We SD have the same problem with newbie SB (sugar babies). After some misadventures with rookie SB, I tend to stay away. At the risk of stereotyping, here are the types of newbie SB I’ve encountered. My apologies if I have offended anyone but these are my experiences.
1. “Investigators” – As the name implies, they are attracted by the media or exploring an alternative means to supplement their income. I’m spent some time educating pot SB in this group only to have them back out … despite having great chemistry. The main reason for cold feet was internal conflict … they could not accept money for intimacy because of the association with prostitution. I didn’t realize how traumatic this was until I had a SB break out in tears after we were intimate. We saw each other several more times but she tried to return her allowance … naturally I refused (later, she told me donated the money to charity).
2. “Arm Candy” – No pretense here … these women know what they are looking for. By in large, they are stunning young women, usually model-types, who are high maintenance and are only in it for the money. They are similar to what is referred to what is known as HDH (high dollar hotties) and command premium allowances.
3. “i deserve to be spoiled” – Don’t have much experience with this group but I usually pass when I spot this tendency. In my conversations, I’ve found expectations to be unrealistic and their personna to be very self-focused. This is typically the group which is looking for the stereotypical Edward Lewis Hollywood-types or the platonic relationships.
4. “Drama queens” – I am the magnet for this group. Being a “white knight” type of SD, I tend to be overly sympathetic and get involved in this group trying to help them fix their problems whether it be credit, substance abuse, self-esteem, eviction, etc. Now when I detect drama, I immediately hit the eject button.
5. “The jaded” – Another self-explanitory group. These pot SB are discouraged by the lack of success in their search having encounter endless fake SD or having unpleasant experiences. Their negative attitudes are sure to turn off any real SD.
6. “Diamonds in the rough” – With the above in mind, I have found gems amongst new SB. It takes a lot of work to find the diamonds though.
As a SD, the odds are overwhelming in our favor and we can afford to be more selective. While I’m not opposed to new SB, I typically wait until they have been on the site for at least 2 months as I prefer they are well researched and have a fair idea of the SD landscape and how to behave in a SB relationship.