Share your tale of Sugar Daddy horror and help current and aspiring sugars from falling into a sour trap from Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby fakes!
Fortunately no. I’ve only met 4 guys. One was a coffee date only, 2 took me shopping on the first meeting, one turned into a month long arangement so so far all have seemed legit
I had one took me to a dinner date and never called me back or email me back.another kept emailing me back and forth,but I guess he gotten sick and tired of it.another two blah.one has been and still is wonderful,he turned from sd into b/f.
Hi Jasmine wow the gloomy potentially stormy day here turned sunny. I was a little reluctant when I went out walking to the store with my parents but the rain hasn’t came.
Its raining over here.I hate rain! I’m just happy its not going rain tomorrow on my bday.
I have seen some make attempted scams. In other words, send me cash to my paypal before we ever meet just so I know you are real. And the very first person I messaged with on this site asked me to paypal her funds to pay her electricity bill before she had power shut off. Of course I just don’t fall for that kind of thing. I’m sure others have seen worse.
Well I heard from the potential sd 1, the one that has been dragging me along. The one that had the accident. Turned out he was driving drunk. I sent him a nice email back saying thank God you didn’t injure any innocent people, just yourself. I was blunt but I’m not much for careless people. I dont’ really care as he doesnt seem to want to actually meet.
He hasn’t wrote back. Still waiting for an email from pot sd 2, guess he hasn’t got a chance yet to email from work. I am waiting to see if he actually calls me tonight.
ahh.. didn’t even notice the new blog I was left there all by my lonesome thanks guys
Welcome to the new topic Kitty
Hello kitty good afternoon.
thanks Lisa! I am glad to see you back on the blog! And even bvetter, you’ve got 2 pots!
yes but the first is the same guy who stood me up last august
2nd one is in the emailing process, supposed to call me tonight, but he lives in a little bitty town in another state with no airlines.
Even though it’s an itty bitty town, I am sure he’s got a car that he car drive to the airport to!
But he is married and the nearest airport I would say is a couple hundred miles. Then to catch a flight and to turn around and do the same thing would be time consuming. He lives about 600 miles from me so straight driving would take too long. I asked him if he ever came to Houston and he said no and named some towns he traveled to on business in his state, and I had only heard of one of the them and then again it doesn’t have an airport. It’s 150 miles from here. I just worry about meeting someone from so far away as what do I do if we meet and he gives me a creepy feeling and I want to end the date? I would feel bad after someone traveled so far to meet me, if they are local, they can just go back home or whatever, but if he’s in my town and isn’t at all famililar with it, what do I do?
lol make him work for it, make him come to you. I am guilty of just traveling to my pot SDs. (many times without travel money in return) But I enjoy it
I love traveling but it’s not an option and he must come to me. I have asked him questions but as I said he does’t seem to travel to Houston. I have left out all negatives in my profile so he has no idea that I have no car and can’t meet on weekends. I have still not heard from him today but he is another one of those businessmen who dont’ have a computer, alot of people on the blog seem to think it’s perfectly normal for a businessman to have no computer, except in the office. Anyway he is supposed to call tonight sometime.
I was in CVS this afternoon and thought it would be nice to buy Lisa a little refill on her pre-pay cell phone.
So I figured I could buy the card and maybe post the refill number right here or something and it probably wouldn’t get stolen before she used it. But I don’t know the carrier and also I figured if I posted with my blackberry, it would never get answered in time before I left the store.
Well, how about next time?
Good afternoon NitemareSD nice to see you on the blog
My carrier is Virgin Mobile. Funny there is a CVS down the street from me and I didn’t see you there today, lol
Hey sugars I shall be right back,I have to run to store for milk,but I’m leaving bb behind,don’t want it to get soaked,but I’m about to though. Ughh…I hate rain!
Jasmine I think you took our rain today. Thanks for doing that, saved my day.
Good evening sugars,
Nice topic on which I have some shocking news, but I will keep it packed in tasteful wording.
A beautiful blond from Dallas chose me for a husband within three e-mails.
Then she pretended to work in Dubai.
From Dubai she was rushing to Africa to convert the heathens in Nigeria.
Next urgent mail was send me shiploads of sugar by way of Western Union
to Abidjan in Nigeria. By the way that person is still a member.
Next one I bumped into (or rather she bumped into me) was a girl pretending never to have had any activities between the sheets. Her purity is for grabs against a hundred K. I had rather go for that pink Bentley Coupe’ and have some cash left driving to the Riviera, I mused.
Then the one who stood me up. Why anybody would do so is beyond my comprehension. Different sort of humour I suppose.
It reminds me of that bundle “Tales from the Unexpected” by Edgar Allen Poe. He is still one of my favourite authors.
Going down to the mall now for a while till my daughter gets off work. Be back later this evening.
Henri: the VirginityETF only trades at about $1,500 a share these days. And I hear they may consider a rights offering to raise capital for girls attempting to make it to 18.
Lisa, how ironic since you are neither a virgin nor especially mobile, in the modern technological sense of the word. But I will remember for next time.
The truth is I wasn’t down the street. There is another store near here with the exact same name. I had to play SugarParent to a couple teenage girls who needed pepto bismol for a science experiment. Tomorrow they have a cooking assignment, so the left over is unlikely to be wasted.
I have had several SDs tell me to reserve certain dates for them in a different city than the one I live in, assuring me that they are making travel arrangements for me. Only then they disappear…almost like their sole object was to get me to agree!!
But I’m not complaining…I have met a few wonderful potential SDs that have traveled to see ME!! I am much more comfortable on my home turf, and I think that a great SD can figure that out from our conversations.
Hey. Anybody home?
Hello All,I’ve been doing my research on different “Sugar Daddy” sites because I DONT want to get SCAMMED or taken advantage of,which is the reason I’m turning to the Sugar Daddy sites anyway! I have been LEACHED ONTO&USED UP by guys for MY FINANCES so now that I’m drained,basically,I need a REAL MAN not a FAKE BOY to finally help me out while having fun enjoying life at the same time!So this blog should help educate me further on the PITFALLS to watchout for,so please keep the info coming.PS is there anyway to add a pic to your profile from my iPhone?
I’ve not been a victim of scammers, but there have been plenty of attempts. I think the same general rules apply here as in most situations –
* If it sounds too good to be true, it likely is.
* Don’t get caught up in a frenzied rush and allow your emotional high/adrenalin rush to cause you to agree to do anything until you are comfortable doing so. It’s still a good idea to “sleep on it” when it comes to some decisions (no pun intended).
* Don’t give out phone numbers, etc. until you are completely comfortable doing so. There are still plenty of ways to communicate without giving out phone numbers.
* Genuine SDs will have the best interest of the SB in mind and will be understanding of your cautiousness
* Genuine SBs will be understanding of the SDs position and need for discretion.
* Because of a handful of screwballs that make it hard for the rest of us, the SD but may be suspicious of being treated like an ATM until teh SB proves otherwise. Conversely, the SB may be suspicious of the genuiness of the SD until he proves he is for real.
SE, very valid points; in fact, the last one sets off sirens in my head! My SDs will work harder to prove their authenticity to me than at every job they’ve had COMBINED. *ahem* I’m gonna sit down and take more notes now…
Back from the mall. No message back yet from sd 1 or sd 2.
Maybe I scared off the sd 1 because when he said that accident he had last time he bailed on me he was driving drunk. I said than God you only hurt yourself and not some innocent person. I have to respect for people who drive drunk.
Disappointed that I have not heard from sd 2 but he hasn’t been online today, not sure if he even got my phone number to call yet.
edit I have NO respect, not to respect
Hi everyone. Wow been a long time sence I posted here. I missed to much Between work and moving into my new house, just have not had the time to spare here in sugar world. Hope everyone is doing well and have had some luck in their searches.
As for the topic. Just know what you want. Never compromise your position or safety. Meet in a public place. A real Sd will be happy to address your concerns, as SE said.
I think SA makes a real effort to protect SDs from scaming people.
I had a northern european try one on me. She bought a ticket to visit me for a very high price. We had discussed and specifically identified flights for about 1/3 the price, however, we were out of touch for a few days and she used the opportunity to assume I had “approved” both the idea she go ahead and the price.
Actually, what she did was for several days she pretended she was going to buy the lower price ticket but never did. Then she said she wanted to work out some details before buying a ticket. She knew I was going out of the country and my phone wouldn’t work. So she waited until I couldn’t communicate to send the messages that she was going to and then had bought the ticket. Those were followed by threatening and nasty messages designed I suppose to “scare” me into sending her the money.
With a little simple research I found that her plane fare was fully refundable, so I guess the idea was she’d get some money and refund the ticket – all with the pretense I was the bad guy.
I put together the communications and the links to the airline site showing the refundable fare and SA banned her with about 48hrs – much less I think.
It was all rather silly and poorly executed on her part, but its a little different than the usual ‘send me money so I can pay my gas bill and then I’ll be relaxed enough to make plans to meet you’ deal.
Good evening everyone. Hi Nitemare
Welcome back sweetredhead, we missed you
I just talked with sd 2. He seems very nice, we just talked lightly, no discussion of arrangement. However when he found out I didn’t have a car and couldn’t meet him in a specific city, well he said he would have to think about it, so i’m in limbo.
That is really sad to hear. It gives real Sb’s a bad rap and the same goes for Sd’s. WE should not have to “test” each other.
I personally like to talk to the person I am going to meet a few times to get a “feel” for that person. Do we have chemistry can we laugh together, Do we have thing in common to talk about. I don’t thing anyone has to “prove” themselves before they meet IE.. money. Do you buy a car site un seen? Make a business investment without checking it out first? Then why should this be any different.
I think you must have chemistry and be compatible before you can even agree to an arrangement.
Hi Lisa I missed you too! Glad to see you have a few pot to look into. Keep up the positive attitude, I know the right one is out there for you.
hey all! will reply to the new topic maybe later.
just wanted to drop in again and say hi. i’ve decided to put my business on hold as it’s getting in the way of me getting a regular job and i need that regular job so i can get a car and have extra money for my business. soooo i’ll probably be on the blog a little more now than i have been lately!
still no word from my SD today; didn’t have time to call his cell though and not really sure wether or not I even should??? The last email I got from him was on 3/25. He said he missed talking to me but had things going on at home and several deadlines at work but was supposed to email me again the next day but nothing since!
I was stupid enough to believe a guy who said he would wire me my allowance. He raised about a million reg flags from his appearance to his demure that exuded a sort of desperation. When I look back on how he took advantage of me I ask myself how a woman with a college degree who grew up in a city all her life could be conned by such a jerk.
The moral of this story is to never let greed or desperation get in the way of your common sense. I wanted to believe him so badly at the time because I really needed the money, but it clouded my judgment. Now, no matter what a guy offers me or how legit he seems, I never take my chances.
My heart goes out to all the girls who have gotten beaten up or killed by monsters they meet on the internet. It is important for girls to always put themselves first and protect themselves from harmful predators. Be careful ladies!
well I think I scared the 1st one off when I said I was glad he didn’t harm an innocent person with his drunk driving wreck last august.
the second was is nice but lives in a little town in the next state, with no commecial airport and about 600 miles from me. He seldom comes to my city and was expecting that I would meet him in the city 150 miles away that has no airport, only accessible by car. I hope we can meet but he seemed disappointed I didn’t have a car
wow the house is full of sbs tonight!
Sorry to hear about your experience JJ that’s why I would never get involved with a sd until I saw some spoiling or allowance. If a guy loses a few dollars, it’s just money and if he’s rich, he’s got plenty, when a lady is used it leaves an uneasy feeling that is not easy to forget.
uh oh Did I scare everyone away?
JJ, I agree how desperation tends to cloud ones judgement…
which leads me to my reply to the blog topic….
my very first pot contact threw up red flag after red flag but thankfully everyone here pointed them all out to me. he made tons of money but wanted to put me on a greyhound bus for 10 hours or so instead of flying me out or coming here to meet me. long story short, he ceased contact after asking for nudes and i told him to ask me again AFTER we met!
That’s the biggest mistake I think an Sb can make is “needing the money” I understand the need, but this can not be your sole source of income. IMO to make this type of relationship work is to not depend on an SD or Sb to make you happy or support you. This has to be something YOU WANT and he wants. Not something you NEED.
