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A Gentleman’s Guide to Penetration
  • Posted Aug 15, 2012
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  • Written by Leroy


With the “50 Shades of LA” party nearing in September, we wanted to share some insight into approaching Sugar Babies in public settings. Let’s face it: not everyone is a natural extrovert. And it especially doesn’t help that women gather in groups at parties. Follow these guidelines and you will penetrate that circle of women in no time! (What else did you think we were talking about?)

Approach Head-On

Women love surprises – but not when being approached. The last thing you want to do is start grinding on a group of unsuspecting women. You’re not a lion on the Discovery Channel– make your presence known before making a move. Approaching a group of women directly, rather than from the sides, exudes confidence – a quality that women admire.

Team Play

When speaking to a group of women, it is best to address them as a whole. If you immediately focus on one girl, the rest will not follow. When introducing yourself, try offering the group a drink. If they decline, simply address the scene. Ask what they think of the place or inquire about the occasion. If you collectively engage the group, they will individually feel more comfortable.

Questions, Not Accomplishments

The more you talk about yourself, the more you will come off as self-absorbed. While women appreciate a man’s success, they don’t want it “flexed” in front of their faces. Women value other essential qualities: listening, humor, and common interests – all of which can be expressed through engaging questions. For the best results, approach all topics with a balance of insight and inquiry.

A Woman’s Touch

Women will rarely tell you directly if they like you. However, their level of interest can be interpreted simply through their body language. If she finds a reason to touch you, whether it be a light brush on the arm or a pat on your leg, then you’re in the green. Find a spot to speak privately, reciprocate your feelings, and enjoy the night together.

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199 Responses to “A Gentleman’s Guide to Penetration”

  1. Leroy says:

    All personalities and perspectives are welcome in the blog, while personal attacks and name calling are not. It’s inevitable that there will be disagreements but let’s handle it as mature adults with class to keep the dialog constructive and respectful. Please refer to the “Blog Etiquette” for more details. For the newbies, please take a look at the “Sugar Daddy Dating Tips” section on the right for a list of commonly discussed topics and the “SD and SB Blog List” section to see the perspective of other sugars. Now comment away and let’s enjoy the blog!

  2. Frank says:

    I’m first!

  3. Simplicity says:

    SMH congrats Frank lol

  4. Tina says:

    Wow, I have a feeling this topic will get dirty quickly…..where’s SDinLA or PhoneGuy when ya need ‘em?

  5. Simplicity says:

    Tina-Lmao, I was thinking the same thing.

  6. Tina says:

    @Simplicity – what can I say, great minds ;)

  7. VASD says:

    “Put ‘em in a circle and I’ll penetrate ‘em all in no time.” was the first thing that went through my mind. Terrible, just terrible. I am so ashamed.

  8. Tina says:

    @VASD: niiiiiiiice! I applaud you in your dirty mindedness ;)

    FYI: fun little blog that is starting to go viral: http: //blog.noupsi.de/ post/28896819324/ why-are-americans-so

  9. VASD says:

    Geez, my inner 17 year old (though I’m much better at actually delivering on my boast in my 40s), what can I say?
    Virginia is so boring, humid, strict, and important.
    Possibly humid because people are sneaking into small little places to do their nasty things because everyone else is strict and bored.

  10. Tina says:

    @VASD: the inner 17 year old in a 40 year old body is nothing to be ashamed of. What else could keep up with a confident woman in her 30s? ;)

  11. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    This new “penetration ” entry…. I feel like it is so offensive! to our successful smart sexy SDs…does the author think SDs are 16 y old or just plain stupid.

  12. Tina says:

    But @ILWCG: it IS attention getting!

  13. Midwest SD Dude says:

    long time SA blog reader and occasional poster. Muh long story short I broke up with my SB today and i guess I’m venting.

    After almost two years of the constant texting and thousands and thousands of dollars in gifts and cash, she has explained to me that she only wants to be friends (we never hooked up, it was always gonna be next time), but still wants the attention and gifts and cash.

    My fault for letting it go on so long, but it doesn’t change how pissed i am at the manipulation. What’s worse is that she won’t stop contacting me know. Keeps trying to guilt trip me about how I’m her best friend and she doesn’t wanna lose me and she loves me yada yada yada. I keep telling her to try talking to her bf, it’s his job to support her now. Not my fault he’s a deadbeat line cook, that’s on you girl.

    I dunno if i wanna get back into the sugar pool anymore now. Are any of you girls actually real? Is it all just a con game?


  14. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    Yes, LOL, it made you to post 5 times. It must be working. :) :) :)

  15. Grasshopper says:

    Penetration….hmmm…that’s a DEEP subject, indeed…

  16. Tina says:

    @Grassy: unfortunately, not deep enough for a lot of people ;)

  17. travelersb says:

    @Midwest SD dude

    Most girls on here are not like that, most are open to have sex and if they are not, they will say it from the beginning. Don’t let only one bad experience discourage you.
    But maybe your ”friend” is sincere when she says that she doesn’t want to lose you as a friend. She has to accept that there is no material advantages to have a ”best friend” with no sex though lol.

  18. flyr says:

    The source of your angst is pretty simple to locate, you saw the perp this morning – in the shaving mirror

    You are not alone, most of us have started down this road at one time or another. Some have been stuck there for decades.

    From a decade or so on and off the sugar submarine, for me it’s something like dating. Sometimes the chemistry is right 5 minutes after you meet and other times it takes a little time. But it needs to be a balancing act and if there is no intimacy within a reasonable period it is probably not going to be what you want.

    Good times can be had prior to intimacy but this is a sugar site and it’s a reasonable expectation (in my book) that gifts are reserved for an intimate relationship. If you are just dating then act like you are dating, have fun, buy dinner, reimburse her travel expenses, be a great host.

    To be a little harsh – you enabled two losers she and her boyfriend.

    In business students learn an early lesson……………….. there’s a reason why we call them sunk costs, they are gone and no longer relate to the analysis.

    The good news – you have seen the worst and you’ll now you’ll appreciate the best.

    In closing, she’s done you a great favor. If you had occasional sex you would probably still be hooked.

  19. flyr says:

    the prior was of course directed to


  20. Tina says:

    @Midwest SD Dude: there ARE real SBs out there, don’t let the one bad apple spoil your sugar. Unfortunately there are those relationships that can sour and not turn out to be what you want them to. If you need to take a break, do so, and ensure that whenever you enter your next type of relationship (whatever it may be), that you’ve been able to take the learnings from this one, digest them, and let go. One of my favorite sayings? You can’t live in the present planning your future while looking in your past.

  21. Simplicity says:

    VASD– wait until I get back to MD. I will gladly make you enjoy being hot and humid.

  22. JustAThought SD says:

    @Midwest SD Dude
    Please do not misread,or misinterpret my next comments, or do anything stupid based on them. This is strictly my opinion, I expect you to continue to look for sb’s, and sympathize with your situation.

    However, I hope you feel the burn. I hope it’s still fresh. SUCKER!!!!!!! Women have been doing this to you for a long time, and you come in here looking for sympathy and advice from more women. My, but you are a glutton for punishment.

