kat: Time wasters are blocked. You have given him plenty of chances and you spent your precious time getting ready and he flakes. Imagine an ongoing scenario of him doing this again and again. No Thanks, not interested…

  781. OC the only thing i hate worse than a late man is an unorganized one, i… Check this out I am never on time I am always early.. like Iam about to be waiting on somebody to get they selves together when I got little ones I got to get ready then myself and Iam still early,,,, THAT is the Wrong answer

  782. Koi says:

    Hi everyone!

    SB’s: Have your pot SD brought you a gift at the first meeting?

    SD’s: Do you usually like to bring your pot SB a gift at the first meeting?

  783. hey Koi.. yeah my pots need a damm Watch !! hahaha

  784. Koi says:

    Aww, your time is valuable! People need to respect appointments!

  785. michael says:

    ok – so how do i search for a particular user to comment on profile etc?

  786. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    michael~ if it’s for an SB you open an SB profile and change the profile# in the bar thingy on top,with the profile # you want to see. if it’s for an SD you do the same but with an SD profile!

  787. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    hope that helps!

  788. SugaCaneBby says:

    Hey sugar fam! I hope everyone is having a good night. Sitting here munching on a carton of butter pecan ice cream (because I want to get a little more chunky. Yes! lol). Kinda bummed that my package didn’t arrive today. 10-14 days. Ugh. Should be here Monday, which works as that’s the next time I’ll have an entire day to myself, sans work.

  789. NYC SB says:

    Hi sugar fam! Its 630 am and I’m spending sat at work yay!!! Lol

    Had a wonderful night with Mr NYSE… He is just so sweet! And smitten lol

    He was telling me last night how if we are still seeing each other in January he will make me quit my job and go trade with him full time… Normally I would be freaked out but it was endearing… I love his southern accent.

    I still can’t get over just how skinny he is… I need to fatten this boy up lol

  790. Summer says:

    Hey Sugar family…Usually I don’t post much here but there’s something I’ve been holding back and I guess it just needs to be said:

    I hear a lot of ladies saying they are displeased when men come on too strong in initial emails or try to get physical too soon. I agree with you and don’t like it either. But much of how a man treats you from the start will have a good deal to do with how you present yourself in your profile.

    After browsing about 200 new SB profiles here, I notice that the vast majority of females are posting sexually provocative photos of themselves – either lingerie shots or semi-nude. If that is the image of yourself you choose to put out there, why are so surprised when a man treats you like an escort?

    If you want to be treated like a lady, might I respectfully suggest to the ladies that you present yourselves as LADIES? (not “ladies of the evening”?)

    I know that there are a lot of new girls who are just finding this site and are new to the whole SB/SD dating experience. You’re probably looking at other ladies profiles for ideas on how to present yourself. Since the majority of SB profiles features sexually provocative photos, you’re probably thinking “this is what I have to do to get noticed.”

    While posting pictures of yourself in your undies will certainly get you attention, is it the kind of attention you really want? And are you attracting quality men who will treat you like the lady you are?

    Most real true SD’s I’ve known would prefer you to keep a little mystery and not flaunt your beautiful body on the net for all to see. He rather likes knowing that as your SD, he’s entitled to see certain parts of your anatomy that are not available for viewing by the general public.;)

    What’s wrong with just being yourself and posting a couple of nice fully-clothed shots from your summer vacation instead? You might find that if you change your profile pics to something more normal/tame, you’ll get a lower volume of email replies, but the quality of man who writes to you will improve dramatically. And it’s all about quality, not quantity, right girls?

  791. NYC SB says:

    Summer – while your comments are on point I believe it is safe to say that some men will still aproach you this way if you have pictures which are fully clothed…

    i have 2 face pictures and one figure picture in which I am wearing a black dress… nothing too scandalous… needless to say you still get the men asking you “how much per hour” and what not…

    It would be interesting to see how many of such emails i would get if i put up a bikini picture or one in langerie

  792. Margo says:

    Which questions do you ask a potential SD when he contacts you and ask: “what would you like to know more about me?”