I need a versace handbag, I really do lol
I feel like my stomach dropped since talking to my potential sd on the phone. It was a very nice call but when he found out I didn’t have a car to meet him, well that kinda complicated things. I guess I need to go back to my profile and put that back in. It has to come out eventually anyway and is better than getting my hopes up.
Do you have a drivers license? Could he rent you a car?
If he really wants to work it out, he can arrange to have you picked up at the airport, or pick you up himself. There is always a way. You can suggest it, maybe he hasn’t thought of it.
I have never driven, no driver’s license, just state Id
There is always a fly in the ointment for me. He’ good looking, married so no danger of wanting a ltr, and we had a good talk but he never travels here.
There is no airport in the town he wants to meet, it’s a small town only a regional airport, same as the town he lives in. I already researched it last night.
When I flew to Kansas, the army base was so far out of the town there was a small airport there. I had to take a commercial flight then take a small plain to the little airport. I am sure they have that available.
I really don’t know anything about his state, just what I googled. He lives in a town of 2500 people, no airport. The town he wants to meet in has some nightlife and stuff he says but again no airport. People in Houston go to this place, my uncle used to but you have to drive there. It’s about a 3 hour drive
Ok then have him pay for a car to transport you lmao. I give up….
I am all for that but I doubt he is going to go to all that trouble and anyway that would probably take all of his budget. He is married so I doubt he can get away with all that, and besides he wants to see someone every week. It’s not up to me, it’s up to him and I didn’t hear him say he was going to come see me, so I don’t know of any options. I guesss I could suggest he send a car for me but then again would I want to get into a car with someone I didn’t know, without it was a taxi, and really he would probably think that was enough money spent. lol
I think I need to put in my profile that I can not travel. I keep getting messages asking me to travel. I have a job, I just can’t take off and fly somewhere. I have open weekends, but during the week I work. These men want a smart, independent lady. What do they think we sit around all day sipping wine, making ourselves beautiful waiting for them to contact us? I don’t have the time for that. I work, I am lucky I get 1/2 hour to get myself ready in the morning and out of the house to work. I do have 2 children (teens) To drag out of bed too lol
I will send him an email suggesting it but how do I go about asking him to rent a car to take me to this particular place to meet him? It would be easier for him to just find someone who can meet him without it being a hassle to him.
How should I bring up this in the email?
I was going to just lurk and take notes, but JJ’s experience opened my eyes a wee bit wider. I’m not desperate (ahh, nothing like earning my own $), but very uhh…guarded. I want financial records, references from previous SBs (if applicable), proof positive PERIOD. The fewer headaches, the better! I put up with a lion’s share of BS for free [yes I know: insert "who hasn't?" here]…*ahem* Carry on.
I have in my profile that I can’t travel and that they must come to me. But I don’t think these sds read our profiles. I agree though that they say they don’t want an unemployed lazy woman that sits around all the time but at the same time they expect us to be able to jump up and travel at moments’ notice. They are the sds, we are the hard working sbs that don’t have the freedom to travel all the time.
raine, lmao that is a bit much to ask, especially if they do not know you. How do they know they can trust YOU?
Good evening everyone…long time!
I’ve had a busy week…don’t know where the time has gone. How is everyone tonight?
I think it would be in good faith for a potential sd to put something forth first to show his is legit. That would keep the fakes away as they couldn’t afford it or would not do it to many people. What is a few hundred to a rich man? On the other hand when the sb takes the first step and meets the sds expectations, she stands at risk of being used. Of being violated by a game player. Sex and intimacy is just so much more deep that a few hundred dollars.
All of the sbs are in the house tonight
Hi suzieQ , how is everything with you this wonderful evening?
sweetredhead: I’m afraid travel isn’t an option for me, either. Still on the fence on adding same to my profile, though. That’s what, all but six of my faves out the window? I’d better take a breather, because now this is becoming a chore…
Must be a slow night for all of us lol
Things are fabulous for me, as always. Thanks for asking! I have just a couple of little jobs to finish up tonight so I figured I’d multitask at the computer and say hello to everyone. Nice to be back
it’s just sad but good to see some familiar faces back on the blog.
I’m just feeling a little let down. I had hopes for this sd and I enjoyed talking to him but the distance thing. Why can’t he live in my state or at least somewhere where he could fly to see me? I forget how it is living in a little town, no airplanes, trains, buses, nothing
Raine when it becomes a chore you need to take a break. This is suppose to be fun, when it’s not. It’s time to walk away and start again with a fresh outlook It’s not easy to find the right person and you have to kiss alot of frogs. But in the end when you do find that person, it can be a wonderful experience. I have been very lucky to meet very nice men. But I am picky, I never settle and I am very straight forward. I know what I am looking for, they either have it or they don’t. I don’t play games or try and be something I am not.
Writing my studio newsletter…..catching up with my bookkeeper, writing out choreography notes…never boring around here!
I am always multi tasking lol. I don’t think half the time I even relize I am doing it. Its just a natural thing for me lol
Hey Lisa, just think of it this way….every pot sd that doesn’t pan out brings you one step closer to the perfect one. Try to stay positive and you will draw him to you like a magnet!
I’m multitasking too I’m breathing, digesting, circulating, seeing, hearing, touching, smelling, etc and typing on the keyboard
Yep, multitasking is my middle name. My name is SuzieQ and I’m a multitaskaholic lol!
I know it’s a bit much (half joking-heh), but I don’t want any trouble. I may have to work harder to earn an SD’s trust than everyone in here combined. Bad enough I’m advertising my newness here…I can’t.
Raine there really are some very real SD’s here. And yes some creeps and fakes. But they are not hard to weed out. Just be who you are I suggest talking to the m first, IMO if they really want to get to know you they will be willing to get to know you online before meeting you. This way you can see what their personality is like and what they are really looking for.
the guy I just talked sounded very sweet. But he let me do most of the talking and the call was kind of short because he was at home.
Good evening folks! How is everyone this fine Tuesday evening?
I think we need a multitaskaholic support group lmao
Good evening SuthrnExec, it’s a full house tonight
Good evening SuthrnExec , long time not see. how are you?
The MSG group!
You not see because you not look!
I’m fine – how’s the job and house??
NitemareSD, Gail, SweetEuropean, Jasmine, etc, etc where are you all, come out from lurking
Hey Lisa! So he called – cool! He probably call again now that he has “broken the ice” with you.
SuthrnExec, that sounds like a support group for those who’ve encountered a bad chinese buffet lol!
darn i’m getting m o d
The job is going well. I LOVE my new house. Thanks for asking
Very true I am the one not looking I have not even read the blog in ages.
Lisa, Sounds like you have found a pot sd for your week off?
SweetRed, there’s been a flurry of posts and topics – it will take you days to catch-up.
M o D wont let me post
Darn I can’t post anything and I am trying to answer everyone but can’t
SuthrnExec lmao give me the short version. I don’t have the time to read it all. I am not even going to try.
that stinks I don’t understand the whole M o D I got hit up on that the other day it is annoying
no he’s not meeting me this week.
anyway distance is an issue as I mentioned last night
He seemed shocked I didn’t have a car to drive to meet him 150 miles
Hi everyone…I had a story…but it awaiting approval:)
^A shame, really: not even three weeks in and it’s tiresome…
Hi Gail…awaiting approval? From whom?
I am meeting my SD soon I am very excited. Really looking forward to it.
please M O D S, let us post,
That stinks Lisa
Hi, Sugarbabytoday and Gail. [Dang, the troopers are out tonight, and it's only Tuesday!]
SweetRed, nothing has been posted you didn’t already know, so no need to read…
SweetRed, that is exciting! I am meeting my pot sd in less than 2 weeks…can’t wait!
Hi Gail, How are this wonderful evening?
but I can’t even get a boyfriend because I dont’ have a car. In Houston you’re trash if you don’t have a car. Its ok to have lots of people piled up in a tiny apartment and have 3 cars but dont’ dare have your own place and no car. Personally I would rather have my own place than live with my parents and have a car. lol
Hi all sugars!!!
SuzieQ~ that is sooo cool for you
SRH~ cool for you too
That’s great suzieQ hope it goes really well. I know mine will, He is a really great person. Feel like I already know him and him me
Alicia~ did you really live out here????
Hey raine! Lisa that stinks that is how the judge people out there…
Thanks SE glad i didn’t miss anything important lol
Hi, BG. How’s your evening holding up?
Thanks gals, I am hopeful it will go well. So far he has behaved like a real class act, everything has checked out, and all my safety bases are well-covered. All that’s left now is the chemistry…
When I was doing regular dating I asked the divorced men I met that though I was weird for not driving if that was what broke up their marriage. most often driving had nothing to do with the divorce, lol
So anything else new with you all?
raine~ everything ok i guess, how about you?
Hi Everybody:) I wrote a bad word….lol….but it was a scam story…he tried to scam me…and I scammed him. Hope fully you will be able to read it…it will make you chuckle:)
Gail is doing great…I was sick for awhile…had tooth abcess…lol…but drugs do wonders.
Lisa, I was up and out early this morning…coffee was made and drunk before you woke up.
Hello SweetRed….how is the new house….have you tried out the pool yet?
Suzie…I am so excited for you…I love hearing stories…especially if they turn out good!!!
So where do I post my bank account numbers and PDFs of my tax returns?
What time should I send the limo to pick up the girl I’ve got no clue what she’s like in the flesh to take her to me and back for 8hrs at $100/hr. (Can you still hire a limo for $100/hr?)
Seems like JJ’s got a couple of details missing from that story. What happend on your end? What did you provide before you got stiffed?
Anyway, its time to whip out that book “he’s just not that into you’ (the movie is better)
SuzieQ~ hope it works out, is he close to you?
Time for me to get some sleep. 5:30 comes way to early. Glad to see everyone. Hopefully I can find some more time to peak in again and catch up. Have a wonderful evening. Hope everyone finds the sugars of their dreams Good night all.
Darn I thought I had beat you this morning as I got up at 8:30 central time
Gotta love that codeine, had that when I had oral surgery. lol
Have a good night sweetredhead.
Indeed, lisa; that’s cold! Heck, I too would prefer my own roof sans auto instead of vice versa. Won’t even attempt to figure that one out…
Gail, no I have not tryed out the pool myself, but the boys have. The water is way to cold for me. But they had alot of fun. I got wet but did not get in the pool lol
Yaaa I have channel Gail and Nitemare into the blog tonight.
Hi BG – he’s pretty far away, but travels a lot for business and wants someone to join him once in a while. I own my own business so I can be flexible that way. He is flying me out to meet at one of his travel destinations.
The little bugger threaten to throw me in the pool. But they didn’t want to get their little buts grounded hehe
LOL…Love your humor Nitemare : )
On another note, I think you should take Lisa on a Sugardate:)
Hmmmm….I think I will let the two of you think and dream about it tonite:)
Now where is OC tonight?
SuzieQ~ you are so lucky!!!!!I’m so happy for you , he was upfront with you and that is awesome!
Newsletter written and sent.
Next item: call bookkeeper to find out why credit card entries were not posted last year. I might be in the market for a new bookkeeper….stay tuned!
I’m still waiting for him to post his tax returns, lol
NitemareSD you crack me up. Shoot from the hip, I like that lol.
BG: I feel so ashamed right now: I’m already burned out yet haven’t made one contact! Overthinking does that, I guess. Glad to hear some good sugary luck has befallen some of you, though.
Wasn’t I going to bed? Now I know I am getting old, short term memory loss has set in.
raine~ i totally get you , i give up! i’m so done with the “your too tall, too old, too far” bs that i’m getting! one of them asked me to marry him ,,, i talked to him twice???? what is he thinking?
but again too tall. too old, too far!
seems like every one in here is having great luck except Raine and I, whats up with that?
Sweetred…its gonna get hot…and I am sure you will get thrown in willingly:)
Suzie-I love traveling. I am tired of Vegas…I have gone 3 times already this year..my next trip will be Hawaii…I am planting my seeds with my SD friends for now. Have a great time!!!
Hello Sugarbabytoday, Raine, and Beachgirl!!!
Well (her) driving had something to do with my divorce. But its not that simple. Whatever that means?
So if you girls move back in with your parents, how you slippin’ out at night in that fancy ride you bought to meet up with that boy?