    Now, that I’ve given you “male sympathy”, let me remind you of something. You’re an SD. You fought against the odds of the world to make enough money to spoil the girl of YOUR choice. This includes the great girls, the girls you couldn’t get in high school, the golddiggers, or the “let’s be friends” girls. At this point, those bad types are still the girls you’re attracting, so you’ll either have to smarten up, toughen your skin, or continue to flush your money and emotions down the drain. Make a list, on one side put what you expect to get from your sb, and what you expect to give your sb. And do your best to stick to your list. (And don’t tell her about the list PLEASE.) And be sure to scratch this off the list: “girl w/BF that doesn’t give me what I really want, but gets what she wants”.You both should have communicated and been in agreement BEFORE you started checking off her wishlist. The pain you have now will help you keep your guard up from future fakes,and flakes. The list will help you evaluate where things are going (and hopefully, help you zero in on the girl that is the right sb fit.)

    Arrangements are materialistically motivated.(Most relationships are.) So you have to weather the bad ones sometimes to get to the good ones. Savor the bad flavor of this one so you don’t get a string of them that will turn you into a bad SD. It’s easier to find a new sb than to be an insensitive, overbearing jerk. Find someone that wants to do what you want to do.(At least the dealbreaker things. They are important.) This bad episode will help you evolve into a better SD/Boyfriend/Lover. It hurts now but this too shall pass. When you do find a good sb, you won’t even care to remember this moment. Here’s a tip: look an sb that isn’t in a relationship, no kids, and can be with you at nearly a moment’s notice. You may be a little clingy for a min, and a girl I described may help repair what’s missing as you get to know her.(No guarantees.)

    As a sidenote, if you really think you have to have this girl, then almost any other girl would be better than one that’s already so good at controlling you. If you’d actually like this girl to be your sb, wait for HER to call, tell her “either we’re going to get together or you’re going to stop calling me.” Then hang up. It’s either yes or no, not “but” or “well.” Remember, she still gets to decide if she wants to hang out with you, but at least you’ll know if she’s just toying you. If she says she can’t get together, then respect that and move on. And don’t you dare talk to her again at least until you get a good sb going.(The bad sb will sabotage the good sb.) In fact, just don’t talk to her ever, and she’ll just have to find someone else to manipulate.

  23. SD Guru says:

    @Midwest SD
    “After almost two years of the constant texting and thousands and thousands of dollars in gifts and cash, she has explained to me that she only wants to be friends…”

    Yeah, what they said. Fooled you for one year, shame on her. Fooled you for two years, shame on you. During those two years didn’t you try to find another SB that’s more to your liking?

    “Are any of you girls actually real? Is it all just a con game?”

    Have you met Midwest SB?? Maybe you’re neighbors and don’t even know it! :) It’s a con game only if you let it be.

  24. Frank says:

    I hope all that good advice penetrates midwest sd.

  25. VASD says:

    @Midwest SD Dude 2 years?! Geez… Call me impatient, but I doubt I’d get past 2 weeks–not that I’ve had to wait that long.

    @ Simplicity Careful for what you wish for.

  26. VASD says:

    And Midwest SD Dude, yes, PLENTY of wonderful, smart, fun, sweet and sexy SBs here.

  27. Simplicity says:

    VASD–Lol that is not a wish darling I’m promising you a good time. If you can keep up that is.

  28. NC Gent says:

    Midwest SD — if she really wants to be friends, tell her fine, but you won’t be giving her ANY more financial support at all, which includes going to meals with separate meal tabs. I bet she isn’t so interested in remaining friends after that…just a hunch… sorry for the harsh reality, but you let this happen to yourself; that doesn’t excuse her behavior. Move on and there are a lot of women out there who will be a much better fit for you, several are active on this blog.

  29. Nawty Molly says:

    Uhhh, hahaha…they said penetration….Uhh, hahahaha :D

    Hi All! :)

  30. VASD says:

    @ Molly Nawty or Anna…you crack me up. We’re the Beevis and Butthead relief of this blog.

  31. VASD says:

    @simplicity You may need to wine and dine me a little first.

  32. Theresa says:

    I have an OT question. How do you find the time? I am a college student and am only available on weekends and holidays. How are my college sugarbabies finding the time to see their daddies and go to school at the same time? I don’t want to give up school and I want to have a sugar too. Am I asking too much?

  33. Theresa says:

    Oh, btw have fun at the party!! I can’t go as I don’t have the funds yet.

  34. Simplicity says:

    Theresa– I am a full time student and it is possible you just need to be really good with time management. Don’t restrict yourself to weekends and holidays nothing will work with that little time. I have met SD’s on my lunch break and even had some help me study for exams,being a student is not far of from having a full time job. If they can make time so can you.

    VASD– Wine and Dine??? How about a burger and beer? LOL

  35. 2Chic says:

    Hi Sugas, just catching up on all I missed.
    @ Brandon… are you considering live chat, a forum or such for the site?, Thanks, btw you are doing a great job with the changes.

  36. 2Chic says:

    Ok… I noticed the Shades of LA event and thinking about attending. What sucks is that the women will outnumber the guys on a major level. Since I have never attended such an event, I am a bit hesitant. So my question:
    let me know through: sugarandchic at aol dot com

    Maybe we can meet through mass text the night of.

  37. VASD says:

    @Simplicity I’m actually so down-to-earth you may well find me in the dirt–beer and burgers possibly even too fancy. A bit o’ ‘shine and some reasonably fresh road kill–now we’re talkin’.

    @Theresa, SDs are juggling time, too, and ***gasp*** some of us non-whales even have full time day jobs (I apologize to the girls that Charlie Tango is in the shop for the time being). If each of you are making the pot interesting, you’ll find the time. And…sometimes dealing with an interesting SD is an education unto itself.

  38. Tina says:

    @VASD: mmmmm, good homemade ‘shine and fresh road kill – you’re speakin’ MY language now! (I’m originally from Kentucky, even though I’m living in Texas now).

  39. Simplicity says:

    VASD– you sir are a trip… I will however take a bottle of apple pie shine. I am in TN right now so I can bring you back some if you would like.

  40. Ms. Taken says:

    TGIF All ;)
    I found this profile and just couldn’t resist. I wonder how HIS search is going.

    “I am NOT looking for a SB. And yes I know what the site says. But, I heard that there are women on here that want to meet a respectful, kind, handsome gentleman. If you are that kind of woman please feel free to contact me. If you are not, please do not.” – Poacher/Joker

  41. JustAThought SD says:

    @midwest sd dude

    DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT offer to still be friends. You’ve already been “just friends” for the last 2 years, and you don’t seem to like it very much. She DOES NOT want to be friends with you. She only wants to be FRIENDLY with your money. If you choose to talk about being friends, I can almost guarantee that you’ll be kicking yourself again in another 2 years. Would you like me to spell it out for you again?

    Here’s the scenario. Remember in high school when you had that really awesome girl in your sights? You then worked up the nerve to talk to her, found common ground interests, and then watched her hook up w/some guy that treated her like crap. You feel stupid that you never told her you liked her. (She knew already, in most cases.) So you hang around waiting for your opportunity. You profess your love at some point after they break up, but she says either you’re too good of a friend or it’s too soon. So you give her some space and she runs back into the arms of the “jerk” or she finds a new jerk. You got 2 years of education on bad relationships.

    I’ve seen this happen so much and so often it almost saddens me to watch. MOST males, not just SD’s, don’t have the emotional capacity to be friends with females, unless both are already in some type of relationship. It’s nature. Just ditch that witch. If she so-called “loved you” then she’d be with you, and we’d have skipped this conversation. She DOES NOT LOVE YOU. SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU. MOVE THE HELL ON ! There are at least 100 sb’s right now looking for you.

  42. Tina says:

    Curious, whats the info on this 50 shades party? Time and date?