  793. OCSugarbaby says:

    Summer: Many of those girls posing half-naked are ESCORTS! However, from my test marketing of my own profile image, I have to say that a picture that will get the SD’s attention is a far greater asset for your profile. I am not condoning a nude picture. Nevertheless, men are visual! Besides, that is just the wrapping; it is the whole package that gets the true gentleman SD in the end. How you communicate and present yourself beyond your profile picture is what will determine how they treat you. If you post sexual content in your profile? Well, that is exactly what you will get back in emails.
    Do not get me wrong, I love sex. However, I do not think that it needs to be in my profile. The SD profiles that have the word SEX every other sentence or feel the need to stress the fact that they are DD or clean just skeeve me out. The well-worded profile, succinct and upbeat will get more hits than you can imagine. But, a picture does play an important role in your profile you are right. Tasteful or tasteful with cleavage? I think we could put it to a vote of SD’s. Which would they click on first?

  794. NeOhio SB says:

    Summer: I have to believe OC hit the nail on the head….bingo. Men are extremely visual…it is a fact of life. A photo can make the difference of opening the door or not…..Of course, it is the ENTIRE package that will solidify exactly what an SD is seeking for the connection, however, i am a firm believer with the ratio of SBs to SDs on this site, a photo can make a huge difference.

  795. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hi Margo: When a potential SD does not tell me things without playing the 20 question game. Or if I get second or even third emails like ” What questions do you have for me or about me”. I think to myself… I have a million but if this potential is not giving me info and I have to ask the 20 questions without sounding like the Great Inquisition. He is:
    1. Stalling because he has several others he is communicating with and wants me to do all the work (bad sign for future reference)
    2. Is being guarded. Which is fine and I find that asking non arrangement quesitons work best to break the ice. Like favorite foods, places to visit..etc
    3. He just isn’t all that interested and will poof in 24 hours

  796. OCSugarbaby says:

    Helllooo am I the only one who has had their coffee? Where is everyone?

  797. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hey OC!

    Good morning! :)

    I have my coffee/teeccino blend…. with hemp milk!
    mmmmmmmmmm

    good points about the photos, by the way…

  798. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hi Villa! Your coffee does sound yummy. It is only 9am here so I need a few more cups to get moving today!

  799. photogirl says:

    mmm… Villa your coffee does sound good.

    I need a cup myself…trying to get moving on this lazy saturday afternoon.

  800. OCSugarbaby says:

    Villa: I know that some SD’s have given their take on the photo quesion in the past. But it would be nice if we had some fresh views on it!

  801. NYC SB says:

    Morning OC – im here lurking… and working :D so exhausted

  802. OCSugarbaby says:

    Photogirl! NYC SB! Morning Ladies.

    NYC SB: Your date went well I take it. Fatten him up? Bake him some brownies!

  803. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi photo girl and NYC SB!

    Yeah, it tastes good on such a chilly morning…. hemp milk is surprisingly good, and has a lot of good “fats” like the omega-3s and 6s.

    Yes, OC, where have all the men gone??

  804. hey guys. Kingpin says are you ready in an E-mail…. he has offically pissed me off! I told him when you want to mke me Feel comfortable we will be good, but essentially I do not know you!!

  805. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Kit Kat —-

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    :D

  806. Flo Rida says:

    K-K – Hey babe, the definition of frustration and insanity is doing the same thing & expecting a different outcome. You’ve warned him – if he doesn’t change – drop him. Sorry I’ve been busy & tired.

    Summer – I kinda agree but also disagree. A full figure photo is ESSENTIAL – maybe a black cocktail dress rather than a bikini works BUT men have thousands of years of programming & testosterone that you can’t unwire. Also the model who doesn’t have a bikini shot is going to be seen as less fun than the model that does. Once you have a pot SD attention & you are communicating with him – SBs need to train them (difficult I know) on how to behave & who has control (but that’s a whole other discussion).

    OC – I meant New York City should be afraid (of two hot fun college roomies hitting the town) not NYC SB. I’m still hungover & roomie is sleeping. If I was a lesbian (I’m not) I’d be so into her – she’s screaming hot & fun.

    NYC SB – 6.30am on Sat? Sounds like a BDSM exercise or a project badly behind schedule.

    Margo – I would respond ‘Hey sweetie – have you done this before? Do you truly know what you want in a SB – SB arrangement? Can I trust you LOL? And tell me a tiny bit more about what you like doing, what are you passionate about, pet peeves and that’ll be a great start. Just to get the ball rolling here’s a glimpse into who I am…..blah blah’

    Koi – Tasteful, thoughtful, proportionate gifts within your means are always appropriate but I usually say ‘I am giving you the gift of my undivided attention, (laugh) only kidding (touch their arm)’ Men seem to like it.

    I can’t remember any other open questions, now for some diet coke (fiz) a greasy breakfast (soak up alcohol), yoga & a new day. Probably going to take roomie to MoMa, Gug, & Frick – she likes art. Ciao peeps.