We all have our preferences, don’t ever take it personal. It’s their loss.
I can’t bear to think about editing my profile anymore…yep, definite burnout.
anyone worried about that worm threat tomorrow?
Pool Party at my house Clothing optional hehe
worm threat? Boy am i out of it.
Nitemare if I moved back with my parents I wouldn’t be going anywhere, my daughter would be spying on me, etc. I could never give up my freedom again even to buy a car. lol
SuzieQ~ is he in Vegas??? is it the guy i told you about?
raine~ i get you, i told you i’m done!
just gonna blog from now on, even gonna met a SB this sunday lol.,… she’s coming to town to meet an SD lol
Hi Gail. Thank god I don’t live at home while it would be nice financially would still suck something terrible, couldn’t bring a guy home. Why don’t you come over to my place? But make sure you don’t make a whole lot of noise you may wake up my folks. (no thank you) i rather drive nothing or a $500 car before I would live with them again
sweetredhead ~ i want in!!! where? when? lol
con fi cker is set to cause some kind of catastrophe on april 1 to computers that it has embeded in since november. It’s all over the news including Y a h o o news. I have all the updates and virus protection but am worried that it will mess up my new computer.
Oh well ladies and gents I must get going only wanted to stop in and make sure everyone was doing well. I have to get to cleaning and all my twin is moving back to Florida this weekend and I want to make sure my place is spotless when she arrives.. I am so excited
I’m a little concerned about the ants I’ve seen in the kitchen lately this early in the season.
But it might help that SB get an Obama mortgage modification.
Lisa just make sure to update your virus protection tonight you shouldn’t have any problems
Have fun Sugarbabytoday and good night
LMAO I want to keep my house nice. Can you imagine a pool party with a bunch of Sb’s and Sd’s talk about raising the roof lmao
lets not go there about Obama Nightmare, I am so on edge about that man right now.
I lived with my parents for financial reasons after my marriage ended ( I was about to have my daughter a month later) and lived with them many years. Financially secure, had alot of money in the bank but I couldn’t date or have anyone over. I didn’t have sex for over 10 years. I met a guy and began an affair and got kicked out if I didn’t give him up. I chose to move out.
Raine and Sugarbabytoday….Both of you will meet somebody. It usually doesn’t happen overnite. I was on over a month and gave up….and then got determined to listen and learn. I just started a marketing project of e-mailing 5 SD a day for 3 days in a row each week. Each time my messages to them got better…lol…and finally someone sent me a message back. He said I lived too far away…hee, hee….don’t give up…I didn’t. And the best advice is have fun…don’t take things personal if they reject you…just move on….: )
sounds like it could be a great (messy haha J/K) time there red haha
sweetredhead~ shoot is that a no party ???? i need sun and fun!!!
ut oh I don’t have any virus protection guess I better pray!!
Lisa, when kids are involved you have to do what you have to do nothing wrong with going back to the parents house. Your children are and should always be first priority, no one can fault you for that and if they do they don’t have children
well , keeping off politics, I didn’t vote for him and expect nothing out of him.
Ants in your house, I remember when I was a child and we didn’t have a fridge for awhile and we had a block of velveeta cheese and we had an ant problem. I can still still that cheese covered with ants, lol that was like 1980
Oh ok, come on over. We will just get the Sd’s to pay for the damage lmao
I love my antique Mac….no virus worries ever!
Gail~ it’s hard , i live in canada, montreal and no one want to come here or me to go there, the guys here don’t want me coz i’m too close to home???? so… what am i supposed to do? also they are all short! i’m 6’1″ in heels i can’t have a short guy i don’t like that!
sounds like a plan… where do you live red?
sweetredhead~ i’m so in! where and when ? is the question now!
Ok REALLY going to be now lmao. Good night everyone.
Ladies, we’ll snag our true SDs soon enough, but I myself need to do some time on the bench. Now I’m starting to look at these men funny. *HE’D BETTER BE LEGIT; I’M NOT WASTING ONE NANOSECOND ON FOOLISHNESS!! I WISH HE WOULD…*
Vegas? Uh, yeah…I’ll pass.
sweetredhead~ AVG is free online get it tonight!
Lets fill sweetredheads pool with jello, lol
I gotta go now too. gotta work tomorrow, get up at 6 am. Off again on thurs and fri though
good night red I will be following very soon
SuzieQ~ so you didn’t say is it the guy from vegas????
I am in the Tampa bay area let me know when your in the area and we will plan something
night every one… seems like a good time to bail I hope every one has a good hump day
I am only about 3 hours away RED I am there lol I am in the cocoa beach area
BG – nope, haven’t heard from any of the guys you found me Thanks anyway, that was a fun night! This one is Canadian.
SuzieQ~ cool from BC! that is awesome news for you
I got a message from a Canadian guy today too.
Nope, not BC…a bit farther away, actually closer to you. But heck, he’s flying me out and I haven’t had the chance to travel in quite a few years so I’m looking forward to it.
SuzieQ~ i wish my guy from BC would like to be my SD he’s so awesome!
oh maybe it’s the same guy!
Alls I’m sayin’ for now is I’m helping an SB go through a mtg mod process – though I don’t know what the he ll I’m doing – does any one know how this stuff actually works? By the time it gets figured out there will be some new program/rule? I don’t know.
Will the lender actually participate?
There must be lots of SB members who could benefit from a mtg mod. Maybe that should be a special SD service we offer. We can start the SD Safe Home Assoc.
SweetRed, what are you doing still up? LOL!
SuzieQ~ where???? maybe it’s close to me, we could meet up!
sweetredhead~ did you get the AVG anti virus??? it’s free online
How come you girls get all the Canadian guys????
Hey BG, which guy is that? If you’re too far away maybe I should be talking to him lol! After all, my pot is still just a pot for now.
I have no idea, I think I am beginning to get addicted again LMAO. I am off for real now. LMAO NIGHT for the last time….really lol
Nightmare what questions do you have about the mtg mod/refi the gvt was suppose to release details on a new refi program monday for current home owners which would allow refi up to 105% of market value no matter their credit score. I used to work in the title insurance industry thus the reason I am on here now I got laid off
Beachgirl-I actually stopped looking for specific requirements in a SD…and every opportunity I got to meet with a potential..I took a chance, as long as he was respectful and kind. I am in for fun, and just trying to enjoy my life. I have found that once you get to know the individual after talking to him for awhile, a friendship can develop. I have more SD friends that wine, dine,pamper, and take me places I could never afford. It doesnot require that you sleep with them….I know :)…lol…but it would be nice one day….
he;s not on here anymore he found someone i think , though he doesn’t talk about it!
we talk about everything else though
where you meeting?
BG – not that close sorry! Still a province or two away. And we’re meeting at a halfway point anyway so I won’t be close to you at all, at least not this time. If it goes well I may be in your neck of the woods at some point though and would love to meet up.
Gail~ i like tall men, i guess i am too picky! i got moderated!!!! lol
SuzieQ~ wow that is awesome, i’m so happy for you
yeah i’m meeting one SB this weekend she has a SD meeting here, so we gonna have lunch
BG – Calgary is the destination
Left msg with bookkeeper
Working on choreography notes now…
I may actually get everything checked off my to do list for today….wow!!!
You need a basketball player SD…lol…
I love tall men….I am 5’1″…and my past fellas were 6’2″….How about Michal Jordan?
Gail, thank you. I just feel terrible I’m in this mind state, because I’m greener than grass! I had all these game plans and whatnot (even considered contacting ALL my favorites in one fell swoop). I’m all, “what outfit(s)/makeup should I wear for the profile pics? How do I subliminally steer this one towards me, knowing dang well he wanted somebody slim as indicated in his profile? Will those who respond write me back like they have some sense? I WISH
HE WOULD ASK FOR NUDE PICS HE AIN’T SATISFIED WITH THE ONES SHOWN NEXT!!!NEXT!!!”
That’s the refi for people with prime Fannie/Ginnie mtgs, right?
Then there’s the mod program for people with other mtgs where the govt agrees to subsidize some of the loss to the lender if the lender reduces int rates, princ, increases term…
Gail~ i could do that or the guy from the Lakers!!! wooo
SuzieQ~ i love Calgary, it’s beautiful, and snowy ??? i think they had snow yesterday oh no~
Gail, BG, I will pass along any tall men I run into! I’m 5’6″ and I prefer men 5’9″ to 5’11″…makes a nice snuggy fit for a hug Or for dancing I LOVE dancing
haha well every i am seriously off for the night as it is 11:30 and I have to be at work at 8 ugh… talk to you all again soon raine good luck don’t get burnt out I know how it is I am in the same boat just laugh at those that are superficial I am not a thin model and I have learned to just laugh when I am brushed off because I know and have been told I am a great catch
SuzieQ~ is he from Montreal????
nitemare and sugarbabytoday… funny you should mention load mods… i’m helping a client set up a business to do just that…. lots of interesting developments!
Snow? Uh oh! We’ve had a real wintery winter here on the coast and frankly I’ve had enough snow! Hopefully a chinook will blow through and it’ll be Spring while we’re there.
Hands off Beach Girl! LOL!!
SuzieQ~ well you are meeting in a week or so right? so hopefully it will all be gone by then lol
i know you guys had a lot of snow this year, hey i might go to the Olympics next year…. i hope i can !
guys here are not interested i’m too close!! lol
Raine-Yes…poof them away…they are a waste of time!!! and donot let the losers get you down. Have you diversified yet? LOL….You can’t put all your eggs in one basket. There is more than one website out there
SuzieQ~ i have mailed them all the ones from here so…. don’t worry they aren’t interested llol
Nightmare email me I will get details on the newest refi they released I am working on getting the details as I type and will let you know… I have several mortgage brokers and loan officers I still have contact with that give me the skinny on it all
yes the newest refi of 105% is only for the fannie
Right you are Gail….I found my pot sd on another site actually. Haven’t had much luck on this one…yet. I’m sure if I stayed at it long enough I would. I think it’s equal parts persistence, luck and being in the right place at the right time.
oh well good night to all!!!! I must go to sleep since I burnt up my cleaning time on here… oh well I have tomorrow I guess… I will just have to ban myself from the blog so I will be back on in a few days lol
Gail~what other sites??? i have tried but they all ask for you to pay, and i’m not gonna pay!
It was nice talking to everyone tonite. I have to get ready for work tommorrow…I plan to be up before Lisa…she will want hot coffee when she wakes up:)
Sweet SD/SB dreams to everyone!!!
Sugarbabytoday & Gail
Good night Sugars!
SuzieQ~ ok one guy is interested here but he’s married !!! sorry i forgot he was from MTL
BG I joined a paid site for one month. It was only 20 bucks so I figured what the heck. I always hear you get more quality people on the sites that are paid. This one doesn’t lock you in and keep charging, you only pay for one month at a time so I thought I’d give it a try. You still have to wade through a lot of profiles, but if they’re paying I figure they’re more serious, and if they know I’m paying I figure they may think the same of me. I still talked with some fakes and losers, but had many more responses, initial contacts, and in the end, a better result. Worth a try.
My pot is married too. Funny, not long ago I would have had a whole different outlook on that (as in…no way!) After giving it some real thought, I’ve decided that’s ok with me. Perhaps even preferable. But everyone has to make their own decision.
Nite, Sugarbabytoday, and good luck with the self-imposed ban, lol.
Gail, funny you mentioned diversifying because I strongly considered that; maybe the stress won’t be as palpable! I was just trying to get my big toe wet here, not overly concerned with producing quick results (yah, I know: very unlikely). Again, it’s officially become a JOB at this point. Between that and the “don’t let this happen to you” segments, I just shut down…
SuzieQ~ i think married is better… my opinion, god i’m curious to know who he is!!! is he tall? short? where does he live? lol
BG – you’ve got mail
YAY i got mail!!! lol
The person I am helping at the moment is subprime and no way has credit/income to refi.
Mtg mod or short sale or foreclosure look like the only options…with an Obama mod sounding vastly superior to all other possibilities (if only I knew what really might be the offer based on the financial data.) There is a lag of a few weeks between applying and getting response which is a tense time, esp with payments past due and all.
I know lots of people will be offering services to help people through these processes, but $2,500 or more on the come with no certain result is hard to put up for these people and risks further downside if the fee is wasted.