  43. Tina says:

    I think I must be weird. I actually have fun grocery shopping; it turns from a chore into a social event. My goal was a quick shopping trip to get some things for work coming up this week, but I ended up trying a few and discussing wines, found a pimento cheese that is AMAZING (it will top he bison burgers I’m making later this week), and also got ingredients for a wonderful twist on cornbread. I so excited about cooking this week! :)

    Oh my, I just reread that and I am a complete geek :) Eh, oh well!

  44. VASD says:

    I am indeed a piece of work, simplicity. Could be your nightmare, could be your dream—naaaahhhh, no nightmare, disappointment, maybe, but always a gentleman. U have some shine handy and I may return the favor in kind some place nice in DC proper.

  45. Simplicity says:

    VASD– Nightmare?? I doubt it.I will stop in Knoxville on my way home and see what I can do for you. Have you ever even seen my profile?

  46. TexasSB says:


    I only met this guy once and after I told him I wanted to hang out again, he immediately said, “let’s have some intimate fun and get lunch.”

    Ugh gross.

  47. TexasSB says:

    Like, they will only help you out if you have sex with them. That’s like the one condition. I’m sorry but I am not a prostitute.

  48. TexasSB says:

    I think I’m gonna quit this whole SD thing. I hate the idea of being some old guy’s personal whore. That’s basically what it is.
    I have my bf that I met on here and I am perfectly fine with that. We hang out because we really do enjoy each other and I never ask him to buy me anything. Plus he’s younger..He is 36 and a millionaire.

  49. TexasSB says:

    “Penetration….hmmm…that’s a DEEP subject, indeed…”


  50. Nawty Molly says:

    I’m from TN originally. My family and I use to vacation in Gatlinburg all the time and we would go to Sevierville TN for my training. I use to show horses and was up in that area quite a bit. :)

  51. Nawty Molly says:

    God, I guess I’m the only one who gets up early on a Saturday morning…LOL! :D

  52. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    @TexasSB – Thanks for the blanket condemnation as you depart. Don’t let the door hit you on your way out. Sheesh!!!

  53. travelersb says:

    You guys are so lucky! you keep talking about riding horses all the time. I see many people who talk about it. Me I just can’t in the city! That’s sad

  54. JustAThought SD says:


    First, let me remind you that no SD wants to be considered your personal ATM any more than you would want to be considered his personal whore. Give and take in this world…you have the right to move on to the next sd but don’t be upset that you’re not in synch with each other’s needs or the timing.

    Secondly…WhatTheHell?…you found your “boyfriend” on here and still looking for sugar? I’m confused. 36y.o. millionaire that has consigned to an actual relationship label, and you’re trying to get an sd? That makes absolutely NO SENSE to me. If you have the guy you want in a relationship you want and he has the kind of money you want, what are you sticking around here for anyway?? He’s your millionaire boyfriend, but he won’t buy you things? Or you’re afraid to ask him for things?

  55. JustAThought SD says:

    @Nawty Molly
    It’s the weekend I don’t get up early, I just go to bed really late sometimes. :) Or am I early for being late to bed? Dammit, I’m goin to sleep.

  56. Simplicity says:

    Texassb— all i can say to you is wow. Thank you for leaving.

    Now I see why SD’s get a fucked up view when searching for SB’s.

    Molly– I have been up since 5 am trying to enjoy the time I have left in this beautiful state. I went to Rhea county to some waterfalls for a swim and it was lovely.

    JustAThought SD– I completely agree with everything you said. I just refuse to believe the existence of said person.

    BEB– good morning darling!!! dont let fools mess up your day.

    Travelersb— hey sweetie when ever you want to go riding let me know. I know a really nice trail in the states.

  57. JustAThought SD says:


    Would you believe I’m still awake? I just HAD to finish running some numbers, jotting ideas, and trying to figure out how all that caffeine got into my system over the last 36 hrs.

    Anyway, based on your existence comment, I had to ask how the whale thing turned out. Did you get Moby Dick?

  58. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    @Simplicity – I don’t let fools ruin my day…I just don’t suffer them gladly. :-)

  59. TexasSB says:


    Yeah and how is that any different than all the dudes on here perusing on here when they’re already married? tsk tsk
    But anyways, we’re not serious and I was looking for someone closer but I’ve decided I just don’t want to deal with it anymore. And yes he does help me.

  60. Simplicity says:

    Oh I got a dick alright, just not Moby. The whale turned into a huge one when he thought he had me hooked. So I cut the string and kept the bait. I don’t care how much cash you throw at me I WILL NOT deal with being treated like crap.

    SD’s that is why we always have a back-up plan.

    Once I find the right SD that matches perfectly with me I will relax on the Daddy shopping,but until then I’m just having a lot of fun and meeting very interesting people.

  61. Tina says:

    @Nawty – I was up early on a Saturday too, but I was getting ready for a volunteer event I had here. I was SO much fun! How was your Saturday? Any new dungeon toys yet? ;)

  62. JustAThought SD says:

    @Texas SB

    You said:
    Yeah and how is that any different than all the dudes on here perusing on here when they’re already married? tsk tsk

    Those “perusing” dudes won’t be the ones calling people prostitutes for doing the same thing they’re doing. Hypocrites LOVE using “tsk tsk” don’t they? I thought I was the confused one, but that’s rarely the case. Here’s a thought for you.

    So, you talked to one guy for 5 months and slept with him for free(no gifts,no quality time,nothing). But since he wasn’t your husband or boyfriend, somewhere on your moral compass that made you feel slutty. Then, you decide to lock up your legs waiting for Mr.PerfectSD. And in your mind, you figure if you make him your boyfriend you’ll feel less slutty this time. And if he does buy you things, it would also make you feel like less of a prostitute (by YOUR standards) because you think you earned it as a good “girlfriend.” But you’re NOT a good girlfriend, because then you wouldn’t be trying to sneak someone else in the back door. Then, to ease your moral compass and your conscience again, you say you’re not serious about your boyfriend. Why’d you even make him your boyfriend? I guess that WOULD make it easier to belittle guys that offer you the exact thing you’re looking for ( MUTUALLY beneficial arrangements.) So in your own mind, you’re calling yourself a prostitute, because little Ms.BrattyPants still didn’t find the absolute perfect guy yet.

    I think that about sums it up. I said you were “flighty” and “immature” when I first reviewed your profile months ago. Well, this Daddy is gonna give you what you really need…a big…fat…HUG. Bring it in, {( ;_; )} feel the love, and let the pain out, so the healing can begin. Now quit crying, and stop being mean to the people that were nice enough to help you fix your profile so you could get your nice boyfriend to cheat on. Also, I have given you some attention, there’s no need for you to throw another tantrum.

  63. JustAThought SD says:


    Sorry it didn’t work out. Too bad you didn’t get harpooned by the right Moby Dick. (Penetration thread, I couldn’t resist another pun.)

  64. midwest SB says:

    Heyyyyy sugars!

    Midwest Dude – She doesn’t deserve you. Sorry to hear that you didn’t get to enjoy the sweetest part of sugar. I can assure you there are genuine SBs here. Stick with us and we can listen and/or help. (((hugs)))

    I am very confused by TexasSB. She recently sounds unlike herself and more like another who tended to beat the same dead horse. Guess those monikers can help protect our IDs. Funny…never thought it might come to that. I could br wrong…

    Welcome back 2chic!

    Tina-i”m a bit of a geek too!

  65. flyr says:

    @midwestSB “Tina-i”m a bit of a geek too!”

    Could it be that this is really a huge Geek closet????????????????