  807. photogirl says:

    Morning everyone!

    Yes, NYC… how is Mr NYSE? Hope it was great ;)

    Kat – Please…let Kingpin go… He has been stringing you along for far too long! You deserve better than that girl!

  808. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: Put the CL Paris pic up! That is a smokin pair of boots. I have the image if you want it. However it is on the current CL page.

  809. NYC SB says:

    photo – MR NYSE is great… he is just so much more than I expected… we had a blast last night

    oc – its earnings season… gotta make those numbers look pretty :D

    Flo – the only thing missing for you last night is me! hahaha NYC with the girls is always fun… going to partake on such activities myself tonight… given they release me from my prison … i mean cubicle lol

    kit kat – i think its time to tell him you are no longer interested…

  810. NYC SB says:

    flo – try the hot yoga studio on 38th and 6th it will kick that hangover right out and flush out the toxins

  811. NYC SB says:

    OC – I am going to take some pics of my new CL boots and put that up :) bit of a personal touch… then i will bake brownies and send to you and Mr NYSE :D

  812. DC says:

    Good morning sugar family-

    On my second cup of coffee. I quit for a few years and started up again. Nothing like coffee in the morning.

    On the photo issue….well as has already been mentioned…yes men are definitely visual creatures, but so are women, let’s face it. While I feel that there is nothing wrong with flaunting one’s assets….I think if a SB posts a photo that emphasizes their boobs or booty it will probably be interpreted by a pot SD in a way that maybe was not intended. So I agree with OC…it definitely will open doors and get you more attention…but is it the kind of attention you want? I guess the only way to find out is to experiment with different pictures and see what happen.

    It’s funny though…if I am looking at profiles of men and they are in their underwear showing of their nice butt or their six pack I think….what an a*hole.

  813. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: Yum, I could go for a brownie with my coffee! Hot yoga? How fun. There is this yoga class that my girlfriends and I take every third Wednesday of the month. The instructor is HOT, he is 23 and is so fun to look at. His class is packed! It has a waiting list! hehehe

  814. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi DC!

    I’ve always wanted to try *hot* yoga… I’ve heard it’s amazing! :)

  815. NYC SB says:

    OC – i wonder why his class is packed… hahahaha i need to fly in on the third wednesday and take that class… i love eye candy!

  816. OCSugarbaby says:

    The Lone Gunman? Where are you this morning? You have the cutest SD’s in your state! My new profile has brought them out to play and I must say, they DO grow them bigger and better in Texas!

  817. NYC SB says:

    Villa – its beyond amazing… you walk out drenched in sweat but then after that cold shower your skin is so soft and moisterized it feels like you had a facial and a body wrap

  818. NYC SB says:

    I love that southern accent … makes me melt… NYSE has it… so cute lol

  819. OCSugarbaby says:

    DC! Good morning! I agree, shirtless men I just have no interest in. My marketing experiment with my pictures HAS worked. Both of my pictures are tasteful, but I moved my picture showing my bitty B’s to the main picture. Not my best asset, but the visual experiment seems to have worked. Go figure!

  820. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    NYC SB – I’m definitely going to try it…

  821. OCSugarbaby says:

    NYC SB: His class is so fun! I find myself needing A LOT of assistance/help. He is always right there to assist. Bad, bad OC!!!

  822. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    HA! Speaking of cleavage…. I just uploaded a photo of my cleavage ONLY…. just to be cheeky. :P

  823. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I’ll report the results of my experiment as they come in… muahahahaa

  824. OCSugarbaby says:

    Villa: Cleavage only? Perfect! I love it! I am still amazed at all the new found SD’s that have come out to play. They are some of the sweetest guys ever! Where have they been hiding?!

  825. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I don’t know….. can’t wait to find out!!! ;)

  826. DC says:

    Hi Villa, OC, NYC!

    I did hot yoga (formerly called Bikram) about 5 years ago for about 3 years back in San Francisco. I agree, it felt amazing. After an hour and half of that you walk out in the cold air and feel re-born. I need to try it again. There is a new place in my hood called haute yoga. Not cheap though and I am already a member of two gyms!

    OC, I have bitty Bs as well. Fortunately there are men out there that like smaller breasts. At least at my age they are not sagging….yet!