I will send sugarbabytoday an email.
SuzieQ~ you know what i’m searching there and their are lots of guys from MTL !!! and i know 3 of them!!!!
No way lol! I found there were loads of Canadians on that site too. Lots in my own backyard as well Maybe that one will work out better for you. You’ve got more mail.
Raine if what you are trying to get wet is your big toe, there is a chance you are on the wrong web site.
But you never know.
NitemareSD – lmao!!!
BG, more mail.
Hmmm, wonder what I said? I’m in mo d eration purgatory
Sugars you got mail too!!! lol
i’m not a member of a few other sites yay
add….my dad (step) messed up my mom’s car so she’s SOL too! He flattened all 4 tires and it won’t even start. I’m trying to get help to first get things here on the home front done. He also left her with all these unfinished renovations, and no one to help, guess he thought i wouldn’t quit my life and move back home to help eh? HA!
I have no job as of yet, i live kinda out away from town. The only thing close is a storage place, coffee shop and 2 gas stations. Oh, and a nail place, but i’m not working in that, sorry.
*lol, NitemareSD. You may have a point, but I did say “at least.” Again, I’ve started here and shall work my way up/out, as it were.
Suzie, I wouldn’t even try to figure that out. There’s a quota to be met, apparently…
Hi, Uberlicious; I presume your situation brought you into the sugar fold? Passing through?
raine ~ i put “pool party” and got moderated!
lol it went thru lol
Maybe it was “poor” Maybe I’m only supposed to say “rich” lol!
lol ahhh that is funny
One word, BG: GADZOOKS.
Again, can’t call it. Dang.
raine what the f*** is GADZOOKS
lol it sounds like a disease lol
hi raine, yes this situation is quite unbelieveable. I’m actually trying to get my mother to get on this site, she’s been seperated for like 6 months and think she can get, if anything, some fun outta being here.
Uberlicious ~ she should , you both could have fun and travel
Ok sugars i’m off to bed , it’s late and i need my beauty rest since i’m too old, too tall, and too far lol
hope you have a good night and i need to know what GADZOOKS mean?
send me a mail
talk to you all soon
Ciao bella! I’m off to bed as well….in the pool at 6 a.m. tomorrow for swim workout. Gadzooks…haven’t heard that in ages!
An expression of surprise mixed with a wee bit of shock…is that about right raine?
BG: ha! It’s not a disease, but one of many old-school slang words (like egad*, zounds and the like. *this one was initially deemed a curse word).
Whether you yourself and/or moms decide to pursue this, Uberlicious, bear in mind that it is WORK (same as in civilian dating, online or otherwise). The more tenured SBs and SD can/will fill you in on occasion, whereas I’ll give you the same advice as I do the other fellow brand spankin’ newbies: sift through the blog archives as needed.
Wow a mother daughter thing. I haven’t seen that one offered yet. Please send more details.
^That’s right, SuzieQ. Nite, ladies; sugary dreams and all that good stuff.
Nitemare, I’ll leave that one alone *lol*. I’m off to bed myself; Uberlicious, stick around and get acquainted with the blog if you’re still up. Again, results may vary…nite, sugar fans, until the morrow…
Nightmare, u r sick. LOL! it’s nothing like that. I just thought that she’d get some enjoyment out of getting some attention in her situation, if antything she could get a longterm one..maybe forget about my step-dad all together.
Hey, nightmare, or anyone else out there, know of any good divorce attorneys that have passed the bar in Louisiana? it’d b pretty simple procedure, she wants him to pay, and he’s German! basically simple. ( for my mother, that is)
Aaa…..lisa is channeling me from the spirit world…how’s everybody 2nite?
Okey I think everybody went to sleep? Well good night everyone and sleep tight! hugs&kisses.
Good morning to the chocaholic world,
All the Sugar Babies were out in the sun having a nice chitchat on the blog.
It must be spring or could it be because of April fool today ?
Wonderful stories and comments on the subject “scam”.
Hi Nightmare, I keep on laughing about the price of shares on virgins.
Also the idea on the SD Safe Home Association is in itself worth considering. We have enough talent here on the subject and could really give a helping hand with advice. I’ll be prepared to do so over here.
Gail loves stories that turn out well. Here is one. In any situation I am flexible, so when I was stood up I set in motion plan B.
Entered to a Bierstube, and had a hilarious night singing and making new friends. One to come over for snowboarding and others for controlling crop damage by wild boar. Later in the evening a girl in Dirndle outfit taught me joddling. Now I am even more musical.
Of course I sent the person who did not show up an enthusiastic e-card saying Thank You. Your absence created a great evening.
And how about this one as an April Fool practical joke. The most hilarious scam (anyway in my opinion) is this pot SB that hates men fiercely. Profile says literally that I should “brush my teeth, clip my nails and wash my bullocks”. I suppose they will be scrutinized first before discussing the amount of sugar and so on.
I really hope that you laugh now as heartily as I do.
Life is like a comic strip to me.
Uberlicious, I managed to get my mum on the site!! It took alot of persuasion but she finally got a profile up. She’s so pretty and really interesting I thought she should make the most of it!! LOL
“Have I ever been scammed?”
No, more like slightly annoyed. I know the sb’s that live in major cities can relate. I get a lot of men who visit one or two times a year and start emailing all the girls for dates. They love to pretend or offer to “spoil” for the weekend.
Good morning everyone
Gail it looks like I beat you this morning. Already having my coffee, getting ready to leave for work soon.
Haven’t heard much about that worm thing doing anything yet.
What a lousy day. No ants in the kitchen this morning and I’m stuck with the same old mothers with daughters routine.
There’s a rain cloud hanging over our city today. How depressing.
Well not really lol, its like nearly 2pm here!x
Had my first email from a SD today, hes coming to my area in a couple of weeks and wants to meet x
I’ve not got a clue how to tell if hes gen though lol x
Good morning all — here for the morning a while, and then I head back out on the road. The main scam I get is the sob story… had my purse stolen, going to have my heat cut off, etc so please send me money right now, even though I just met you a few hours ago…. The other thing that has happened twice is that you purchase a plane ticket, and they decide to no-show or cancel… I don’t really think that is a scam, just annoying… and they don’t gain anything from it.
The biggest scam are SDs who take up so much of your emotion/time/energy/effort and end up not being genuine SDs. We give them out time and emotion, and they play us for fools.
Morning NC, Kirstie, Kittie, Nitemare and Lisa – NC, I’ve seen that one a lot. I used to get the same email about every three weeks from the same person.
*waves* morning NC
Can I buy you a plane ticket to come visit me?
Morning Suthrn got your coffee to start the day yet?
Kitty, Kitty! I don’t think it is just limited to SDs – the scam artists know no boundaries – there are some crafty SDs as well as SBs. We need to squash them all…
Going to get my coffee right now… STRONG with a touch of cream and sugar…
Suthrn: That’s the only thing I really like about this blog, you can have a much clearer image of the person by their posts vs just their profile. But then again, scam artists would lie on here as they would in PMs! Only even ore extravagant lies!
COme on down to visit me Kitty * wink *
I agree Kitty, but don’t you think that scam artists eventually show their true colors if you engage them long enough in conversation? I mean, if someone repeatedly posted on the blog who was a scammer, I think it would become apparent after a short time.
That’s where I think dual personality comes into play. Psychologically speaking, these “scammers” can be in entrenched in their lie that they start to believe in it as themselves. But I doubt these little scammers for a couple hundred here and there are that involved in their work.
I brought a lunch to work today…. and I just ate it.. it’s 9:30am.
LOL @ Kitty **I’ve done that before too ~ specially when it’s realllllllly good!!**
Good Morning NC, SE and Kitty
Morning Nico – That’s why I don’t bring a lunch – I would eat it about 8 o’clock and THEN go out and eat lunch at noon. It wreaks havoc on my girlish figure…
Good morning to all, I am new to this site and wondering if the SB are for real? I tried emailing once and she mentioned about needing funds right away, is that normal?
TOExec: No, I don’t think that’s right. It’s normal as it’s a common scam, but it isn’t RIGHT that she is asking
Suthrn:my plan is to not eat lunch.. we’ll see how well that goes
Nico: morning Babe!!! It was so delicious… I didn’t eat breakfast so it was my breakfast
Thank you!!! I guess I should stay away from those.
Well I’m totally on to that Lisa person who wants me to send $50,000 to Nigeria.
Yes, TO, SBs need moeny right away. You should have signed up sooner. Shame on you for making them wait.
TO, welcome — that should not be “normal” but it happens often as the site has had in influx of new members in the last 45 days due to lots of publicity and there are some gold diggers lurking out there as well as some who just don’t quite get the concept. However, that should not be the response from a real SB. Having said that, there is a lot of frustration on the part of SBs due to many SDs not addressing the financial side of things until after a LOT of communication has taken place – or in some cases, the subject is never addressed by the SD and the SB has to bring up the subject. So just be aware of the frustrations from the SB side and that will help you address the issues as they arise.
Hi ToExec — welcome to the blog. That is not normal to ask for money right away. Most will want to see a picture and learn more about you. Some may ask for a small amount for a first meeting, but many won’t. And yes, there are a lot of real SBs on here. I have met some really nice people. Good luck in your search!
Good morning Nico!
Nitemare, she only wants $50k from you?? I am getting ripped!! She wants me to send $100k!
Good Morning TOExec. I assure you there are real SB’s out there and I feel your pain. Unfortunately it has become a process trying to discover who is (and is not) for real. We (the real SB’s) are here! Promise!
TOexec, in case you haven’t figured it out yet, Nitemare is our resident satirist.
Morning NC ~ $50k??? Damn, I knew I shoulda asked for more *winks*
<~~~Lovin’ Nitemare this morning *hugs*
Hi SD and SB’s, most of you just waking to a brand new sugar day :))
I’ve been lurking for a couple of months and feel I’ve almost become friends with some of the long time bloggers, without their knowledge. I’m an older SB…and no Henri we don’t talk about our ailments We do discuss the wonders of the little blue pill for the ailment some of our older lovers have though :)))
I have a sweet older SD who has given me wonderful annual vacations for about 15 years but I’m now looking for someone to mentor me through this recession and have fun on a slightly more regular basis, without drama…a real ‘arrangement for mutual benefit’.
Now to the topic:
I actually have mostly had scammers and picture collectors contact me from the SD sites in the few months since I joined. Was not expecting a flood of emails as I am older and not living in north America (although I have lived in both Canada and the US and other countries). When I received my first scam attempt I thought of writing the blog but didn’t…. now it’s on topic I shall share.
This guy emailed me in Feb with glowing praises. He had a paid profile with a photo and he was very interesting sounding and quite good looking. Supposedly 44 but pic looked older (most men I meet seem to put their age down on profiles). Profile said from Vermont (I love that state). He said he would delete his profile if I replied as I was for him. I thought that a little extreme but he seemed so nice I did reply. He then said in next email he was actually from the UK but now lived in West Africa where he “owns a charity business”. Next email he started asking would I come and join him there, where he now was “managing a charity business”. I’d asked about it and he said it helped orphans and the elderly. I was already suspicious and thought I’d soon get a request to send money for the orphans – HEY I’M A S/Babe! That 3rd email he gave me a phone number and said to call him; said his 10 year old daughter who lived with him (a son lived with ex in the UK) wanted desperately to talk to me but would be asleep due to time difference. (I didn’t like that) When I’d asked for more photos he’d sent pics of his supposed children (looked like portraits from school yearbooks).
He had ignored offers to chat on messenger or skype so I asked for another photo of him, holding a white sheet of paper with date and my name on it. I explained that I just wanted to get a better feel for him while I considered his offer to come to (have you guessed it yet) Nigeria. His reply to photo request was that he was terribly insulted by me wanting proof of who he was. That was the last I heard.
What a joke…if he was real he wouldn’t expect a SB to agree to come join his business in Africa without seeing more than one photo and talking online :))
Now I’ve just had a guy email me on another SD site asking for my full name and address to fedex me a gift and flowers! I sweetly gave him the benefit of the doubt and replied that I’d prefer to chat a little first because I love to receive flowers and gifts but am not comfortable giving out my address in a first email and would prefer to chat a little first…no reply.
Other than that I get guys who send me an email then never read my reply. And of course those who send emails asking for naked or sexy pics…some do send me their own sexy pics :))) That’s not terribly enticing at that stage guys!