    It seems to be a common characteristic of a high % of the best SB’s

  66. flyr says:

    @texas SB

    If you always focus on the stars you may slip and fall in the gutter. If you always look at the gutter you’ll miss the stars. If you absorb all , you’ll enjoy the stars and keep your feel dry.


  67. travelersb says:

    I’m nothing like a geek :(

  68. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    @JustaThoughtSD – Too funny!!!! Here’s to tough love :-) Bravo!!!

  69. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    I’m a geek and make one helluva camp squaw ;-)

  70. Tina says:

    I’m geeky and I know it! Oooooh, just look at that IQ……Ooooooh, I’m SMART! Wiggle wiggle wiggle wiggle YEAH!

    Sorry, I’m just feeling good so I want to be a little silly :)

  71. Nawty Molly says:

    Hi All!! I have some new toys, but, I’m keeping them a secrert!! All of you will just have to come for a visit to find out what they are! They are a lot of fun, especially for us ladies..lol!! ;)

    I’m a total night owl, I guess I have insomnia to some extent, which isn’t a bad thing really…especially for the west coasters!! HAHAHA!!!

  72. Tina says:

    @Nawty – you little tease! Now I wanna know! :)

  73. Nawty Molly says:

    Tina, I’m smart too!! When I took my IQ test, I scored 136. I’m not bragging! Really!! Well, I guess I am, but, sometimes it’s fun to.. :D, hahaha!!

  74. Nawty Molly says:

    Oh, my dear Tina, it is for me to know and for all of you to find out. I will say that the “TOY’S” I have are AMAZING, and, it would send you into orbit. They are great!!

  75. Tina says:

    @Nawty: I was always taught to tell the truth, and it’s never bad :D I haven’t ever taken an IQ test……….

  76. Tina says:

    Ooooh ooooh oooooh you little minx!

  77. Nawty Molly says:

    IQ tests are interesting. They are time consuming, but, worth it. Especially with those SD’s who take pride in their smarts. It’s fun to “out do them” when it comes to IQ scores…LOL!! :D

    Look, I’m not the type of person who gets off on telling or proving my smarts to anyone! I’m as down to earth as they come, but, when a guy starts to brag about how smart they are and their IQ scores, it’s just nice to out do them and put them in their place. :D, hahaha!

  78. Nawty Molly says:

    Of course I’m a minx, my name isn’t “Nawty” for no reason! :D

  79. Tina says:

    @Nawty: we HAVE to always give them a run for their money! Nothing gets the blood pumping like a good natured competition. Now where that blood pumps to is where your toys come into play…..mwahahahahahahaha

  80. Nawty Molly says:

    I may have a dungeon, but, it’s a comfortable one…at least for me! Hahaha!! ;)

  81. Nawty Molly says:

    Tina ~ ABSOLUTELY!! I can be nice (Anna) or Nawty. I’m very versitile! I like it either way…I can be a sub, or, an aggressor. What they want/like depends on the kind of person the guy is. I’ve met some whom I know are total doms and vice-versa. I like either one! I could go into more detail, but, I might be banned from the blog..LOL!! ;)

    This is where my multiple “blog personalites” come from. I like to be domenated or I can be the dom..it just depends. Oh my, how I love to be spanked and be the spanker..it is such a turn on!!

  82. Nawty Molly says:

    I have all kinds of “toys”, I have everything! At least the kind of toys that the general public would know about… ;)

  83. Tina says:

    Nawty: me too girly! The older I get, the more confident I get, which means I’m developing my dominate side. Although I will have to admit that being dominated at the right time is SO …….grrrRRRRRrrRRRRRRRrrrrrrr

  84. Nawty Molly says:

    Tina ~ I love to be dominated, it’s my fav. I have such a presence when it comes to being a dom that most don’t know about my sub side!! I like lots of different things…I like being spanked, tied up..uh humm…among other things. For me, it’s fun and I REALLY enjoy it.

    Unless you are a true dom, most don’t understand the erotic nature of it. I love it!! LASB would know what I’m talking about…maybe you do too??? ;)

  85. Nawty Molly says:

    Tina ~ Maybe we are triplets!! Hahaha! Nawty, Anna and Tina. ;)

  86. Tina says:

    @Nawty: I’m learning, but DEFINITELY need more practice. I’m more comfortable as a sub, but feeling things out as a dom. I just need to find someone that I trust enough to let it all go and play around >:)

  87. Nawty Molly says:

    Tina – you’ll know when it’s right. ;)

  88. ContentSB says:

    Ooooh fun risque blog chatter!! SO much more entertaining than beating any of the dead horses :) Sugar party in Nawty’s dungeon??

  89. TexasSB says:


    Wow you really think that you’re mister “I can figure anyone out”

    ACTUALLY…if you can believe it, that was was NOT my thought pattern at all.(Wow, you really got yourself going there didn’t you?)
    First of all, I never claimed to be his girlfriend. He just started treating me like his gf and he even SAID that he viewed me as “girlfriend”. Yes, believe it or not folks. He even introduced me to his family. Yeah…So I’ve accepted it and I’m glad that he thinks of me that way.
    And no he doesn’t buy me things. I mean he pays for everything for me when we go on trips of course. But he told me to tell him to help if I ever needed help paying for something.

    You said, “I guess that WOULD make it easier to belittle guys that offer you the exact thing you’re looking for ( MUTUALLY beneficial arrangements.)”
    Actually no, I was still just testing the waters. I thought it was what I was looking for, and I’ve met with a few guys, and in all honesty, I’ve come to the conclusion that it makes me feel too much like a prostitute and I cannot handle that. Because I mean, that’s what it is. High class prostitution. And since you would like to debate this, I will continue to beat this dead horse.

    “Then, you decide to lock up your legs waiting for Mr.PerfectSD. ”
    Actually, wrong again. We fucked in Las Vegas. A lot. It was great. I gave him a guide to penetration.

  90. travelersb says:

    ohhh! so much useless frustrations :) why can’t we all be friends?.. said the little canadian girl.

    on the fun subjet, I don’t know if it’s because I am young and not enough experimented but I feel that being the dom would make me lose all my feminity. I want to feel feminine in the hands of a man.

  91. EllenSugarB says:

    Yay! Everyone lock up their legs!! More Perfect SDicks for ME!!!!!

    No, but really … If you “don’t like the idea of being some old guy’s personal whore,” then don’t be a whore.

    When I read your post, I felt that the operative words were “personal whore” – as if you felt trapped, owned, or were feeling the pressure of obligatory sex. Be it with a young buck or seasoned gentleman, I can see how feeling obligated to an individual without feeling a sense of desire for that individual could cause one to feel like a whore … in a BAD way … as opposed to feeling like a “whore” in the good way – like when you’re having amazing sex. But I digress.

    If something makes you “feel too much like a prostitute” and you just can’t handle feeling that way, then don’t do it. It is that FEELING that makes it wrong for You; not the fact that you are engaging with an older man, or a younger man, or a man who wants to be with you sexually (theres a shocker lol :) ) – it is the fact that you FEEL like a prostitute that makes the interaction wrong for You.

    As for defining something as prostitution, high class prostitution, whatever: There must exist a clear and explicit quid pro quo. Period. That’s what it is. For the record.

    If something makes you FEEL like a prostitute – then you probably shouldn’t be doing it. Right?