    I used to take classes with some very cute instructors. It was the best motivation for me LOL

  827. Ok so Pot number 2 he is a white guy.. just like brown he has a son. so i find out he is on trak to be a doctor, he is active right now in the Reserves so I say to him how are you going to do all of that with your son should you be called active, he says I was looking for a black lady mainly because I want my son to/remember he is also black and that everything is open to him. I say that is great thinking on your part!
    but I am worried you wont have time to.. ya know what every dad’s do with they son’s he says well while I study you guys can go on trips or what ever, and I may buy a house in G-ville so I will be nearer to the university!
    this guy really kills me he is really Quiet and I know hes picking my brain, he right now is traning to be a combat medic, and we were talking about some anatomy and stuff like this and he says ,”Wow you are smart”, What the hell do you REALLY do?… I say what do you mean? he says isn’t a Sugar baby just supposed to be a Bimbo? lol, I said Do I strike you as one? he says no but my baby momma sure as hell aint know nothing but hair nails and club!! *Geography/Anatomy*
    lol I say I know those things but it is important to know more then silly stuff.
    so anyway I told him What type of situation I would be happy with and he was like that sounds good to me,
    Idunno he is pretty cool.. A little Quiet but cool

  828. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    A wise man once told me…. “the perfect size breasts are those that fit my hands…. all you need is a handful”!

  829. OCSugarbaby says:

    DC: Yes a HOT yoga instructor is great motivation! I am fine tuning my damsel in distress skills at the same time.

    My goal of getting by B’s enlarged has two options. I found that I can go to the Cali/Mexico border to get them done at half the cost or have them done in LA for a small fortune. Right now it looks like Mexico is the only affordable option. It seems like I have been saving for this forever. Other bills always take precedence over such an extravagant dream.

  830. OCSugarbaby says:

    Ok, I am off to the office. I am so far behind. Catch up with ya’ll later! ;)

  831. DC says:

    OC- I like my bitty Bs, always have. And men like them as well. As a size 2 I would look very weird with larger breasts. While I know my life would be much different if I had bigger boobs, I also know that I appeal to that subset of men who like small breasts. So in a way it sets me apart.

    Have you done your due dilligence as far as the Mexican clinic goes? When it comes to ones health I think you should never compromise.

    I agree Villa!

  832. NYC SB says:

    OC – hmm mexico/cali border but still in the US no? I have seen many tv specials on how wrong mexico plastic surgeries have gone for many women

    Villa – I hope that all my men have small hands ;) and that the small hands small —- sterotype is not true

  833. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    OC – go to RIO! Plastic surgery capital of the world!!!

    DC – yeah, agreed! :)

    NYC SB – The one who said that to me is 5’9″, with very nice hands and rather nicely endowed.

    Men seem to be divided into those that like breasts, butts and legs – if they had to pick a favourite body part.

  834. DC says:

    Hi Villa-

    That is true about men being divided. I would guess the majority are into breasts, but I think just as many like a nice long pair of legs. Men have complimented me on my long legs which cracks me up because they really are just average

    NYC- my last two boyfriends all had huge hands. One was average and my current BF fits the stereotype ;)

  835. sweetredhead says:

    Why do men take so long to commit to ANYTHING! uggghh so frustrating.

  836. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I’m 5’2″ and get tons of compliments on my legs…. so you don’t necessarily have to be “tall” to have great legs! :)

    Hi sweetred… send me some of that FLA sunshine!

  837. NYC SB says:

    men and commitment dont mix well lol

  838. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Hello sugars!
    Half my day is done, wow its hard to work with a sprained ankle!

    VC~ you do have amazing legs girl!!

    DC~ hi
    Sweetred~ hi

    Should have my new profile up soon, hummm a cleavage photo? sounds interesting!! :P
    Back to work for me,,,,i’m gonna be in pain tonight! :)

  839. DC says:

    What’s wrong sweetred?

  840. DC says:

    Hi sweety! Are you icing your ankle and using arnica gel on it?

  841. Margo says:

    Flo Rida and OC, thank you for the answers!

    Regarding the pictures – not sure what to do. I had a photo posted on a private area in another web site. At that picture I wear thong and it shows that I have good legs and ass. Those are my assets.

    There was an unpleasant story with a lawyer, which I posted here in the blog. The lawyer wanted to move too fast, he sent me too sexy emails. I replied that we could talk only if he treats me with respect. And this is what I got:
    “If you do not want to confuse people, stop sending out semi-nude photos.”
    “How many guys are out there looking at your ass. Your conduct is inconsistent and confusing and then you insist on respect. ”

    So I am not sure. I want to show off what I have, but don’t want to receive offensive messages like that. What do you think?

