The news on college affordability isn’t good – in fact, 2009 prepares to be one of the worst years to date for federal financial aid and student loan generosity.
While many Sugar Babies are in school, there are plenty SB’s who dip into the sugar bowl for other reasons.
One memorable quote of late: “love’s great, but sugar pays the bills”
With Sugar Daddy dating, spoiling is, and always should be, a two-way street:
“Most people understand that gift-giving is an art requiring a certain degree of thought and knowledge of the recipient’s taste, likes and dislikes. But receiving is also an art, perhaps even more difficult. Since a big part of a Sugar relationship is about giving and receiving – tangible as well as intangible gifts – it’s a good idea to look at your attitudes in this area.
Some Sugar Babies tend to be overly grateful for Sugar Daddy’s beneficence. If a girl isn’t used to being with guys who have the wherewithal and desire to buy her gifts and take her to pricey restaurants, she’ll have to learn to accept Sugar Daddy’s generosity with charm and grace. She should never say, “Oh, you shouldn’t have,” or “You’re too good to me,” or, worst of all, “I don’t deserve this.”
Listen up, Sugar Babes: You do deserve it! That’s what a Sugar Baby is for-to be adored and pampered and coddled and given to. Phony self-deprecation can come off as a lack of gratitude, and that’s a real turn-off to a generous Daddy. Besides, when a Sugar Baby doesn’t have to worry about money and struggle to pay the bills, her time and attention are freed up for her Daddy – which is the whole point! I’m not saying Sugar Babies sit home preening and making themselves beautiful for their Daddies all day long; hopefully they’re pursuing their own goals, whether that’s school or art or auditions or starting a business. But the Sugar Baby part of her life is work, even if she enjoys it; who says you have to hate your job? She should be well-paid.
Ironically, some savvy Daddies are more cognizant of this than Babies. The classic classy Sugar Daddy showers his Sugar Baby with gifts and pays for necessities not because he has to, but because he wants to. Making her life easier and more pleasant gives him a feeling of accomplishment. He likes being magnanimous, or else he wouldn’t be doing the Sugar thing in the first place. Taking care of a Sugar Baby brings him joy – but if she keeps insisting she doesn’t deserve it, he might just start to believe her!
One Sugar Baby was reluctant to suggest expensive activities. She suffered from an overriding sense that, since he paid for everything, only he had the right to choose how they spent time and money. Once, when they were in the Caribbean, she was dying to rent a yacht and go island hopping, but he nixed the idea. In the face of his resistance she backed off, thinking “well, after all, it is his money.”
When they got home, he told her he regretted not having done what she wanted. He said her ideas always turned out to be great fun, and his resistance was just a curmudgeonly habit left over from his marriage to a mercenary wife. Not only did he make it up to her by taking her island hopping – he went out and bought a yacht!”
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