    Now, I’m going to squint really hard and try to read between the lines with this next comment, and possibly even project a little, nothing personal: I think maybe something happened with Texas that we don’t really know the specifics about. Something or someone got under her skin. Something creeped her out. It happens. We get bitter. We get over it. We learn not to fuck (or even bother talking to) people who we don’t truly desire, because it sucks our soul away and makes us feel like a whore – in a bad way. And the only way to mend that wound is with kindness, love and compassion. So yes, little Texie needs a BIG HUG, and a smooch. *HUG* *SMOOCH*

  92. Grasshopper says:

    ::locks up legs…throws away the key::

  93. EllenSugarB says:

    So…speaking of prostitution…(of course, I go straight to wiki and start reading about prostitution. Anyhow, theres an article on wikipedia about “Prostitution Among Animals.” WELL, apparently penguins are turning to prostitution: “According to the study and subsequent reporting by BBC News Online, the female penguins would sometimes perform courtship ritual as a trick to lure the males leading to sexual intercourse. However, after taking the pebbles, the females would run off. BBC further reported Hunter as saying that the female penguins probably didn’t engage in prostitution only for stones. Hunter believed “what they are doing is having copulation for another reason and just taking the stones as well. We don’t know exactly why, but they are using the males.” This behavior was also suggested as a mate choice process by which the females might find a possible future mate. This would provide a female penguin with another male penguin should their current mate die. The male penguins, the study speculates, were engaged in sex with the prostitute females only for sexual satisfaction.
    According to Hunter’s observation, the number of prostitute penguins was very low, and she approximated this as “only a few percent.”

    Hmmmm…only a few percent huh? lmao

  94. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    All those who feel like the P word and therefore assumes everyone here is a P….please….please…..for the love of GAWD…..go AWAY!!!!! You are serving no purpose here WHAT.SO.EVER!!!! FUCK OFF ALREADY!!!!

  95. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    As the site says…no prostitutes allowed…can the moderators block prostitute TexasSB as this prostitute says all this site is prostitution and this prostitute has engaged with a SD from this site and therefore has admitted to being a prostitute. By virtue of being a prostitute, said prostitute’s membership must be revoked and said prostitute must be banned from this blog. Time to clean up this blog and remove all the dirty bad slutty whorish prostitutes. Can’t have prostitutes ruining the fun for the rest of us. Damn killjoy prostitutes.

  96. Simplicity says:

    JustAThought SD– I am in need of great penetration, but there are not many SD’s in my area that I personally find attractive (physically or mentally), maybe I am just too picky. I have had a couple of cases where there is great conversation, the guy looks nice in his pictures, but then when I meet him, he cant even talk to me, let alone maintain eye contact and to top it off the pictures are like 6 years old.

    Nawty Molly– When can I come visit???

    TexasSB– if you would like to F*** for money I have a list I can refer to you as you leave. Maybe you could post i direct contact so ALL of the whorish SD’s can find you and leave with you. That would leave me truly grateful.

    BEB– breath & relax. Do you need a hug? LOL

  97. Nawty Molly says:

    You can be dominant in many different ways! I agree, there is NOTHING like a man being a man in bed, but, sometimes it’s fun to reverse rolls. Being a dom isn’t alway latex and dog collars, sometimes it’s just being the aggressor and taking control. It’s fun to be in the drivers seat and making your man beg for you.

    I could go into some dialog, but, I’m not. It would be, um, too risque for a public blog. ;)

  98. Simplicity says:

    sorry edit that
    TexasSB– if you would like to F*** for money I have a list I can refer to you as you leave. Maybe you could post a direct contact so ALL of the whorish SD’s can find you and leave with you. That would leave me truly grateful.

  99. Nawty Molly says:

    Simplicity ~ You can come visit anytime you want! :)

  100. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    @simplicity – hugs are ALWAYS welcome….except from prostitutes lolololol

  101. Simplicity says:

    I start back to school Monday. Are weekends good for you??

  102. Simplicity says:

    BEB– LMAO i started to type your name and typed BEWB. HAHA ,but anyway ((((((HUGS)))))) As I suggested the pro could be helpful in helping clean up this site. If she take the guys seeking that with her.

  103. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    @when’s the cabin retreat in upstate NY? I need a mini vacay lol

  104. Nawty Molly says:

    VASD ~ You need a yummy pecan pie to go with that white lightnin’ and roadkill! :D
    I’m a baker and caterer ya know! However, I have no experience in cooking raccoon or opossum…sorry. ;)

    Oh! And I’m glad you caught the Beavis and Butthead reference. It goes to show all of the bloggers that you know good TV when you see it…lol! Speaking of good TV, what the hell happened to MTV?? I remember when it was good, Beavis and Butthead ruled and they actually played music videos! What happened?!? :D

  105. Nawty Molly says:

    As far as the cabin goes, we need to talk about it seriously if all of you are really interested. Weekends could work, but, I’ll have to have some notice. :)

  106. Nawty Molly says:

    Blog Gods ~ I really don’t mind anyone having my email if they are interested…share freely. :)

  107. Nawty Molly says:

    You just might have to wait a day or two for a reply since I don’t check it everyday. :)

  108. PhoneGuy says:

    I have my bf that I met on here and I am perfectly fine with that.

    I think I’m with JustAThoughtSD on this one. Very strange. Not judging…I just don’t understand what you are looking for and why you are doing what you are doing.

  109. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    blog gods pass along my email to nawty molly for cabin retreat in Upstate NY.

  110. Nawty Molly says:

    I guess I really need to go back to the beginning to figure out what all of you are talking about. I’m lazy and haven’t really caught up on the blog. I just post randomly..lol! :D

  111. Nawty Molly says:

    What is Twoo? do any of you know?

    I’ve also gotten email from people I don’t remember or know. I don’t care, but, it just drives me nuts that I don’t remember these people! LOL! If you email me, just tell me where and when we met, talked, and so on, this way it will ring a bell with me. :)

  112. SeekingGinger says:

    @EllenSugarB – If the penguin story interested you, there is a book you would like – “The Myth of Monogamy” by Barash and Lipton. You would also like “Why is Sex Fun” by Diamond.

    Evolution is driven by two forces – the need to eat, and sex. Working together they can produce some really weird creations. Humans – for example. Women hide ovulation. The males have gargantuan penises (ask any gorilla). The women have a second adulthood – the first is pre-menopause, the second post-menopause. The males engage in “sperm competition” (look it up). I could go on.

    Sugar Daddy Sugar Baby behavior is one of the consequences of our sexual programming.

  113. Nawty Molly says:

    What happened??? Did I scare everyone off?? :D

  114. Simplicity says:

    im still here

  115. NewSugarBabe says:

    Hi sugars!

    I started the sugar world recently. I have 2 sugar daddies who give me 500 each time we meet. So I make about 1K a month with sugar activities since I only meet them once a month.. Is that the norm? Am I doing all right? Just want a honest opinion.

  116. EllenSugarB says:

    Dirty, nasty, nasty, slutty whore (in the bedroom) also here. lol C’mon, if we just embrace our inner whore, then we take away the threat of the ‘slut’ label.

    So Molly, a while back with a past boyfriend I tried playing the dominant role (not my strong suit, but I’m open to new things) Well, much to my surprise, the guy REALLY liked it! Let’s just say it was a brief encounter. And, of course, I liked it because he was pleased. It was a little scary at first because I don’t take the upper hand in or out of the bedroom, but it ended up being really fun :)

  117. EllenSugarB says:

    Seeking Ginger, thank you for the recommendation of “Why Sex is Fun.” I wonder if the documentary on the discovery channel with the same title was based on the book? I did read “Guns Germs and Steel” by Diamond WAY back in ’06, and it’s still one of my favorite books. “The Myth of Monogamy” also sounds interesting, and the title itself speaks volumes.