  842. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hey BG!! Thanks ! :D

    Yeah, check out my facebook – the leg shot is gone and now there is a cleavage shot…. hee hee…

  843. NYC SB says:

    Margo – maybe a bikini picture or a short shorts/short skirt is a better way to go

  844. DC says:

    Margo- I agree with NYCsb. A picture in a thong is a bit too suggestive. A short skirt would be a little more appropriate and would still show off your legs. And some guys like to leave something to the imagination. They may not like the fact that you are showing everyone your assets.

    I think men like you to act somewhat classy in public.

  845. ppp1256 says:

    Hello Everybody

    I am back after a while. Remember I first had suggested the SD/SB party? Are those parties still happening?

    I have noticed of late that SBs prefer to spend more time chatting online before meeting. SBs/SDs I would love your feedback.

  846. Koi says:

    Hi all!

    Regarding bikini shots:

    I think swimsuit shots are fine with a classic pose. On the beach or at the pool either lounging or looking off in the distance. (As long as your swimsuit is not a thong, lol.)

    However, from browsing profiles, I’ve seen some pot SB’s posing in their bikini’s in suggestive ways. Either they are purpuselly sticking out their chests or bending over. Now that is going to get some X-rated emails from pot SD’s! And bikini shots taken indoors? I think that may give off a different vibe as well. Because, what are you doing in your bathing suit in the house? lol.

  847. Koi says:

    Hi ppp

    I like to exchange a few emails, then to go text/phone, then meet in person. All within a one week time frame, tops.

  848. Farm Girl says:

    Hi All!

    I have spent this lazy rainy afternoon catching up on this blog. Gosh, I love it!

    I just moved from Austin to San Antonio. I LOVED Austin, but have decided to embrace the new adventure of San Antonio, which by the way, is probably more hispanic than any of the previous places mentioned in the blog.

    Montreal is GREAT! We’d head up for the festivals when I lived in Boston.

    My blissful SD has poofed, I’m afraid. We had tremendous chemistry right off the bat and could talk for hours. It felt more like a BF/GF relationship fairly quickly though, and I think that scared him off. He said things were going too fast and he needed to focus on his business right now. I am sad about it because he was so much fun.

    That situation makes me wonder where the lines are between BF/GF and SD/SB relationships. I understand each type should be whatever the parties want and agree to. I’m realizing that I don’t mind a nightly phone call from someone I really want to hear from or spending consecutive weekends with them. So, with that realization, I accepted invitations from two regular joes. One trained my horses in exchange for dance lessons in my kitchen and the other used to give me candy every day at work. You might say the work one is a REAL Sugar Daddy. LOL!

    Regarding Happy Lurker’s quest for canine friendly SBs, I was briskly walking my dogs down the sidewalk of a very affluent neighborhood near me about an hour ago. An older gentleman drove by staring at us, and having just read HL’s post, wondered if he was checking us out. Then suddenly, my little dog ran to the end of her leash in front of me while the big dog came to a screeching halt behind me, both dogs pulling my arms straight out and causing me to lose my balance. I have decided I will never attract an SD while walking my dogs. Good luck to you HL. I hope you find someone with dogs that can maintain a proper heel. :)

  849. Sweety SB~ AKA BG says:

    Hey all, I’m back and in so much pain!!! my ankle is killing me!!

    DC~ I didn’t put anything on…

    VC~ you sexy girl you!!! :D

    ppp~ i like photos that are in dresses or something sexy but not a bikini, and a time frame as to meeting I think within 2 weeks…

    off to put my let up
    Chat later!

  850. Koi says:

    Hi Farm Girl!

    How long have you been in San Antonio? How is your online quest for a pot SD going?

    I haven’t had luck finding an SD in real life. I think I look to young for them to want to approach me, so I stick to online.

  851. kITTENISH says:

    HELLO SUGAARS !

  852. Koi says:

    hi Kitteish!

  853. SpursGirl says:

    hi farm girl. i usually lurk but saw you are from san antonio.

    im from san antonio too. been here two years. do you live in that affluent neighborhood or just walk your dogs there? i was thinking of doing that when i saw advice to go running or dog walking in nice neighborhoods but too nervous to actually do it. do yourself a favor and dont go out with wannabe sd sexylawyerman. he is a cheap wacko.

  854. Farm Girl says:

    Hi Koi!

    I’ve been in San Antonio for about 6 weeks. My online quest has been pretty good, I’d say. I started on SD4M in July and have had 2 arrangements lasting about 4 wks each with men from there – one blistering hot and the other just companionship. With SA, I have not really made a connection, just lots of emailing.