Anyway I’m attracted by height, smiling eyes, some obvious intelligence and respectful but playful charm.
Well enough of the scammers.
I lurk because I love to occasionally pop in a see who’s blogging what and love some of your entries and advice. But I get sad for one blogger…
Lisa, Lisa, Lisa: I would love to see you escape your dreary life situation. Here’s a suggestion: write out the most dreamy SD situation you can imagine….hey let me do it for you:
He would be about 45, handsome, initially he would offer to fly from wherever and come to your suburb and meet at a restaurant of your choice on the day/time of your choice. After a meal and conversation and laughter he would take you shopping at that fav mall you mention and buy that bag for you (real not fake) to prove himself. He would then offer an arrangement where he would take you out again twice a month at day/time you are off work until such time as you trust him, staying at a hotel when you’re comfortable and paying your taxis home, always with a hefty cash gift. Then when you’re comfortable he would offer you a lovely apartment (on the right side of the road), paid 6 months at a time in advance….nah let him buy it, cash, title in your name. Then he will offer you an allowance of $5-10,000/mth and to pay all your expenses as well as to take you on trips to London, Paris and the city starting with Ch that gets moderated In return you just have to drop your crappy job and train in something you’d love to do, tell your mother and daughter that your life is happy and you have a wonderful benefactor who adores you but has no desire to meet your family….they should live with it or not, their choice. It’s your life!
We only have this one precious life so we have to dream of the stars to allow some sugary stardust will fall around us. You need to stop focussing on why pot SDs are not going to work out because they don’t fit into your present working/living situation. Instead focus on dreaming of how wonderful your life will be when the right SD comes along to help you build a whole new wonderful lifestyle.
And BTW my longtime vacation SD is in IT and does not have a computer at his home. Doesn’t have a cell either so I can only contact him by work email or weekends on his landline…timing it right for his part of the world. But he travels the world and is full of sugar and great fun in another area too
Well that’s my post…wishing all you wonderful blogging SDs and SBs the very sugary best…I shall retreat back to my “occasional lurker” mode :))))
TO, to tag along with Nico’s post – the SBs who post here regularly are genuine SBs I assure you. They, along with us SDs can help you along – feel free to ask anything – we’ve pretty much seen/heard/experienced it all!
Mornin’, sugar fans. Welcome, TOExec.
Thank you all for the welcome, I did address the financial arrangement first hand and made sure the SB is in my city, no need to worry about going to a different city for nothing. I also offer to meet and discuss the arrange first and willing to pay for that meeting. I also did say that I am looking more of a business partnership than a relationship to start. Is that to blunt? Please let me know and thank you!
Thank you SuthrnExec… I will make sure I pass everything in this blog first until I get a grip of this thing….
I somehow feel like a great negotiator because I only paid Nico a $15k upfront fee
TOExec, there are as many different nuances to the arrangement as there are people. I think SBs appreciate getting to the point as long as it is done in a genteel way.
NC_Gent = The Great Negotiator!
Yes, Suthrn, what you said.
TO, we shall figure this thing out together.
Ha ha NC ~ I keep hearing, “The check is in the mail.” *winks*
TOExec ~ I think your communication style is something you shouldn’t change. Personally, I prefer to upfront with the ‘arrangement’ side of things and get that out of the way (so to speak) so that I can enjoy getting to know the person.
Last question and maybe a stupid one. Where do they come up with these numbers? I mean I am trying to wrap my head around it and someone that I think is great but asks for too little an others just ridiculous for what they want. I am well aware of the “you get what you pay for” so are the one’s asking for too little underestimating themselves? What about the open-amount negotiable? Can someone help me clear this thing? I am sorry but I just want to know if there is a way to understanding this thing.
Again, I just want to thank you all for the help… I’m sure eventually I will get this…
Well, amount negotiable (in my profile) means that I am open to discussion. I am not going to exclude myself from the possibilities of ‘more’ should my SD choose to be that generous and/or some SD’s prefer to show their attention/affection in different ways.
Kitty has once indicated that she doesn’t want ‘more’ out of fear of becoming too dependent (sorry Kitty if I mis-stated).
All in all, you have to go where you’re comfortable and, all the more reason to discuss this issue early on so both parties are on the same/similar pages in terms of their expectations.
Not a stupid question at all.. some base their figure on what they need, some based upon what they want, some are flexible on the amount because it may depend upon how often you want to see each other. It all comes down to what is comfortable and fair. I think OC-SB said it best…. the SB doesn’t want to be treated like an escort, and the SD doesn’t want to be treated like an ATM!
TO: are u from Toronto?
Good morning….. it’s lightly snowing here… maybe I’m imagining things and it’s an april’s fools joke on us!!!!!
TO — ahh grasshopper, sit down while I explain….
You really need to not connect the $$ with the worth of the individual – SBs have different needs, some are working full-time or part-time, some self-employed or have their own businesses, some are students, some are none of the above. The amount they list in their profile is arrived at by them by whatever reasoning they choose. Admittedly, some are a little unreasonable, as are some SDs in their expectations. STAY away (far away!) from the “you get what you pay for” idea. That leads to a dangerous concept that you don’t want to be associated with.
The most important thing is to find someone with which you have great chemistry. Without the chemistry, this will not work for any length of time.
Fantastic! Thank you all! Well I guess I will do some searching right now and will post my experience. See you guys soon!
Hi there Villa — hugs!
Yes I have had two bad experiences with sg. The last one dragged me along for 2 months, promising me to help me. I went to see him, we have been intimate, then went back home, asked him about what he promised me and he broke up with me.
I am really amazed because I am very clear about my expectations in my profile.
I am just wondering why there isn’t a topic where both sg and sg share their bad experiences and actually name names. I think this web site could use a little dusting?
Now I also have to say that I have also had a great sg. There are some great men out there, but also crooks so to speak
Nico: you are right, I did state that… though there are days when I watch “MTV Cribs”, I wish I had that 10K a month. *sighs*
NC: errr…. nice to see that there was an upfront fee paid to Nico for 15K. I recall seeing your name in my accounts recievable ledger for 10K for quite some time now.
TOExec – good luck to you… there are “normal” decent persons of both sexes on this site, many of whom you have already encountered on this blog!
We look forward to hearing of your successes TO!
Morning LOL and Villa! LOL, yes, there are all kinds. So sorry about your experience. It is really important to get to know the individual and establishing trust before moving too far along. I think we all inherently want to trust people, but we have to be careful too.
SE~ you are right Chemistry is so important!
Check is in the mail, Kitty. Just ask Nico for a credit reference!
We do have to be careful, people are not always what they seem to be!
I’m very trusting , but this site has showed me that you can’t always trust people at their word
Ha ha Kitty ~ you actually received the checks?? Mine MUST be lost in the mail. Maybe cuz I have a new address *sigh* Lovely Floridian postal service!
Morning Villa, BG and LOL
Nico: I think NC sends checks in the form of air blown kisses.
Hi Nico~ how is the wonderful weather over there? i wish i was visiting you
Good luck, TO!
LOL_A: first, hi and welcome. Now uh…where’s the amazement come in? You’re in the right place in giving your experience, but naming names is discouraged (prepare to get ‘pulled over’). I’ll let the more tenured sugars continue from here.
hmmmmm I have a sugar date tomorrow evening… now where did I put that checkbook xoxoox
LOL @ Kitty ~ well, the winds been blowing a lot down here as of late and still no sugar *sigh* I like kisses though too
My pot and I are meeting on Saturday eve and Sunday ~ very much looking forward to meeting my Renaissance man in person
BG ~ it’s actually pretty humid and slightly overcast this morning but, I must say, it is FAR from the BLIZZARD I was in last week in Denver.
Nice ~ blizzard !!!! lol why did u go to denver in a blizzard?
Hi, kitty, Beach_Girl and Villa.
You all know how guarded I am — I wish these SDs luck in earning my trust and convincing me to hang up the armor.
morning to all ~~ true this is NOT a blizzard, so i won’t complain…
nico and nc – good luck on your dates!!!! exciting!
Jees, things on this update really quickly!!x Been busy with work and just refreshed to find hundereds more posts lol x
Have to say that I find it a bit odd girls asking for money upfront… If a guy did that for me I would end up just feeling like an escort!x I prefer the idea of little gifts :-)x
Suppose it may be different if you get close to someone, but still…
Raine~ you really have to explain slang to me some times!!! the last night GADZOOKS lol , i am french and here we don’t have all the same slang! lol
how are ya this morning?
Nico NC good luck on your dates!
NC, would you send a check to all those who are agreeing with me? Thanks!
Hello Raine, Villa, BG and LOL
Good luck on ur date tomorrow NC and on Saturday, Nico
It’s windy here, so maybe sugar keeps blowing pass me
Ktty ~ where you at?
SE~ i wouldn’t mind a check lol… didn’t i agree with you at some point!!! lol
Ha ha BG and Villa ~ didn’t expect the Blizzard. Actually was a bit surprised by it. Flight getting in to Denver was 2 hours late and it started snowing that night. By the time I woke in the morning the city was covered in almost 2 feet of snow and the city all but shut down. *sigh* I actually have pictures of my plane (when I left Denver) of snow on it. The flight leaving Denver was delayed an hour because of snow too. Was fortunate to get out when I did though.
I am happy with my humid, windy and slightly overcast weather today
Raine ~ you’ll have to open up a little….I don’t imagine an SD is going to push you to believe in him anymore than you’re going to push for him to believe in you. A certain amount of trust (to get you through the e-mail stages) should be a given. You have a great style of writing and a great e-mail personality (which can only reflect who you are in person). You may have to kiss a few frogs (not literally) but, if nothing else, it’s a lesson in patience
I had discovered a site that verifies all potential SD’s income and the background of all potential SBs. They immediately ban all women that ask for cash upfront. They cancel all accounts of men asking for sex or nude photos right away. There is a forum to share all good and bad experiences so that others could avoid the same misfortune. This is where all the REAL SBs and SDs are. It’s called Sugar Harmony. See you all there.
Beach_girl: Kitty’s in London, Ontario. I might have to go to Toronto this afternoon to head office.
APRIL FOOLS!!!!! LOL.
Gloomy day here, hope that brightens a few days.
Nico~ how do you get an e-mail personality???? i try and be myself
i did get mail, they asked for my email so they would send their pics
but i got nothing..
CSB: I disagree with you. I think Sugar World is much better
Hmmm…. interesting… have you checked it out CSB?
~*Kitty*~ you are so close to me!!!! im in montreal!
O CSB: No worries!! your sunshine will definitely come.. it was gloomy here this morning and now it’s sunny and gorgeous. and the wind is blowing East, so wait 2 hrs and it’s be gorgeous!
Beach_Girl: I think we’ve had this discussion before lol.. CSB is a Torontonian too we can have a Canuck Maple Syrup Sugar party
CSB what is sugar harmony?
~*Kitty*~ sugar world??? is that a site?
Beach_Girl, I will be in your city this Sunday for a week long conference, sigh!
You guys have a great day – I need to turn full attention to matters on my desk – not that I particularly want to, but for some reason, clients are getting antsy! Later!
i remember reading about it~ lol sorry i need more coffee!
and names i just cant remember , faces i’m good with!
Beachgirl: yes it is
TOExec~hey we should meet up….
Guys that was my attempt at an April Fools joke. LOL one can only hope. Until then, I agree with Kitty. Gotta love Sugar World.
i should check it out! thanks Kitty~
Beach_Girl, sure, I know what I am about to do there is boring and long…
CSB: have u checked out the kid-of-new mall by Wonderland? Vaughne Mills or something?
ok the only thing i get is sugar world waterslides, lyrics and so forth
send me a note and I’ll give u the link
TOExec~ lol doesn’t that always happen on business trips??? lol
Kitty: I love Vaughn Mills. I love the long hours. It works for someone like me that always decide last minute on Saturday night that I need a new outfit lol. Fav next to Yorkdale mall.
Yorkdale and Yorkville is definitely my fav. I haven’t checked out Vaughn Mills how late is it open???
I think, I try to avoid them but next week is not an option…. I just hate it…
Hey Beach_girl: Don’t leave me hanging if you meet with TOExec goes well on Sunday.
kitty, you’re a shopper…
lol CSB why would i leave you hanging???