    I brought up the penguin prostitutes in a futile attempt at humor during what seemed to be a tense conversation topic. The female penguins do a mating dance to trick the penguin males into giving them stones, then they run away with the stones….HA! Am I the ONLY one who thinks that penguin prostitution is funny? Eh, probably. I have a quirky sense of humor.

  118. VASD says:

    @Nawty Pecan and ‘Possum pie…sweet and savory all in one…now we’re talkin’.

    @Simplicity No, haven’t knowingly see your profile. I suppose you should see mine, too. Should advise you that I’m not actively in the market for a new SB (sorry to use the word ‘market’ for all the Ps and dead horses watching out there).
    You’re back in the DC area again now? Friendly SDs have been known to treat potential future SBs to drinks, lunches or dinners.

  119. VASD says:

    @Ellen SugarSB Penguine prostitution is indeed funny. If you’ve never seen it and penguin behavior is what floats your boat, punch “Monkey Penguin Joke” into YouTube and try not to blow milk out your nose…

  120. EllenSugarB says:

    Oh yeah, “Monkey Penguin Joke” was awesome. Thanks!

  121. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    I’m a big dirty nasty slutty whore and proud of it :-) :-)

  122. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    ….oh yeah….in the bedroom lololol

  123. VASD says:

    @BEB You can come to my house.

  124. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    @VASD Where do you live ;-)

  125. VASD says:

    As per my banter w @simplicity, I’m in and around Washington. gentrified, countrified, and deep fried.

  126. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    @VASD….and not in the market for a new SB…..*sigh*….if you should ever be…..you know where to find me :-)….can’t say I’ll be in and around Washington anytime soon :-(

  127. VASD says:

    @BEB Do I recall correctly you are in Canada?

  128. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    @VASD – indeed

  129. VASD says:

    Well, I get to Ottawa 4-6 times a year for work, and sometimes to Toronto or Montreal. Been known to have a ‘when in Canada’ SB…

  130. Simplicity says:

    VASD– You don’t have to be in the market,I just enjoy conversation with you. I am back home in Maryland, a friendly SD should let me know a place and time and I will be there.

  131. Blue Eyed Beauty says:

    @vasd let’s exchange info…

  132. EllenSugarB says:

    Flyr, is it true that you are a business school professor? If so, is there a specific area of business that you focus on? Just curious…

  133. ContentSB says:

    Where’s @VA Gent, @EnglishRose, @stormcat, and all those other great blog people??

  134. Kitty says:

    loves it

  135. Kitty says:

    loves it need 2 have one here in vegas

  136. VASD says:

    Blog gods, please share my info with Simplicity and Blue Eyed Beauty.

  137. Nawty Molly says:

    Hi All!! I’m in CT! It’s sooo peaceful here! However, my man and I have had a little tiff. Grrr…ANGRY!!

  138. Nawty Molly says:

    VASD ~ I thought you were the older gentleman who used to post here a while ago! I just assumed you changed your name! lol :)

  139. Suzyaq says:

    Hey all,

    I real new at this, just how often does a lady my age happen to be a college

    student, that just happens to have a strong sex drive and need the beneficial

    arrangement? Just asking because I wondering how lucky I will be for this

    awesome meeting. I have had a couple of gentleman interested, but crazy

    things like oh my finger accidentally typed 7,500 I meant 500. Or they live

    over a 100 miles away.

    The question is does this arrangement really happen?

  140. Simplicity says:

    Blog gods can you please send VASD my info. TY

  141. Tina says:

    @Nawty: BIG hug! Just think about the great make-up sex that is to come ;)

    @Content: I dunno, it’s like a whole new crew lately (which isn’t bad, enjoy the new and miss the old, ya know?)

  142. Midwest SB says:

    BEB, Simplicity and VASD – E-mails have been exchanged :-)

    Grad school starts tomorrow. Now that I’ve had the summer off, it might be a little difficult to get back into the groove. Needing some inspiration!

  143. Tina says:

    Sending inspirational vibes your way! :)

  144. FLFunSB says:

    “As the site says…no prostitutes allowed…can the moderators block prostitute TexasSB as this prostitute says all this site is prostitution and this prostitute has engaged with a SD from this site and therefore has admitted to being a prostitute. By virtue of being a prostitute, said prostitute’s membership must be revoked and said prostitute must be banned from this blog. Time to clean up this blog and remove all the dirty bad slutty whorish prostitutes. Can’t have prostitutes ruining the fun for the rest of us. Damn killjoy prostitutes.”

    ROTFLMAO, I have been off the blog way to long. That was an interesting catch up. Glad summer is over and I see a ton of new people on the blog. :-D

    I think they should have a East coast Party, hmmmm MIAMI maybe!

  145. flyr says:

    @ellenSugarB “So yes, little Texie needs a BIG HUG, and a smooch. *HUG* *SMOOCH*”

    It’s easy to become jaded and angry.

    Following on Ellen’s comments, it’s harder for a SB to confide in her friends that she flew to some distant city to meet a deadbeat dickhead in the pursuit of a sugar relationship.

    TexasSB you might want to share what happened …………. for others benefit and their wisdom

  146. flyr says:

    @EllenSugarB” is it true that there a specific area you focus on?


  147. JustAThought SD says:


    You said: I am in need of great penetration, but there are not many SD’s in my area that I personally find attractive (physically or mentally), maybe I am just too picky. I have had a couple of cases where there is great conversation, the guy looks nice in his pictures, but then when I meet him, he cant even talk to me, let alone maintain eye contact and to top it off the pictures are like 6 years old.

    Your response and the thread has inspired me to break this down and have a big smile on my face while doing it.

    ” I am in need of great penetration…when I meet him” The first part of this quote almost leaves me speechless as well. Luckily, I believe in cunning linguists, they usually offer the opportunity for me to give them a spirited tongue lashing.

    ” let alone maintain eye contact” Tempting talk, 37 inch legs, and bodacious ta-ta’s…you’re gonna have alot of guys either looking at the sky or at the depths giving thanks for being so lucky.

    “but there are not many SD’s in my area…maybe I am just too picky” Maybe you should ask TexasSB for the number of her bf, since he lives too far away and she isn’t really his girlfriend and he’s just someone that seems to treat her right and is a 36yo millionaire. ROTFLMAO.(Reminds me of the lottery winners that end up broke a year later.)

    “top it off the pictures are like 6 years old.” Heh, it may not be as horrible as you think. You know what some guys look like when they need a good woman somewhere in their life. Case in point, Brandon Wade before the super hot sb/gf/fiance/wife. (I think it happened in that order by the way. Congrats BW.) Be sure to pick up some gifts for yourself when you go shopping to get him straightened out.(Unless he’s stupid, you can’t fix stupid.)

  148. JustAThought SD says:


    The prostitute rant was “priceless.” :D

  149. JustAThought SD says:


    Simplicity and the 37 inch legs going to your house to hang out immediately reminded me of the badass lady spy in the movie Octopussy…but gentler. In fact, any girl over 5′ 9″ kinda gives me that wraparound vibe….but I’m rambling on again…

  150. JustAThought SD says:


    If he’s not your bf, you’re just using him, “riding the pony” for sport, or launching a golddigging campaign (all this defined by your own standards.) Which I personally don’t care, but you seemed to portray a “holier-than-thou” attitude when you called everyone else prostitutes for taking gifts from people with good intentions, not necessarily hourly intentions.