    I meet more men in real life than online. I’m told that is because of my personality and wit, which don’t show through in my profile. Time for a profile make-over I suppose!

    FYI, while I’m new to the website and the clearly stated SD/SB arrangement, I have been a SB for years. I also looked much younger than my age, and met a number of SD’s before marrying one at 25. Just think positive and don’t lower your standards. It’ll happen for you. :)

  855. Koi says:

    Hi Farm Girl!

    I tried SD4M with no results =( So, I just joined SA. Hopefully this one will be more promissing!

    Thanks for the vote of confidence Farm Girl!!

  856. Farm Girl says:

    Hey SpursGirl!

    I live in a Habitrail…I mean apartment…in that neighborhood. I love walking the dogs here because it has great landscaping and sidewalks.

    How is your sugar quest coming?

    Thanks for the tip about sexylawyerman!

  857. Liz says:

    Hello everyone!

    I am new to both the site and the blog.

    My very first message today consisted of, “eight-inch long, three-inch wide member.”

    Sigh. I hope this is not foreshadowing on how the rest of the messages I receive are worded.

  858. SpursGirl says:

    hi farm girl – not good judging by the last two men i met in person. one it seems wanted more of a penpal and phone friend and never brought up allowance. the other was sexylawyerman who is really looking for an escort. even though we came up with agreement in email before meeting he tried to buy me. gave me a small amount of the allowance during first date then expected sex at the end of date. when i told him that is not what a sugarbaby does he demanded the money back and said he has no respect for women like me. ha. fyi – the amount was $400

    going back to lurking – bye

  859. Koi says:

    Hi Liz!

    Welcome to the online Sugar family!

    Yes, you will get a lot of messages like that, but sometimes you will get a “real” message from a pot SD. Keep your hopes up. =)

    Question: Are you looking for a gift daddy, travel daddy, or cash daddy? Or one who does all of the above!

  860. Koi says:

    OMG! SpursGirl!

    I think we went out with the same man!!! I posted about a similar situation a few days ago. I’m pretty sure his name was the same, however on another site! I told yall I’m from Texas, too, right?

  861. Farm Girl says:

    Hi Liz!

    I’m so sorry you had a bad experience. In one of my first emails, the man asked me if I did watersports. Imagine his surprise when I told him Yes, love them. I had just learned to kneeboard but still hadn’t learned to waterski. Imagine my surprise, when he explained that he wasn’t referring to kneeboarding, but something completely different.

    At least it makes a funny story. :)

  862. Farm Girl says:

    No, Koi, I didn’t know you are also from Texas. San Antonio by chance?

    Don’t be a stranger SpursGirl!

  863. Koi says:

    Haha Farm Girl!

    Yes, I had one wannabe send me an email that asked one sentence:

    “You like anal?”

    To which I replied:

    “I do enjoy giving my partner anal stimulation – manually and with toys (ie. strap on’s)! It’s such a surprise to find a man open about his interest in that!”

    Needless to say, he didn’t bother me again. Haha

  864. lisa says:

    Most of the sds from Texas have been on the site forever, I’ve found alot of fakes, poofdaddies I’m in Houston

  865. Liz says:

    Koi – I definitely believe there are great SD’s to be found! It takes a lot to make me cynical about something! Thank goodness lol.

    I’m looking for a cash and gift daddy. While I am independently financially, I am looking to save and invest money for the future and be spoiled with life’s little luxuries that I can’t personally afford. I was bit by the fashion bug quite a long time ago!

  866. Farm Girl says:

    LOL Koi! Hilarious!

    Lisa! Good to see you! You warned me about Danny and you were right! I did hear from him, we chatted a bit, and I asked what he thought of the site. He stated he had lots of luck one summer but not this one. He just didn’t understand it. I didn’t tell him that SB’s stick together and word was out! LOL

  867. Liz says:

    Farm Girl and Koi – Love your responses haha!

  868. Farm Girl says:

    Koi is separating the wannabes from the gonnabes!

  869. Koi says:

    I’m with you Liz. I want a cash & gift daddy.

    Someone posted before asking if there was a ban list of some sort, to know which wannabe’s to avoid. I don’t know of any, but I think it would be a good idea!

  870. DC says:

    Great response Koi! I have used that one as well, works every time LOL

  871. hey guys hope all i well, another day of kicking out I dont think we are on the same wavelength letters!!!
    Life of a SB is soo difficult . lol

  872. Koi says:

    Thanks DC! Off to watch a movie! Ttyall later, girls!