Beach_Girl, what’s even worse, my partner’s son doesn’t fly and why did I bother to go along with him for the drive, I do not know!
9 pm on Saturdays Kitty.
TO: I was brought up by a shopaholic
TOExec~ i know long days , are you gonna be downtown?
Oh, I forgot, i lost to him on poker…. that’s why
CSB: oo I was hoping a miraculous 11pm or something like that….
*sigh* a girl can only dream. I was born in Hong Kong and stores/malls close at midnight there!
yes at the Fairmont Queen Elizabeth I think
BG ~ e-mail personality. That is just the way you communicate. It’s a person’s personality translated into written form.
Nico~ lol i got it!!! took my a few minutes , i think i’m too blond this morning that or i need way more coffee
TOExec~ that’s cool they have the John Lennon thing there!!! til june or something
Kitty~ i think we , Girls, have the shopping gene!
BG – Ok! I guess that will do, all I know is that I will be partying every evening, Can not go to Montreal and do nothing, right? who cares about the next day, I will stay way back and sleep!!!
Or make sure someone take notes for me
I love this song
Day N Nite by Kid Cudi…
Beach Girl: It’s the need for perfection
I think I was born without that gene *sigh*
I am doing some side work for an attorney friend here in FL. He is a great shopper (and straight). He loves loves loves to shop and knows how to dress a lady. I indicated the first couple of checks (for work) that he gives me I want in the form of a shopping trip and he has to pick stuff out for me.
If I didn’t have friends that loved me then I would still be dressing in 501 Levis and regular t-shirts from random vacation spots.
BG: you’re in
TOExec~ you know us MTL people know how to party!!! Your right, get someone else to take note!
mail me we’ll do something
i put my mail up there somewhere,
ToExec: whats ur email?
NICO: you’re hot no matter what u wear… but honestly, I love a pair of jeans and white Tshirt look
Nico, I do not think that was possible… all the ladies that I know shops and for anything…
Or better yet, BeachGirl, when u talk to TOExec, can u send him the sugarworld link pls?
even if they didn’t need it they always said that someday will come that I will have a use for it… It’s truly amazing…
kitty, what is the link? I am new to this and as you can see I haven’t done any work this morning
Alas TO ~ I am a pathetic shopper…LOL. I can pick out a look but when I get to the store I feel like a moron. I’ve actually saved my money and gone into a store (BCBG personal fav) and I will tell the girl this is my budget and I want/need your personalized attention. She’ll start pulling stuff off the racks and putting together ‘looks’ for me.
If I got to the store on my own I MIGHT end up with a tank top, maybe a new pair of jeans (have moved on from 501′s though) and well, shoes always fit right and look good
Kitty ~ You’re my #1 FAN XOXO
This is not good…. who cares, i am having some fun at least… am I right?
can’t announce links here, it might break the blog
TOExec~ u got mail, but i forgot the link gonna send u another one lol
Nico, next time I’m in florida I will take you shopping…
NicO: I like the personal shopping more too.. I hate picking stuff out of racks upon racks…
Woohoo…party in sugar world.
got it, will check it out
Kitty i don’t know how it works!!!
what do i do with that link
I did register, and waiting for the email from the administrators.
TOExec yes you wait til you get confirmed mail
then you try and make it work lol i don’t know how the other site works!
yes, waiting for the mail, thank you!
Ok now that i have not done any work this morning,,,,, i need to finish typing this law document!!! i hate the law!
TOExec~ let me know if you want to meet
Kitty~ i’ll try and see how the other site works??? not sure how it does!
talk to you all later sugars!
Will send you email when I get there.
Sorry folks… a client walked in.
Toexec: you are ready on the suite
Beach_g: it’s a forum
*HUGS* TO you’re a gentleman
Hi to all chocaholics in sugarland,
Got moderated because of some nice scam stories.
Don’t know why.
The first one was about a person that stood me up. Anyway I always have a plan B so I went into a Bierstube and made new friends for snowboarding and such. Later in the evening a girl in a Dirndle outfit taught me some jodeling. Another addition to my musical tastes.
Nice story actually in a bit longer form. Don’t understand what is so offensive about it.
The other story is about a man hater, really fiercely hating them all in her profile. SDs are generally accused of not brushing their teeth, clipping their nails and washing the crown jewels. It this person a scam or not ?! Lunatic ! Don’t understand what is so offensive about this story.
Anyway, I have a great sense of humour and laugh loudly about the fact that I am not able to share such amazing incidents.
The blog really swings and I enjoyed catching up.
Have a great sunshiny day !
I am the saddest SB in the world today…I celebrated my labtops
birthday. She got very ill last nite…She had to have mouth to mouth from the HP technicians. They had to do CPR to recessitate her…and moved around alot of stuff. She lost everything…oh all the memories. I am lost now…not organized…no yahoo..I have to revive her…and its taking so much time…I am tired…..I can’t even get to Sugarworld…help me Kitty!!!
I can’t find my way there!!!! She is only 1 year old…good news still have three days left on warranty!!!
OMG Gail!!! *HUGS* back up back up back up (what’s left anyway)!! I lost a hard drive once and had a couple days left on my warranty too but, not after losing everything
Gail ~ I messaged the site and Kitty
Thank you Nico:) I was up with HP from 1:00pm-2:00am with HP…and then by accident spilled water on my keyboard while I was on the phone with them…that caused all my keys to freeze…I dried everything the best I could..and now since 7:00 this morning I have been trying to fix everything. The keys are now better…but its going to take alot of time..My cursor is out of control….Help…I still have to install the bug/virus thing….
Feeling your pain and can only offer a *HUG*
*hugs* time for a new sugar friend to get you a new laptop
I just yahooed u the link I hope your laptop gets better…
thank you…I feel better now:)
Lisa…and when she is fixed…I will be up before you and make you coffee again:) Nico…I’ll also pour you a cup….I now need a shot of bacardi. For real…see you all later…after I take care of my SB laptop drama for the day………………
lol good luck hun~ xoxoxo
Hello everybody!! Today is my 23rd birthday!!! And for some reason I’m stuck in the house somehow….:)
Perfect time for that OC (pre-Suthrn) SD story, or at least the best one.
Ok, so my first pot SD was from another site and I met him prior to coming to SA. We met and had dinner three times (all in about a months time), NOTHING more! I was very green to sugar dating and wanted to take it slow. I also had some very large red flags come up with this person. I could not Google his company, he txt’d and called all hours of the night. He was a very nice but a bit lewd. He would boast that he wanted to pay a very healthy allowance (5k) plus a car and apartment, spa and shopping too. Flag, flag, flag! Then he wanted to show me a grand gesture of his financial generosity. He asked me what my secret wish was, meaning gift or car or whatever. (Kind of had to be privy to the whole conversation) But after about the 10th time he drilled me on this because I just told him I did not have one. I reluctantly told him about secretly saving to have my breasts done (not larger but perkier). My bad, never ever tell your secrets. First mistake, second one was allowing him to convince me that he will make it happen. I told him that I could continue saving and that he need not take care of it. To end the story he had me go as far as setting up the consult and told me he had called the surgeon to pay and book the date. My not believing that he really would, and never asked him further about it. Well you guessed it, never happened. He stated that he wanted to have a TEST drive first. Meaning, well you get it. He also started to send dirty txt msgs and it freaked me out. I never asked him to do any thing financial. I am such an idiot. I should have spotted his intentions sooner. I ran to Google and found the SA site. I typed in sugar daddy questions…
I found the group on the blog and asked my question of how to trust my gut on this pot SD and NC Gent told me to run not walk away from the situation. I will never forget that wonderful day. I felt like I found a perfect place to learn and trust. Wow, I feel stupid even looking back at it all. ~OC
Happy birthday Jasmine!!! *mwah*
Awwwww ~ Happy Birthday Jasmine!! It is far too lovely of a day to be stuck indoors…specially considering it’s your birthday!!! Happy Birthday to you!!
SE ~ good afternoon
OC ~ WOW!!! What a story. But you’ve got the Knight in Shining Armour now
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU !
In cyberspace anything is possible, so I will turn up at your doorstep, bringing you a bottle lof chilled birthday champagne and a box of chocolate, Godiva I learned that here.
Also I will give you as a present a CD by my favourite flamenco cantaor (singer) whose name is Chocolate.
Many happy returns of the day !
Birthday hugs and kisses,
Happy birthday, Jasmine! *throws bucketful of sugared confetti, balloons* I hope you do get out of the house today, even if it’s only to the store to buy your own cake.
OC, I just knew you wouldn’t disappoint! [Echoing Nico: WOW.] Thanks for the extra armor.
Uh oh, now NC Gent is going to start thinking that I owe him!
Happy Birthday Jasmine!! That’s cool… I guess – I don’t even remember my 23rd birthday…
Ha ha….ahhh….to be able to remember back that far. I would have to refer to the black and white photos *LOL*
23…um, yeah, not my best year. Not trying to be a downer, just sayin’.
Yes! I am glad that I had a bad experience too. It made me understand what a true SD/SB relationship can and should be like.
I know that my story is one that could have painted me in a bad light, but if you know me it was told to show my trusting soul.
Don’t be embarrassed to fumble, there are no true instructions except trust your gut and never move forward until you feel 100 percent comfortable. ~OC
Thank u everyone hugs&kisses everyone!!!
OC ~ It didn’t paint you in a bad light at all. Many of us don’t know what to expect, specially first time out. Fortunately there are good SD’s out there that make us feel like the bad experiences were worth the wait.
Certainly makes us appreciate them more when we know what the other side of the coin is like
Hey everyone,I’m going shopping for my bday event at crobar’s this saturday.talk to everyone later! Hugs&kisses!
^OC, I don’t believe you touched a nerve as much as stared it down. I understand as with all other things in life, there will be the usual ups and downs. On the same token, one can do everything right and still screw up. Got it.
However, I take this VERY SERIOUSLY, and unlike the rest of you, I cannot afford missteps, much less outright failure.
Have fun, Jasmine! [Crobar?! Man, I envy you. :)]
Raine-The topic is “Scam Confessions”. It felt good to let this one out and let it go forever. I am so glad my common sense prevailed and never let this person into my life. Caution is good, just remember that not all people are out to scam. It took that one good knock on my forehead to smarten up fast. LOL
I have found someone who I can trust and know that we both are going to respect and jump for joy that we found one another! Thank you (cupid) NC Gent!!!!!
Ooooh I didn’t realise it was NC who played matchmaker! How did that happen OC?!
Hi everyone, home from work, nails chipped and all.
Tropicalbelle, that’s a nice story but that would never happen to me. I could never lose my daughter even for that dream though.
Now i’m off the next couple days again with no sd to meet. Nothing from either sds potentials as of yet today. Gloomy but pleasant weather here today
Just read through some of the posts. Happy Birthday Jasmine. Let’s see where was I when I turned 23? Nov 1988, ok lets see, oh yes I was married and living with my husband. It was the day after the presidential election and I was happy with the results. My husband bought me a big cake but left me alone to go hang out with his friends as always. I can’t remember my presents though. I remember my 25th really well, I was eating a huge hoagie sandwhich and got really bad heartburn, couldn’t get off the floor (I was sitting on the floor watching tv) and I thought “o m g, i’m dying on my 25th birthday, lol)
Thank you Nico, just let me know if you want to, I will!
Anyone out there??
I got scammed by a sd. He wasn’t married, and we spoke on the phone several times b4 meeting. He seemed cool and told me before we met about his previous sbs and how he leased cars for them and took them places. Ok whatever but then he tells me I’m funny and we agree on a monthly allowance…3k. We go to dinner the first meeting and he tells me to meet him at carrabas? He supposedly is a millionaire, so I found this od. Then he tells me he got a hotel room right next to carrabas so he wouldn’t have to drive drunk….bc everyone gets wasted at carrabas right? Well we had fun I guess and he hadagreed to give me some money to pay a bill that night. The next morning he says in next time and I’ll get u a gift too since next sat is valentines day. I text him and ask what my gift is and he texts me n says valentines day is a no go 3 days after he begged me to send lingerie pics and I did… And of course he loved the pics but not the gift part. I’m getting annoyed but decide to see him the following wknd expecting him to make up for ditching me and I wanted my present duh I’m a girl and like gifts. I’m expecting to meet at his place bc he’s single… Nope he says carrabas again and same hotel. I’m like WTF n he tells me he’s been robbed before by a sb. By now he knows me well enough to know I would never but I go bc he already got room couldn’t change it. Anyway no gift and then tells m he left his check card in the ATM last week and would put the money in my account…he didn’t…douche bag I actually thought we had a connection when he wasn’t scheming…now that I think about it, I never saw his car bc the hotel was walking distance..Well planned ass
Gagirl sorry to hear about what happened to you. I posted a detailed note about how I feel about guys like that but the m od er a tors won’t post it.