    This is makes you look like quite the “hypocrite.” Look it up if you don’t know what it means. As long as you’re doing what everyone else is doing, what makes you think you’re not included when you speak badly of them?

    Also, this post by you, “Like, they will only help you out if you have sex with them.” I would REALLY LOVE to know exactly what YOU specifically offer for someone to just walk up out of the blue and help you out. Of course, not everyone is awesome, but use your head, and stop complaining. I liked the cute, sweet, take-home-to-parents,non-condescending TexasSB much better. Tell her we miss her.

    Remember,entitled brats will get it hard in the end, one way or another.

  151. Simplicity says:

    JustAThought SD– LMAO, I love your breakdown, but I do not believe I would ever be interested in a guy who (no offense to Texassb) goes after pro’s. I must also add that I see you have been gracing my profile with your presence. The legs and the tata’s are here to stay so I guess I need a blind man to carry on conversation with so I can at least THINK he is looking me in the eyes.

    My dirty mind ran away with this one—Remember… get it hard in the end, one way or another.

  152. NC Gent says:

    Hello all — I don’t think the latter posts from Texas SB are from the same Texas SB that we knew earlier. If you look at the recent posts, they have the same “beat this dead horse” slant of another poster that recently stopped posting here…. Midwest SB subtly called the person out if you read carefully…. now any guesses on who the NEW Texas SB really was??!!!

  153. Sasha says:

    I have a question =) It may be off topic..Well it is LOL.

    Is it okay to send sexy,bikini,nude photos to a pot SD before you meet him?

    I just don’t feel comfortable with a guy that I haven’t formally met to ask me for photos like that..
    But at the same time I don’t want keep blowing up my chances.

    - Sasha

  154. Blue Eyes Beauty says:

    @NC Gent – Oh..Oh …Oh…pick me..pick me!!! *hand raised in the air*

    @JustaThoughtSD – Thank you…thank you :-) *bows*

    @Simplicity – Funny…smart….great tatas….37″ legs!!!! What’s not to like? I wish I was a sub SB to join in your fun :-)

    @Nawty – Ohhhhhh Noooooo…..please tell us everything worked out in the end……

    @Midwest SB-Did you get any back to school clothes :-)

    I’m basking in the sun on a pristine lake in Maine. Waiting for me on my bedside table was The Magic Wand. Ladies and Gents…no self respecting SB should leave home without ‘Wanda’. OMFG!!!!!!!!! *Gushes*

  155. NC Gent says:

    BEB — considered yourself “picked”!! Is Wanda any relation to BOB? lol

    Hey Molly — I hope everything worked out well with your man!

    Midwest SB — hope grad school goes well — I am hitting a couple of concerts in the coming weeks with my new favorite concert buddy :)

  156. Daniela/ Italianita says:

    Profile Number: 976738
    Hi all! NEW here! and just realizing there are ways to communicate in this community… I am going through and reading all the blogs, commenting on the interesting ones. I want to say that although i like going out in public, the most id feel comfortable with doing in the begining of a SD or SB relationship out in public is like going out to dinner maybe, idk if its just me but I like being in a more private setting like home or something lol to get to know each other. Oh and if the SD isnt verified should I worry? Or have most of u not had the chacne to verify??

  157. Blue Eyes Beauty says:

    @NC Gent – Who’s BOB? Do I need to meet him? Concert? What concerts?????

  158. Frank says:

    Just to let everyone know how naughty I am. I am married with a younger SB who I am intimate with and give her gifts. Have I broken all the rules?

  159. VASD says:

    @Frank You’re cool as long as there is no direct connection between the intimacy and the gifts. To keep that seperation, you might consider having your wife deliver the gifts.

  160. Simplicity says:

    Frank— Where is the naughty part of that statement??

    BEB– I can introduce you to a few BOB’s as I have many and cannot play with them all at one time. LOL

  161. Tina says:

    @VASD: you’re just naughty ;)

  162. VASD says:

    Wuuutt?? Nawty? MOI?

    What’s a BOB?

    Simplicity, you have mail.

  163. VASD says:

    Ahhhh…. Diligent research has answered my own question, fellas. BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend.

    Sometimes friendlier when operated on you by others.

    Any of you sugars know the Dresden Dolls song, ‘Coin Operated Boy’? Classic.

  164. Blue Eyes Beauty says:

    In that case, Wanda is the best BOB. Technically speaking however, Wanda plugs into the wall.

    @VASD – “@Frank You’re cool as long as there is no direct connection between the intimacy and the gifts. To keep that seperation, you might consider having your wife deliver the gifts.” Brilliant!!!! :-) :-)

  165. VASD says:

    Wanda–brought to you by Hitachi Power Tools.

  166. NC Gent says:

    Frank — priceless — just make sure the gifts, allowance, etc add up to less than what an escort costs because that is what ALL of us SDs are seeking!!! You can ask your wife to tally that up for you.

    BEB — I require no batteries or electricity :)

  167. ContentSB says:

    @BEB — So Wanda is the way to go??? It’s time to add another BOB…but I couldn’t decide if Wanda was too intense or not!

  168. Blue Eyes Beauty says:

    @ContentSB – Well Wanda did have me giggling in the end….but in a good way :-)

    @NC Gent – ‘fraid from you comment to Frank I can only assume I’m outta your league baby ;-)

  169. Tina says:

    @Content: the plug-ins are for those women that wear batteries out quickly, or need a little more intensity. Just sayin’. ;)

  170. Simplicity says:

    I personally have a box full of plug-ins. I’m very sexually demanding.

  171. ContentSB says:

    @Tina — Then plug-in is probably the way to go…I think the cashiers at Walgreens are getting suspicious of the ridiculous amount of batteries I buy lol :)

  172. Simplicity says:

    Welcome to the club Contentsb lol

  173. Tina says:

    I like the battery operated that are waterproof…….hehehehehe…….btw, go check out the new blog topic – SO many interesting lines to pull out….MWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

  174. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:


    Hitachi wanda IS very intense and it is TOO intense for me.

    It just makes me numb in 3 seconds and feels ridiculous (even though was friendly operated by on me by SD). (I honestly tried twice – can not stand it).

  175. PhoneGuy says:

    I bought my last GF a rechargeable vibrator by Lilo. No batteries and not tied to the wall. I’m sure it was her favorite thing I got her and probably the only thing I got her that she didn’t try to sell on craigslist. ;-)

  176. Tina says:

    @PhoneGuy: that last post was a little bit funny and a little bit sad :) :( The rechargeable ones don’t tend (usually) to be as strong as plug ins but as strong as battery operated. What can I say, I’m well read on vibrators ;)

  177. flyer says:

    Momentarily dragging the conversation away from things that go buzzzzzz in the night…………………

    !@Daniela “I want to say that although i like going out in public, the most id feel comfortable with doing in the begining of a SD or SB relationship out in public is like going out to dinner maybe, idk if its just me but I like being in a more private setting like home or something lol to get to know each other. Oh and if the SD isnt verified should I worry? Or have most of u not had the chacne to verify??”

    I think there is general agreement that a first meeting in public is a better idea than in private for your benefit, unless you are really confident that you know enough about the person. A little privacy helps and this is not always achievable in a hip restaurant where you may be seated close to your neighbors. In a coffee shop or wine bar you can move to another table for a better view etc. I miss the old Chinese restaurants in SF where they had booths with velvet drapes that closed to provide complete privacy. A word to the waitress whom you knew and you would not be bothered for a hour.