  873. Farm Girl says:

    Ban list seems so … harsh. What about a Caution list? I am sure SDs learn from their mistakes like everyone else. I know from experience that an SD may do for one what he won’t do for another.

    I won’t use his name, but there is one that wanted unprotected sex so badly he proposed marriage. I insisted on no sex until I got a medical report. As it turns out, he had something, and STILL insisted on unprotected sex. Obviously, I flat refused and it ended. The thing is, I can’t help but think about his assurances that he didn’t have anything early on. My body is my temple, not a Quickie Mart. I’m glad I stuck to my guns.

  874. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    Hello Sugars!

    So how do I tell a pot SD that I am not interested based purely on his physical appearance? I had a new guy email me his pic recently, and I know I would never be attracted to him. However, we have not talked much so I know he will realize why I am calling it quits.

  875. Farm Girl says:

    What about telling him that you are sure he is attractive, but he just isn’t your particular type?

  876. NC Gent says:

    Nicole — you can use the “no response” technique, or if you aren’t comfortable with that approach, a simple “I am sorry, but you are not my type” should suffice. Rejection is a big part of the sugar world — on both sides of the table :)

  877. Taz says:

    Wow Farm girl! I have wondered about protection and even if using protection was ok for a SD – is it still ok to ask for medical testing for both of you?? Or is that an insult? I would think it would resonate well with a SD as he is assured you are safe! (I am really new to all this so I may be waaay off…)But…if something shows up on his and he still continues to press the issue – WOW on his behalf!! Good for you lady!

    AltNicole – Again..from the rookie :P Just be honest! Tell him he seems like a really nice guy but there just isn’t any attraction/physical chemistry..good luck with his search – and good for you for not wasting his time ;) I know it can be an awkward situation…

  878. NC Gent says:

    One more post before I say adios. I read through the postings, and I DEFINITELY don’t like seeing provocative, semi-nude, or nude photos. I like to leave something to the imagination (unfortunately my best sex organ is my brain). Also, that is a gift that is best unwrapped in person – not a gift that the whole world gets to see – it loses its value :)

  879. AtlNicole*389079* says:

    I am not usually terribly picky about physical appearances. Although I have preferances, they are not let in stone. But this guy is at least 10 years older than he is claiming and does not take good care of himself. I think I am going to go with the “not my type” line. I really wish i had another excuse to give him, but I dont really know him yet. Oh well.

  880. Atl maybe say you are nearing an arrangement with another pot and would rather he contuniue his search..?? I had to tell someone that too, oh howabout hes too far the distance is prohibtive??
    thats the best ones I got!.

  881. NYC!!! please e-mail me I need your help on something!! not terriably important but I bet you know!! thanks!!

  882. photogirl says:

    Koi says: Question: Are you looking for a gift daddy, travel daddy, or cash daddy? Or one who does all of the above!

    Right now I could really use a Canon Daddy :) I could so use a shopping trip through B&H right now!

  883. The Lone Gunman says:

    OCSugarbaby says:
    The Lone Gunman? Where are you this morning? You have the cutest SD’s in your state! My new profile has brought them out to play and I must say, they DO grow them bigger and better in Texas!

    Been spending my day working with the police and working on a property list; a storage facility has been breached and I’m afraid that I’m now a crime statistic. Lost a LOT of stuff, and it’s unclear what the insurance folks will and will not cover. Not the best of days in Dallas.

    Liz says:
    My very first message today consisted of, “eight-inch long, three-inch wide member.”

    Wow–that’s one short and skinny fellow!

    Do you think he considers himself ‘height and weight proportionate’?

    Is his profile name ‘Tiny’? Does his profile show him with Toys that he uses to compensate for his height?

    If he does get together with an SB, how does he get together with an SB? Stepladder?

    So many questions just spring to mind…

    TLG

  884. photogirl says:

    TLG – You had to end that with ‘spring’ :)

    Sorry to hear about the storage facilty… I used to work for an insurance company… hope it all works out for you.

  885. DC says:

    TLG- sorry to hear about your misfortune.

  886. The Lone Gunman says:

    photogirl says:

    TLG – You had to end that with ’spring’

    Could be worse—can you see the poor fellow doing the Nail-Hammer Polka?

    TLG

  887. The Lone Gunman says:

    Before too many jump on the “sorry to hear of your loss bandwagon,” I appreciate the sentiment, but ultimately this is all just stuff–and I can always get more stuff if I need to.