Gagirl sorry to hear about your experience.
I may never find a sd but I will never get involved intimately or have more than one meeting with a potential without first making sure he is legit, that is he will have to prove himself by producing a nice gift or a cash allowance. sorry I know alot of those on the blog disagree with me but a rich (sds are supposed to have plenty of money) sd only risks losing a little money which he can make up for in no time whereas when a sb gives herself to a potential in hopes that he is real and will keep up his part of the arrangement, and then he starts making excuses (I personally would dump him at the time of his first excuse) for not coming up with the goods whether it be gifts or money, the sb like any other time a woman is used and lied to, will be left with a really bad feeling that is harder to get rid of than the sd getting over losing a little money. Men actually have less to lose when they make the first step (in moderation) than a woman does as she gives of her emotions, body, etc whereas the man might lose a few hundred.
haha well thank u….the idiot will get what he deserves I’m sure
That’s why I think a sd should always make the first move in spoiling with either shopping or allowance as he has less to lose than the sd. Giving of oneself in risk of being used is much more serious than a rich man spending a few dollars and getting scammed.
Most bloggers on here will disagree but I will not take the risk, you gotta prove it first.
Lisa, I’ve stated so many versions of “the SD’s gotta prove it” I may risk spraining my thumbs doing it again. I’m new, so what do I know?
My condolences, Gagirl; I wouldn’t wish that experience — or the others given thus far — on my IMAGINARY worst enemy! I need all the schooling I can get.
Hi raine yes you know so many one here think giving intimacy and emotional companionship is the same as giving money. It’s not and we sbs are at greater risk for being scammed. I man gives a woman a few hundred dollars, she bails, he is out a few hundred of the 10 mil he claims to have, a woman gives of her body, the guy bails, she is used and cannot get rid of that uneasy feeling. It’s kind of like asking a man if he would rather have some grab his wallet or rape him. I would think that most guys would rather part with a few dollars than be phsycially violated. I would think that if these sds are really as busy as they claim to be that theywouldn’t have time to meet that many sbs and risk losing alot of money.
NitemareSD channeling NitemareSD where are you
OC where are you
I’m calling a curfew, everyone needs to come home and get into blog
It kinda seems to me that the idiot already got what was deserved.
Meanwhile others continue to wait for SDs to prove it.
The world is complex and the universe is not always providing though many believe it will.
Good evenine NitemareSD, ok lets scare up some more, we had a party here last night , lol
NitemareSd enters the room, the sbs follow, lol
Sweatredhead where are you, get outa that pool and get into the room now
I’d much rather agree to have sex with someone and later find no deposit in my account than put my money in someone’s account and not have sex with them.
NitemareSD~ woo i’d like both sex and money! it’s just been too long! I need an SD!
Any news on the sd front Beach_Girl? Nothing from either of my potentials. I talked to the second one but distance is the issue.
Lisa~ i got nothing, 3 guys mail me to talk, i send my mail and they don’t mail??? one did but never sent his photos, the other 2 say they will soon…
yeah , i won’t hold my breath!
You’re thinking from the man’s standpoint Nitemare. I already have a great lover so sex is not what I am looking for primarily. This is a mutual beneficial site, the money factor is what motivates most women on here. If we just wanted a nice sweet guy with nsa attached and no money, there are plenty of other sites for that.
Most men on here are not looking for a platonic relationship and most women are not looking for a “the best things in life are free” relationship lol
I lost sd potential one I think because I gave him my opion on those who drive drunk. He had an accident and was dui and was in the hospitial. I told him I was glad that no innocent person was hurt. He has since disappeared. This is the guy that stood me up back in August so I didn’t expect much but I keep my options open.
sd 2 is nice and we chatted on the phone last night. But he lives along way from me and expected me to drive 150 miles to a tourist town to meet him.This town is very small and except for the small touristy area, no airport or anything. Most people in my city drive there. I don’t have a car so driving in not an option. He said that would be a problem.
See to me an SD is a friend with benefits!!! i can be his confidant, his friend, his partner and lover, he can treat me nice and help me financially and mentor ship ( if that is even a word) to experience new things together and just have fun, nsa
Lisa your SD is on the way don’t be discouraged
if he doesn’t want to drive to see you just wait for the next one!
hey the SDs on here all say i’m too far, too tall, too old, and not as cute as the younger ones!!! so mine will be here soon, we have to wait and see what happens right
I also wonder if he isn’t looking for an affair rather than a sb/sd relationship as he spoke of meeting in this town and geting a nice hotel and going to dinner and gambling and all. He was looking to meet someone. No mention of shopping or an allowance so it sounds more like an affair to me. The traveling wouldn’t be spoiling either because it’s not a town that I have any desire to visit and I guess if I went there I’d have to take the greyhouond bus which does not fit into the sb thing
I googled the town and there are no real shopping malls or anything just boring antiques, no upscale stores.
SB/SD are like affairs , with more gifts lol
you should bring the shopping and allowance up see what he has to say
NitemareSD~ we need your imput here
he anyone knows how much translators make?
I will do that when i talk to him. I keep asking him what he is looking for and he just says that he has been married for many years and it just looking for something for just him for a change.
I am already having an affair, unfortunately he’s not a sd, been seeing him for 4 years so I don’t need another affair for just the sake of an affair, I need some spoiling ,lol
hey theres a new topic!
translators I’m not sure and I guess it depends on the type of translating and stuff. There is alot of that in my area because of the large population of spanish speaking people. I haven’t met any translators personally though.
i just googled it 25 cents a word not too bad!!!
One of my posts got lost but I was basically saying I had encouraging feelings about helping an SB with her home mtg situation.
What is the current question?
Are you looking to be a translator?
what??? i just posted the first comment on the next blog!!!
The current question is who should be the first one to honor the agreement? sd or sb
lisa ~ someone asked me if i could translate from french to english , and how much i would charge,,,, yeah i’ll do it for sure, it’s easy work, i’m fluent in both so…. and i won’t charge as much since i’m not a certified translator, but transcriptionist
I remember when I went to Toronto many years ago everything was in English and French. In the Us almost everything is in Engish and Spanish.
I know i go to LA every year to see friends , but here in Quebec it’s all in french
ok are we here or on the other blog i’m confused???/
So…I am brand new to this site (I set up my profile last night), and I already have 20 some messages in my inbox from SDs wanting to meet me. I am happy about it but also a bit shocked/skeptical….is this common for others (i.e. instantly being swamped with interested SDs). If so, how should I go about picking and choosing the best matches for myself? Sorry if these questions seem vague/broad in their nature I’m just quite overwhelmed and want to start of on the right foot so to speak! Thanks!
Have I been scammed? Yes.. big time. Just ask and I will tell….
I have also was asked for sex in payment with a $100- check..WTF? He said “It’s hard out there”. What does that mean? Don’t lie about being a baller if you have nothing to offer. I told him he needed to call an escort service when he gets more money. Lame,
Then I met a very nice guy who treats me amazing and realizes how important my time is. We have great conversation and we really get along.
well, just yesterday, i received a message from this Norcal SD saying he is genuine and even gave me his e mail address. Even said he’d send me pics if i were interested. He’s 35 and in San Fran Cali area. Well, he then said (right off the bat in the first e-mail) that he would fly me to cali and put me up in a hotel for about a night or two. i responded with an excerpt from another blog asking to b e mailed the departure and return ticket so i could verify it and have the reservation, not the booking, in my name as i could verify that also and not b stuck or have something blow up in my face. well, he never replied, but did read my reply. i then sent him another e mail with and address of an e mail i had just made to have him send me pictures there. no show. so i new it was too good to b true. and i even told him he sounded a bit too good. heh, guess i was right, here it is this time of nite and still no reply. beware of anyone who sounds too good to be true, they prolly are. always be cautious and CYA.
so it is normal to get 25 messages in a day from all different SDs wanting to get to know you/meet you?? its kind of stressful to be honest
kacee – i guess it is normal. just pick and choose which ones strike u as interesting enough to give ur time and effort to.
I think what a lot of inexperienced Sd’s don’t get is that they are essentially “hiring” an SB. Sort of like “Rent-A-Girlfriend.” lol….all the pleasures of having a beautiful, adoring, sexually accommodating girlfriend without all the usual commitments and headaches of traditional dating.
They are paying us to be available and attentive to them. They are paying us to be discreet. They are paying us to go home when they need their space. And most of all, they are paying us because they care about us as people and want to see us live a less stressful life.
To my mind, that’s why certain men chose to have an ongoing relationship with an SB as opposed to just calling an escort service. It’s more like having a real romantic relationship where two people really care for one another and there is real desire and chemistry.
But it’s always a bit awkward in the beginning when you’re both unsure and trying to establish trust. In my experience, what has worked out well is starting out with a “2 week trial period” with each other.
That way, the SD doesn’t have to pony up a full month’s allowance before he really knows the girl, and the 2 week trial gives both parties time to take it slow, get to know each other, and decide if they want to continue with a monthly arrangement. Reduces risk on both sides.
Every arrangement I’ve had started with a 2 week trial, and it works out great for both of us. The guys feel much more comfortable with a smaller financial investment while they get to know you, IMHE.
Great advice about this trial period.
I’ll remember it.
Great idea. I will try it.
To all sugarbabies
I was just wondering… Don’t you think that lots of men use seekinga. with no intention at all to be a “sugar daddy”?
I have had much dates with potential sg, and when it comes to financial assistance it is NO. Then why suscribing to a web site where the type of relationship is so upfront, targeted? Especially with the sister sites “seekingm.”, for meaningful relationships and “seekingf.” ,for sexual relationships.
Just wanted to tell my sad story. I have met a guy few days after I upload my profile on this website. Everything went well, except the arrangement part off course. I was new, shy and too embarassed to bring up any money questions, and I needed financial assistance badly though. He on the other hand had SB before, but she decided to end their 1 year relationships because she find a real boyfriend. SD was very pissed off with it ,I guess, from his words he invested so much money into her, and she left him for regular guy.
But we really liked eahc other and got intimate at some point. I have got nothing off course. Not even a shopping trip, only huge huge big dissapointment. Another problem is what this SD refused to admit what he dumped me, he made it sound like he is still ineteresting in me and everything, just never have a time to see me. So I waisted 2 months while waiting for him. I feel so used now.:(
I was leaving from Ohio and driving to New York city to meet my first SD I had checked 3 times with him about the funding for driving. He explained he would send me the first half before I left and give me the second half when it was time to leave. I got the first half and left the next day. I met him at the hotel and we chatted and he seemed to have interest in me. He left a few hours later and never called back or came around again. I had to scrimp the money left together and attempt driving home. The hotel wouldn’t get ahold of him for me either. It was horrible and luckily I pulled in my driveway the next day. I only had 6 dollars left and wouldn’t have got much farther. I also left my phone charger in the room and called the hotel. He took it with him when he left the room at checkout!
Wow! I am starting to feel somewhat discouraged. However, the comments on this blog and the “Who should make the first move” have been extremely helpful. I am usually pretty keen and good at reading people. Thanks for making me aware! ;0)
I believe that the SD should send the first allowence first that way i would know that he’s legit. Im very scared that i will scammed. So i wont do anything till i know its all legit.
This one is rich: One man messaged me and, for some reason, included the signature from his e-mails (it contained his work address, title, etc.) in the SA message. Of course, out of curiosity I plugged in the information into google and do you know what popped up? SCAM reports! His company is a farce, a scam! I wrote him back with the following message “Google cache is a bitch, my friend.” and included the link to the highly unfavorable search results…lol.