    An interesting option is the cafe at a great museum. You can have a glass of wine and talk in a classy environment and then wander, finding plenty of opportunities for private conversation or other communications.

    For a lot of us “verification” leaves a lot more tracks than we want to leave. You should be able to find your potential SD on the internet , if you can not find him then more research is essential. Most important is to be sensitive to any red flags you see or feel. If you are new to the big world, a quick read of The Gift of Fear is a good investment. But, this is supposed to be about fun. There’s a lot of great SB wisdom here.

    Are these gifts for sex………………. Of course not, the sex is from mutual attraction, the gifts are a sign of how much we appreciate not being nudged at 2am to hear ” Flyr, I’ve been thinking………………..” bur rather to hear the famous Bugs Bunny line “what’s up doc”

  178. ContentSB says:

    @ILWCG — That’s what I’m afraid of! I don’t want something so intense that it makes me temporarily numb. I’m pretty sensitive (too much information?? lol) but sometimes I wish my BOBs had a bit more kick to them. Such a hard decision lol :p

    @PhoneGuy & @Tina — I haven’t looked into rechargeable ones before…but I just might have to. I can’t wait to find a “grown up” job (or a SD…whichever comes first!) so I can have drawers full of fun toys and a lingerie collection as big as my everyday wardrobe!

  179. Midwest SB says:

    Evening sugars! A sleepless night is haunting me, but I just wanted to say “Thanks” for the inspiration!

    Re: BOB – The Rabbit is waterproof, cordless and the batteries do last for a reasonable time (AAs…so it’s less suspicious). Just make sure he doesn’t intimidate BF/j SD!

  180. Tina says:

    @Midwest: agreed! The Rabbit is pretty dang awesome! And @Content: I’m also, er, sensitive, so this one has just the right kick (a low and high speed setting for the vibration, and you can have the rotation go clockwise or counter) PLUS it’s waterproof. And, like Midwest said, it takes AA so no worries on the amount of batteries. If they ask, just say “whew, I wish my digital camera didn’t eat batteries all the time!” hehehehehehe

  181. Nawty Molly says:

    Hi All!! Everything turned out fine with my man and I…I just had to put him in his place…Nawty style! Hehehehe.. ;)

  182. Nawty Molly says:

    I have a set of four BOB’s that are pink and for the life of me, I can’t remember the name of the company that makes them, but, they are pretty high end. My man got them for me. One is shaped like a tongue, it’s my fav! They have different speeds and will send waves of vibrations if you want it to…they’re the best things ever!! ;)

  183. Tina says:

    Whips and chains excite me…..teehee….

  184. Nawty Molly says:

    Oh Tina, you are my Rihanna..lol! ;)

  185. Blue Eyes Beauty says:

    @Lelo makes great BOBs :-)

  186. ContentSB says:

    Re: Rabbit — Ahhh yes, I’m well acquainted with mine lol ;)

  187. JustAThought SD says:

    @All buzzing BOB ladies:

    I found this gem that is rechargeable, waterproof, gives you a workout, and has a ton of great features. Very limited quantities though. I saw one that would be just right for all of you, but alas it’s not on the market at the moment. Here’s the info from the website:

    “Why get a BOB when you can get a ROD?” Brought to you by the makers of the Y-chromosome, it’s “The Amazing Fun Wand!”

    This creative,customized, workout device will plug right into any of your sockets and female connectors. It can be used in a manner similar to a “shake weight” if you are unsure of plug-in intensity. “Shake weight” mode comes with a refreshing mist feature at the end of the workout. Or if you’d like a slower cool down, “plug-in” mode comes with an end of workout cuddle feature, unless you select the “can you get me a sandwich” option. Check out some of these other great features:

    Waterproof – Even though it’s waterproof, you may still receive quite the shock. Built for all the bathtub fun you can stand.

    Self-charging – Forget the wires and batteries. Also, operates flawlessly in all international hotels, no matter how old the available wiring system.

    Voice Activation – You can now turn it on, not only by pushing the button, but by using any one of several phrases. Included are some old favorites such as “Hello.” and “I’ve been bad.”

    Variable Intensity – Be amazed and surprised by your workouts. Imagine random intensity and workout duration. You never know when it’s going to be a light jog or the workout you’ll call your chiropractor about.

    Variable Speeds – Also,controlled by simple voice commands, such as “Faster”, “Slow down, I need a sec”, and “Ooh,Right there”.

    Random Coaching – Programmed with several various words of encouragement for only a semi-predictable group of coaching phrases. Included are such high-scorers as “YOU ARE THE BEST”,”HELL YEAH”, and “YEEEEEE-HAWWWWW”.

    Don’t be that last on your block to get into the best shape of your life by using this amazing device. Get the AMAZING FUN WAND now!

  188. Blue Eyes Beauty says:

    @Just a Thought SD – Very funny!!! :-P

  189. JustAThought SD says:

    I remember much of your profile from when you originally asked ppl to look it over and the first set of changes you made. Certain things *AHEM* stood out. ;) I check it out from time to time to look for changes, but you seem to be getting the responses you want. (Riiiiiiiight, you know I’m waiting for the leg shot to go public. I am really that transparent aren’t I ?)

  190. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:


    How much is the shipping ? :)))

  191. Simplicity says:

    JustAThought SD– You are very much so. Ask VASD about the legs he saw them today in heels. Just as you are waiting to find out what my legs look like I am waiting to find out what you look like. Give and Take fine sir. Give and Take….

  192. SB Advice Needed Plz !!! says:

    1152288 – profile # I am 22 I am 5-5 106 lbs I’m intelligent in the sense I’m into animal and environmental rights as well as editorial journalism I love learning about different cultures of the world I’m educated and intense with commonsense I am articulate and carry myself always professionally one problem I’ve found when looking for SD profiles ….. No one wants a black girl ?!?!? I am originally from NYC I live in Miami Beach now I’m racially open and actual prefer dating outside my race and have been successful in my personal life but this site seems like it may be a different story ….. Advice please on how to keep it classy and get noticed and what exactly should I put into my profile ? I refuse to put up half naked photos of me that’s just not me and personally feel they need to earn me to see any skin …. All advice welcomed please email me if anything .

  193. JustAThought SD says:

    I’ll just have to wait for the hit tv movie. :( As I’m still off the market, I’m keeping a very low profile.

  194. JustAThought SD says:


    Look back at some of the posts from the past few months. There’s a bunch of good info in there. This is a subject that gets touched on almost EVERY month. Go back and get that info, brush up your profile, and then ask again for someone to look it over when you get done tweaking. Keep working at it, and remember, no whining.

  195. Seriously says:

    Wow looks like someone got ganged up on Highschool style! Really why are you guys attacking Texas? If she wants to have a rich BF, Sugardaddy, Boy Toy and Manslave all at the same time that’s her perogative.Im surprised. Especially considering the amount of married SDs. Go ahead girl. Just make sure you treat him right sounds like a good man and that he cares about you. Your better off telling him you wanna take it slow and looking like a nice honest girl.Then him finding out and being heartbroken thinking your a hungry hoe.
    Side note: Wish I can warn the men of the catty hungry hoes on im noticing on this blog. Oh well

  196. JustAThought SD says:


    It wasn’t the idea of her wanting the boytoy, it was when she implied that everyone here is a “whore” or a “john”. Which one are you?

  197. EllenSugarB says:

    Did my posts get deleted?

  198. Seriously says:

    Neither. I’m a pimp with a pussy ;)

  199. mia says:

    i am new here i would love to get some recommendation