    Balance that with the dreadful losses in American Samoa and Indonesia right now due to natural disasters and it should put it into perspective. My annoyance at some thieves pales in significance to that.

    TLG

  888. SugaCaneBby says:

    I agree that provacative photos don’t have anything to do with how fast these men approach me with their smut. Granted, the escorts on this site are making it harder for us girls and “raising the bar”, I explicity state that I’m not looking to get physical and all of my pics are head shots and I’m fully clothed.

    Wiring indeed.

  889. SugaCaneBby says:

    Oh, and to add to that particular topic, I was just talking to my bestie about how I think some men seem to be confused as to how to approach women. I just got an email from a “pot sd” saying that he missed me and wanted to “explore my body”. Ok, ONE: You don’t know me, have never met me, so you can’t POSSIBLY miss me as the bond of familiarity that comes with sharing time with someone has not developed and TWO: Explore my body? Seriously? Everytime he messages me, he gets more explicit with his intentions toward me. I’m considering just blocking him and not even wasting the effort on the ugly situation this will become if I tell him what I think of his lewd propositions.

    Original point was, I’m sure a man wouldn’t even give it a second thought if a supermodel approached him and proposed to “explore his body” whereas the reverse would result in a red palm mark across the “gentleman”s face. Men cannot approach women telling them what men want to hear. XD It doesn’t work that way.

  890. Liz says:

    TLG – He must be Lilliputian, eh?

    I too am conflicted on the provocative pictures. Part of me wants to include a sexy shot on my profile because I know it will perk up interest from the SD’s (pun intended), but then it would be hypocritical for me to tell the SD I don’t want to talk about graphic sex immediately.

    I’ve glanced briefly at other SB’s profiles to get an idea of how they’re structure and I love how some girls will have near naked pictures next to a paragraph about how classy they are.

  891. TLG
    I am proud of you for the show of compassion for the diasaster victims even though you had a issue you think of it as a simple ant bite!
    Very big of you!*of course you know that already*

  892. The Lone Gunman says:

    Oh I’m having fun now! Check out this exchange I just had…

    SB:Are you intersted? (sic)

    TLG: Interested? Yes. What about my profile attracted you?

    SB:[Quotes a passage from my profile, and that's all]

    TLG: Have you ever been in an SD/SB relationship?

    Sb:No. this is first time.

    TLG: Are you sure no one at the other 18 web sites your picture is lifted from has had an arrangement with you?

    TLG: BLOCK

    Yes, having the abililty to search pictures on the Internet for watermarks lets you have TONS of FUN, I tells ya!

    TLG

  893. TLG HELL NOOO man you wild!!
    oh Iam laughing so hard

  894. sweetredhead says:

    I was told last night that I like to control a situation. And make him feel guilty if he does not do what I want him too. (so not like me)

    I was teasing him. I was not serious. But I suppose it could have come off that way. So he spent the whole day avoiding my calls because of what he thought. Guess he was taking back control lol. MEN!!

  895. JHxoxo says:

    I am new at this and just do not know how to post a question so i’ll do it here.

    Is it legal to accept money in trade for nude pictures online?

  896. OCSugarbaby says:

    JHxoxo: Legal? Not sure, but not what this site is all about. This site is about sugar dating, actually meeting the other person. Have you been asked by someone on SA to accept money for nude pictures?

  897. JHxoxo says:

    Yeah I was asked and didn’t do it because that isn’t what I want, it only raised my attention.

  898. SincereSD says:

    photogirl says: reunions with a romantic partner… yikes. I think I’d rather have the memories of the ‘lively’ sex.

    hmmm … Otoh, this could be exactly like the memory of “lively” sex with married partner (without the “I have a headache” comment). Sorry … I know this is in bad taste but I couldn’t resist.

  899. Summer says:

    Margo –

    Men have eyes. They can see very well that you have great legs or a nice ass when you’re fully clothed. A man doesn’t have to see you semi-nude to know whether or not he’s attracted, trust me, lol. Nature takes care of that.;)

    Besides, you know you bring a lot more to the table than just your physical attributes. Let that shine through in your profile as well.

    Hope this helps, sweety!

  900. Rose says:

    How often should a sugar daddy and sugar baby update their photos (posted or not posted)?

    I think if there’s any significant change, (such as new hair style/color) then a new photo is in order. Other than that, I think updating between two-four times a year will suffice.
    Speaking of that, I need to change my photo. :P

  901. MsJacklin says:

    I am NEW and need tips! I’ve never done this before! You all seem so nice! :)

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