Yea this ass took me out then wanted me to go back to some seedy hotel and fuck him !! I do not do that lol then he took my purse and said he would call the cops on me for prostitution if i didnt fuck him .. guys are ass holes needless to say i slapped the shit outta him took my purse back and drove home .. but there not all like that just the one I have been on dates with great guys whom I LOVE lol
men always are fast to scream “prostitution” but if there weren’t men looking for sex, prostitutes would go broke. lol These men use the term just to get out of spoiling and obviously don’t understand what a sd is.
Rachel, Jazz, Maple Leaf,…sadly, I hear stories like yours all too often on some of the websites out there that expose fake sugar daddies and scam artists (Google it and report these assholes before they strike again!)
All of these situtations can be avoided by simply refusing to travel for first meetings. That way, you don’t get screwed over on travel expenses or have to spend a weekend with some guy you have no chemistry with.
Put it in your profile so your expectations are clear: SORRY, I CAN’T TRAVEL FOR FIRST DATES. Do this for your safety. Once you meet Mr. Right, there’ll be plenty of trips and travel together later on, so don’t accept the first plane ticket that gets waved at you. After all…
If something sounds too good to be true, it usually is – right?
A real SD has the money to come visit you for a first date – and he should. By making that financial and time investment in traveling to meet you, he is showing that he is genuine and serious. And that *your safety* is a concern for him as well.
You will also be much safer in your home city than stranded on the road. Just count your blessings that you came home safely from those situations; a few dollars poorer, pehaps, a lot wiser, yes…but thank God, in one piece and not physically injured. Seriously, some guys out there are just crazy. So please be careful and DON’T travel to meet someone until you know them better. It’s just not worth the risk.
Maple Leaf, sorry – I think yours was in the same city and didn’t involve travel? If so, my bad!
To avoid this situation happening again, just make sure the gentleman puts business before pleasure, and you’ll be ok in the future.;)
Strange to hear this stories you have gone through….
beware of jessestone228888, he is on sugardaddyforme.com with two different profiles but the same guy and different ages. When I called him on it he suspended one of his ads. I have not heard from him since. He was the first man I had contact with that I felt was my type and he turns out to be a fake.
I was recently scammed by a guy on this site. ( i am a guy aswell) He says he is seeking ladies to though, so beware.
We talked for like 2 weeks then I was suppose to fly to go see him and he said all the arrangements were made and I was given a fake email with flight information and drove to the airport to meet him, and the flight didn’t exist and i ended up being out close to a hundred bucks.
i’m having bad luck with this site, good to know im not alone though
The thing I always do is to call the airline to confirm my flight. God knows I have made some mistakes with potential sg, but flights, hotels, etc… are things I take darn seriously for my security. I always make sure to give all the possible infos I have to my best friend before meeting a potential sg.
I am new to this and just curious if most SD’s expect you to have sex…?
I made the mistake of paying for the plane ticket myself. I thought I trusted the guy. We had talked everyday for 2 weeks and he was married and said that he couldn’t put the ticket on his card due to his wife finding out. So the day I was to leave I called him and he was all excited about meeting me. When I got to New York-where he supposedly lived I waited at the airport and called him and he never answered. My trip was suppose to be for 3 days so I had a choice to either reschedule the ticket which would have cost alot of money or stay in a hotel. Either way I would be out alot of money. I ended up staying in a hotel for a couple nights. that whole trip ended up costing me close to a $1000. Guys are just as much scammers and females are.
alot of skeevy guys read this blog to see who is hard up and then email them to get something and just play into what you need too so be aware of what you say on here is being read by people that don’t have anyones real interests in mind. I have been contacted by people that want to pay me $200 to have sex in a car, I am sorry but thats what a pro is for, dont bother me if thats what you want. and no I will not drive 5 hours to have sex with your fat smelly ass. these guys on this site need to get a grip. there are no real sugar daddies on this site they are all liars.
I am currently seeing a SD who promised me a very lavish allowance… problem is every time I see him he gives me about 10% of the promised allowance. The arrangement is for us to spend 3 nights a week together so I figured that on the third night he would make good on the full allowance. Well that was last night… and he gave me the usual 10%… how do I bring it up to him? i like the guy but when in an arrangement i think we should both make good on our side of the deal no?
ANA:Sound like he does not understand what a true SD is? Pay for play @10% is not an SD. You can communicate with him that you would like to have the full allowance previously discussed set up and deposited into an acount. Please think carefully about seeing him again until you can come to an understanding.
Any advice on how to bring it up? I was thinking of texting him but every one i compose comes out harsh…. here is an example “i feel very uncomfortable bringing this up but i dont want this to become an issue. we had an allowance agreed upon and i have been holding up my part of the deal. while i appreciate the help you have provided thus far it is not what we agreed upon. i would like to continue seeing you but i need you to make good on your part.”
is this good?
ANA: You can email txt or call. However remove any reference or feeling of uncertainty! YOU need to fake being comfortable talking about this. Confidence is the key to making it work. You deserve the allowance and you are moving forward but he is NOT. Until you are both moving forward together you will stop seeing him. State this and make it short and sweet. Keep a smile on your face; you don’t want to be mean or short sided. He will either understand or make an effort or he will try to string you along. Don’t leave room for the latter. Once he agrees to the allowance, you can discuss the details as to how he will deposit the allowance. Paypal, direct bank wiring etc. Do not debate the topic. You have already agreed upon this now it needs to be executed.
thanks oc… well i have been thinking about it and i think that maybe he took me for a ride… as such at this point i feel betrayed and dont know if i want to see him any longer.
i just texted me telling him this “SD i dont think i will be seeing you on wed because it seems like we have a bit of an issue. we had agreed on a weekly allowance and i have done good on my part of the deal where as you have not… well not fully at least. if you cannot provide me with the support we agreed upon then its unfair for me to continue seeing you. i dont mean to sound like a B___ but it bothers me when every time i see you you put in my bag an amount much lower than what i was promised.”
thanks for your help!
ANA: Good Girl. I am sure you have not heard the last from him. He will most likely try to convince you that he will make good on his original promise. I would have him show the effort first. You have! Time wasters are just that. You need to move at the same pace. Don’t feel bad about this. You learned an important lesson. Real SD’s do not make you uncomfortable about the financial arrangements. EVER!
so i’m pretty new to all of this and have been talking to this guy out in tx (i’m in az) for a couple days down. he wants a live-in girl out in his new house. he offered to direct deposit some money into my account if i give him my rooting number and account information, or something to that effect. i’m not too sure how i should approach it though. any suggestions? i could really use ‘em gals.
edit: meant couple days now. not down. don’t know how i mixed that up.
Brook: If you have never even met this person do not give out any banking information. He needs to come to your city for dinner or lunch so you can meet face to face. Why is he offering you money before you even determine if there is a connection or chemistry?
well, thankfully he is coming out to see me on the 1st. we have great chemistry on the phone and talking but it’s a whole different ballpark in person.
thank you oc.
Brook: A live in situation is not quite the normal SD/SB relationship. I seem to think that this person is looking for a girlfriend? Are you prepared to put yourself in a situation like that? This is so far off of the normal sugar dating scenario. I have red flags going up all over the place on this one.
Any way you phrase it, a live in is NOT an SB. I dont want you to feel that because you are new to this, that sugar dating is what he is proposing. Keep talking to us, we can help.
Brooke… open a new account and set it up just for this purpose alone… specify that NO ONE except you can withdraw the funds… then give him this routing number and info… you dont want him having your “real” account…
update on my situation…. he finally texted back telling me how he had a deal that went bust blah blah blah and for now he cant afford the agreement we had but in the future he will… my response is “let me know when you can”
ANA: I am proud of you for sticking to your guns. You deserve to be treated better.
this is for any SB in NYC:
There is a guy by the name of Anthony. A commodities stock broker, he will offer you insane amounts of money to be his “GF” its all a scam! while he is willing to pay you the money promised his idea of a “GF” is basically you sleeping with his trading buddies. About 7 of them at the same time. No he you will not know about this until you get to his apartment. Just looking out for you girls. I almost got raped… thank god I am trained in martial arts and all of his friends were hopped up on coke
I’m new to all this.. but I understand the basics- SD provides financial assistance and the SB provides fufilment of the SD’s fantasies! I just don’t understand why the majority of the SD’s on this site seem to think it’s a per visit type arrangement.. am I wrong or does that resemble what a prostitute or escort does?? Not to mention they want overnighters of loooong freaky stays for practically NOTHING! I’m pretty appauled with this so far.. are there any SD’s out there that really understand what this is all about?!
Blondiful: I am not sure about the SB’s role in being a fantasy girl. I am as real as it gets. lol
Trips and long weekends are a fun part of sugar dating. True SD’s are out there you just have to weed thru the indecent proposals.
OC: after thinking long and hard about it, i’m starting to see red flags going up as well. i think i’m going to put him behind me and move on. and speaking of moving on, i’m scheduled for a date tomorrow night with a prospective sd. (:
ANA: that is an extremely smart idea. i haven’t actually thought about that at all. i’m not planning on giving my account info to anyone. i’m gonna try to stick to the cash route just in case.
so any suggestions for the first date?
cheap and wholesale tires
Just got back from a trip where I was supposed to meet him. We agreed on a cash gift. The guy never showed up to the meeting. No explanations, nothing…
We had weeks of emails, phone calls, etc… The guy is only here to have fun.
Sorry to hear that LOL_A Don’t get discouraged. There are some really great Sd’s on here. Just take your time and do alot of screening.
Thank you so much, you are an angel. I feel better now.
Because most potential sb live in another state, I always offer a amount of cash, plus expenses and airfare for an extended stay, Does this sound like a reasonable approach? And yes, I have been scammed, I have purchased round trip airline tickets and nobody showed up, Most of the tickets are still setting out there unused, I just don’t understand that. HELP!
Olderman: If you don’t get any replies to your question here, try asking this question in the comments to the most recent blog topic, even though it is off topic. The regulars use the blog comments as a sort of chat room, since the site doesn’t currently have one. (They say they will be adding a chat room soon.)
I don’t have any personal experience with sending tickets. But the obvious comment is that if they could have cashed the tickets, but didn’t, then the SBs probably just got cold feet at the last minute.
Did you contact any of them after they didn’t show up? What did they say?
MtDon Thanks for the tip, Im not very active on here, Most discussion seems to be coming from sbs. The few that i did contact, had some some excuse, I think most just got cold feet, all pretty young. The tickets are non transferable and non refundable, so they can only be used by the person I purchased them for. There appears to be no protection, once you buy the ticket the money is gone.
Wow these people sound like real A&^ holes. I don’t understand what kick they get out of bothering people, using fake photos etc. I just don’t understand why anyone has that much time on their hands. I have never met anyone In person from this site. never met anyone that panned out to be real, there was this One Supposed lawyer Kept calling me asking me to meet him and then cancel at the last minute. The second time he did it I told him to loose my number,
OLDERMAN: I am sorry it really sucks that people do that. You just have to be a bit more careful and make sure to get refundable tickets. your approach is reasonable and for the right lady it will make her feel safe with no pressure. I have faith you will find someone who will be real. I wish we all could as well.
Olderman What I would suggest is that you talk to pot Sb a little longer and screen them a little better. You seem to be finding the wrong woman, I am sorry to say. Don’t feel alone, I have not had much luck and finding Any Sd who are who they say they are. Or who know what this site is about. They want to “date” me.
Even though I am not the most sought after flavour of sugar – most of the messages I sent haven’t even been read and mostly nobody seems that stirred by me – I don’t fancy getting my meagre resources and my energy depleted by guys who are just trying to mess women around. I had thought that wealthy guys would be more intelligent than me, but maybe it only takes a hardness and lack of imagination and ability to put people down ……they all claim to have degrees, maybe you can get a degree without being able to spell. And what does it mean if a SD has been blocked by a member? I like to make my own mind up about people, as some people’s idea of weird can be my idea of interesting, but the downside is trusting someone and being let down, and if somebody else has had a bad experience with a guy, I suppose it should be heeded?
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I haven’t been scammed yet but I think I just found two scammers. There are two pages for a “sugar couple” and both page has the same picture of a man but only one has the pictures of the woman. On one profile, the man’s name is Steve, he’s 42 and from Sausalito, California. On the other profile, his name is Paul and he’s also 42 but from Tampa. Apparently in Tampa, he’s an inch shorter too. Be on the look out, seems fishy.
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