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Questions every SB should ask
  • Posted Aug 30, 2010
  • Written by SD Guru

One of the most common problem I found with newbie SB’s is that they are not clear about what kind of sugar they’re looking for and what they’re able to offer in return. As the saying goes, if you don’t know what you’re looking for, then you probably won’t be able to find it.

Every newbie SB should be able to answer 3 simple questions about herself:

(1) Why have you chosen to pursue a sugar relationship instead of a traditional relationship? (saying I saw it on Tyra doesn’t count!)

(2) What would you like your SD to provide for you? (don’t say “show me the money!”)

and most importantly,

(3) What can you offer in return? (think about what sets you apart from other SB’s).

Once you have a clear understanding of how to answer these 3 questions and can articulate it to pot SD’s, then you’re well on your way to finding what you’re looking for.

First two questions every newbie SB should ask her pot SD:

Question #1 – Why do you want to be a SD?

How sugar dating differs from regular dating is the “sugar” aspect of the
relationship. After all, people are looking for a SD or SB for a reason, otherwise they should be on regular dating sites. Find out what that reason is and see if you have similar views and expectations.

Question #2 – What’s been your experience with this type of relationship?

If the answer to #2 is “none”, then ask “How do you envision this
type of relationship to work?”

Newbie SB’s should determine whether it’s a good idea to get involved with a newbie SD. IMO at least one of the parties should be experienced in order to have a better chance for success.

If the answer to #2 is “experienced”, then ask “What kind of arrangement did you have with your previous SB?”

There is no need to go into the specifics initially, but you should get a general idea of what was involved to see if it’s similar to your expectations.

When to bring up the topic of sugar?

As previously discussed, a sugar relationship could be whatever two people can agree on as long as the sugar brings “value” to both parties. As to when to bring this up, I don’t think there is anything wrong with asking about sugar early in the process by either the SD or SB. Unlike normal dating, you shouldn’t leave things open ended and see what happens, otherwise the process could drag on without any tangible results. If there is no travel involved, maybe you can discuss sugar when you meet in person. But if there is travel involved, then you should have a clear understanding of what each other’s expectations are before making travel arrangements.

I understand some people may misrepresent themselves, so there is an issue of trust and respect as well. Do you think the pot you’re talking to can be trusted and has respect for you? That’s a judgment call each person will have to decide for themselves.

-SD Guru


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8 Responses to “Questions every SB should ask”

  1. Lindsey says:

    I’m new to this. Are sugar daddy’s all looking for sex? How does this work?

  2. Candi says:

    From my experience not all of them want sex. Most of them look for companionship. I just want to say I hope everyone get their SD/sm/sb.

  3. the current topic is the friends with benefits, i recommend reading there – also read the dating tips down at the bottom of the sidebar, tons of good info there…

  4. Vera baby says:

    kind of interesting for me to give it a try! why not? I’m legally single and maybe missing out the true meaning of life!

  5. Veronica says:

    I was just wondering if anyone out there could tell me how you receive your monthly allowance I am new to this and don’t know how it works!

  6. SugarMac says:

    ALL SDs are looking for sex unless they are impotent -period ! (all = 98.6%)
    That is not to say that the other benefits aren’t important as well .

  7. Violet39 says:

    How do I attract more SD’s. Any suggestions? I am 39 and should I try another site? I’m thinking most men want younger. If they live out of state & they come visit, would I hold out for sex because they just might one time sex, but on the other hand if they travel to see me they might be mad that they didn’t get any.

  8. Va Gentleman says:

    Violet –It is very difficult to date out of town . This type of dating is a sped up version of “regular” dating and if you want to connect with a pot SD you need to establish that bond right away. I expect a pot SB to sleep with me if we like each other at that first visit . We are all grownups and we both know why we are there . If you play hard to get then the pot is likely to move on to the next SB on his list . That is not to say you shouldn’t interact by text ,email, and phone prior to traveling to the meet . You should have an idea of that guy’s appeal to you from his profile, pictures,and the above .

    My own dear precious SB and I talked and wrote back and forth for several weeksso I felt like we already had a connection when we met , and we fell into each other’s arms ,made love all night long and haven’t looked back since.

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