So, there’s this book out–you may have heard of it. It’s essentially about a Sugar Daddy and a Sugar Baby who fall in love. Oh, and there is a ton of “kinky fuckery” along the way. If you have read ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’, you must have guessed this post was coming. After all, Christian Grey is the most wanted man in America. He’s a successful, wealthy, attractive man who is looking for a special arrangement. He is just looking for a beautiful girl to spoil and pamper, preferably one who can keep up with his lifestyle. And he has the means and know how to make sure it’s worthwhile for everyone involved. Sound familiar?
Though E. L. James never actually calls him a Sugar Daddy in the book, that’s exactly what it sounds like to me. Every Sugar Daddy has his own terms to negotiate, though Christian’s are much more sexual, and explicitly outlined in a formal contract that spans several pages. To say he is emotionally scarred is an understatement–he definitely has a few mommy issues that lend to his sexual tendencies. But his unwavering generosity, assumed good looks and kinky sexual preferences are leaving women across America panting at the turn of every page. He makes a “non-disclosure agreement” sound sexy, and you would be hard-pressed to find any girl who wouldn’t sign his contract.
Thanks to the exploits of Christian Grey, the Sugar Daddy has become the new leading man. It’s the “Fairy Tale” effect all over again. “When will my Prince Charming come and save me from my life of mediocrity?” Eventually, these disgruntled housewives and twenty-somethings will finish the book and chalk it up as another fantasy that will never come true. While those who are wise enough to call it what it really is, will be laughing all the way to the bedroom.
Christian Grey may be a character in a book, but living out that fantasy is a reality far easier to attain than anything Disney could ever whip up (or adapt) — give or take a few whips and chains (if that’s not your thing). So what are your hard limits?
Have any of your arrangements mimicked “Fifty Shades”?
How open are you to these types of relationships?
Does the Dominant-Submissive arrangement appeal to you?